His response: "I have a very short temper and I get angry easily. Unconsciously, I usually snap when she raises her voice or provokes me."
The following day, as the man was driving to work, a uniformed army officer stopped his car, for no reason. When he tried to complain or protest, the FEMALE soldier shouted on him and asked him to be quiet. The female officer collected his car keys and commanded him to sit on the bare floor. (Uncle, jejely complied, without saying "pim".)
The female officer tried hard to provoke him but uncle controlled his short temper. Suddenly, uncle became meek and cool like cucumber.
After one hour of delay, the officer told uncle to stand up, gave him his keys, and asked him to leave. Uncle said "thank you ma" and got into his car.
As he was about to drive off, his phone rang. It was Pious, his best friend. Pious has been watching the drama from across the street.
Pious mocked him on the phone:
"Fidelis, I thought you said you have anger problems and your temper is very short, how come, you were very gentle/quiet when the female officer shouted on you and seriously provoked you. Why didn't you slap her face like you usually do to Catherine, your wife?
Fidelis, let me tell you the truth, you don't have anger problem, what you have is RESPECT PROBLEM. You don't respect your wife!!!
Where there is RESPECT, SELF-CONTROL is AUTOMATIC!!!
The remote control is not in your wife's voice or emotions. The CONTROL is in your own WILL / your personal DECISION.
Your Relationship will become better, only when you learn to respect your Spouse.
RESPECT MUST BE RECIPROCAL.
Did you learn anything from this?
Yes them say make all harshband dey redskirt dia wife.
ReplyDeleteGood lesson but wee they hear?
DeleteFor where? Una no dey hear sam sam...na so I call my brothers make dem beat my hunch back as he don beat me tire. till today, respect dey. I no send ànybody oo
DeleteYes!! Good read.
ReplyDeleteSomehow, ANG will find a way to rope in Naija sissies in this. 🤣
aas in ehn,you don sabi dat woman finish hehehehehehe
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Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Delete😂😂😂
DeleteANG is a huge part of the problem we have today. Almost everyone is focused on policing women and giving them morale instructions. However, they most times leave the guys unattended to, rationalize their bad behavior or even blame women for their behavior. If the same energy used to train women to be morally upright and well behaved was used on men, the world will be a better place. Because las las, it’s the fox that eats the chicken.
Ivannah
She is sensational. 😁😂
DeleteProverbs 21:19 Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife.
DeleteWhy didn't God talk about a nagging man?
Ivannah God will bless you. Flesh and blood did not reveal this to you
DeleteIvannah you have said it. Everything is always womens fault. Even something that has nothing to do with women she will find a way to twist it. Always haranguing and berating women harshly. Shame!
DeleteWell said Ivannah.
DeleteYes, the woman is meant to be perfect while the man can be imperfect. The woman is meant to single handedly hold the home while the man can be irresponsible.
DeleteThe day we understand that the woman can never do it alone then marriages will start working.
Ivannah this is the beginning and end of societal problems - poorly raised men!
Delete@Abroadian
DeleteOnly your own marriage is not working. Please find out why.
Lol, you must be silly and unintelligent to bring my marriage into this. So I must be married to say my piece.
DeleteMake sure you carry your marriage along with you when you die, rubbish.
@but Abroadian, in your first comment you suggested that marriages aren't working, didn't you?
DeleteAbroadian hasn't said anything wrong, read again
Delete@ hurpe, you can imagine the temerity of this swine bringing my marriage into a discussion when I wasn't even addressing her, senseless fake Christian.
DeleteDon't mind them. Awon local champion.
ReplyDeleteWWE raw champion for inside house.
What a good read........but 9ja guys need good training
ReplyDeleteYes. Self-control resides in a man and is one of the fruits of the Spirit. It is developed by self discipline, fasting, meditating on God's Word etc.
ReplyDeleteWhat I will tell my sisis is that last line; respect is reciprocal. If you respect your husband, he will respect you. At least there was and usually is respect during "I do, I do". But the wahala usually starts when the man isn't paid salary or loses his job. Mmmmmhhh...some of my
Naija sisis (whose mouths run like typewriter and fart combined) will begin to name him;
"useless man, castrated man, 1 minute man, indomie man, waste of space, stupid..."
Shuooooooorrr 😮😮😮
Where is all the "darling, sweetie, my own, honey, my sugar, my candy...my ATM...." 😂😂😂😂
Lmao
DeletePerxian
Come and see something
Perxian, come and see her.
DeleteSenseless person
You are deranged sha.
DeleteU no dey disappoint!! As usual Naija Sisi are the problem...
DeleteNkan se e 🙄🙄
Always a womans fault as usual.
DeletePiss off. You are beginning to get on my tits. In your world men are to be deified while women are forever at fault. Keep perpetuating the rot that has set so deep in our society. Even the bible says that after the fall of man, God called Adam and not Eve to account. Respect is reciprocal, a two way street.
DeleteYou do realise there are men on this blog too. Why do you never bless them with your sage words of advice😕
DeleteThis ANG needs mental evaluation
DeleteThis woman the way you reason sha.... Did the female soldier show the man any respect yet the man humbled himself.
DeletePerxian, come and see, lol
Delete😊😊😊Are all these your arrows necessary?
DeleteOkwa ajuju o
RESPECT MUST BE RECIPROCAL (I no even add MUST), na me write am?
Ajuju no 2.
I take one line from all the imerime things sdk publish and analysed it
and all of una dey throway arrows and javelin left right and center eh?
Abeg make I drink honey drop cup for una bikonu ndi uta 😊😊😊😊
And that Anonymous wey dey quote Garden of Eden, na wetin "Pastor" yarn you be that one?
make I copy am paste for you inugo?
Genesis 3: 13 Then the Lord God said to the woman, “What is this you have done?”
The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”
Make you find time read ya bible on your own inugo? 😘😘
Go and take your medication, onisokuso.
Delete@Africa baby
DeleteTHIS IS NOT A WOMAN RATHER A MAN!!!
Na ladies ministry she dey into. Let's leave ANG alone to mind her ministry.
DeleteANG....you are my person. Truth is always bitter. This is her opinion and she is entitled to it, you folks should mind your own opinion. She didn't write it under anyone's comment.
DeleteVery informative read. I think everyone needs to read this.
ReplyDeleteIt is all about respect. Respect people!!
Very true. They claim short tempered but in the offices, they bow to their female bosses.
ReplyDeleteI always say it. Most times it’s not that some men are short tempered or as we are made to believe, their egos are genetically fragile. They disrespect their wives simply because they can get away with it. A man will cheat on his wife because he knows deep down she will only shout and cry. But that same man will not even think of something as mild going late to work because he might get a query from his boss. Same man will slap his wife for daring to stand her ground in an argument but will bow his head quietly with his hands behind his back when his boss’ teenage daughter yells at him for coming to pick her late from school. The worst he will do is hiss and insult her upbringing when she’s not within earshot. Never will the man put the rude teen in her place. Why? Because he’ll weigh the repercussions of his action.
ReplyDeleteSome women don’t want to believe it but their husbands disrespect them simply because they can easily get away with it. I don’t get the logic of a man beating a woman and that same woman will be crying that he didn’t eat her food. Seriously?
However, if you’re that woman that goes around physically pushing your husband and throwing things at him, if he should give you a correct slap please don’t come here to cry. You’re even more abusive than he is because he’s simply retaliating.
Ivannah
Repercussions?
DeleteHmmm
@ Jet Ali the grammar Nazi I didn’t attend a tertiary institution so I can proudly say I am doing well for myself grammatically. So take the “s” from my repercussionsssss and shove it up the special place another “s” comes out of you.
DeleteIvannah
It goes both ways, let's read and learn.
ReplyDeleteMen learn to respect your wives.
ReplyDeleteWhen I was a poor full house wife he always beat me, sometimes he throws my belongings out..Eventually I left with my two kids..God favoured me and by his grace we dont need him to live and all of a sudden he started respecting me asking me for another chance for us to live together again as a family...
ReplyDeleteI wonder the kind of men that allow women leave with their children.
DeleteIt both way thing
ReplyDeleteWell a random woman, be a soldier or any other petson, is entirely different from a man's house wife. This is not to justify the action of any wife beater. No sane human being goes around slapping women up and down. Only if you know what such men have condoned and accepted from their abusive wives. Yet he's supposed to man up. Sometimes emotional abuse us far more devastating than physical abuae, but no one will see the scars of that. Yet people tell you to man up and forgive, but a physically abuse woman should not forgive. She's advised to move on before she's killed. Emotionally abused man is a expected to man up and show more care to the same woman. It is well
ReplyDeleteHe should walk away from the marriage or relationship instead of hitting the woman. Only a coward hit a woman. A real man will walk away
DeleteAre you a man? Are being abused emotionally? Don't man up anything. Speak out. There are men who physically abuse their wives unprovoked I can tell you that. Even if you are provoked, must you react as a man?
DeleteI don't understand how women endure violation of any kind. That is why I purposed early and have my own money. You touch me, I pay boys to pamper you wella and na me go tell you welcome the day you are beaten. If you are not stupid enough to slap yourself by yourself, why raise your hand to hit someone's child in the name of horseband?
ReplyDeleteAny man that beats his wife has no respect for her, her family.
ReplyDeleteSometimes I wonder why the wife's brothers wont beat him back.