THIS KIND FRIEND
I have this oyinbo friend and she always wants to control My life ...
I met her thru My sons Daycare,her son used to go to the same Daycare .
she gradually started talking to me then her son started coming over to play with My son but now the issue is that her son is very violent and 7 months older than My son and he Likes fighting which i detest.
In August 2019, she moved away from our city thinking that where she is going to is better and I was relieved but now she is coming back here ,apparently that place was not good and her son has nobody to play with, the Kids there beat him so she wants to Come back here ...
she is always buying toys for the son then in the middle of the month when she has No money for food then she runs to me and I help her out but i tell her to save not buy toys All the time then she answers me in a bad way like ''your husband has a lot of money so you have to borrow me''.
So yesterday she called and said she got a place near she is moving in on the 28th march i also dropped a bomb on her that we Are moving out to the border of Germany, that woman cried like someone had died .I asked her why she was crying and she said because she was moving back because of me ..
I laughed when i dropped the Phone. I AM very happy that I AM moving away but I want to leave her in a polite way then i will change My No once i move out.
This woman is always criticising My husband saying he is never home and that i should leave him but My husband is a pilot and he comes home on weekends or anytime during the week.
She doesn't Want me to be happy.
AM I being selfish or what?.
*Are you moving because of her or you wanted to move before she called?Stop giving her money like you owe her anything cos she wouldn't do same...
Learn to manage the Friendship and tell her that a conversation about your hubby is a no go area since you don't like what she says....Friendship no be by force,if you don't want,just vanish from her life without using hurtful words.
Sorry to say this, but it seems you have yourself in an unwanted relationship with a sociopathic lesbians in denial whose son is constantly bullied so she uses your family to make hers fill better. Her son fights (your son) because he perceives him (your son) as weak. Also, her son probably passes through domestic/emotional abuse on a daily basis. Be careful and watch your back.
ReplyDeleteP.s. I may be wrong
Don’t even think of leaving ur husband oh. Once u do she will quickly jump in with him. That’s her plan. To take over ur hubby. Thank Goodness I r leaving.
ReplyDeleteYou criticize your friend's husband for not being home bcos he is out there providing for his family. All these kinds of friendship. Good riddance to bad rubbish. Exit that friendship. No u are not being selfish.
ReplyDeleteYou forgo to include: and she still comes back to borrow from from someone who is not always available. Imagine the audacity. Stay away from her and make sure she doesn’t contact your husband in any way to feed him with lies against you. Stay away!!!!
DeletePoster please do what makes you happy.
ReplyDeleteDoes she really want your friendship or what she'll gain from you?
For me, Jesus Christ is my only friend till the day I die, never going down that route again.
Some people will end up saying you need people in your life ,no one is island, I completely agree.
End time friendship. Psycho alert.
ReplyDeleteThis one na chronicle onye rijuru afo.
ReplyDeleteDear Lord,
This is the kind of chronicle I wish to be writing, not some kind of valentine nonsense with a useless poverty stricken scumbag.
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DeleteLol Choi, this Gbas is on another level...
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DeleteOyibo wey chop winch 😂😂
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DeleteMadam Poster, whether you are moving out because of her or not, it is a good thing. Do like you've planned. The friendship has been compromised. You gave her so much control over you. Don't allow this happen in any friendship going forward.
ReplyDeleteShe is evil to suggest that you leave your husband because he is usually not around due to his work schedule, you should be very wise. She suggested you leave him, but she knows that the money you give her comes from him. Be wise in "the abroad" some of the family issues arise because the locals corrupt the minds of our people because our family values differ from theirs. I bet you if you stay around her for much longer she will go after your husband. She is deep down evil. Avoid her as much as possible. It is not so difficult to make good friends overseas; join a good Church and become active in a small group, join a good community group or volunteer in a social group.
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ReplyDeleteShe could be a lesibian o. That wants you to leave your husband so that she can have you wholesale. I detest friendships like this. Cut her off immediately. Maybe she moved away thinking that she can forget you after a while but couldn't hence why she is back.
ReplyDeleteListen.... life is too short to be second guessing friendship. I had one of recent, that even when I buy shoe for myself she will complain that it is too expensive. She is always complaining about how I spend my money. But when I am giving her the money she doesn't complain o. Very entitled. Never calls me except I call her. I send her call card and do her subscription because she is always complaining about not having call units and that is why I haven't heard from her. Nna eeeh, I told her I was traveling one weekend only for her to call me the next week I told her I was out of town. She started complaining like my husband that I didn't tell her I was traveling, I reminded her that I did. She still wasn't happy. Well it happened to be that I was with my childhood friend when I got that call. That one is brain herself. She sat me down and was like, babe tell me about this your friend and make sure you tell me everything. I did, and after plenty analysis she told me that this is a disaster waiting to happen. She told me that this is a recipe for envious witchcraft waiting to escape from the witchcraft pot. She gave me instances with her own friendships and urged me to cut her off.
She was very adamant that I did, cut her off that is. I couldn't o. Until she started talking about Jarumma and how she is using it with other of her friends.omo,I ran for dear life. The way i took my slippers and ran eeeh.
Poster, friendship is not meant to be stressful. It is meant to uplift and compliment you. Dont put your family at risk because you want to do friendship.
anon I don't understand this last part of your story.
DeleteGod forbid bad friends. Why are you feeling sympathetic? You'd better cut ties with this woman before she destroys you.
ReplyDeletei agree completely with Stella. friendship is by choice not by force. do not allow her to make any comments about your husband, if she was so good whay happedend to the father of her son? if na me i go tell my son how to defend himself and kponce craze comot for the boy head nonsense pikin. even if u are not relocating end the friendship before u loose ur mind and ur home.
ReplyDeleteSuch a person shouldnt even be your neighbour. Shes acting just like the country America, they come into a country that owns resources....in a friendly manner, then observe & then gradually start dictating how you should govern your people & offering opportunities.... only war gets them out.
ReplyDeleteYou are not serious. You're tolerating a deranged and envious sociopathic female with a violent son and no husband - she enters your house, demands money like you owe her, criticises your husband, and is trying to scatter your marriage. What exactly are you gaining from her presence in your life? Look at the trash you're exposing your husband and son to, in the name of friendship. Lol. Nope, not serious at all. If you like, don't quickly cut her off like the cancer she is, and shield your privacy and your blessing.
ReplyDeleteWell said. Though the culprit might be in need of help, she might not know what she is doing, she might be emotionally down and looking for a friend to lean on, but going about it the wrong way. Anyways, stay clear poster, you can direct her to where she could get help if you know. No be you kill Jesus.
DeleteAre you sure she's ok upstairs? Crying cuz u moving? Hopefully she's not obsessed, that type can carry gun one day follow u.
ReplyDeleteBut you girls want to befriend oyibo now. Everything oyibo is better, isn't it?😒😒😒
ReplyDeleteOyinbo stick to africans like a tick
DeleteShe critizes your hubby and still asks you to Lend her money.lol
ReplyDeleteIf she was a Nigerian that was criticising your husband, will you be here asking us how to handle it??
ReplyDeleteYour Friend is toxic, stay away from her..
ReplyDeleteYou know just what to do.
ReplyDeleteYou're doing the right thing, but be prepared that she will be bitter once you cut her off. She can have a mental breakdown because of this and it can move into psychosis. Be alert.
ReplyDeleteChai! See as friendship come make you buy market poster.
DeleteGhost her. Completely. Now. Block her everywhere. She is a toxic friend, very narcissistic and brings nothing to your relationship.
ReplyDeletePoster you should be bold enough to tell her that you don't want friendship with her again, why is your husband a topic of discussion between you too? I think you brought it on you else she will not have the liver to discuss your husband, maybe before you do tell her things about your marriage and now you have sense you want to stop but she is already use to it. Tell her to stop coming around, distance yourself from her, any day she talk about your husband give her federal warning what rubbish is that. She should allow you enjoy your marriage, weather your husband come home or not is non of her business. Her son should stop playing with your son, one of my friend then her gf has a son that plays rough play one day he pushed my friend son inside gotta, the the boy fell with his back because he was pushed from front,the little boy fainted for two days we tot he was dead only God saved that little boy. Mind you her hubby has been warning her to stop friendship with that her friend but she refused till that incident happened. Her son should stop playing with her son please before something bad happens to your son and your husband may end your marriage with him.
ReplyDeletePoster has to be careful because if she is cray cray she fit carry gun scatter something.....
DeleteThats one crazy entitled bitch! poster,if you lack teeth then use your tongue and caress your gum!ogbasara gi!!!!!
ReplyDeleteNe careful poster. Stay away from that lady. She can kill you and your son and clim she has mental problen. I have see cse like this. She's a psycho.
ReplyDeletePoster move before she comes back! I don’t even know why you told her you’re moving!!! That crazy psycho woman can be very dangerous. Be very very careful and put your family first! Don’t let her know your address. I don’t even know why you allowed all this craziness happen when you’re supposed to protect your child first! You’re his voice so you’ve gotta step up. You lack backbone honestly and maybe scared of her. If moving will solve things then waka ASAP before she comes back. Give us feedback abeg and goodluck!
ReplyDeleteBe gone and stay gone!
ReplyDeleteI mean the last part
Even if you stumble across her one day in the future
You do not know her
Before stalking begins
No use your hand by market
No liabilities masquerading as friendship
Don't Learn The hardway
Poster. I’m in the aviation sector and I really commend you for understanding the nature of your husband’s job. Next time she brings that up, blast her big time. She has no idea how much pilots work.
ReplyDeleteAnd please this is not friendship to even start with. I wish you didn’t tell her you would be moving cause she seem like a disaster movie. Please stop letting her into your home. On borrowing her money, tell her you don’t have anymore. Don’t you have relatives back home? Girl tell her you have relatives back in ‘africa’ like they call it, you need to send money to. I wouldn’t advice you to just tell her you don’t have just like that cause that lady you just described up there may just not be okay.
Just start cutting yourself off little by little. And please, when you eventually move, don’t disclose your address to her. Protect your home. And don’t for any reason let her have access to your husband. His phone number or even in person.
The Hand Writing is on the wall and you can see it clearly.You better run before she claim your husband.She is not a good friend at all.
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