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Sunday, February 23, 2020

Gospel Singer Gloria Doyle Talks About Her Failed Marriage And How Her Sister Eloped With Her Hubby

Controversial contemporary gospel music artist, Gloria Doyle, who had a long battle with an illness diagnosed as gallstones, has in a new interview with The Nation, revealed how she was abandoned during her travail by those she expected to have risen to her aid, Gloria also opens up on her failed marriage, and how her blood sister travelled to the United States, with her husband and children.






Not too long ago, you were said to be very ill. Can you relive your experience?


I was actually down with a gall bladder stone. I had a terrible stomach condition, which the doctors were worried about as it was considered close to the cancer of the stomach. Surgery was considered as an immediate option. But along the line, I didn’t do the surgery. So, I was placed on medications to see if it could alter . I’m now relieved and back to work, back to music; though I’m still on regular checkups. The only worry now is my children who all stay in America. We insisted that I should wait till they return to take me so I can do the surgery in America. Either of them should be here to pick me. That apart, I’m up; my music looks good and the future has a good smile. 



How Old Are Your Children? 

My first son is 27; the second is 26 and my last born is 24. They said they want to come so they can give me good care.


When did you have them?


I finished having my children at the age of 21.


Why so early?

I got married very early in life.


At What Age ?


I was 16 going on 17.


What Moved You To Get Married At Such Young Age?

I think I was just crazy then. And the other reason was that, when you come from a polygamous family, you want to believe that maybe, marriage could be a way out. But sometimes at the end of the day, it may not turn out well.



Was Your Mum The Second Wife?


No, my mom was actually the officially wedded wife, but not the first and not the second. She was the third wife of my father and the only officially wedded wife. So, you can imagine the pressure then, which was more on us her children. At that point, I wasn’t afraid of marriage. I think he was able to give me some of the things that I needed back then: the attention, the understanding and listening ears. So, I believed that was it. But at the end of the day, I found out that we were not compatible. His family was very tribalistic. I was into music already and they didn’t like it. He actually wanted me to be a full-time house wife, which was not my dream or ambition. I wanted to pursue my musical career and even do some other stuff too.


At that time, did you feel that you had what it takes to go to the top and be a music star?


Yes, I did know I could do that. As at then, I had started going to the studio. I had started singing right from when I was a child still in school; I was singing in church and I always had this passion for writing songs.



Did your husband know about that?


He knew. I thought he was going to encourage me, give a boost to my musical career but at the end of the day, that was not what he wanted. He wanted me to be a full housewife. But my musical career was important to me. So, that became one of the major reasons that made me not to accept to be a housewife. And it was a very abusive marriage.



When you say ‘abusive,’ what do you mean?



He used to beat me. He was about 13 years older than me. He was really beating me and at a point when the beating was getting out of hand and became life threatening, I decided to pack it up.


How long did the marriage last?


Oh, it lasted seven years.


What was the attraction to marry him?



He was a nice guy. And at that point, I wanted a friend and he was able to give me some of the things I needed back then.


Why did you allow the children to go to America?



Their father is an American citizen though he is a Nigerian by birth. He said he wanted the children to come over; I too thought it would be a better opportunity for them. So, I allowed them to go. It is not that I couldn’t have gone, but at that point, what happened was that he was actually having an affair with my younger sister, who is at present living in America through him. And when the children were going to America, the documents were altered. My name was removed, while my younger sister’s name replaced mine. So, when it was time for me to go to the US, I was denied visa. 

I have been denied visa three times now. It has got to a point where a DNA test is required to prove that I am the children’s mother and that is the point where it is. So, it’s only when my children come here that I can think of going to America. It has made my travelling out of the country very difficult. And that was the original plan, which was to frustrate me and make me unable to see my children again. But with God, things are looking good.



But he couldn’t have married your sister?



But they dated. It was just to have a baby for him that was left. They dated and she was able to use him to set a standard for herself. I understand. And it is okay. I have forgiven her. I don’t have any more grudges. My children are grown up, we relate and that’s all that’s important to me.



If you were to meet someone else now that asks your hand in marriage, will you accept his proposal?



Yes, marriage is sweet and okay if you meet a nice person, who is also a friend and ready to be supportive. Marriage is interesting and sweet.


So you will gladly accept another proposal?


Well, I still have this phobia for it, but if I meet a guy that can drive the fear away and give me the assurances, of course I will throw away my fears.



You mean there’s no man in your life at present?



I have a couple of friends that I relate with; we play together, but I cannot say that I have an intimately strong relationship right now. At present, everyone around me is a friend. When you are a single mother, it becomes an issue with some guys because of our cultural background. It’s not easy to take a lady that has three children to your mom and tell her, this is the person you want to get married to. Maybe if I were outside the country, that will be easy.



But it happens in Nigeria


Have I seen any? No. Though I see them date. And when they date to the point of marriage, it is either a family tie or something poses as a problem at that point. But if the man insists on marrying her, it’s either the woman is financially good enough or has some other things that the guy can benefit from.



So, having your children outside Nigeria made you to concentrate on music?


Yes, my children left for the US 10 years ago. Before they travelled, I had to survive and balance my career in music as a working mom. But after then just when I was up there, getting it all right, I started facing the gall bladder issue. I am actually coming back strong now. I am in the studio. I have an album that is almost ready and I am feeling real high up there. I have recorded three singles. And the album has taken shape. My producer is ready. I am shooting a video on Friday (yesterday). I feel great. But I need to continually be on my supplements. Right now, I want to do a single to push for promotions and then the album for a launch. I would also be going back to my acting career as a movie producer. For now, it is not like before (smiles); I have to do it one at a time. Health is wealth.



Were you scared of death when you were ill?



I was. And I told God that if I die, I will hold you responsible if I go to hell fire because you did not allow me to see my children and do some other things. And I begged God to forgive me because I didn’t want to go to hell fire. You know in Yoruba, some people would call it Ofa (evil arrow) but I couldn’t tell. I just knew that I was ill and somehow miraculously, I came back to life. For those who were able to see my pictures back then, it was pathetic.



You are actually bubbling and bouncing. Where are the bubbles coming from?



When you have gone through life the way I have, you bubble. I know people who didn’t go through half of what I have been through and they gave up. I know someone who was just sick for two weeks while I was at the hospital and died. I know someone who was lying down next to me and the husband was telling the doctors, whatever you people want in cash I will give you. At that time, they had already spent about N3.7 million, but his wife died. But here I am alive; so I must bubble. That means God loves me. Money will come. There’s time and season. This sickness has made me to realise that my children really love me. They told me to fight back for me and to fight back for them. I keep remembering that. I am different now.

The Nation




*Na wah oh,her sister is really mean!!!

43 comments:

  1. Naija girls and abroadians.
    *In ANG voice*

    Why is it that naija girls can do anything to marry abroad man, even if they have to betray their family members.

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    1. Ajuju na ese okwu
      Hahahahahahaaaaaaaaaaaa

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    2. Her half sis or her real sis? Sad

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    3. Are they related to Stella Damasus, Aboderin, Nzeribe, Ademinokan? The elopers and elopees, snatchers and snatchees and betrayers? Just asking for my colleagues in the industry 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.

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    4. Anonymous 17:05 You do not sound very smart. This una line is redundant, boring and stale. Is Daniel Ademinokan a handbag to be snatched? You idiots keep blaming the woman but you never blame the man. Is it not on this same blog that we preach that if marriage has become toxic it is better to leave than kill somebody's child? Why can Daniel not leave Doris and follow a woman that gives his heart peace? Next time, borrow, beg or buy sense.

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    5. Asking for someone as well 🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️.
      Awon husband snatchers

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  2. This woman is not a truthful woman abeg. Your mum is not the first or second wife. She is the 3rd yet to you, she is the only official one 😀😀😀. Madam, something tells me that your mum is a schemer and from this interview, you took after her. She snatched a man who married 2 women traditionally and manipulated him to marry her in the court. Men! Uba foolish o.

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    1. You are daft. Why are you blaming her for her mom's choices? You want her to openly abuse her mom so you will be happy. Her mom is the 3rd wife, they wedded in court. Back then polygamy wasn't a big deal. My grandfather had so many wives. A lot of our parents had more than one wife and concubines. Or are you saying nobody in your family is a polygamist?
      She is a better person now, she has found christ ok, free her

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    2. Yes now, naija women deluding themselves since 1800. Same thing that happened with Funke Akindele's first marriage. You knew he had 3 other wives but because you went to court you term yourself the "official wife". As long as you are not the first wife and you are aware, court marriage doesn't make you official.

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    3. Anonymous 14:06
      Then why is she crying that her sister snatched her hubby. Shebi snatching runs in their family tree? I am glad you mentioned Africa because as far as far I am concerned you are the daft one here. So our traditional marriage is inferior in your thinking. Complete olodo like yourself. What hues around comes around. She is supporting her mum's scheming ways abi? It would have been better she never mentioned that word "official" because it tells a lot about her own mindset and in thus case, yours as well.

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    4. Oponudiran, where did I mention Africa? Leave her alone and go and sort out your perfect life.
      She didn't gloat, she didn't curse anyone, she only stated her mum was the one that was taken to court and explained what happened in her marriage. She made her mistake, she has learnt, mumu judgina, leave her alone.

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  3. From what i read she isn't a good wife. You agreed to be here singing rubbish so that your hubby will be taken care of the children. The woman wanted that kind of life style that you don't want anything or anybody that can question your movement.The man played a fast game on her.you agreed to send your children away to focus on your music career bah? Ndi carrer

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    1. We understand that English is too comprehensive for you and your anon friend up there to understand.

      You shall be delivered faceless anon

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    2. Cut her some slack, she was a child when she married. Ha, some of you are damn too wicked. So much expectations from someone that should still be in her parents house at 16? Her parents failed her.

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    3. Anony 15:58 you know this, at 16, her parents should be assisting to make the right choices in selecting university to attend, getting ready for her matriculation and handing her over to a worthy guardian.

      Marry at 16? Something was definitely pursuibg her from home.

      Ii is well Gloria.

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    4. God bless you XP. Some of these bvs are mean. They see someone down already, they begin to kick. I can never blame her for anything. I could never have held down a marriage at 16, what did I know at that age?

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  4. God,,Your blood sister betrayed you and replaced herself as the mother of your kids so as to get U.S visa.This one is what they termed "sister from hell".God forbid me having anything to do with her again.Thank God for your life

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  5. It is well,wicked sister from the pit of hell, upon all the men that full every where

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  6. Omg.....The heart of man is trully wicked and evil...what a terrible inhumane sister

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  7. What a sister! Thank God for your life

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  8. What a wawu! Wicked sister

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  9. This is the case of Cain and Abel. She practically killed you. I hope you have all gone for deliverance, she got that heart from your mother probably..not that we can be certain but first wedded wife my foot. Do you know the agreement between your father and that first woman..

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  10. I remember her very well, and her songs. The news was all over then that her husband is abusive and didn't want her singing.Good to know she is alive and well, it is well with you ma.

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  11. Why blamed only the sister what about the hegoat husband NASA

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  12. This is a sister from the pit of hell.

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  13. Why blamed only the sister what about the hegoat husband NASA

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  14. Hmmmmmm something about this story....
    It isn't straight forward........

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    1. Castle don’t mind them! Nigerians always using flash light to find something they will use to blame the victim!

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    2. Castle and anon 17:20 calm down. That is my opinion. The story is somehow.......

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    3. Life is somehow. There are 6 billion people on earth. There are stories You would hear and it would be stranger than fiction.

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  15. Hope you get to fully reunite with your children soon. Her sister's betrayal is deep.

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  16. The husband tho. Buy one get one free

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  17. Your sister followed your mother's footstep, sister from hell.

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  18. I have not read a more honest interview in a long time. She should write a book, what a life story. Yet, she is still so young and have much more living to do. May we learn from the lives of others.

    I pray what is to come for her is a hundred times better than what has gone before.

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