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Saturday, April 11, 2020

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
NEGLECTED WIFE


Dear Stella,

Please help! Please advice!


I am a married woman and married for almost 8 years now. My husband is a great guy. Hardworking, pays the bills, takes care of his kids. But I feel a little neglected because sometimes it's as though his work comes first. And when I complain, he will just shut everything off and sit in front of me and say 'ok I'm listening' and I will just shut up immediately.


So there's this guy I met last year at work. He's a vendor for my company. We have been talking for some time. And it began to get too friendly. We started talking too freely, he tells me about his family and how his wife has been cheating with her ex. He says he's tired of the marriage but he is afraid to leave because of his family.


Any way to cut the long story short, we have gotten so close and I really care about him. We discuss each other's joys and struggles a lot. The problem is that he started telling me he has feelings for me. To the point where he said he has fallen in love with me. And I on the other hand am secretly enjoying the attention even though I don't encourage it and I have told him it can't happen and he has accepted that but my husband still doesn't know about this friendship.


 Is it wrong to stay friends with him because I really like him and I like having a friend to call since most of my friends have gone to Canada and are always busy.

PS. We don't hang out. We only talk on phone and when he comes for business in my office.
Thanks





*Are you kidding me or what?be there acting as if you don't know that this will end up in a good fuck if it continues....Continue oh,be acting as if you want us to tell you to stop or continue......*side eyes*

112 comments:

  1. Madam, please stay away from that guy.

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    1. Madam why buy wahala for yourself. My hubby works non stop even this lock down no dwy help. We have been mareied for 14yrs,me i don't talk oh,i will just lock my room door lie down for bed open yansh face am as e dey work,next thing work will be abandoned till next day. Find a way to get his attention.

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    2. Madam please continue encouraging this man,your husband is trying to put the family first and you are trying to put gbenshing first.
      See,by the time that man is done with you,you won't be able to tell the difference between 6 and half a dozen.
      Continue putting crack on your marriage, MEN dont forgive cheating o.
      Dont write us another Chronicle apologising to your husband o,because this your ACT wont end in praise.
      Poster,get yourself busy so you dont fall into temptation.

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    3. Poster, I totally understand how you feel.

      Honestly, the way women get preachings on how to keep a man is the way men NEED preachings on how to keep their women. Funny enough, keeping a good woman is soooooo easy!

      Women are very emotional beings. All you need is to feed her emotions well. If you love her, it is not hard. It's the little things. A simple *you are so beautiful my love* and light tap on her ass could keep her loyal and blushing for one week.

      Even if you are so busy at work, break in and just spring her a surprise call. She can't stop you from working; but just needs assurance that she's still the queen of your heart.

      Let your words add up. Don't be blowing disjointed lies upandan for her. Make her feel secure and know that you value her feelings more than anything else.

      When your woman's emotional needs is properly taken care of by you, it is only an unrepentant retired ashawo that will be looking for what is not looking for her outside.

      That you provide money is NOT enough. Also making the whole house tensed with your presence is bad. Now when most of them complain, instead of listening and adjusting; you will label her a nag. Paying zero attention to what she's going through.

      If her heart can't carry it anymore and she starts having hbp or take sniper; people will still blame her that is it because of a man that she wants to kill herself.

      I DON'T blame any woman that finds a way to balance her emotions and be SANE. It is wrong; I know. But her life comes first in my opinion. If she dies, they will compensate that man with fresh pussy even before her one year memorial.

      Men should learn to do BETTER!

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    4. Really,the man is providing for his home at the tough times, I understand a married woman needs his husband attention .the question is have she discuss her feelings with her husband?
      Woman run away from your co worker he just want to fuck you ,he is not going to use protection when fucking you period.
      It's not cheating,is called adultery period.

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    5. At times I follow men to ask this question, what do women really want??? Sorry to say it madam but you are just an akwuna kwuna looking for excuse to go back to her old ways.
      So you don't have friends and you cannot get busy upgrading your self, acquiring another degree or professional certification or even learning a skill or starting a business it is to be looking for friendship abi?
      You will use your hand to destroy your marriage. My husband is busy yen! Yen! Yen!
      I bet that guy gives you the needed attention you are just looking for excuse to gbensh that guy keep giving him the green light and he will chop and clean mouth. Women with fish brain.

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    6. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜€ Anon 15:31, lol you are so funny.

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    7. Well said Anon 16:32

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    8. 😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘 u are the real G

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    9. 😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘 u are the real G @ anon 16:32

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    10. madam hold your ears and listen to my advice,that man want to use you,he is full of lies telling you is wife is a cheat, fat lie. run for your life and delete any feeling you have for him, go and manage your home to avoid crying wolf, that man is from hell.

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    11. The guy is just lying about his wife to get into your pants ,if u have an affair and ur husband gets to know I hope he is ready to leave his wife for u. 2 wrongs can never make a right.egungun be careful

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    12. Men cheat with no reason, while women cheat with a reason. This simply means everybody cheats reason or no reason. If you work hard you don’t sleep and you provide. A woman will cheat for lack of attention. Now, if you are a lazy man and don’t provide a woman will cheat for lack of funds and care. So which is the best man to be? Don’t care,don’t provide, so at least you know your wife is cheating with a rich guy rather a poor man that is jobless and can give her all the attention. A rich man will only have limited time to fuck her ,but will be giving her money, while a poor jobless man is always ready to fuck her and in stupid places like backyard ,cheap hotel,dirty house,Uncompleted building or even bush.Women are just too wicked.

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  2. You are just looking for who will tell you what you are doing is right, most people won't tell you that here but I will boldly support you and tell you my sister continue is good to have fun with another guy when you are married like the feeling the feeling is superb.
    Trust me this is the best advice you will get here nobody will tell you this....enjoy yourself and let us know how it all ended...

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    1. If her husband was the one doing what she is doing ho will she feel?

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    2. Big Banty is being sarcastic. Him own dey him body. Him wey get neighbour wahala go dey advise abi?

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  3. We are in the same group, don’t feel bad. I’m married with two kids but my husband attitude is really bad, I try to talk to him severally. My MIL and SIL also leave in my house, no breathing space. I work from home so it’s so tiring, but thank God for my Bobo Banji that keeps me going and sane. We hardly see, never even kissed but I love the attention, I love how he pets me, I love how he helps solve every puzzle I’m in. I’m happy I don’t have to complain to my hubby again, I’m happy I’m free from his emotional blackmail finally.

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    1. Affair partner loun loun 😁

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    2. Had to go anon. My dear, I am also in your whatsapp group. I have a side guy who keeps me happy and fulfilled. I no longer nag or report my hubby's bad attitude to his people. There is peace in the house since I no longer care about him.

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    3. Ur hubby most likely has someone doing same for him Nd servicing him . Repent ! Both of u

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    4. Madam is not the best for you because the day your husband will find it no one will believe you have never got pant down with Benji.

      Moreover, those guys called Benji knows how to pet, give attention to a woman.

      You are already cheating 😜😜😜 on your husband instead of you to look for solution to get your husband's attention.

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    5. Disaster waiting to happen....

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    6. Ask yourself this would you advice your daughter to do this same thing?

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    7. Shey you are mad abi ?
      Instead of you to divorce and face your Bobo banji, I hope you're caught and send packing.
      So many ashawo married woman everywhere. You all should better form a WhatsApp group chat.

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    8. They are all committing adultery period.

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    9. @Big Banty, I will tell my daughter to be Happy, you fool! Why are you menstrating over people’s comment.

      You guys don’t know what I’ve been through, my struggles, you guys don’t know. You don’t! A woman just committed suicide and hypocrites are all over saying RIP; I’m sure if she had a side friend she won’t have!

      Even if my hubby is cheating, I’m happy, he’s happy and our kids are happy and that’s all that matters.
      Once again, thank you Banji, thank you for been more than a friend, thank you for been a listener, my cry and laugh partner. Thank you for distracting me from all the stress and every thing I thought could kill me.

      It’s not so deep, you guys should just chill and Enjoy Life! I’ll always be there when my husband is ready.

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    10. Na wahoo!!! Association of adulterous women. Repent for the kingdom of God is at hand.
      Do you even ask yourselves how Jesus will feel with this character. It is not by force to marry and there is no justification for cheating. This applies to both sex. May God have mercy on this generation.

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    11. Anon 17:13 I'm sorry
      No vex biko

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    12. Mrs Banji you think your husband is unaware of your clandestine moves and folly.. You'll be shocked when your tape will be played to you and you wished you left your marriage honorably without the mess you created..

      Is it by force to stay married in a loveless marriage. This is exactly what my neighbour did until she was disgraced and made a laughing stock. The so called Banji in her life ran four-fourty na so her marriage crash without her having custody of her children. Madam continue we no stop you.

      Lovelace.

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    13. BEEN is different from BEING!!

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  4. Poster are u 2 years old? Be asking us question o. Continue talking Nd laughing till u end up on his bed Nd ur husband finds out o . We await d part 2 chronicle when kasala burst !

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    1. Help me tell her that the day her husband catch up with her and her new Bobo Marriage will be over. Her new bobo will dump her and face his wife. Cheating wife.

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    2. No mind her. She is already fantasizing about him sexually. Poster for all the ur gragra body to come down. Give him the cookies and get over it. Then come back and tell us the end story.

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  5. Madam save yourself from heartache and regrets and cut off that guy immediately.

    You want fire to burn you, so that tomorrow you'll start blaming the devil for what you used your hands to enter korokoro?

    No worries, by the time your loads are packed outside and you are disgraced before everyone, you'll even start wishing that being neglected was your only problem.

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    1. Done mind she should not channel her time and attention to her children, she should be there allowing one broke guy to end her marriage because of cheap attention.

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    2. Poster pls read your write up again. So because his wife cheats on him means both you and him should cheat yours because of the situation on ground? My dear stop using hammar because you fell every problem is a nail. You stated your hubby gives you attention to talk and then you keep mute why? There is an underlining issue here but its ok if you dont wanna share with us. Stay true to yourself dont lose you because someone's attitude changed towards you.

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  6. Stella what is good in the fuck... By saying good naa she will be tempted to want to try! Madam stay with your husband and instead of bringing this kinda problems here pray about it

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  7. Exactly the problem I have with most women. A man is doing his best to do the right thing, he works and takes care of his family but your selfish interest as a woman has kicked in and you have gradually allowed the devil tempt you to the extent that if it continues you will end up a cheater. You are grown and not stupid, you know where all this will end. You are a selfish person only considering your feelings and not interested in what that man has to go through every other working to do the right thing.

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    1. Devil is not here at all, she just being stupid.
      If the man is not responsible, you blame him, he's taking care of his and you, you're still complaining.
      This poster is just a thief.

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    2. Thank you! He is a good man and yet you are not satisfied. Why must your emotional well being depend on another human being?? You obviously have too much time on your hands and you are very ungrateful. Grow up madam and be serious. Marriage is not a joke Mcheeeew

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    3. Honestly,I read it as soon as it was posted,I was so angry at her wickedness.
      Y are Some womenn selfish.u can not eat Ur cake and have it.
      Don't kill the man with unecessary expectation..
      No home is perfect.
      U are meant to complete your spouse weakness.
      Have u taken him out?
      What have you done from your end to prove the situation.
      He ask you ok he is listening you kept quiet.
      If he does not focus on work then u will say no promotions and low income.
      It is well o
      Do I realize it's not easy for these men too.

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  8. Your friendship with that guy is a time bomb waiting patiently to tick. If you have been following chronicles then you won't even deny knowledge of how affairs like this oftentimes end up in a twist. Before u land urself in a hot mess that will ruin ur marriage or possibly get u losing on both sides, kindly retrace your steps back to when u both were interacting on official basis. If he still doesn't get the drift, tell him ur 'relationship' is beginning to affect ur marriage.
    What do i even know, I'm not married yet.

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  9. "My husband is a great guy. Hardworking, pays the bills, takes care of his kids. But I feel a little neglected because sometimes it's as though his work comes first."

    You've got a great husband and many women would love to be in your shoes.

    "So there's this guy I met last year at work. He's a vendor for my company. We have been talking for some time. And it began to get too friendly. We started talking too freely, he tells me about his family and how his wife has been cheating with her ex. He says he's tired of the marriage but he is afraid to leave because of his family."

    Continue listening to his lies. He's looking for a way to get into your pants.


    "The problem is that he started telling me he has feelings for me. To the point where he said he has fallen in love with me. And I on the other hand am secretly enjoying the attention even though I don't encourage it and I have told him it can't happen and he has accepted that but my husband still doesn't know about this friendship."

    The grass always seems greener on the other side. This guy is telling you lies and you are enjoying it like most women unfortunately would.

    "Is it wrong to stay friends with him because I really like him and I like having a friend to call since most of my friends have gone to Canada and are always busy."

    Keep on looking for excuses to gbensh.



    On a final note, advise is that you should work on your marriage. Your husband is a good man who provides for his family. I can see you lack attention, which can be worked on. I didn't see anywhere you mentioned that he abuses you physically or emotionally. A lot of women would want to be in your shoes. Don't throw away your beautiful marriage for mere infatuations.
    All the best

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  10. Madam alagbere, thanks be to God that you have children of your own make them your friend. You have siblings and I believe you will be close to at least one of them if not, make that sibling your gist partner. Call your sibling as often as possible, visit them. IsαΊΉ Γ³ kΓ  poster yΓ­ lΓ‘ra. Get busy.

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  11. All i can say is Egungun be careful na express you dey go.

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  12. Poster!!!! Talk to your husband, tell him of his neglect, schedule hang outs or dates with him alone and atimes with the kids. It could be hard but try to rekindle your emotions for your husband. This office man you are seeing so go give you belle ooo πŸ™„πŸ™„ be there acting like you don’t know already. We women we know the truth but still want to be advised. We don’t hang out indeed! Story.

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  13. You never know the worth of what you have, until you lose it.



    This is infidelity waiting to happen, I would advise you to run away from this relationship before it becomes what you will regret.
    As it is, you have started an emotional affair already. Please, be wise. I am a young married lady like you, so I understand perfectly how you feel.

    Please be contented with what you have

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  14. Poster, if you believe that guy, you are gullible. I don’t want to blow too much English. He just wants to fuck you. Once he gets that accomplished, he will drop you like a bag of cement. End that friendship right now. He is telling you lies. How many Nigerian men have you seen that lives with a known cheating wife??!

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  15. "I'm secretly enjoying the attention even though I don't encourage it and I have told him it won't happen" really? If
    What makes you think he doesn't notice the enjoyment in you? You believe that bull about him having issues with his wife?
    How exactly do you feel neglected? You said he is a great guy and provides for the family, so what's the problem?
    When your husband asks you to talk that he's listening, why do you keep quiet? Are you lacking good sex? Attention? Or you want him to cuddle up to you all day everyday and not work? Is that it?
    Cos from your writeup, you didn't mention any of the above I just listed.
    Don't you think you are stressing yourself and looking for trouble where there's none?
    You have really gone far with this man and soon, he will sleep with you before you even realise it.
    Have you thought of of what that might do to you, your kids and family?
    Truth is, you have too much time on your hands to entertain someone else's husband.
    What's wrong with some of you married women? There should be a method to the madness.
    You are just thirsty for another dick, nothing else.
    I'm sure your "friends" will cheer you on, conthry won't see wrong in what you are doing.
    If they are not accepting gifts from their ex's, they are flirting with other people's husband's.
    If na man bring this chronicle, them go roast am anyhow.
    Go and sit down somewhere and talk to your husband.

    Sluttychic.


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    1. Well said,if your co worker wife is committing adultery ,he would have left her.Some men are looking for vulnerable women both married and single .
      Woman block your ears and close your door against him now ,before you start regretting your actions.

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    2. Thanks dear. That aspect of keeping quiet is what i dont understand

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  16. You better respect yourself and move away from such relationship, that is what i keep telling people that 95% of opposite sex relationship normally fall inlove with each other and most of the times, it's so difficult to separate. Be careful before you ruin your peaceful home which is rare to find now.

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  17. He is your Affiar partner, you dont need to bang before its official. Even if it's just phone, he is your affair partner.

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  18. You want us to encourage you to fuck the guy right 😏😏😏😏

    Why do some women look for trouble where there is non, don't you have children that you can gist and talk to while your husband is busy.

    If the man is not doing anything to bring money you will be complaining now guy man is hustling to give you a juicy life yet you are complaining.

    What I have to tell you is to stop giving that guy attention. You are cheating on your husband already, cheating is not until you pant down with a man but from the moment you start giving attention to someone else who is not your partner you have cheated on the person.

    Have a deep talk with your husband not the way you are going about. You can't achieve anything with a man when you turn all your worries as complain, fight. You need to look for a good atmosphere and talk it over with him.

    Appreciate him for all he has been doing for the family, then tell him your feelings. Relate your fear to him, since he is a good man I know he will adjust except he doesn't love you.

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  19. Stop that relationship my dear.
    It will bring nothing but pain and disaster.
    You are emotionally cheating already.
    You won't like it if your husband is doing same.
    Communicate with your husband , tell him what you want and how you feel neglected .
    You are bored occupy yourself with sonething else.

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  20. 1. The side guy says he loves you, but does he love you more than your husband does?

    2. He claims his wife is cheating. Did you ask yourself why? You’re on the cusp of cheating yourself, and you’re not taking responsibility for it, but shifting the blame to your husband. Have you considered why his own wife is cheating? Maybe he spends more time with other people’s wives instead of his. Who knows?

    3. Adulterous for married women is super exhilarating, I know, I used to be very involved in it. The adventure and danger alone will make you wetter than a rainforest.

    4. Cheating may, in fact, make your marriage more tolerable. This is because you will probably send your husband less and whatever he does that irritates you might not count because you have a new joy giver waiting to console you. So, it’s probably a shock absorber, for lack of a better term.

    5. Let this dude knack you very well first before you know if he actually loves you or is just love-bombing and buttering you up for imminent slaughter.

    6. I’m not going to ask you to cheat or not. The choice is up to you.

    7. If you do go ahead, make sure to not get caught.

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  21. The truth is husbands need to make out for their families. The emotional pressure and trauma some women pass through makes them seek for love and attention in the wrong places.

    Your story is quite common and honestly you are in the best position to advise yourself in this situation. Be safe

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    1. God bless you for this sincere comment.Truth is,no matter what the so called perfect ones tell her,she'll eventually go for what she really wants,based on the fact that she's an adult. Extra marital affair is not the best though. Poster,if you are tired of his attitude try conversing with him at least,he's your husband. All the best 😘

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    2. Liz, but you are not taking your own advice.. 🀐

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    3. Anonymous get off my fucking back πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ be bold enough to comment with your name and stop being a coward!!!!

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    4. You know what you've done. Anyway, it's up to you and your conscience.

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    5. @anon 00:28, we know people like Liz, they come online to dish advices that they can't follow. They are better advisers and mostly holier than thou.

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  22. Let him be telling you his troubles and prejudice. Someone that is looking for how he will eat the cookie with sympathy.

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  23. If u don't want ur husband again u can divorce and start urlife again don't b in a marriage and looking for another marriage

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  24. My dear, Are you ready for the consequences of the path you are about to tow. If yes, then you can go ahead. I bet you you will surely sleep with him. It's just a matter of time. This one you are already falling for him.

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  25. See this one playing with fire.
    Keep on encouraging him, you hear, you're about to lose your marriage since it seems you're not contented.
    In case you djhr know, you're cheating already .
    Oshi robo

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  26. Na una type them dey black mail..

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  27. It will end in tears...

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  28. Well i am in the same situation with poster. For the past 5years a married guy has been banging my brains out silly. Since i started all that yeye issues dt annoy me or make me nag, i ignore. If der are no strings attached its okay. But dont fall in love dear. Regard it as going to the punani gym

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    1. But I thought they said men are scum.
      Why not just divorce him rather than this rubbish you are doing?
      I will ask again can you encourage your daughter to do same thing?

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    2. Yeepa! Punani gym?! Wonders!

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    3. Big Banty, my daughter owns her life. If doing it can give her rest of mind, its up to her. Yoi dont know the relief i get. This man am married to is a beast, doesnt care about the family until i scream which results to fighting. I decided to get a job and struggled to buy a car. My dear am living my best life, i can provide for my kids and myself. Just counting the days ill start omugwo. I cannot come and go and die. I look younger, happier, na only God dey see me

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    4. Your case is different from the Poster's case. Her husband takes care of her. She didnt say her husband is a beast as yours. Why encourage her to do what you are not proud to say in public or to your daughters now.

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  29. Stop sniffing what you cannot eat, take your problems to the Lord in prayers,or you write each and every issue on your mind and tear them to shreds and imagine that's how those issues are going to end up,in shreds,keep yourself happy no matter the condition.

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  30. Madam it's so obvious you know this friendship isn't a good one: please cut the ties NOW. Your husband wanna listen to you naw,why aren't you talking ?

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  31. When you scatter the peace of your home,your eyes will clear. You don't really know the value of what you have till you lose it. You don't need any advice because deep down you,you Know the right thing to do.

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  32. You are a stupid woman!! Stella I know you don't like people being insulted on this blog but please bear with me. This si why you are stupid Madam. A Nigerian man tells you his own wife is cheating and YET he is still with her. Were you born yesterday?? Your side vulture is in his own warped way preserving his own home and yet you are destroying yours. All he is saying is to get inside your pants. When he does he will take photos and blackmail you join. Grow up and stop this stupid emotional affair. Ask for God's forgiveness and stop acting like an ingrate.

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  33. Las las una go gbensh. Men should learn to create time for their wives

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  34. Madam you wan put yourself for trouble,egugun be careful na express you dey go... Madam cut the relationship off ohhh and be with your husband you can talk things true with your husband.....Ang is coming for you

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  35. How about your husband getting a very good lady vendor in his office
    and getting "too close to her and enjoying her attention...and you the
    wife does not know about that relationship...?" Wouldn't that be cool?🀑🀑
    The moment this man of the devil f*ks the daylights (and your marriage) out of you,
    your eyes will clear. All the "love" he touts about will clear and will be replaced
    with undiluted hatred. 😊😊😊😊😊😊

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  36. For the husbands out there, hear this from Olamide:

    If you get work and dey drop money: won ma do
    If you’re unemployed and broke: won ma do
    If you no get time for her: won ma do
    If you shower her with attention: won ma do

    Just do your best to be fair to your spouse. And if you feel you need to have sex with someone else, end your marriage.

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  37. Can a man take fire to his bosom, And his clothes not be burned? (Prov 6:27)

    The Bible didn't say "flee from evil" because by then, it's already too late since you have dipped hour hand in evil already but rather it says "flee from all APPEARANCES of evil". Anything that looks like what will steal your peace should be avoided.

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    1. Big gbola doesnt have an appearance of evil oh. Be guided

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    2. 22.21 you are the one that needs to be guided, before you land in a mess.

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  38. Madam, stop cheating on your husband that's already a sign of adultery.

    For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband. So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
    Romans 7:2‭-‬3 KJV

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  39. Madam the grass always looks greener on the other side until you get there! Count your teeth with your tongue. What do women really want!

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  40. Poster run far away from that man. Mend the relationship you have with your husband.

    You are really playing with fire.

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  41. Poster, you know in your heart that the path you are treading is a dangerous one and you are hoping to find validation here. You are already having an emotional affair with this guy. The day you and this guy find your self alone in a quiet place, you will give your body to him. What you are looking for is not in this man and frankly it may not be in your husband. It is in you! You need to stop and find joy outside of a man. How would you feel if the table was turned and you find out that your husband has a female friend who he tells everything that he is not telling you and he is investing all his emotions in this person. Let me tell you something, you have broken your wedding vows. You better smell the coffee and retrace your steps. Tell this man to stop call you and rebuild the walls that you have broken down in your marriage.

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  42. Better be careful, my sister married an IT guy that is not romantic and can keep malice for Africa! Those kind of guys that would not eat your food , not talk to u and not have sex for months, he was psychologically abusing her and she was transferred to another state for work nd she did cheat on this guy, her husband was monitoring all her calls and text as an IT guy, so u guys better be careful, I understood what she went through but I told her y she didn’t end d marriage instead of cheating , I told her even when U guys were courting, remember he read every of ur messages and he can do stuff as an IT guy

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  43. This is clearly how they bring trouble into their homes by themselves. Your hubby does everything for you and your kids only that you get less of his attention, And the best way for you to try and balance it up is getting a male friend, falling in love with him and coming down to SDKblog to ask Stella "if it's wrong to keep such friends as a married woman"?? Go ahead dear, maintain the relationship, have unprotected sex with him, get pregnant for him as well deary! And oh! Sheey he has told you how his tired of his wife? And to my knowledge the tone of your chronicle sounds like that of a woman equally tired of her hubby! ☺️☺️Nne go ahead and divorce your husband! The sweet, loving and attention giving boyfriend or man friend of yours will soooo marry you! Yes darling ride on. Foolish and annoying people everywhere. #CHISOM

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  44. Sweetheart, many a sob story punctuated repeatedly with the "had I known" phrase, started remarkably similar to yours. Lonely wife just happens to meet an equal frustrated man eager for companionship. " Oh, it's just a harmless chat", " it's not like that, we are just friends"... before you know it, you are a kiss away from wrecking your marriage. A lot of ladies who ended up cheating on their husbands and regretted it to high heavens, never dreamt they would fall for another man. As a matter of fact, some even condemned other wives who cheated. Alas! When they came to a similar bridge, they fell headlong into the river.

    Forbidden love can be tremendously intoxicating. You will be riding so high that you wouldn't see the impending danger lurking at the next bend. Darling, please be careful. Most ladies fall for sweet nothings whispered into their ears. This new kid on the block has swooped in, your very own knight in shinning armour, telling you all the things you wished your hubby would tell you. Of course, he makes you feel special, why wouldn't he? If you could ask his wife, I'm sure she would tell you once upon a time, he made her feel special too. A married man is telling you that his wife is cheating with her ex and he remains wilfully passive for fear of his family? Really? And the best solution is to cheat right back with someone else's wife?

    How can you even trust a man willing to have an amorous affair with another man's wife? You obviously are too carried away to see that he has little or no respect for you and your marriage. According to you, your hubby's only sin is that he doesn't show you enough attention and even when he does, you are tongue tied. Yet you feel this is the way out?

    I'm sorry baby, you can't be friends with a married man who has professed his feelings for you. It would be less than smart to think otherwise. Shut this down before you destroy your home. This guy playing tic tac toe on your brain, will be the first to abandon ship and be on the first thing smoking, the minute your marriage crumbles. He isn't leaving his wife for you. Your "candidacy" is appealing because you are married and he knows you have a lot to lose, so both of you will play it safe. Ignore this distraction and enjoy the little time you get to spend with your hubby. Marriage is not for toddlers, you have to be mature and make the best of the situation you find yourself.
    e-hugs and kisses.

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    1. Love,love your comment.

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      You see this comment
      Screenshot it and save it for later .

      That man will never leave his wife for you. This is his sob story to have sex with you.

      KING XOXO MYSTERY

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  45. Poster you know the part you are trading on is wrong,if not for anything for the sake of your children stop.

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  46. Seems he is not just emotionally intelligent. But he loves you as you said he shuts up everything to talk to you when you demand for his attention.

    You know your man or you should try to know what is driving him or what will take his mind off work.

    Your knowing what drives him to work so hard might make you more accepting of his working attitude. It could also help you to lessen his fears if that is what is the drive.

    Once you know what relaxes him, don't just go talking. It will feel like from work to meeting, all na work, no emotions.

    Relax enjoy his company and let him enjoy yours then you can talk deep things in a relaxed atmosphere.

    I would suggest you tell him about your needs for attention in a clear well thought out manner, he might respond better to that than attitude.

    Pray for wisdom to go about it as God knows your husband and your needs more than you or anybody else

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  47. Pls is seduction in marriage a sin? I mean seducing your husband anytime you need him. Because I don't understand all these tails about my husband is not giving me attention. If he doesn't give you attention,give am nah. I like that woman that says she opens leg and face her husband.

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    1. You think it's easy to seduce a man that has seen you finish? πŸ˜‚

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  48. Hmmmm madam run!!!! Honestly I was in your shoes with a married colleague for years!!! It was God that saved me. I would have gladly gbenshed this guy, we even kissed but you know what reset my brains? He claimed that the wife was sex starving him , how mean hearted she was and gullible neglected me believed him, when he told me that his wife put to bed I asked him, how?? So I started watching him. PLEASE ITS POSSIBLE ALL THE STORY ABOUT CHEATING ON HIM COULD BE LIES!!!! ALL HE WANTS IS TO GET YOUR HONEYPOT!!! Biko gbaba ka-ukwu gi ha!!! He's just playing a game with you. Don't fall for it!! Most men are obsessed with putting food on the table hence the reason they forget about their wife's need, please talk to your husband. When he asks you what he can do for you, draw him close and do whatever comes to your mind? Don't shut up ok. Be spontaneous, if you want to kiss him, kiss him, if you want to talk, sit on his lap and talk,if you want sex, go for it. Don't give that which is sacred to your husband to a dog outside, you may never recover from it. Healing and Deliverance to your mind.

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  49. Madam stop deceiving yourself.All ur friends in Canada are busy to talk with you?you must be thinking that we are dumb.

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  50. @Poster, please stay away from such a relationship. It is not healthy at all. Thank your God that your husband is providing for you and the kids financially. Some women are taking care of their homes financially and their Bobo is busy satisfying the side chick.
    Just keep praying for your husband, everything will be alright...Biko.
    Don't scatter your God given marriage.
    All the best dear.

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  51. I will advice you when I finish reading this book "How to satisfy a Nigerian Woman "

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  52. Risk your family for what? 5mins of pleasure, by all means mam go for it. Totally worth it.

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  53. Let's be honest, married couples dont need friends of the opposite sex, unless it's both our friend , you are not in school, so stop the school girl games, and appreciate you have a hard working man,

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  54. Using your words, you feel neglected "sometimes." This means you are not neglected always. Additionally, the money your husband makes, he spends on his family. Different men have different love languages - financial provision and comfort may be your husband's love language. Some men have also seen or experienced poverty or lack at a level that made them swore never to be at such level as a father and a husband. Maybe your husband is one of such men. If you cannot understand him, just pity him.


    But if you are bent on going ahead with your office partner, there is no need to continue as is or sleep with him while being married to your husband. Look for a good divorce lawyer. You and your office partner should instruct that same lawyer to to file for divorce from your separate spouses. Once you get the divorce decrees, you can marry each other. Since your office partner is working, he is in a position to meet the bills in addition to the attention he already gives you. He may even be a better husband, a better father to your children, and a better provider for you and your children.

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  55. You have got a good husband. Yes, he has a flaw when it comes to giving you attention but from what you wrote he sounds like someone who will be willing to work on it. Don't lose a good man over a minutes of pleasure. You will hate yourself for it. Trust me. Cut every connection you have with the other the guy,it may seem difficult but you can do it. Communicate with your husband. If you tend to forget when he ask you spontaneously,write it down so you don't forget and speak with him. Good men do not come easy.

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