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Tuesday, April 14, 2020

Chronicles Of Blog Visitor Narrative..

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
NEW MINDSET ON AN EVIL MUM


Good afternoon Stella,


I don't know if this would fit as a chronicle but I'm glad I'm sending it to you. Thanks.


My mum doesn't wait a second to curse me or my siblings out. She doesn't like being corrected when she's wrong, she will hate you for that and her actions after that would leave you wondering; what a woman!



 She hasn't learnt how to react to any form of criticism in her entire life, even towards my dad.

When I was younger and the little time I stayed with her (I didn't grow up with my family), she shouted at me at every interval and laid several curses on me and she still does till date. She locked me out in the night several times even when she knows that I suffer from nyctophobia. And for those times I endured those fears outside, I wanted to go far away from her.


 I was so young, so naive and innocent but I started having a hardened soul. I wanted to go far and never come back to her. I wished she wasn't my mum.


I remember the times I told her about the things that transpired when she was away; how our neighbors daughter we stayed with when she(my mum) was away forced me to touch her private parts as she forcefully did same to me then threatened to beat me up if I revealed to any one. I remember telling her, but she shut me up and flogged the living daylight out of me. So many things to remember...so many.


And I left to be on my own, I was glad and she was glad too. After all, she had never wanted me, she had given me out since I was five to become maid. And since then, it had been from one house to the other. Immediately I came back from one house, another is set for me. But I wanted to stay with her, I wanted to eat palm nuts with her, I wanted to go hungry with her as much as I wanted us to win together but that wasn't allowed. 


And now I'm away, not with anyone but just myself. 


At first, I always communicated with her and sent her some stuff(money, cloths and foodstuffs)even though I'm not really doing well. I'm still struggling to see myself through school and help with the little I can. But my mum hasn't learnt to control her temper, she would call to curse me when I say that I don't have much to send. I must have to dance to her tune to be in her good books.


So I stopped calling her, I stopped picking her calls. My excuse was that I needed no bad energy right now. I also wanted her to realize that she hasn't done well so she can start doing better but she's still same or even worse. Now, even on important days like religious celebrations and mothers day, I don't call her and when she calls, I ignore.

But today, I refuse to see my mum as what I wrote up there. I know I might have seen all what she did or doing to me as evil but I refuse to think so henceforth. In all I wrote, does it mean that she's just evil and not good in any way? Some might read this and hate my mum on my behalf just because I didn't write the good and loving side of my mum.

In those paragraphs up there, nowhere was it written that my mum refused I would die in my sick bed even when she had no money. I didn't write that she had to borrow money to make sure I survived when my dad refused giving her money to pay my hospital bills. She stayed by my side day and night, cried and prayed for me till I regained consciousness. I didn't write of the many times she would go hungry just to make sure I and my siblings eat. My mum doesn't eat till I and my siblings are satisfied. I didn't write that she now has chronic ulcer, may be cos of the many times she had to take drugs on an empty stomach just to make sure I eat. My mum is a hero and no ugly experience is going to make me believe otherwise.


Today, I heard my mother's voice after a while and nothing feels more refreshing. I know she might get angry and insult me at anytime but that's her bad side and we all have our negative attributes. Many experiences might have shaped who she is and I don't blame her anymore. She loves me and that's all that matters.


Today, I choose to love my mum unconditionally.

I prayed never to be like my mum but now I know that not forgiving and holding on to past negative experiences would likely make me worse. I also seek forgiveness for grudging for so long. It will only get better.




*Tell her to stop cursing you....Tell her to change.you cannot love an evil person for long.you will stay away again when the curses begin...if you really love her then tell her the truth and the reason you stay away and stop doing Miss Goody two shoes so that you will be called a good child.....*tongue click*

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  1. What kind of mother is this one bikonu? Azin,is this real?? Poster why not ask your older relatives if she's truly your Mum. Tufiakwa!!

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    1. Everything you cited there is what every parent especially mothers supposed to do for her children, she brought you to this world and she has to cater for you until you are all independent It is only in Africa that we see it as an obligation to care for our children while it is a duty, a must! She has a problem if she continually hate and curse her children for no reason and this should not he encourage just because she answers mother. You are an enabler and you might be like her. Love your mother all you want, this will not erase the fact that she has a problem and she is cursing her offspring which can have negative repercussion in your lives, a parent, a mother should bless her children. Stop this miss goody two shoes as Stella said, you are suffering and you need a solution otherwise this will affect you negatively and in turn, someone else, your husband or children will suffer the consequence. It is a vicious circle if you don't know, it always comes around.

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    2. Poster beg your mom to revoke those curses she placed on you. May God bless you greatly for accepting her And loving her unconditionally.

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    3. Poster be deceiving yourself you hear.
      When you love someone ,you don't CURSE them.
      In times of need,your mom was there doesn't mean she loves you nor hate you,she is just indifferent about how she feels .
      For sanity,tell her the hard truth or risks staying away when the curse gets too much again .

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    4. My mum hates me because I look like her husband that she hates. She sends my younger ones to insult me. I am not pretending there is love there for me. I mind my business and stay away from her. Sometimes it hurts. But I thank God for people who are not related to me that love me deeply

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    5. Please why would a mother be cursing her own child,why? I know of someone his mum lied on his wife and he stood up for her(his wife),told his mum to her face why does she want to scatter his house with lies,that was his mistake...it is well

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    6. She may be depressed

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    7. Happy you found peace and learnt to love your mom unconditionally. However, I do not understand why a mother will constantly curse her own child!! Do you not know there is power in the tongue? All these selfish parents who bring children to the world and start unleashing their frustration on them.

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    8. Poster, you are in denial, probably declaring by faith that it is well with her but I'm telling you that all is not well.

      Take this from someone that has a family member with severe mental problems. She might be bipolar,schizophrenic or have multiple personality disorder.

      I don't know how you will do it but find a way to get her on medication for her issues, its probably triggered by stress when she becomes like that. Goodluck.

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  2. 不不不不不不不不不不不不不不不不

    塔塔塔塔塔塔塔塔塔塔塔塔塔塔塔

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    1. Your mother is this way cus this is all shes known, she was definitely raised by aggressive, insultive parents and she doesnt know any better.
      You yourself said she was there for you in times of care, she has been through alot so she feels she always has to defend herself even before being attacked, however i feel letting her to keep talking to you this way is you enabling her bad behavior. Yes she was raised like this but people can unlearn bad behavior.
      I will not advise you to stop loving her but whenever she calls to insult or curse you, tell her you really dont need to have a conversation and if she cant regard you with respect then you'd have to give her some space.
      With time she will definitely adjust.
      When you stop arguing less, you'll start loving more.
      I wish you luck.

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    2. My mother curses too, i think its frustration and stress reliever, doesnt mean they are evil. Maybe mean but not evil. Its a Nigerian way or maybe a yoruba way

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  3. Poster happy for you o

    I can never try it or else I will be finished as in deleted. My mother doesn't curse she is meek and nice but you see spiritually she is elegbe and I ran away over 5 years ago but she looks at me daily in the spirit. Na so so bad bad dreams but IDGAF because I serve a living God.

    Aje ni iya mi and her family want to finish themselves not me because of my inheritance which I don't even want.

    I will keep running...

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    1. keep running and fortifying yourself. she looks at you daily in the spirit?..people no longer have only external enemies to contend with

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    2. Your case reminds me of that Old Yoruba classic film ''Aje ni iya mi''

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    3. God help his children. My own is mum and elder sister

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  4. Are you people sure she doesn't have any slight mental health issue?

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    1. Probably does

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    2. Hmmm, madam.. You can't imagine what life can shape people into, you can't imagine it.

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    3. Maybe one of those good days, you can ask her what triggered her anger? She must be keeping some serious bitterness towards your dad, maybe? Na wa!

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  5. I totally get you, poster. This is called unconditional love and it's the best kind of love there is. The same way God loves us tho we err repeatedly.

    I do not for one second think you are doing Miss Goody Two Shoes because you don't need validation to love your own mother irrespective of her shortcomings.

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    1. High five ✋✋ for this your comment.

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    2. Yeah it is a painful road you are coming from poster..I must salute your courage but please beg your mum to revoke those curse I beg you pls..

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    3. Thank you Perxian. I love you response. I think I also quite well understand the poster's mindset. It's a beautiful one.

      I am glad she chose not to dwell on the wrong thoughts about her mother, but rather think well of her. That is not denying the fact that her mom isn't treating her right. It is simply her making the choice of loving her unconditionally no matter what, which is what God requires of us.

      I realize that when you dwell on the negative side of someone, you grow bitter against that person. I personally find it stressful. I would rather think well of someone even if he or she mistreated me. That way I keep my conscience clear and have my peace of mind. Life is much easier that way.

      Concerning those who spoke about her mom's curse taking effect on her, the Bible says that a curse that is curseless will not stand (Pro 26:2).

      Because the poster has chosen to love her mom despite the way her mom treats her, the curse is of no effect. Instead, God blesses her.

      Dear poster, keep doing what you are doing. Trusting God that one day, on account of your love, your mom will come around. It takes God to change a heart. Your part is to love. Where words don't work, love works.

      And love, the God-kind of love always wins.

      God bless you.

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    4. God bless you perxian

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  6. Aww this got me teary eyed . Your mom is a good mother just couldn’t handle what she was going through positively. How can when she had no support. Poor woman. Just love her she won’t be here forever.

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    1. You are right the husband might have drove her nuts or the situation at that time wasn't palatable.

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    2. Finally, people are seeing things differently. Love this

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  7. That's how people in emotionally abusive relationship stay because the abuser has made them to believe they can't leave. I love myself and I have grown emotionally that if something threatens my peace of mind, I don't stay. I don't know how you all do it. Your mother needs to stop cursing you. Maybe her curses are the reasons you are still struggling. No parent should put their child through what your mum put you through. You have grown to love your abuser, it's normal.

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  8. Dear Poster, I do feel you. I understand what it means to have a mother with a lot of good and badddd qualities. And sometimes, it's soooo hard to love her, except you decide to just shut your eyes and mind and love her nevertheless.
    It's well.....

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  9. Stella, your comment is fire.
    Why would a mother curse their children?
    My friend(God rest her soul ) had a mum like yours, this woman would curse her out, lock her out, this girl lived with all her friends, when I was in sch she came to live with me and was managing on my students allowance with me just bcs she does not want to go home, we did not know how heart issues entered this girls matter from childhood, whenever she goes home briefly and come back to my house, I'll cry cos she would ve been physically and emotionally drained.. And she loved her mum .
    One time she told me someone gave her money for an apartment, she brought her mum to live with her, after ra few months I got a call that she slumped and died on d road one day.
    Pls stay away from your mom till she changes.
    I'm not saying he rmum killed her, but her immune system, her psychological and physical health was low bcs of her mum's stress since childhood.
    This girl did not enjoy life for one day, she only laughed when she was around me, I wish I did more for her honestly.
    God rest your soul bestie mi

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    1. this is really sad what makes some mothers hate and treat their kids this way

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    2. I cried when I read what you wrote up there. That girl is easily me years ago. Instead of good friends my friends exploited me mercilessly. Thank God all ended well for me. Take comfort in knowing that she was at least loved by someone. Mothers or Fathers like that are just damaged and beyond redemption.

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    3. Haaa Spice you got me crying..Oh my God May her soul rest in peace...

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    4. Damaged and broken people please don't go ahead to ruin another persons life with your toxicity

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  10. Poster it's well all you need now is God and divine wisdom

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  11. Just speechless reading this post..
    Hmmmm!!!塔塔塔塔塔塔塔塔塔塔塔塔塔塔

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  12. Hmmmm. I don't even know what you say now. It must have been very hard, growing up with such a person.

    If you have decided to let go and accept her for who she is, then I wish you well and pray it ends well.

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  13. your dad made your mom bitter, if he couldn't provide money for your hospital bill, then imagine worst shit your mum tolerated. she just displaces the anger and bitterness your dad caused her on you, not every mom react well to such

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    1. No, her mum chose to be bitter!
      Women have turned this same kinda situation into something better for themselves,even without leaving d marriage.

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    2. Thank you Spice. Bitterness is a choice. Life can be unbelievably harsh for a lot of us at times. But that is no excuse to take it out on your children.

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    3. See my dad is very toxic to mum from day 1 but she is the meekest person after Moses.She will never transfer aggression.I think its the path you choose at the end of the day

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    4. You just had to drag the innocent man into this?


      Some people are naturally bitter and wicked. Let's stop this idea that if a woman is bad, it's because it's a man that made her so.

      There are bad women out there.Same way that there are bad men. Let's deal with it and stop apportioning blames!

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  14. Hi Poster, your Mum might have a mental issue. Have you thought of that? One minute she is good the other times she is cursing, there is something you need to find out? Again, how was her growing up like?/
    How did her own parents fair with her and her siblings. These should answer why your Mum is the way she is and it will lead to healing and forgiveness.

    Most people, I say most who hard a time growing and receiving love and affection have it hard giving out too.

    I had a hard time being affectionate. I had a time receiving hugs. I had a time accepting compliments.
    I am better now and still working at it.

    But verbal abuse, emotional abuse etc is hard. Its a Kong and hard road to walk on.

    Ask God to heal your Mum, and as He does you too.

    It will end in praise.

    God bless you for loving your Mum inspite of everything.

    It was hard for me to warm up to my Dad. He never saw anything good in me and never failed to say it.

    Until a few years ago, when I call to say hello, his first words are "what is it"?/

    I told my Mum and she begged that I be patient. Its a long walk. And you have to take a decision which you have. And I am happy for you.

    By the way, you can pray any time you wish to call your Mum tell God you don't want to hear negative words or curses. See how it goes.

    Best wishes.

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  15. Wow! This sounds like me writing this Chronicle. LikevStella said. Please tell her to remove the curses before she dies.

    My mother who was never there for ne in my growing years was a curser too. Terrible one at that. I avoided her for years. We have never been closed abd she never searched for me. But she is old and poor now with no help from anywhere, so I started sending her peanuts. But keeping her afar.
    I am doing very well in life but she does not know.
    Back in this February, I travelled home and made her remove the curses. She did with so much tears in our eyes and very emotional. She made me kneel on Bible while she prayed. I don't know the significant of kneeling on Bible.

    Poster, it is well with you. Pls, ensure she prays for you.
    God will open the doors of breakthrough for you. But you need to let her know the pains and the feelings. No need to pretend all is well. No all is not well. Talk with her

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    1. I don't think the Bible kneeling means anything joor just like the curses didn't affect your destiny.

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  16. Long story short.....your mum was under pressure then my dear,thank goodness u have let it go..u mum wanted d best for u and ur siblings and it hurts her so much that she could not provide for you my love that was the main reason she extends frustration toward u...... Your mother loves u very much an no one can take the space just love her and care for her but dont stay away please.....my dear it might takes while but all did tribulations will turn to joy that i promise...

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  17. Chaiiii, Stella will not kee somebody.

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  18. Except she changes, you will go back to how you started. I hope you end up not normalizing abuse and bad behaviour all in the name of ‘forgiveness’ You do not have to be close to her, to prove to yourself that you have truly forgiven her. Take care.

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  19. I agree with Stella. I have been on this road . It always ends in tears. Love her from a very long distance please . Open your mouth and cancel those curses. Speak positively into your future .

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  20. Poster i honestly wish you all the best. You better stop her from cursing you,believe it or not mothers curse has negative effects in children's life.

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  21. you remind me of the other chronicle sender whose mum never liked her and scattered her chance of going to the UK to reconnect with her real dad. All the same poster your mum cannot be totally called a good mother she has a lot of changes to make

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  22. You want to use all those good things to forget the curses?

    Let me ask you, who's job was it to feed and cloth you if not your mother?
    Who's job was it to go hungry for you to be fed?

    No offence but did you beg her to fuck? Did you beg her to conceive and keep you?

    You don't know that every child deserves quality education, good food, health care, etc.

    She was not doing you any favor but her job, please.


    You really don't know the repercussions of the curses she's placing on your head. If you can't tell her to stop cursing you and be firm, avoid her.

    You can send money to her bank account but block her number.

    Despite all that my younger brother put my mom through including stealing her money and her food stuffs for freinds and lying about her to strangers, she never opened her mouth to curse him. Not one day. This was despite the fact that we were adopted. She did 100 times what your mum did yet she never cursed my bro.


    Please, your mother didn't do more than what other mothers are expected to do.


    You are not meant to be cursed. Nigeria is already to hard even for those whose parents bless them daily.


    Na wa o.

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    1. Nne, help me ask her the real duties of a true mother to her children.

      Is it not to take good care of them no matter the odds??

      Every child deserves love and care from parents. It's not a privilege, it's her right to be love and cared for.

      It's good you have forgiven her but your mother is not a wonderful mother.

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    2. Honestly, I can't deal... Let's assume she was going through stuff back then but why is she still cursing you now that you are an adult? Is this how she will curse you in your hubby's houseand In front of her grandkids when she is provoked? I can't deal jare.

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  23. I guess your dad really frustrated your mum to the extent she transferred the aggression to you and your siblings, tell her to renounce all she has been saying and also to pray and bless you people. I really feel pity for her, she seem like a damaged soul.

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  24. Its amazing and I applaud you for choosing to focus on the positive aspect of things,
    However chances are
    1 your mum might be going through a hard phase ( unforgiveness from her experience with your dad) and this might cause her to lash out whenever she's in that foul state.

    2 she might have some form of disorder as a result of her experience.
    While it is wonderful to focus on the positive aspect of this , it is also very important that you seek help for your mom .

    I.e counseling. This might help , trust me if nothing is done about this you'd separate from your mom again .
    Praying it all works out for you, I admire your bravery in all of these and I wish you all the best.

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  25. Poster your father is the problem.
    Judging from your 2nd narrative , your mum is in an abusive marriage and it affected her mentally.
    Put your eyes down in her relationship with your father. Think back, you will see that your father made her a monster.
    For someone you called bad to do those sacrifices for you and your siblings, there is something wrong somewhere.

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    1. Na wa ooo. Did poster say anything about her father?

      Haba, all ye men haters should go and sit down and sort your man issues.

      Her mother is the problem, not her father.

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  26. Poster keep praying for her. She had a good and bad sides. Am sure the bad sides outweigh the good side. In all she is your mother.

    You will never be like her but just keep praying for her to change.

    It is only God that changes someone when He sees the person is fighting to change.

    Does your momma really want to change?

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  27. Poster, I somehow have experience on what you typed up there but there are some differences! We all have good plans for our lives at the beginning and for some women it's the spouse they end up with that shatter their entire being. Some are good at handling all sorts of pressure/discomfort while some becomes a beast at any little pressure and become a pain inflictor on others just because they are feeling some sort of pain as well without seeing what they are doing unto others.


    I'm sure she won't make sacrifices for you if she's that terrible a person.. just accept that imperfect side of her and focus more on the good side.. If you keep seeing her mistakes, you will keep hating her!

    I want to believe that, If you are wayyyy more cooler with her.. She will Come around and be more relaxed with her attitide. May God help us all

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  28. Yes darling! She is your mother and she deserves all the love and respect from you and the rest of your siblings!
    Everyone is flawed you know, hers might be a case of lack of home training from her parents,lack of motherly love and care, or mental and emotional abuse from her husband (your father) who knows仄‍♀️仄‍♀️.
    Whenever she gets on your last nerve, just remember those sacrifices she made for you nne, She might even be possesed but she isn't aware of it.
    You guys should continue to teach and correct her with love and respect.
    She might not even know what she's really doing. #CHISOM

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  29. Your mother probably has multiple personalities. That could be your reality if she keeps cursing. There’s power in the tongue.
    I once had a friend with a mother like yours. Whenever she was upset she would curse and curse. Once day she cursed him with death right there in my presence. Months later he was involved in an accident and died on the spot. At the burial the mum couldn’t look at me in the face because we both knew she probably killed her son with her tongue. He was such a great guy. It still hurts whenever I think about it even though it’s been many years.. Parents should bless their kids always and never curse.

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  30. Poster you are a good child and God will reward you for your good disposition towards your mum.

    Your mum was shaped by situations and circumstances that made her who she is today. You may not like it, but you have chosen to tow a different path by learning from her mistakes and love her nonetheless.

    Your children in future will love you and care for you truly as their mum.

    Love and kisses

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  31. Poster, you really do have a good heart, it's commendable.
    Have a talk with your momma, try to understand what EXACTLY led to all that she did to you, depending on what her answer is and her manner of approach to the whole 'discussion', you can then decide on what to do because ad廙gh廙 am羅 aka ekpe na nk獺.
    On a lighter note, She just has to stop with them curses, ka iyacha godu nke ndi Village ppl.
    Be sincere with your feelings when you have the talk with her.
    .. But just know that it's okay to sometimes CHOOSE YOU, for your sanity and peace of mind..and it's also okay to love from afar, alright.
    With that being said, I wish you the very best and may the good Lord prosper you.

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  32. Better don't end up With a sociopath/psychopath as a husband. Giving excuses for bad behaviour. Right now I'm sure you can't differentiate between good or bad. Pastor preachings must have gotten into your head. Think baby. Life sweet pass emotional trauma. Phew!

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    1. Work on the unseen effects of her behaviour on you

      Don't become an enabler

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  33. Would it have made anyone happy if she was now giving it to her mom fire for fire? Hell no. Poster you have the right attitude and it can only get better just let her know you won't stand her curses and all. It would be better for her to change for the better. Agreed all she went through must have contributed to making her this way but there are also people who have gone through same and became better. Talk to her heart to heart and see if she changes. All the best.

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  34. My dear your mother is my mother. THEY WILL NEVER EVER CHANGE!!!!! You just have to love from a distance. Do not tell her anything about you, if you do you would cry later, when you begin to have kids keep them far away from her. Women like her are badly raised and butter, always full of hate, they would never ever change.

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  35. Just asking - when you say ‘curse’ what do you mean? Actual curse or just abuse (like mad, stupid...). It matters oo! If you meant all those abuses we use which don’t mean a thing, fine, but if she actually lays curses on you, curses that refer to your future, you should not gloss over them. You have to cancel those curses from years back till today.

    And no matter the type of curse, if you love your mum, you will tell her her actions are bad. We are not perfect, but that doesn’t mean if you see something bad you keep quiet.

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    1. Even Mad, stupid is a curse. Its like making a declaration on that person. Anything negative is a curse.

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  36. This chronicle just made me appreciate my mum more.
    I grew up in a poor family, but I thank God we never slept hungry for a day..my mum sold her wrapper to make sure we're fine..
    Today we're doing well.
    Right now if I send something as little as 100 naira airtime to my mum she'll call with that credit and bless me till I'll become tired sef..
    Every single time this woman calls me she won't end the call without blessing me and that's why I don't joke with her
    Infact make I find small money 1k send her again.i think I'm really blessed to have her.
    I love you mummy. May God keep you for me.

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    1. You have a good mother treasure her.

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  37. I can totally relate, your mother and mine are like 5 and 6. will probably send my chronicle too.They don't change o.My mother has serious anger issues and it has rubbed off on me and my sister.she physically and abused us esp me while growing up,she will abuse in those big yoruba words, olorburuku, oloshi.I had low self esteem and self confidence growing up, I wondered why she was like that, she will also say she regrets giving birth to me. i over suffered in her hands, i fell into depression and i wasn't so close to my father either.She will also manipulate him at will despite all he did she never appreciated, always reporting him to our neighbours.There was a time he took my side that she abused him saying he was sleeping with me.I can go on and on, many times i want to run away but didnt know where to go.My sister ran away a couple of times over this abuse.

    She is so self centred, her money was her money, all she knew was how to buy clothes and shoes,yet she still complained my dad wasn't taking care of her, she will buy expensive things for herself, buy second hand for us, we never celebrated our birthdays but when it was hers,the whole street knew.my dad is dead,and she is retired, no money to spend, she wants to jeun omo.my sister and I are in our 30's, we are not married, beginning to think its spiritual, i have never had a serious relationship all my life, it is well

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    1. You need to pray and cancel whatever was said in anger. Or anything negative. Pray and cancel it.

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    2. It is likely more psychological than spiritual. Being raised by damaged goods has a way of damaging you. Just believe your time is coming and don't let the wounds of her treatment stand in the way of your joy.

      Jeun kini? Hold yourself o! Your father that did pass himself, which award did he win? Do the minimum from a very far distance only if you can afford it. Make her understand it is an unearned gesture and you can pull the rug whenever you please.

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  38. I will still love my mum, no matter what. She suffered alot and I promise to give her the whole world. She's my second god.

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  39. Even the problematic children that gave their parents tough time growing up will come and blame their parents for scolding them. Children can be very disobedient and stubborn too and parents are human too.

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  40. Thank you for forgiving your mother, please continue to pray for her if possible get her a counsellor without her knowing is you. Is her past and not her.

    May God help you.

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