STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
CHURCH BOYFRIEND SNATCHED IN CHURCH
Hello Stella, Thanks for creating this wonderful platform.... I'm sending this chronicle on behalf of a friend for advice cause I'm as confused as she is but pls hide my identity.
Okay this Friend of mine attends the same Pentecostal church with me and she's been dating this young minister for three years and the guy attends the same denomination with her but different parish.Uncle has introduced my friend to almost everyone at his church and they plan doing their intro this year...early this year they had an issue cause she noticed Bros is becoming distant.
So in the midst of the issue,uncle called her that they can't work that God said he should quit the relationship..ah! relationship they prayed on before they started and got their convictions,since when did God become an author of confusion?Thats how we started praying oo,we learned a 'spiritual' lady(I'll call her Mary)in his parish and Bros have started dating cos she's a tongue speaker and the HOD in choir department,ah,so fast?I told my friend to ask him for explanations as they got their convictions in the first place even before they started dating,Bros said the way of God isn't the way of man....ok I told my friend to go and pray over it again cause she has already been warned to pray against a strange woman that will come and manipulate her man against her,lo and behold!it happened.
She prayed and I even joined her in fasting and prayer and it was revealed that sister Mary isn't what she portrays herself to be in church, physical we learned she also dated two different brothers in their Church,with my friend's man making 3 excluding the ones she dated outside church walls.Now my friend has been having strange attacks in her dream that sis Mary is dragging a chair with her.
What we really learned about sis Mary is she's not using the spirit of God but her church can't test her spirit cause that our denomination is presumed to be cold Spiritually and they often see their type as the "Spiritual" person in church,they see them as those that have God's gift meanwhile all gift come from God but some gifts can be abused and some most especially ladies use divination (familiar) spirits,that's why often someone can tell you the Genesis of your life and even tell you your problems but can't see any solution to it,once you speak in tongues,sign don complete be that that you're godly for marriage,lol.
I adviced my friend to move on and let God deal with them and to block them everywhere on social media so she can heal,I told her if even the Bible says woe unto those that says thus Said the Lord when the Lord saith nothing,so she should let Go and let God but she's hell bent on fighting to get her man back from Sis Mary's claws even when Bros have lost his conviction on her.
Bros and Sis Mary are still hiding their relationship from the church cause they know what they are doing,they know Bros will be questioned on how he moved on so fast,Bros that has started telling everyone in his church that he's no more in a relationship with my friend should incase they get to know about him and Sis Mary,they would ask him how he could date someone that has dated two of his friends in church before and how he could forfeit his 3 year old relationship for Sis Mary,My friend confronted him and he said she shouldn't tell anyone in his church about his relationship with Sis Mary yet and he recently apologized for wasting her time that it wasn't intentional but it's God's will.
One funny thing is Sis Mary isn't too stable in church cos of school, service and work but my friend never saw her before one on one but Sis Mary send friend request to her on Facebook last year just to monitor my friend cause she never liked her pix, messaged her or commented on her post or wished her a happy birthday whatsoever.
What advice do I give this my friend again pls cause she's still NOT over this guy and she feels he's been manipulated Spiritually cause suddenly Bros now hates her and doesn't even want to even hear anything from her or that has to do with her.Is it possible for God to be changing His words like that?I asked him if he didn't pray about it in the first place,he didn't even give me an accurate answer,or are there Playboys now in Jesus Geng coming in the name of God and breaking up again with God's name?
Or should we just blame Sis Mary for everything as she's close to 30 and now desperate for marriage.My friend strongly believe Mary told her fiancee "God said" she's his wife.Do you think she should continue fighting for her man with prayers or just let them be?🤦🏽♀
Thanks and I'll send this link to her for your excuse any grammatical error please.
let your friend move on and if possible change to another Church so that she can heal properly...
There are playboys in Church alright and they use ''GOD said'' format to sleep with most of the babes in Church.
Your friend should leave brother alone. That's why I don't like street, church and school relationship. Some doesn't end well.
ReplyDeleteYour friend should move on please.
She should let Go and Let God. What is special about the guy that she is dragging. If the guy has grown cold, no amount of prayers that will bring him back.
DeleteIt's very difficult but she has to move on and forget about that guy..All these church church relationship I dont subscribe to it. I will advice her to leave that church and join a real spiritual church..Are you guys not there to pray and seek God instead of indulging yourselves in fornication and the rest..Please leave those church guys for now and focus more on God. All the best..
DeleteI rolled my eyes while reading this... don’t allow any man blackmail u in the name of God said. FYI some of this church brothers r the WORST! Do as Stella said u will b fine!
DeleteSo all this spiritual, speaking in tongue and God messenger because of dick? Are you people okay? The way you people abuse God eh, imagine people fornicating, sinners calling another sinner a witch, labelling because of man. All of you are spiritually mad. Mtchweewwww
DeletePoster, your friend should move on already! Let her just adhere to Stella's advice.
DeleteChurch relationship, fornicate at night, speak in tongues in the morning. I jump and pass abeg.
Delete#spritual yimu raised to power 10!
Delete1. Not all dating must end in marriage.
2.out of scorn, you brand your fellow woman loose and a witch because of a man who is probably playing her too?
3. That she dated others b4 does not make her loose or bad. A wise woman knows how to attract suitors, keep a healthy relationship with them (even without sex) till she makes up her mind and choose one based on the traits they exhibit. You and your friends have some learning to do from her.
4. You are terrible misogynist by saying especially ladies use mediums and unclean spirits. You need help for hating your own kind.
5. Let your friend take out time and heal and move on. I read it takes half of the time you have been with someone to get over them. So it might take your friend 1 and half years to fully get over him. It's natural.
6. He hates her now because of how she is going about it but who cares. By all means, your friend can cry, beg, grovel all she wants so she can have closure that she fought for what they had then let go. It's ok.
6. See your big kpomo mouth like " because she is close to 30..." Is being 30 and single a plague? Is it a dieses?
Its so difficult to tell someone to move on from a relationship they have invested so much in. But in some cases that's the best advice you can give to them. If she really feels he's being manipulated, she can continue to pray for him...but she needs to move on.
DeleteCyclone ure right 😂😂... Blowjob at night, speak in tongues in the morning... with the same tongue.
DeleteAll these boys claiming to be Evangelists with polished shoes, jerry curled hair, fear them. They are samplers. I blame the ladies that fornicate with them, they have nothing to give than to speak in devil's tongue just to be confusing them.
DeleteI hate this kinda thing. Your friend dodged a bullet, tell her to change church biko.
Praying and fighting over a man? Shameless Gallager, SMH...
ReplyDeleteWhat a chronicle. I shame for myself also cos I was in their boat one time. Things women do to be Mrs.😂😂😂
DeleteLovelace.
I like your honesty Lovelace 😂😂
DeleteWaste of fasting and prayers.
Delete"...Continue fighting for her man with prayers?" please, go with Stella's advice. There's too much drama involved, please let her change her church and start over again. He's not worth it.
ReplyDeleteGod didn't say anything to any of you! I repeat you are all liar and deceivers. God doesn't communicate like this, you are all confused and deceiving yourselves with your self righteous self. Stop sleeping around committing fornication in the name of marriage. Was your friend married to the guy? Dating 3 years doesn't mean marriage, he doesn't owe her marriage so please keep moving and stop abusing God with your deceiving fasting and prayers.
DeleteHello,they didn't have Sex,I repeat ,they didn't have sex ,I'm the posters friend, I've bn in a relationship for a year plus and no sex,just bcos you do does not mean everyone does.
DeleteI am totally not in support of you guys labelling the other lady as a witch. The same energy y'all using to fast,should be used to heal and move on .Most married ladies have gone through this phase in life,it didn't kill them but made them stronger. Your friend should move on,looks like she's been used and dumped,learn how to turn your lemons to lemonade.
ReplyDeleteLike I don't get it. Just cos a playboy pastor dumped her for Mary, now Mary is a witch. I cringe when I read stuff like this.
DeleteMystery baby,the thing tire me,Women can be extra sometimes 🙄
DeleteVery silly women. All this energy over a fuck boy. Whenever potential marriage with a church guy is involved single women lose their the minds.
DeleteKeep telling her she needs to move on. That's all.
ReplyDeleteLet her not go fighting battle for who is not worth it. If he will be hers it will happen somehow
Akuko ndi sister na brother in Christ.
ReplyDeleteAll I can say is "Jesus take the wheel"
No be small sister and brother😂😂😂 and your second line got me rolling on the floor🙆🙆😂
DeleteAssociation of church fornicators...😁. You guys are in church snatching and counter snatching. They guy is cheap abeg. Let him go.
ReplyDeleteACF😂😂 that lady obviously has esteem issues.
DeleteThank you..They have slept with themselves tire and involving in a toxic rollercoaster...Jesus is not happy with you oh..
DeleteThat's it ACF. She should
Deletefollow Stella advice.
My dear let your friend move on. This so called church brothers are the most confused sets of human being to date.. I have dated a church guy and a normal guy like God. My dear the church one can wake up any moment and tell you that God did not approve. The day you are not happy with a particular behavior you can't complain because the build a stereotype godly relationship in their head that you are not suppose to have issues if God approves. Those Church guys likes sex and can't even control themselves.. My dear sister tell your friend to go and buy a very big grilled chicken and a cold bottle of drink to wash it down its time for celebration.. God will bring a God fearing man. Not an overzealous church brother o.
ReplyDeleteWhy am I having this feeling this happened in a white garment church? Oh well, whatever it is, tell your friend to change church & move on. You say she's already dreaming of dragging chair? So "brother" is now a trophy?? Mtchewwwww
ReplyDeleteThis battle isn't physical, God forbid o fight over a man with a fellow lady, let her find solace in God who fights all battles.
Odun, so things like this don't happen in other denominations? You people ehn
DeleteAll this annoying epistle on top a case that is not difficult to handle. What's difficult in moving on? Nawa o.
ReplyDeleteAbi she's not aware that pastors abi mininters of hell are playboys camouflaged. She should move on please.
Stella you are so right, she should move on if he's really her man God will surely bring them back together
ReplyDeleteWhat happens in church enh baffles me.
ReplyDeleteI am telling you both of them are not spiritually grounded.
So God says both of them are compatible and now he is saying otherwise,I don't understand how you people God works ooo
Tell your friend to move on
Wetin the young minister dey find e go see....when God really want to speak to them to be together he will surely do that,all this thing are just rehearsals abeg.
This might sound cold but it is better he did this now than in marriage. Your friend should heal and move on, no man can be snatched except he wants to leave,he is not a handbag. A relationship/marriage is a union between two people, you can't force it, if the other person doesn't want it again,please salvage what is left of your dignity and move on instead of fighting over fickle human beings. In good time, your own will come but before that happens, focus on your own life. Shalom!.......#Fireandice
ReplyDeleteI agree with you a 100%. This is my exact attitude now. It is ALWAYS better for a relationship to end than to marry, have kids THEN suffer. If its not right, let him go.
DeleteAll this church boys with their stupid attitude looking for speaking in tongue sister.. So funny..the numbers of divorce cases pending in court na church brothers marriage oo.. Unhappy and sad sets of human being.. Tell your friend to leave and Wait for a Godly man.. Not those ones that hangs around churches oo.. Doing greeting ministry and painting fake images to the elders in the church.. See correct bullet wey babe jump
ReplyDeleteI pity 'that your friend' that is fighting to keep a bros that does not want to be kept.
ReplyDeleteNgbor miss friend, is that how she'll also fight for him in the marriage?
That bros is not a 'true' brother in the Lord, if not he'll not be tossed to and fro by any wind of 'tongue speaking sister'.
Tell 'your friend' to rejoice in the Lord and He'll grant her the desires of her heart; a true son of God.
i like how you put FRIEND in quote
DeleteNdi 'my friend' 'my friend'
Twins Square that 'Ngbor' miss friend got me roftl 🤣🤣🤣.
Delete'Ngbor' is a typical Anambra expression. Are you from Awka or neighbouring town?
I've really missed that expression. 🤣🤣🤣
There’s nothing else you can tell your friend, she will move on in her own time.
ReplyDeleteShe says Sis Mary is desperate for marriage but your friend is the one who is acting desperate. She isn’t married to this guy, she was an ordinary girlfriend. Is he the only man on earth? Or does she think God cannot provide her own husband.
I watched a Christian movie where something like this happened (I think it was a Mike Bamiloye movie), the lady ended up with someone a million times better. I know it’s a movie but still, stuff like this happens all the time.
People claim to hear from God, sometimes it is God speaking, sometimes it is their mind speaking... and this happens to the best of christians.
Desperation is written all over her action but she won't see it cos she's still hurting over the fact that she was dumped.
DeletePoster the earliest you move on the best for you.
Ignition 15:36
DeleteYour friend should move on! What nonsense is this? She's not even married yet she's already praying and fasting against strange women. Jesus is lord!!!
ReplyDelete😀😀😀😀
DeleteChurch boys relationship....tuehhh
ReplyDeleteAnd please not every minister, church worker, pastor, tongue speaking church goer is truly a Christian.
ReplyDeleteYou're absolutely correct , I'm weary of church boys ,they are so immoral .
DeleteGod have mercy .
Since you didn't make mention of any fights or quarrel between your friend and brother in the church, then I think it could be spiritual. But whatever the case, your friend should try to move on and pray for him from time to time.
ReplyDeleteLike Stella said, she should change her church and also unfriend and block sis Mary on facebook too, she's obviously a monitoring spirit. She will heal from this, God is her strength .
Sensuality is all I see in this narrative and not spirituality.
ReplyDeleteTrue spirituality does not envy, struggle or hate.
Tell your friend (which sounds like ??) that she should seek God the
giver and not what she sees as the "gift".
I think your friend should just move on. She has spent three years of her life with him. She should pick her lessons and be careful with any "brother" going forward. From your post,I deduce she is not yet "the big 30". There are other worthwhile things she can engage herself in. Let her face those.
ReplyDeleteI think people outside the church move and learn faster than so called church people. Some church people will be under the umbrella that God will do this & that for them not knowing that God can't do for them what He's empowered us to do. It's like being over-dependent on God for everything to the extent of asking Him to spoon feed you breakfast that's on your table. Abeg tell her to move on. There is worthwhile JACK for JILL. If one fucks up he'll be replaced.
Delete.......Covenant
Tell your friend to move on and praying she heal,not everyone that goes to church is well grounded in Christ..alot go for different reasons,that's why is good to always pray for discernment! The devil goes to church too,she should change church and next time she should becareful in the new church
ReplyDeleteI personally can't date any of my church member,I don't just fancy it
My sister same here oo. I cnt date a brother in my church. Many of them use bible to cover face that God said this and that.
DeleteI put it to you that the brother is not a true Christian. God cnt cause a confusion of him hearing and confirming she was the one and now! Words has changed. Let her move on biko. That sister is on a mission. Either from a spiritual kingdom or na husband she come search for. Tell your friend to change church and move on.
God convince me you were the one bla bla. Nobody was created for anyone except it was for a prophecy to be fulfilled. Leave that yeye talk. Just pray that you guys are compatible and let God lead.
The battle is of the Lord's,if truly he's her husband,let her leave it for God,since she has fasted and prayed,I would advise her to go on praises vigil ,just praise God for answered prayers and if truly he's yours,watch God turn the situation around,your mouth will be full of laughter and God would be glorified
ReplyDeleteSincerely this chronicles get me angry, like really really angry..
ReplyDeleteSee how you guys have In your own way turned THE ALMIGHTY GOD into what I can't say with my mouth, because I fear him, even thou I am a barbaric sinner like you.
Your friend, Sister Mary o, the Brother involve, all of you are 😠😠😠😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😠😠😠😠
This is the reason why the church is no longer respected by some people.
God didn't reveal anything to you, your friend, sister Mary, and that baga called whatever brother he is.
You people are shameless.. Tueeehhh..
Is like I should knock you all..
Na una dey spoil Christianity.. I don't have a problem with you peoples rhombus relationship.
What I am angry and and fuming about is;
You are using the name of God in vain and its paining me.
God didn't show you people anything, you all are confused, very very confused.
Tell your friend to move on, pray to God to give her peace of mind and grant her heart desires.
Na una dey spoil church, brother this, sister that..
DONT EVER DRAG GOD THE WAY YOU DID THIS AFTERNOON AGAIN... GOD DOESNT CONFUSE..
It's just very annoying. Just say you no do again, which one is God said when He didn't say nada? Thank God for the Holy Spirit and common sense. If I hear? Once you say God said, na to japa. Iro lo po ju n'be.
DeleteCynthia, we're on the same wavelength. I 100%ly prefer the phrase 'I think we should be doing this' to that of 'God says'
DeleteNo no no it shuts me down totally. I can't stomach over-spirikoko person.
.......Covenant
OLAWEALTH thank you for speaking my mind. Total dishonour of God's name is all I see in this Chronicle.
DeleteUsing God's name in vain and dragging true Christianity in the mud with their unbecoming lifestyle.
Using God's name in vain anyhow. May God judge all the fornicators and adulterous people in his house 😥😑😣
DeleteAmen but keep dreaming,I've not had sex in my one year ND 6 months relationship and I won't,if that's the nonsense you do in ur church,we don't do that..... they'd av married since but the guy isn't financially stable,so she was hoping things will get better and now that thiihave gotten better,they planned to do their introduction early this year den marriage later this year before Bros said God asked him to quit....they both agreed on no sex till marriage,yes,they didn't have sex,they are both devoted Christians and everyone is aware of their relationship even the pastors but bros is not ready to listen to anyone ok.
DeleteLmao @Olawealth. You are really vexed.
DeleteWhat a story... Ife n'eme na church.
ReplyDeletePLEASE POSTER,TELL YOUR FRIEND TO MOVE ON,THE MAN IS NOT WORTH THE FIGHT ABEG
I detest all this fake ass church hypocrites, forming holy ghost it fucking each other and still be speaking in tongues.
ReplyDeleteFornicating in the name of God.
Nonsense.
Some even do anal
DeleteThe fact that God gave you something does not mean that you shouldn't guide/nurture it.
ReplyDeleteWe wrestle not against flesh and blood.
Tell your friend not to hate sister Mary or the "pastor". One that hates one's brother is
a murderer and we know that no murderer has eternal life in him 1 John 3:15
Your friend should not relent in her love for God and abiding in him. Such love is not and will
never be based on what we get from him; the things of this life.
The world is a spiritual arena and only the truly spiritual in Christ are truly victorious.
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ReplyDeleteThe only time Nigerian ladies seek God and his will is when they want to get married.
ReplyDeleteOnce they are married, it is eating and drinking and God antagonism.
Anonymous 15:37 .......this your comment nawa.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 .
DeletePlay boy.
ReplyDeleteI’m sorry but I couldn’t read to the end 😞
ReplyDeleteTell your friend to move on. I never for one day do all these church brothers relationship or even friendship; many of them are not genuine.
ReplyDeleteI saw how church brothers broke my godmother and her beautiful sister's heart to pieces.
I saw how a church brother impregnated sister Mercy our scripture Union female leader
Many of them can be very cold hearted and they always claimed to hear from God while many of them continue in the sins of the flesh.
Please, your friend should move on with her life and God Almighty will send her life partner her way
And in marriage it is the same tongue-talking, bible bashing 'brothers' that will beat their wives into submission, because they have been brainwashed into believing their wives are beneath them and created for their pleasure..
DeleteYou can say that again @anonymous18:41. They are mean like that.
DeleteMany of them can't even give their wives sexual satisfaction and they can be very authoritative.
Going to church doesn't make one love and fear God.
Your friend will get another man better than the previous. Everyone say Amen. Amen
ReplyDeleteTo cut the long story short, brother is not interested in your friend anymore. Your friend should move on. If Sister Mary is a demon and she caught the brother, it means he was never spiritually strong to begin with. Is that the kind of husband your friend wants? She should move on abeg
ReplyDelete.... she's close to 30 and now desperate for marriage.
ReplyDeleteThe above statement sums it all. She is desperate. Only a desperate person prays for someone that has moved on to someone else. She should move on already and channel the energy to pray to God for her own to locate her.
Stella is right, infact she should run away from such church that they are cold spiritually. Also forget the man , pray to GOD for a man that will love and worship the ground you step on.
ReplyDeletePlease what's the name of the movie? Romance in the cathedral? Stella had mailed it,your friend should move on,all these sad and unhappy holy holy brothers and sisters should stop dragging God's name in the mud by saying God told them to do and undo,one thing about these brethren is that are always full of deception.
ReplyDeleteChurch love
DeleteMo'ja mo'sa ni a fi n mo akinkanju ogun. The hallmark of a true warrior is to know when to advance and when to retreat in battle
ReplyDeleteTell your friend to leave the pastor, sister Mary and the church. She should go to God in gratitude for saving her from unnecessary prayer points in future. If she truly believes that the God she serves, who is a loving father, cannot give her stone when she asks for bread, she will rest assured that a better man who is suited for her destiny is on his way
Some Nigerian women are so obsessed with men, marriage, "Mrs" title!
ReplyDeleteMost of the so-called men they are trying to snag are badly behaved men without good upbringing or qualities.
If you fight to get him, would you fight to get his respect and keep his love?
I am yet to see Nigerian men fighting over their women same way and doing the most to hook them in marriage.
See church folks that do not know the scriptures. "He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from God."
Keep disgracing yourselves chasing after men to marry you, Church bro or uncle! Totally wasting the prayer and fasting time you should have spent building up your faith and for praying for souls to be saved.
Please, have some dignity. 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
... and * praying for souls to be saved. (sorry for the typo)
DeletePlease, watch THE IGNITION by Damilola Mike-Bamiloye. You might learn a thing or two.
ReplyDeletePlease the lady in question should move on. Ah ah .
ReplyDeleteYour friend will never heed to any advice for now till she receive some sense on her own. But the earlier she realise that you don't fight to be loved the better for her.
ReplyDeleteLol @ things women do to be Mrs(naija women esp)gurl,stay away from that Nigga,save your prayers for future hubby👁️👁️👁️👁️👁️
ReplyDeleteThis is why once you mention "God said", na to just bail be that. I don't trust such talks from most people.
ReplyDeleteYour friend should follow Stella's advice. There's nothing more to add.
All this drama in church... Dragging man....
ReplyDeletePlease, move on..I know it's painful but he's not worth the fight when both are not even married..
How long will you fight over him because he's unstable and decisive..
God is patient oooooo.
ReplyDeleteA lot of people have committed several kinds and shades of atrocities with the phrase 'God said'.
Woe betide the people who speak with the Lord's name when he hasn't spoken.
Poster's friend, move on please. God will speak again but move on and heal first.
Like Stella said,your friend should move on,change church and also block sister Mary. Because she will always be reminded about him if she remains in that church. Let go and let God.
ReplyDeleteIt is well. It may be the said Sis Mary is really not what she paints herself. Your friend should involve her spiritual mentors or pastors if she has one. OR leave and ask God for someone better.
ReplyDeleteNa so they dey do. He will sample all the girls in that Church and later marry someone that is not even in the same church with him. Tell your friend that she is wasting her time on the so called brother cos he will neither marry her nor Mary.
ReplyDeleteYou seem to know a lot how it rolls there. Pls give us gists
Deleteshe should let go and trust God for her own man,the end will justify the means.
ReplyDeleteYour friend have so much energy, instead of her to pray to God to better her life, she is busy wasting prayers on a lost church bro, I never liked all this church relationship at all, I'm sure the bro has eaten from her 🍪 jar, hence the reason for the fasting and prayers. She should please move on and believe God for her own husband.
ReplyDeleteHello,my friend posted this on my behalf to me and I'm surprised that most of you are already concluding that I had sex with him,,,what a shame!You don't judge people from afar,we both agreed on no sex and he got his conviction about me,be I also had d same den he later said God asked him to quit after three years..,I didn't brand sis Mary a witch,but she's not what she portrays herself to be I church,I know that for sure......
DeleteBabe move on..If the guy was actually spirit filled,he wouldn't HV given in to sis Mary so easily.How can u date a man that long? In my parish years back, a bros and sis in choir were fornicating in the name of dating..wen d guy wanted to marry, he went for another sis from another parish of same denomination.. Na there foul nyash come open ooo..the jilted lady shamlessly reported the case to the pastor..To cut a long story short, the pastor brought everything to bare in the church..They were disciplined; they were not allowed to function in d choir and were given back seat..In fact the pastor refused to wed the guy and his intended bride..He had to leave the church for another to tie the knot..Judgement indeed will begin from the church as the Bible has said..Evil in high places.
ReplyDelete@Poster, your story is just funny. You claimed people that use familiar spirits see root of problems with no solution, so now you guys have prayed and fasted and seen the problems pointing to sis Mary and issues with brother yet you have no solution, so what do we call you guys?
ReplyDeleteMany of us just gamble with God, claiming we are real Christians but presume others are not doing well. Let me tell you, there is no difference between dating (whatever it means for any REAL Christian) someone inside a church or outside a church, humans are the same, it's ONLY those that have the Spirit and fear of God that will be committed to their promise/s. I just wonder who claimed God said your friend and the guy are meant to marry.
People should learn to prayerfully marry WHOEVER they desire/love and then ask God for help in time of need/difficult situations and stop deceiving themselves UNLESS THEY REALLY HEARD FROM GOD - and when God speaks a thing, He will surely accomplish it.
Your friend is insisting on not loosing out after a three-year relationship and you're here asking us what you should advice her.
Whats all this story? Bros, Sister Mary, speaking in tongues, familiar spirits nkan kan? Abeg you and your friend should MOVE ON!!!!
ReplyDeleteGet something doing with your lives!
MOVE ON!!!
See wahala oh! The guy is dating someone else, you are dreaming of dragging chair, such nonsense! Why cant people go to church and go home, must you know everybody in church? Its unnecessary familiarity!
Wa Poster, you and your friend should leave that Bros alone and move on! Abeg!
🤣🤣🤣 16:55 I understand your annoyance.
DeleteVery irritating behaviour. Nothing Christ-like about all this at all!!!
Poster you all should carry your drama and move on abeg! 🤣🤣🤣
Continue to fight for what? My question now is, is this brother the only marriageable man in the world? Why do women tend to fight over a man who boldly walked out of their life giving silly excuse. That someone is a minister in church doesnt make them a saint or one who really hears from God. Tell your friend to stop belittling herself and move on with her life. Her husband is waiting for her. If the minister felt God changed His mind on theor relationship, then let him face the consequences of his actions. I no understand most women sef.
ReplyDeleteNO DIGNITY AT ALL!!!😑😣
DeleteThe Chronicle poster, her 'friend', Sister Mary, the Brother and the churches/parishes involved are all dodging different types of bullets.
ReplyDeleteAfter 3 donkey years of dating, your friend should move on biko.
I guess the brother suddenly saw a red flag/bad attitude and decided to run for his dear life.
All I noticed in the comment section is that dating is synonymous to fornication. I really don't get it. So, one can't be in a relationship free from all forms of immortality?
ReplyDeleteWell, I'm not a religious person. I'm just someone who has the fear of God and I dated for over three years without any form of sexual immortality. It was unfortunate the relationship ended due to tribal differences.
So, please and please, boy/girl relationship is not always fornication.
I agree. I dated and dated but I never fornicated
DeleteThank you 17:41 ❤❤
Deletebrother and sister things.must every relationship end in marriage.
ReplyDeletemove on and change church...
ReplyDeletei think God has rescued your friend...
a break up of a relationship is better than to marry and start hearing stories
Let her move on.
ReplyDeletePoster did you think anyone would advise your friend to keep fighting for him ?
ReplyDeleteLet him be. If he is yours then he will come back. Keep praying for your future spouse without putting a specific face to it.
How can the house of God be a place of so much fuckery...The so called church needs purification of the holy spirit.
ReplyDeleteVery silly Chronicle...the man has moved on let your friend move on,why is she fighting over a who has stated he isn't interested in her anymore? Desperation is terrible and I think you are quite judgemental.
ReplyDeleteAll these church brothers and their way of playing games.
ReplyDeleteIn school back then, a friend dodged a bullet from this so called brother. He came in the name of looking for a spirit filled sister for a wife, only to find out his motive was far from what he showed
Your friend wont take your/ our advice no need she is desperate her ear no go hear word.
ReplyDeletePoster, Pls tell your friend to leave that church immediately and move on.... she has to rededicate her life to God... too many dram in this chronicle. Many Churches and prayer houses are using familiar spirit to operate... every time God said this God said that. Some people do not have shame.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry this happened to you poster but it's time to let go. Apart from the gift of hearing him, God also gave us the gifts of common sense and free will. As of today, this man is NOT your husband, and even worse, he has expressed a desire to be with someone else. As heartbreaking as it is, he has the freedom and freewill to do so. Allow him to exercise his freewill, while you exercise commonsense and let him go.
ReplyDeleteI believe that we can hear from God regarding who our spouse is. But I also believe that the obsession we have with hearing directly is so as not to take responsibility of the outcome of our actions in marriage. That way we can blame God like Adam 'The woman you gave me gave me the apple and I ate' or like the Israelites blamed God for his decision to bring them out of Egypt. First of all, you are not obligated to believe someone else's private revelations; there is no way to know if the young man heard from God or lied; my dear people lie, even within the church. But for you, if you heard from God then it should manifest. If it doesn't, maybe you didn't hear correctly. But don't beat yourself over that, there are times we hear what we want to hear...
There are 4 steps in commonsense discernment. Step1 is ..is what I am discerning a good thing? Step2 is...is it open? Step3 is ...is it a good fit for me? Step4 is...do I like/desire it? Let me help discern if this man is for you. Step1: Yes,What you are discerning is a good thing, marriage is a good desire. Step2: Unfortunately, it is not open because the guy is no longer interested. That door seems closed right now. Step3: Maybe you both are a good fit because you dated for 3yrs. Step4: Yes you desire it, you probably still love him. RESULTS OF DISCERNMENT: No because step2 is NO. That door is not open. So you see, we can use our gift of common sense and of course pray over it and still make good decisions.
All I see is everyone saying they fornicated.........how do I begin to tell you everyone including their pastor is aware of the relationship,Even both families......all of a sudden he said he heard God say he should quit and during that time sis Mary said she heard he's her husband too.....it's not a white garment church ok,they are both workers in church and they NEVER had sex pls..... stop calling them fornicators.Thanks for the comments btw
ReplyDeleteIt was a serious and mature courtship between two adults,they aren't teenagers....they dated that long cos Bros wasn't financially stable but she decided to marry him that way this year since she believes God wants them to start somewhere and with time things will get better.....so that's why she fasted and prayed,they prayed together, individually about their relationship and got their convictions,out of the blues Mary came and we don't know what transpired between Bros and herself and they started dating,den Bros said it's "God" ....so you see why she prayed and fasted?in the process of that prayer it was revealed Mary is on a mission but we don't clearly know what it is and that she manipulated him using God's name and that he too accepted is what baffles my Friend.
ReplyDeletePoster abi Poster's friend. I understand that sometimes BVs can read meanings into things they shouldn't and assume wrongly but stop being defensive and instead, take the comments in your stride.
ReplyDeleteI read a couple of lines where you wrote 'we found out... We later learned... about the strange woman named Mary. Who exactly is feeding you with all these information about her? Who is behind these revelations? The Holy Spirit? It a question I asked o. Mary may not be all she projects herself to be but she's not the problem here. The young man made a choice on his own to walk out on the relationship. Don't be deceived by his claim that God told him to do so. That's just a cover; a ruse to deflect responsibility and blame. You all claim to be prayerful and spiritual right? So do you really believe God will give your friend a man that doesn't have a mind of his own? A man that is confused, dishonest and deceitful? That guy is playing you girls real good and you've all fallen for it. It's time to stop the prayers and fasting and really listen to what God is saying to you by the way events have unfolded. Your prayer now should be thanking God for his will being done. And please get the notion that single women 30 and above are desperate out of your mind. Cheers