This woman married a chronic liar and decided to walk when the lies didnt get better.......All money lies and emotional blackmail...
Heck,she even had to 'settle' to be gbenshed!!!
Read her story............
WOW.......................I believe her and prays that she has found closure and healing!!!
Na waaa, ife na emekwa.
ReplyDeleteHmmm. This one is a one chance marriage. Tufiakwa! Thank God she left the stupid man.
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DeleteShe looks like ireti doyle.
DeleteI will say it with Bible reference.
DeleteI will push a child in pain as a woman. Na Bible talk am o.
Man pls fulfill ur own. God said tilt d ground for food.
Oya ndi insult line behind my comment. God forbid me spend #1 on man in the name of a TITLE a(Mrs)to pepper my fellow women because I want to tag them 'Gwegwe' Godforbid it
😂😂😂😂 when she wrote that she gave him the money to provide the marriage list, I remembered myself and my ex. He wouldn't ask directly like that but after the "imego" he came into my mom's room and asked to borrow 200k which my mom dug out from her box and gave him in excitement of having a new son in law. My mind was never sure of him so I had told my dad to decline releasing me to them that day till white wedding. That was my saving grace! We found out the list was 350k and he had borrowed 150k from me the previous day and 200k from my mom! 🤣🤣🤣
DeleteI was 35, and my parents were desperate to get me married. He was so engrossed with how much I earned. I saw all that, loathed him but I was afraid I might not find another suitor as my mom kept drumming in my ears. That was in June, I came back to my base, wrote Stella a private mail and the woman talked me out of all my fears and I broke it off with him in August 4th and met my now husband August 20th.
I don't care the implications, I told my dad he had collected 150k from me b4 and 200k from mom after so we are not returning nothing! I didn't marry an Igbo man so... Anyway, my dad packaged N15 (fifteen naira) in a nice envelope and sent my brothers to return to him as symbolic.
i wish her all the very best and may she heal faster.
DeleteReminds me of my marriage o. At least he was not beating her up like mine did
DeleteThank God for her,if not, that man would have killed her.
DeleteShe saw all the red flags but felt she has to build with him even with all the lies he told.
She should have called the introduction/traditional wedding off when he didn't buy those items but felt she could curtail it.
Thank God for you.
Her husband is sounding like my ex husband. Lies on every level. Even the refusing to sex after injections. This nonsense about the effects of not providing on a man is balderdash.
DeleteBV Saphire you dodged a huge huge bullet. Thank God you listened to Stella.
DeleteDear poster u married urself o.... no easy way to say it wat u did was quite stupid! Wen will women v sense Nd learn biko like whennnnn
DeleteHahaha Brown sugar build fire... I dont believe in dat shit. I build myself and he builds himself and we come together as one.
DeleteI concluded that the writer was of very low IQ only to see Mercedes' name. She was my school mate and highly intelligent, so what could have happened? The narrative up there 👆 is of a highly unintelligent woman with no ability to learn and no interest in due process. What happened to you Mercedes? Did he jazz you? Strange.
DeleteSaphire I'm happy for you.
DeleteAnon 11:19 that’s the result of focusing on the wrong things. Sometimes we focus on what people will say, how we don’t want to be shamed, how we ought to be married by so so and so age, how we want to hide our partner’s shame, how we want to maintain our reputation, what family will say, etc and then these push us to act as though we are not thinking straight.
DeleteIf only we can focus on ourselves, and on whether our decisions will result in the best outcome for ourselves and loved ones, whether we will be treated like we deserve, whether God is speaking and having His way in our lives, etc, we will take better decisions and know how quickly detect and discharge negative people from our lives.
So I am not surprised at all. It always starts from the first bad decision, then followed by more bad decisions as you try desperately to ensure the venture ends in praise; but usually, it still ends in tears as the foundation remains faulty.
Upon all the eyes Mercedes open, uoon all the feminism, she went through this???? The things women go through here baffles me. I just wished someone Happy Mother's Day yesterday and she is already organizing...for me. I know she means well but when I think of what she is going through in the name of marriage, I know I am very wise and have every right to live my life purposefully. Women, women, women, learn to be complete without a man. Get married early or late is just like education, there is no competition except the one you create for you and other women. There is nothing, absolutely wrong in being single or divorced rather than using your hard earned money to marry a man. I no fit and heaven knows I can never marry myself or feed a man, never.
DeleteSaphire I am so happy for you. Thank God for your kind of father. I read the woman's story and I thanked God she had the courage to walk away. Some of us don't have money. What we have is pride so there's no money anywhere for any leech. Some women are really suffering but would prefer to die there sadly.
DeleteVery pretty and intelligent but "street" naive (plus and minus for her)! She must have been a bookworm, with little or no social life, up to post-NYSC - no life balance. So she met a street rat! So many of such street rats in Abuja, targeting successful and hardworking ladies. However, as a lady you must be sensitive to such rats. Unfortunately, most of you ladies are attracted to them - good looking, always on point with clothes, smooth talking, know all the cosy places in town, always available to give you attention as well as meet emotional and physical needs (never busy). Some of us hardworking men are always too busy and engrossed with our office jobs/businesses to be as available, "caring" and "dress on point" like these rats. Babes, please, you see the geeks or close-to-geek guys, who are just "there" (modest, I mean) but neat, focused, intelligent and hardworking - they are the husband materials
DeleteSapphire you did your dad returned N15? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 kony man die, kony man bury am.
Delete13.55 👌👌
DeleteStory of my Life....
DeleteOdikwa egwu oooo
ReplyDeleteNawa o,this one just married herself. Paid for every godamn thing. Even to have sex with her supposed husband she will pay.
ReplyDeleteNever seen or heard of such desperation from a woman because she wanted to get married by force.
Even women in dere 40s without marriage have more sense dan this and cant be used by men in dis manner. Who marries a jobless man biko.
Was saying it the other day,dese sort of parasite men look out for matured ladies and single mums dat are succesful and starts preaching marriage without 10 kobo in dere pockets.
PS;its so funny,she returned bride price dat she paid on her own head. Nawa
Even me, a lady in her 50s will not put up with such crap. Ladies, please learn to love and value yourself. Everything was wrong from their very first meeting. he who does not have a job will not eat.
DeleteAnon 9:54 I am about to be 50 but sorry I an not that desperate like some of these young ladies. Abeg am good
Delete9;54👌
Delete9:54 💯💯💯💯
DeleteBut it is the same women that will shame others for not being married or for not having children and of course the mentally weak will become desperate just to prove a point and then suffer for responding to pressure cast on them by fellow woman. What a cycle!!
DeleteAnonymous 11:42, I agree with you..
Deletesome ladies do it because they feel they are in love. Some people are fool for love.
Delete9:54, that's how it should be but it is on this same blog that they tell you all sorts because you have chosen to be happy and not desperate about marriage. Women are our own worst enemies let's drop the political correctness.
DeleteWill I say the man is possessed or wat? I don't know y some men behave like animals in marriage. She also has a huge side of d blame! She brought it upon her self. Y did she marry a jobless man? Oh, maybe she felt she wasn't getting any younger bcos she was already in her 30's. Women please let's borrow some sense and open our eyes wide during courtship ..
ReplyDeleteI am 38 and unmarried and men are still asking me out wella. I wont even entertain a jobless man. Im in a relationship now and the man is taking good care of me,providing even as im working.
DeleteWasere babe. same thing here but i am not in a relationship yet though. 39, single and waiting for the right man. miofoshi
DeleteShe was too desperate,haba, how did she see all those signs and still went on? She has answered MRS and have peppered all her friends now reality has woken her up. I pray we women open our eyes bfor even wasting our time wit an efulefu man. Such men always have an abundance of women to play similar games wit but only one crazy one will chop off his dick.
ReplyDeleteAunty Sparkle kwusieya ike....
DeleteIt's not always about desperation. Some women see only the good in their men and genuinely want to make their marriage work. Not everyone understands that men can be gold diggers. She acted out of goodwill and should not be ashamed.
DeleteNwanyi oma, dalu rinne...
DeleteThank you 10:56 you have what I wanted to say. I think she was just a girl with a really good heart, not necessarily desperate.
DeleteCyclone,good heart indeed. Ask her to help now story go boku ! She's a big fool that was too desperate for marriage. She felt she could buy a man! I'm so sure she has relatives that needed her help that she turned down. I don't pity her.she got what she deserved! And she actually paid to have sex with her husband!
DeleteSometimes it's not desperation. Just plain old good heart. When you love someone, you want the best for them. You want to help them stand strong.
Delete@anon 12:46
DeleteFrom her write-up you can spot the fact that the poster is not a desperate lady.
Why are some people so quick to insulting people instead of applying clear reasoning.
Why would you expect her to still lend money after all she's been through? I can perceive strongly your sick sense of entitlement already.
Some people whether male or female are genuine lovers and supporters without looking out for what to gain eventually. But when your twisted self meets such you will go ahead and run them down just because you don't have even half as much value for your own existence. I really pity you and your kind.
Hmmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteIt wont surprise me if that worthless SOB is already galivanting or even married to another woman already. Why are women these days so desperate and ready to do anything for the Mrs title without doin atleast a little background check.They just take a guys word for it. Please women be careful, nowadays the devils cousin and nephew are roaming about to break and to destroy.
ReplyDeleteThis lady up there deserves a thousand hugs.Be strong darling.
Henry nka is over useless,chai!too many red flags,thank God she’s out of it and strong!
ReplyDeletePoster on spontaneous post dashing your bf family money. This is a glimpse of your future. Please flee from that man. Block his number or drop him gently but please leave him alone. Madam na you do everything na. You married a bad wife, you should have in now he is your wife and you are the husband.
ReplyDeleteI once dated a guy dat had a family like that. Though the guy was doing okay and never asked me for a kobo. Anytime i went visiting and d guy goes out,d mother will come and start asking me for money. That i shld drop smthn when im going. Never gave her a kobo. Maybe she thought i was so desperate to marry the son i will oblige. I never did. Very toxic family. She even harrases and curses her kids for money.
DeleteDidnt even stay long in the situationship. I met someone else and just stopped picking his calls.
Wow wow. You see those fb tins! Immediately you tell me hi beautiful! I block you straight. Using your money to marry a man thinking you are helping him is the worst tin a woman can do. It does not end well. Be supportive to ur bf but my sis use ur common sense. Some men are not just it at all.jezz
ReplyDeleteAnd one man will come and rant that women want ready made men, women are materialistic, bla bla bla!!!
ReplyDeleteIf a man is comfortable spending YOUR money, run away!!!!
Before this poster will heal, the man has gotten his next victim. Women, shine your eyes!!! Stop being desperate!!! Stop loving like this!!! Even the Bible says you should guard your heart.
Na wa. How can you be so despirate for marriage that you would pay your own bride price? Thank God the lady gave herself brain and divorce the liar of a man.
ReplyDeleteIf you only knew the amount of empty marriages ehn, the number of marriages where the wife is the husband and horseband only brings a chronically diseased prick and empty head to the union.
ReplyDeleteWhere the woman is paying all bills and even financially supporting horseband in laws, while treating different STIs every month.
Why dont they leave na? Because they 'mustu' answer Mrs by fire by force, even if the person they are married to is even more worthless than mucus thrown out from the back of the throat.
I have NO pity for women like these. You have a brain, but you are too afraid to use it.
Anything you see in such tragedies as these is your business.
I get one wey she and her likes dey carry my matter like gala dey laugh me as per single mum, dey tag d boyboy she Marry as Zombie for street🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteAm better off training my child alone o. Ndi Mrs and my husband. Hajhahahahahhaah.
So on point 9;04. This set of women r Bitterness personified
You were extremely desperate to stupor and still living a life of sin. You claim you f*ck whenever you want but are you happy? Stop fornicating with men who believe you aren't good enough to wait for till marriage for sex. Draw closer to Christ my friend and start afresh everything you seek he will provide.
ReplyDeleteThe woman was too desperate. A real mugun for love. It is sad she fell into the wrong hand. Women should learn that not all that glitters is gold and not all good looking guys are good. To make matters worse, the liar can never impregnate a woman. Next time she should pray well and shine her eyes.
ReplyDeleteWhat was the infamous birthday post of 2017?
ReplyDeleteExactly!!
DeleteYes Stella, I have and couldn't believe my ears. I kept saying wow!
ReplyDeleteI'm even more worried that some of the blog visitors are currently in this situation yet to be married though which is better but won't still listen or learn from this while some are about to enter this type of one chance with their clear eyes.
Let's learn and learn fast from this.
I have learnt not to bring a person who's already down further, hence, won't blame her since she brought this to our knowing.
I keep saying it, keep your hard earned money and build yourself! If you can't, please send it to charity for more blessings.
This Henry guy is well calculated and will still be with another of his prey doing worse.
And the red flags was glaring o. She saw all that but still went in. Thank God she didn't come out in a bodybag.
ReplyDeleteGod bless you for this comment,mystery woman. The first RED flag is when a man says he doesn't have money for wedding na one chance be dat! The second RED flag is when a woman pays her own bride price! ARU!!
DeleteGbam @ the red flags, they were just too much yet she ignored. The painful part is that she returned the bride price she paid on her head
DeleteFirst red flag; he doesnt have a job. How can a jobless man mention marriage to you; u shld know you will be the bread-winner. Will a jobless man pay rent,schoolfees and food.
DeleteThe man no even get shame, na real useless man. Borrowing money upandan and lying again. Some mothers do have them.
DeleteNawa o, with all d tins we read on marriage dis days d zeal to get married is no longer dia jare.
ReplyDeleteAmongst the leeches are good men
DeletePray for discernment
Oh dear! I'm sorry you had to go through all this , even though it's your fault. The anger I felt reading this was enormous.
ReplyDeleteThis is what happens when a woman decides to be the bread winner of the house. It ends in pain.
To the lady who wrote on SP that she's been giving her boyfriend's siblings 45k, 50k, 35k, I hope you not only get to read this, but be sensible enough to walk away from that "nzuzuship."
I know that tomorrow, we will still read chronicles of women talking about same issues that has been addressed here over and over again. The reason I stopped commenting in chronicles.
You all have a great week and stay safe.
Cheers!
I couldn't help lol @ your comment. I'm currently in a situation quite similar; commenting a lot about my soon to be ex husband. I was tricked into lending him money to pay for our 1st house rent. Who goes to marry without having rent? IVs had already gone out so... My ex is worse because he tried to cut me off from family and friends but I refused. Then when I asked for my over N1.6m loaned to him for over 2 years, he threatened to kill me. This is a man that deliberately doesn't provide for the home or our only child (whom he ignores), though he can comfortably afford to. All in a bid to break me but thank God I have a job & great support system. The police are involved and he has paid back some of the money.
DeleteI married for love not out of desperation (as there were other suitors beforehand) but obviously he married me for his leaching plans. God has saved me from further strife, thanks be to Jesus.
It's well with you Ma, the Lord will restore you on every side. He will meet his own in front.
DeleteGood one Anon 13.02, I wish you the best future ever!
DeleteShe didn't love herself, she was desperate and with no self discipline/self-esteem.
ReplyDeleteI hope she will not make the same mistake again, lots of women who spend and give their lives to useless irresponsible men, usually don't listen to what other people have to say no matter who important and useful their advice is to them.
I pray she finds closure and I also pray she finds the man that will treat her like a queen until she breaths her last on earth.
Too too desperate,who take all these shit from a man,she literally married herself and played the husband role
DeleteThid reminds me of that Mugu yesterday or was it the day before that was sending money to boyfriend's brother, sister, mother, grandfather, gteathrandaunt etc all in the name of 'support'. Buahahahahahahaha mugu toh strong
ReplyDeleteEverthing she dey send fit be 5% of her income and still bigger than your full salary.
DeleteCarry your poverty go far.
To think the oaf of a man is my namesake. Hope she burnt down the eatery she took out a loan to help the bozo establish.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm,strange strange lies..
ReplyDeleteMy husband my husband my husband, hanging ring finger like chicken, na them☝️.
ReplyDeleteThis set of women r, judgemental, pleases society and expect everyone else to b so, gossips about single mothers and older single girls but are the sole providers of a stupid marriage.
You all and enjoy your title of MRS abeg🚶
Hmm na wa. Ladies pls look well oo. Lazy men in the society is increasing
Delete👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 well said! I had an encounter with a married woman last week, that bitch was so judgemental because I am not married she felt she was better than me. I told I guess marriage is an achievement, I also said if I wanted to be married I would have done so long time ago but it is my choice. I want to marry my love and best friend not someone who I just met. Or because I am desperate like most women here. This is one reason I don't hang out with married women. They suffer/miserable and still come and put single ladies down. Marry men that are not suited for them all because they want to belong, for money, etc. I am with you anon let them carry their MRS and stop complaining after marrying. Plus they see the signs asoebi have entered their eyes😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteLonely single girls consoling themselves. If only you know having a life partner with a few challenges is better than moving from man to man, being alone on cold nights and spending a better part of your youth looking for ‘the one’.
DeleteYou wish all marriages were besieged with problems but you are wrong, they aren’t. You wish any wife basking in happiness is unhappy inside but that’s incorrect. You think women spending on their man is an abomination but it’s a lie, some women do this to lift their family up and they get lifted up, and most times, yes I said most times, the man appreciates it and they live happy lives, secure in the fact that they got each other’s backs.
The key thing is marrying someone who’s head is screwed on right. When you do, nothing you give is too much. Some people do not properly and objectively evaluate the person they are getting married to, forgetting that the best time to exercise your power to choose is as a single girl. When you get married, you are expected to be one with your husband, yes that involves covering his shame (same goes for the man). If there is no furniture in the house and you have some spare cash, you buy it, else when your friends visit, they will sit on the floor. Same goes for other things as well.
My sisters, remember that you are to submit to your husband and he is to be the head of the home, the best thing you can do for your self is to marry a ‘good head’ , one that you can permit yourself to submit to. Exercise your power of choice as a single person because when you go in, you are all in!
That some women married the wrong men does not automatically mean that all married women are miserable, there is no 100% happy marriage bc you the wife is imperfect just like the man, but there are happy marriages, yes I know cos I am married to a man that makes me very happy, having said that,it doesnt mean he is perfect but he is good. Abd I hide it cos when people knows how relaxed and happy in that marriage, they will think say juju is involved wont use my blog ID today cos I like how my life is: anonymous. I have been married for 10yrs, known him for more than 20 yrs cos we were neighbours while growing up and he is RICH and very caring. I thank God
Deletehanging ring finger like chicken 😂😂😂
Delete13:56 and 14:22. Enter market go change ring o. Na Dem co☝️this writter probably said exactly what both u all r saying. Deception d game. Helpers of Avalon, we await una cronocles keep consoling urselfs
DeleteAnon 15:29, you will wait until you bend over under the weight of your own bile. No chronicle is loading, choke on that!
DeleteY so Pained if u r happily married ? I am not that person up there and am happily married. Y exhibit pain wen this situation doesn't affect you? Just asking
DeleteThis is really true. I have women like these in my office. They will laugh at single ladies yet their own marriages are in shambles .They keep running up and down with high blood pressure. Ndi Ala
DeleteHmmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteHow can a babe chop shit with all her money and exposure??what kind of desperation is that???na wa
ReplyDeleteSometimes they believe the guy truly loves them and is just hindered by finances, not knowing that the crook has it all planned out. On the flip side some women has helped their guys even with the bride price and everything and they turned out to be fine, man later finds his feet and smdoesnt play with the lady. But it takes the wisdom of solomon to know who will be true and who is fake. So just leave broke guys to their brokenness, they should discuss marriage when they can foot the bill
DeleteYou were desperate and saw all the red flags but still put head. ⁹
ReplyDeleteThank God she's fine now
ReplyDeleteHappiness is key
Women, stop sponsoring your own wedding! Stop paying your own bride price! It's only a thief and a shameless man that would allow his bride 👰 do that.
ReplyDeleteHaven't you noticed that men don't have regards for such women?
99% of wedding sponsored by the brides don't always have good stories to tell in their marriages.
If the man doesn't have money for his own wedding, he's not fit for marriage, he's not man enough. Let him go and hustle legitimately and act like a real man.
God's original plan is for the man to work and care for his bride.
When Adam and Eve ate the forbidden fruit, God said, Man = work, Woman = pain during childbirth!
So, men should go and work! It is a sin for a woman to sponsor her own wedding. It is a terrible sin.
Big terrible sin
DeleteThe bible also said the wife should be submissive right.. but whenever it gets to that part talk would change and various accusations would start flying- "the bible was written by male chauvinist, the bible is anti women" etc.. the same bible were wars were fought by men, you don't see man complaining that the Bible is feminist as it encourages men dieing to protect women and all.. you ladies are just confused being.. their's a reason why God made men head of the family,. rational and logical decisions which is needed in life is not really your thing..
DeleteI agree that some men lack behind on their duties.. but women own are worst.. "wives not cooks, wives not dry cleaners,blablabla".. but you want men to provide for y'all when you cannot be submissive, husband that would do house plumbing, wash and fix cars, electrical works, gardening etc.. you don't see men coming with the slogans "Men not mechanics, men not gardeners" and the rest..
Later, you'll be insulting men that go marry white ladies, even though some of these men sef dey fuck up by marrying white ladies white men won't marry, most of those white ladies are still more assets than most of you, abi no be the white ladies una won look like by bleaching your skin, wearing wigs, red lipsticks and all, so why stick with the counterfeit when you can get the original? Not to mention that in few years time the brother would become a citizen of the said country.. do you know the privileges that ls attached to such citizenship? Then una weh no dey bring anything come table except attitude, drama and heartache go dey talk.. when I read most of you comments ehn.. I really dey pity una.. una never know wetin time dey talk..
By the way I'm against everything this lady did.. as a man, you should never be comfortable collecting stuffs from women.. personally, I don't collect stuffs from women for obvious reasons.. I think why most of these ladies fall for these kind of men, is because they are trying to pick men they'll be able to control with their money.. when them jamb soldiers like us them go dey rant cos dem no like person weh dey keep it real with them.. them prefer the ones weh go dey use lie finish their head.. make una enjoy abeg..
Continue to rest in peace Bob Marley.. your legacy leaves on.. May 11..
What do you think is submission. Do your part in loving your wife and u ll see submission is no big deal. Let me tell you loving your wife is a huge responsibility. Google the word love and after performing everything u ll see that submission and respect comes naturally. Do you part as the head. Dont be a man that doesnt lead with example but wants his team mates to be perfect. Your team mates aka wife and children only follow your lead.Treat and provide for them and see how things turn out. You are to be an example
Delete@anon 14.55.. you should also Google the word submission and see if you ladies of this generation are up for it,..
DeleteWhile at it, since we are using the bible as authority in this discussion, in the said chapter that makes provisions for submission and lov, which one comes first.. submission was made in verse 22 and lov was made in verse 25.. so stop putting the cart before the horse.. submit first and then see if you won't get the lov
Do you know the Bible said husband and wife should live in submission to each other or your own Bible ( that is if you have one) erased that part? Submission is not one-sided but for both husband and wife.. so how do you feel now?
Delete@ Dante,Do you know the Bible said husband and wife should live in submission to each other or your own Bible ( that is if you have one) erased that part? Submission is not one-sided but for both husband and wife.. so how do you feel now?
DeleteLol @anon 16.03
DeletePlease next time come with an ID, let's put a name to people who ignorantly 'jump'to conclusion.. and next time, next time, if you want to reply me be polite and don't be stupid..Okay?
Now firstly, I'll encourage you to do a personal research on the verse you're talking about and what the submission there as opposed to the submission in the following verse.. Okay let me help you, if the submission you're talking about in verse 21 means submission to each other, why then do they have to say wives should submit to their husband again in verse 22? Do you think Paul is confused like you? See your head
Ephesians 5:21, where Paul calls for “submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.” is misunderstood for “mutual submission,” such that both husbands and wives place themselves under one another’s authority.
Ephesians 5:21 actually calls for believers to recognize and respectfully follow God-ordained authorities. Wherever you find proper authority, Paul is saying, follow it. This view makes sense of the passage that follows. Ephesians 5:22–33 teaches that God has called a woman to submit to her husband and a man to love his wife. The woman images the church, which honors Christ as its authority (vv. 22–24); the man images Christ, who self-sacrificially leads and provides for His bride (vv. 25–28).
Do your research, talk to bible scholars and not all those pastors that don't know anything..
You're welcome
Dante, Dante!!! We bow.
DeleteYou are very stupid for calling me stupid when I never insulted you to start with. Learn to have a discourse without dripping saliva over your post. I didn't bother reading I stopped at your first paragraph. Nonsense!
DeleteI read everything. I don't want to believe what I read. She's so desperate, my goodness.
ReplyDeleteDesperation overloaded...
DeleteI really feel sad for her......but it's nothing that millions of men haven't passed through and millions will still pass through........she will be alright
ReplyDeleteHmm. She fell in to the thirst trap.
ReplyDeleteAlmost happened to me tho. I started making a pretty sum of money almost immediately I left uni. Had a bf then, whom I graduated before. He was still in 300l while I was already working. Of course he knew things were going well for me so he started asking for this and that. Money for school stuff, money to travel to this place or that place; we live in different states so I’m paying for flight ticket and hotel, Iv got a business idea money(like where is that coming from all of a sudden? He never had that idea while we were in school. I knew what he was doing but he’s been good to me in the past so I kept my cool and was doing him favors cause I saw it as helping a friend in need, but for how long will I do that? I broke up with him, told him when he finishes school, serves and get something going then we can continue the relationship. I don’t mean to be rude or mean or anything but I’m glad I broke up with him cause well ...let’s just say it was a good decision at the end of day.
In as much as I support staying with people through thick and thin cause my dad and my mom started that way, But my mom would always make me understand that no matter how you are building with a man, he shouldn’t make you give when you don’t want to. He should never guilt trip you into giving. Infact, no one should. Not even your girlfriend.
The quickest way for her to heal is to accept that she messed up and forgive herself, cause the guy showed her all the signs and she still stayed.
It's always good to flee when you see the red flag.
Deletethank you my dear hoil dey your head..lol...as a single girl i was very strict. i no dey give guy money anyhow cos i knew it might not end well. any guy who is serious will provide for his woman no matter how small. my parents started small too so it wasnt about waiting for a rich man but one who was responsible.my dad was a responsible family man so i could not imagine me just taking care of a man like say i be the wife...am not kidding,all my friends who sponsored like 90 percent of their wedding expenses are still the bread winners in marriages more than 15 years. one has even divorced the guy cos she got fed up of his never ending stories. she has managed to train 2 of the kids in uni and last is in sec school. how can you call yourself a husband and a man then the woman is the one taking care of everything in the home? lazy things and na dem go wan command authority and even cheat pass. I married at 34 oh but that still did not make me spend anyhow for any guy before i met hubby. ladies pls dont let a man use you oh. dont be desperate cos you think you are getting old or whatever. he must have a job and even if na one room and be able to pay your bribe price. the rest expenses na to your budget...then pls pray pray pray for spirit of discernment so God can open your eyes to other hidden things
DeleteHonestly
DeleteWas she under a spell or something? She went too far. Jeezzzz!!!!! She even saw the signs and still married him. What the hell! She even returned the brideprice she paid for. Guy man has nothing to lose. I'm sure his village people are still on his case as he moves over to the next available desperado. The most painful thing is, some ladies will still read this story and won't learn a thing or two... Things are happening o. My ladies, make we shine our eyes o
ReplyDeleteNa love . She was under LOve🤣
Deleteher story has some things similar to mine but my own no too see much of my money because i do the payment direct into the person's account and when the marriage packed up i move with all the properties i bought with my money. Let him go and start from step one as i cannot dash him my sweat.
ReplyDeleteOMG 😱
ReplyDeleteHehehehe
ReplyDeleteI've been following the series on FB.. Something about divorce and stigma..
Some people are natural givers. Like, they give and give,especially to those they love.
The good thing os that she learnt her lessons and she's in a better place, hopefully.
Abi o, natural supporters natural givers,always wanting to see the best in the next person beside them
DeleteThis is too much
ReplyDeleteHmmmmn, everylady should decide not to ever settle for less in the name of marriage. It just saddens my heart because the lady had a good heart, she wanted to build her man because she loved him. She forgot that it only works with a few Godly men.
ReplyDeleteHmmm, this thing call love.
ReplyDeleteBoth the village people of Henry and mecerdes met and made them marry what a disgusting write up. He kept stealing from you but desperation didn’t make you stop. What a sad story so bad. Thank God she’s fine now .
ReplyDeleteYou are so right. I mean shit happens no doubt, but MERCEDES, HELL NO!!! Shes too intelligent and WOKE to fall for an efulefu. No, not MERCEDES EKUWTOSIM, NO!!! What happened to all the... and social media...Hmmm, I just cant wrap my head around this. Mercedes???
DeleteSo sad for her plight.
ReplyDeleteBut what is the difference between Henry and the lady that "fks now anytime and anyhow she likes" and laughs about it.
How safe is such a lady?
Ola Bisi is my friend on Facebook and when she started this #DivorceNotStigma posts where women send in their stories to stop the stigmatization on divorced women. By Allah Some stories will make you cry your eyes out. The horrible things women go through & endure just to keep their homes. So far 23 episodes have been pen down!
ReplyDeleteHave you read episode 24 today?
DeleteI'm still angry at the ex husband.
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ReplyDeleteUpin all the eyes Mercedes tear. So this is what she was going through. Hmmm, truely, all that gilters isnt gold. Just be you and do you.
ReplyDeleteNobody is above manipulation
DeleteThis is really sad. Reason why i wont marry a jobless man, NEVER. And ladies any man who claims to have a business or working, pls visit his office unannounced. Never pay for your own wedding, if a man can not even bring out 500k for wedding, pls dont proceed. As a man have your own place where you live even if its a room. This thing almost happened to me.
ReplyDeleteI was working in a bank then as a casual staff earning like 125k monthly, met this guy on facebook in 2011, we chatted for 3 months before meeting, do you know that he used another persons foto? I told him when we met in his one room apartment on why he lied, different excuses so i distanced myself. The following year 2012 January we started dating(weda him use jazz) he was not my spec in any way. after a month, he lied that he was going to offshore that he worked in Chevron. From Feb till July i dodnt see him, we only chatted on bb then. i was doing subcription for him for 4 months. i will send 1500 and he will say he does 3k sub, i told him that i do 1500 and cant do more than that for him. i even went as far as asking my friends in Chevron to check his name in their data base and how long they stay offshore. it was obvious that the guy was lying. He kept coming up with excuses, his broda is sick, the mum is sick, na so i send 65k to am(i made sure i collected my 65k complete sha) . My eyes quick clear and i took off. ps: he folloed me to my house one day, na me fuel the car, he didnt have a dime and was bold to insult me that a whole banker like you dont have more than 2500, i told him a whole Chevron staff like you cant fuel his car. MY dear desperation is not good. i am still single but its beta than being with the wrong man.
My dear. You have a discerning spirit and you are street wise. Many are not lucky like you
DeleteWow!!! I'm so happy for you.
DeleteLol
DeleteThat one na normal yahoo boy format nah.. na G format him troway for you so.. offshore ko.. Chevron nii.. greedy ladies fall for it tho.. that's how they get all those white women clients..
My dear. my discerning spirit np be here o. I be prayer warrior join sef. Na so one guy don dey chat me from US for 1yr and some months. He came to naija and i was the one who chauffeured him about town. I prayed and told God to expose who this guy really is to me, ashey this guy na married man and he lied to me. I told him face up, OGA you are married with 2 kids, he no fit lie again, i even describe the wife wey i see for am. Many men are evil, we ladies need to pray more. May God help us. My fiends call me Igboro na sharp guy, but its been God all the way.
DeleteDante, you sure are talking from experience.
DeleteSome men are heartless
ReplyDeleteI ll say that this girl is not making a legitimate source of livelihood. Either she is stealing from her company cos the spending of money so carelessly is not commensurate with someone who is sweating for it. Or she has vendors pay money into her account as kickbacks or she works with the government has access to stolen funds somehow. D way u foot the bills even when you know he has eaten it, u pay again. You all need to ask,how come that the money does not finish? u r never broke. The danger of pple that see free money is that they think the supply ll last forever
ReplyDeleteIs this one ok at all? 🤔
DeleteAnonymous, Mercedes works with NNPC.
DeleteHer money is 100% legit
Lol, Mercedes is an Engineer with NNPC.
DeleteMercedes na NNPC chic na. Mercedes is intelligent, 'woke' and ...Wetin come happen? For where them cook this jazz for this guy, abeg? She really must have loved him and ready to give it all she's got.
DeleteDo u know how much she earns monthly or her upfront yearly. She can buy d guy n his family.
DeleteThis story really scary if she actually went through that path.
ReplyDeleteI would that thought my mum wrote this only difference is she gave birth to two kids. The poor woman paid debts she knew nothing about to cover face. Embarrassment every where even reach beer parlour. Chai
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm , God help us all.
ReplyDeleteI know this lady and her family. I remember her very well with her brother. Am glad she is free from everything.
ReplyDeleteLadies run I mean RUN!!! From men whore jobless! Comfortable spending a women's money . Or letting a woman spend on them! Lazy and wicked men are a no no for us.
ReplyDeleteLove no reach where my money dey ooh, whether big or small. Call me stony or selfish, I dont care. I watched my dad love and cared for my mom even when she didnt deserve it. I dont find such a man, nna make everybody answer their surname. Yeah, I am stonecold without apologizes and even if nothing, I KNOW IT IS TOTALLY WRONG FOR A WOMAN TO MARRY HERSELF, FEED, CLOTH, HOUSE AND PART HER THIGHS FOR A MAN. IT ALWAYS END IN TEARS. Mercedes is just one out of so many ladies doing that especially in oil /gas, banking and telecoms. Them plenty and every PAY HORSEBAND MONTHLY SALARY.
ReplyDeleteMen like this are all over FB, I know of one his name is Alex carovin, his real is Ikenna okeke he lives of his sisters and basically do nothings but hunts naive female to deceive, you can check him on FB
ReplyDeleteStella, Mercedes didn't lie, she's a pretty tall lady with a large heart. I'm sure the guy took advantage of where she works and capitalized on it. I wish her d best.
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