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Monday, June 15, 2020

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative....

Na wah!!!!





STAND ALONE NARRATIVE



Dear Stella and bvs, I've been reading the trending divorce stories and decided to share my own..


I met this guy December 2014 he was about 35 and I was 20s, and by Feb 14 2015, he proposed to me and told me he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, to say I was shocked was an understatement, but I decided to give him a trial as he was really cool(they all are)


Fast forward to early 2016, we did our introduction, and preparations was in top gear for our marriage plans, that was when I got to know that he didn't have any savings in his account despite the fact that he earns a good salary, but when we met he told me he has over a million naira, that he's ready for marriage.


I was really shocked as to what he used his savings for, he lied that he used it in paying his siblings school fees, which I later found out to be lies... I should have broken up with him there but I continued the relationship..


Let me also state that at this point we were already living together,(I got the house AND we joined money to pay) I later got to find out from his cousin that he wasn't a graduate that he claimed to be, (he's using a fake certificate to work).. I cried and cried but I couldn't walk away as I was already pregnant, so marriage plans was put on hold, till after I deliver.

 I later lost the pregnancy...


This guy was a smooth talker, I caught him so many times chatting with my friends on social media, he adds my female Facebook friends up to toast them, he even goes as far as stealing their numbers from my phone to chat with them, he's always in communication with his ex gfs, and he discusses me with them, he never posted our wedding pictures, he tells the babes he's not yet married but has a child..


There were a 1001 red flags I saw, I wanted to move out several times but people kept telling me that the angel I know is better...


 We had a fight sometimes in 2017 because I refused him s#x, he threw me out of his house around 2a.m, and I was pregnant the 2nd time.. I had to sleep in the neighbors house till the next day, I went and packed my stuffs to a friend's place...


He called everyone to plead on his behalf, that he was going to do me right by going to pay my dowry.. My parents cried and begged me to come home that i won't be the first person to get pregnant out of wedlock that I shouldn't go back to him, but I guess they say love is blind... I went back, but I lost the pregnancy.


There's no kind of names he hasn't called me, from witch to ashawo, he even called me barren that I used several abortion to destroy my womb.. He refused me doing anything, if he finds out that I have little money in my account, he'll make sure he collects everything before he rests..


Any little issue we have, he'll call up my family and anyone that knows me to say all manner of terrible things to them about me, at a point my dad started believing him, but my mom will tell him that I carried this girl for 9months and I don't know her with such character.


My people refused giving him the list for traditional marriage because they didn't want me to marry him, that the marriage won't last, but I refused to listen as a girl inlove, when they saw that I was hell bent on marrying this guy, they gave him date for early 2018 for tm..


Some week after the traditional marriage we left the east back to our base, I didn't even know that I was already pregnant, in the vehicle I was spiting and throwing up anything I eat, it was the guy beside me that was helping me, what my horseband will tell me is that I should stop disgracing him, that I am not the first person to be pregnant.. I died that day, and was filled with so much regret and the hatred for him resurfaced..


We got back to base and he got transferred to another state to work, that was where the marriage began to crumble because he practically abandoned me and due to my high risk pregnancy, I had to move in with my parents. He only came to visit once through out didn't even stay up to 4hr, I cried and cried but my mom told me to be strong for my baby and think less due to my HBP.


Fast forward to when my pregnancy was breached and I was to be operated on, he came but instead of staying back to find out what's going on, he was in a drinking joint with his friends drinking and smoking, it took a call from the Dr to come and sign form before he came as my elder brother was already on his way, As God will have it, he brought shame to my enemies and I delivered my baby prematurely, every other women in the ward their hubby was around to support their wife's, but my own was in a beer palor declaring drinks for people.. 


After she got her baby weight back we were discharged, after 3 months I dusted my cert to go look for a job, because during my pregnancy anytime we had little issue he always shut me out and I end up borrowing money to buy drugs or go for antenatal clinics, so I told myself I couldn't live like that..


He refused me getting a job and it caused a big issue, but we settled it and he promised when baby gets to 1yr, he'll open a shop for me to sell baby things that he doesn't want his wife working for anyone..
Meanwhile he tells his own people that I've refused to do anything to support him, that I am lazy and every burden is on him..


After I gave birth, for a whole year, he only came 3times, We had a big fight last year that made me makeup my mind that this marriage filled with lies, cheating, etc was dead on arrival, he came around for holiday and was spending money on his friends dashing people here and there, but he refused to buy anything for us at home, his mom even called from the village crying of hunger..


So that night I was trying to talk to him about how he neglected his parents in the village and doing 'oyeoma cy' in the city, he flared up and was shouting  bout how I shouldn't tell him how to spend his money, he packed his clothes into his car and zomed off.. That was the last I heard from him, I sent text called he never responded so I ignored him thinking when he calms down he will come back, but he went cold on us even refused to attend his own baby's 1year birthday..


I went through his phone one night, I discovered he chats and calls his ex that refused to marry him before because he didn't have money, all the romantic text I usually send to him, he edits it and send to his babes, but tells me he's to busy to reply.. He once told me that he married me out of pity..


This guy has pushed me into depression and he keeps using my situation to make mockery of me, I've been scared of people making mockery of my failed marriage, but lately I've been thinking about what to do to him to make him feel pain, I think it's high time I take the bold step by WALKING AWAY before I kill person pikin and go to prison for nothing..


Please ladies learn from my mistakes, I married a very useless irresponsible man and always learn to listen to your parents when they vehemently kick against your suitor.



*Hmmmmm,if only you had listened....Thanks for sharing!

125 comments:

  1. You said it all sis, he is worst than irresponsible, I wish you luck in finding your feet. Call me ๐Ÿค™

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    1. God please save my children from marrying an enemy. What manner of wickedness?? ๐Ÿ˜ฑ

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    2. Why are some men wicked? Please divorce him sharply

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    3. The signs are always there. But most of you will turn blind eyes to it becos u cnt wait to bear MRS.

      Poster move on. This husband na bad news biko. I dated a guy with almost same issue. Omo. I ran for my life. Lies and immaturity. You won marry but no money.

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    4. How is he wicked though, she didnt only see the signs, she was too desperate to make it work. Well your parents are supportive, you are the firat with failed marriage. Dust your cert and get a job. A good guy will find you when you have sorted your emotional problems, atleast this chronicle is refreshing than the previous ones of molestation and abuse. My goodness.

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    5. This poster will still go back to the husband, is it not these women with low self esteem. Come back in 3years time and I will believe you.

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    6. Excuse me what are u still doing there? I even thought u'v divorced his ass. From your story I got bored. U are always looking for excuse, Madam stand up for your self and your child and stop blabing, u sound like someone who is going to get pregnant for him again. Get a life!!!!

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    7. Poster so the lesson you learnt is to listen to your parents?!!! Na wa. You are very slow.

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    8. You didn't walk away, he did. You didn't divorce him either. Until you acknowledge that and stop receiving yourself into thinking you walked, you will accept him if he comes back.
      Why women think so poorly of themselve is something no one can understand. If you have indeed moved on, this narrative would have been different from the way you wrote it.

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  2. Stella, I am 31,gor married at 25,separated at 27 and divorced at 30.if I tell my story here people would not believe it. Women are going through a lot in marriage.

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    1. Please, you ladies should stop playing the victims all the time. There are equally sad stories from the men but out of shame, most men cannot tell their stories. Incompatibility and finance are the major issues for divorce - both parties see all these but circumstantially, continue with the relationship into marriage. Let your instincts and inner mind guide you in taking decisions concerning marriage. Your life may be ruined if you get it wrong.

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    2. Poster, your own mother vouched for your character but you totally forgot that and insisted on getting hitched to a jerk after all the redflags!

      Two lost pregnancies were enough for you to redeem yourself but you plunged headlong from the cliff.
      Thank God you ended up having a daughter, not a son that might take after that loser of man.

      Enjoy your baby girl. ❤️๐ŸŒท

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    3. Nobody stopped you men from sharing your stories so leave the anon to share hers.

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    4. A lot of women(married and single) are going through complicated situationships and defending the guy because of blind love or what people will say.

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    5. Anon 15:39.... Leave people alone to tell their stories in peace so others can learn from it. Men are welcome to share theirs too afterall this is an anonymous blog, so what shame are you talking about? Stop rubbishing people's experiences by telling them they are playing victim. They don't need to play it, THEY ARE VICTIMS. MARRIAGE IS ALWAYS A BIG GAMBLE. An angel you dated can turn into a circumstantial devil. Desist from shutting people up. AND YES, WOMEN GO THROUGH A LOT BECAUSE OF THE PATRIARCHAL NATURE OF OUR COUNTRY. The only reason so many women are still in their marriages is because of financial dependency on the man. As more women gain financial independence, divorce rate will sky rocket.

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    6. Men should man up and also share their own stories. I'm tired of all that "if the men say their own part" sh*t. They should tell it, after all the women are saying their own stories anonymously..

      Madam poster, you saw the red flags from the beginning, but you decided to stay. And from your write up, it's obvious he's the one that left you. I pray you've learnt your lessons and ready to move on. I pray the so called love won't make you give him another chance.

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    7. With all the stories being shared, what lessons have you women learnt? Still putting heads, bodies and legs into terrible marriages with irresponsible men. Una dey hear word? Anyway keep entertaining us with the sad stories. We will read and enjoy them. Nonsense

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    8. I agree with you anon, women like playing victims alot. Like they are the angel and the men are the devil. I am not disputing the fact that some men can be wicked but some women are evil, manipulative, lazy, covetous. And if you can't meet up they start comparing men to their friends husband not knowing that some of those friends even lie. Stop playing victims, stop been the reason your husband want to spend extra hours at work instead of going home. Make the home homely and not a war zone. Jezzzzz. Support your man not everytime buy buy. Some women their husband will be low on cash to pay children fees instead of them to support or lend they rather go and buy expensive creams, shoes, bags hair like how do you expect your husband to be happy. Some even find it hard to take care of the house even the car they drive abegi enough of this victim act there are two sides to a story

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    9. 15:39 and 19:33,guess you are the same. No one is stopping you from sending your own chronicle concerning your wife. It is not by force to read the ones you see here also, neither must you comment. You already sound frustrated. Ndo ooo

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    10. People can be good or bad, male or female. The reason why we read a lot of Chronicles from women is because, firstly women find it easy to share, secondly, women in Africa, in fact the girl child is the most oppressed gender in the African society.

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  3. Lol, I really hope you have learnt your mistake, because I have this feeling you will still open your legs and carry another belle if he comes around. No be today yansh begin dey for back.

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    1. Shut up abeg,someone sent in chronicles for people to learn from and all u could do is lol and say u have a feeling.

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    2. Queen Amaka, you are a bitter judgemental person and I'm sure you will be ignirant and dumb bcos no wise person will write the bile u put here as a comment. I wonder if you have friends in real life, poison!

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    3. She go still go back there. That's their way.

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    4. ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ Queen Amaka, you didn't buy this her story at all.

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    5. Queen Amaka is right, I even know some of them in real life. Come five years time, this poster must have birthed like 3kids for this same man.

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    6. @queenamy & 16:23..unadulterated oil full una head joor ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚..experience they say is the best teacher. I have witnessed these well well na. If this guy comes back again, she will decide to give love a fifth chance๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚, this time na twins go pop out because such girls are usually "super fertile"๐Ÿคธ‍♂️๐Ÿคธ‍♂️

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    7. I agree with you, that madam is not going anywhere, she go still multiply for the same man, so sorry madam lesson not learnt come back when you do the right thing, when you stand up for yourself and the child

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    8. Yeah, the tone of her chronicle says so @Queen Amaka. You hit the nail on the head. ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

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    9. Poster you see people are decoding sey you never learn ya lesson, else why you still tanda for there, dey continue to dey born dey cry wolf? It is well with you.

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    10. My dear poster, to tell you the truth, you pushed yourself into depression.
      God gave you 1st chance, you blew it up, gave you another you blew it up again... You still went ahead to get pregnant.

      Kai.... Me haka?

      God pls help our children to marry right, Amen.

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  4. Hmmm like the saying, experience is the best teacher...

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    1. She hasn't learnt her lessons from her write up, I thought she will say she left two years ago, then I will take her serious.

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  5. A mistake you have refused to walk out from?
    Where do these sort of men come from? May God help you.

    Sluttychic.

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  6. This us situation-ship. Not marriage at all.
    May you be truly be delivered from it... In Jesus name Amen ๐Ÿ™

    That's All.

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  7. Poster, all I can say is "ike gwulu"... And you are still thinking of what people will say if you walk away... Egwu di.

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    1. Oburo obele ife! This poster is "aju Ala anya" ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

      Her mind is still there. ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

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    2. As in ehh Chike, that poster sorry to say is annoyingly a fool, God forbid.

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  8. The mistake you made was to go live with him after intro what a wrong move.Anyways thanks for sharing may God give u the wisdom to know what to do.

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  9. Thank u for admitting that u made a very foolish decision! I’m surprised stella dint give u semi e slap cos how can u tolerate all this! Nd from this story u keep tolerating his lies Nd foolery! Why? Only u can advise urself o, cos if we advise u to leave him he can come back Nd cry to u Nd u will forgive Nd d silly cycle keeps repeating itself. My advice stop calling him, pack to ur parents house if u ain’t there already, get a good paying job. Get ur own apartment Nd raise ur daughter! Of course u shld tell his parents ( u don’t need to call him) that u want to return bride prize Nd serve him court papers if u did court wedding. If he now has sense Nd decides to repent, he shld sign an undertaking in d presence of a lawyer to do right by u Nd his child Nd stop d cheating , Nd he must go for counseling too Nd show signs he has repented. If not pls leave d idiot Nd move on!!!! Moveeeeee on

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    1. As in ehnnnn, I trust my mother she I will come and give you factory reset on that so called husband house of yours, she will help you drag the load that you feel is too heavy for you to carry, she will explain how her giving birth to you and training you won't waste in a Goatband's house. Rada rada iya mi ofe oooshi

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  10. What? You were young and maybe naรฏve.
    That man does not deserve you. You literally saw all the signs and you still went ahead to marry the good for nothing man.

    You have parents that loves and care about you, you shouldn't have disappoint them by going against them to marry this guy.

    Anyways, the deed is already done, you can now dust yourself up and go get a job, go back to your parents and let them join hands with you to take care of your child.

    I wish you strength and courage ๐Ÿค—๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’–

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  11. Wehdone make,you brought this upon yourself.Some men do not deserve a second chance,you obviously have a soft heart and i pray God comes through for you. Stay strong

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  12. Which of your enemies did God shame? Because as I see it, you were your own enemy.

    Thank God you learnt from your mistake.

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    1. ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿฝ

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    2. Hello Kami๐Ÿ˜˜

      A lot of women need to be mentally strong, mental weakness will always leave you making wrong decisions and fighting to defend the wrong you have done even when it's glaring that this thing ain't going to work.

      Better to be alone than in wrong company,
      Build your mental strength so you can sniff bullshit a mile away and be willing to walk away if need be.

      Good afternoon all

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    3. Right on point, Kami.

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    4. Chai some women are mentally weak sometimes it gives me nausea and men has seen that has a tool. I keep repeating GET A LIFE BEFORE MARRIAGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It doesn't have to be a job, u can create a business and make sure the business get small ground. Chai men love women that can stand up to them, the one that knows how to switch from been bossy, sexy, homely, intelligent, mad name it. Some women go just dey do like jelly fish

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    5. Hello Sweets@ Shining๐Ÿค—

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  13. Dear Poster I am sorry about how you feel..However as you have rightly said Please waka like Johnny walker..If you kill him or do anything crazy, you will have yourself to blame...Ladies abeg make we shine our eyes..We were not created for marriage, find your life purpose here on earth..Your life is more than any man..Just like this our beautiful Ibidun, let us make an effort to be a major influence on earth either married or unmarried..

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  15. Op, you saw the red flag and you went ahead. I blame you. For your information, love is not blind. Love get eyes, e dey waka for road. Open your eyes next time before falling in love. Anyman that refuse his wife from working is a wicked man.

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  16. Things that boggle my mind when I read some chronicles on here:

    Some of y’all’s husband stopping you from getting a job or working. Like, what type of marriage does an adult stop another adult from getting a job. This baffles me whenever I see it in a chronicle. I understand having a discussion about a job prospect if it’s in different state but for a man to stop you from working just because you’re married to him? Sheesh. I am married by the way and I know no marriage is perfect but honestly, it floored me when I read it in a chronicle for the first time. Had no clue a husband could control his wife by mandating that she not work. But as I read more chronicles, I quickly realized how common it is in Nigeria. Ladies, please don’t get into marriages where you have no say and have to be dictated to. That’s not a marriage. Marriage is a partnership not a master-slave relationship.

    Secondly, how do some of y’alls husband know how much you have in your personal accounts to the point of ensuring that you spend it all? How? Do y’all say, oh by the way Honey...I have so so so and so in my personal account?

    Poster, you should’ve taken a walk a long time ago. Hope you’re able to get yourself together and forge on. You have more to live for and achieve.

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    1. Honestly, I don't get it. Who are you to tell me to stop working?
      Does he know how I got the job? I'll respect you as my husband but asking me to leave my job is a deal breaker for me. The way some women allow these men brainwash them is shocking. I'll never understand it.

      Sluttychic.

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    2. Most men do it because they know their wives are too desperate to remain married, and yea, they are right the women are usually too desperate to say no

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    3. Righto! Desperate. ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘Œ๐Ÿ‘Œ

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  17. You walked into it with you eyes open wide.
    Your parents saw it coming but you didn't use your head even when you saw all the red flags.
    Sorry o.

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  18. If you will just try and get a job, ignore this man , ensure you take care of yourself, he will crawl back begging.

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    1. And what if he comes crawling? Must she be married to that curse of a man! Poster serves you right! You are in love indeed. Is that your own definition of love? Typical Nigeria marriage and stupid male dominance.

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    2. Lyndy the desperado! ๐Ÿ‘Ž

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  19. All I can say is nothing beats regret !! The feeling of regret can be likened to having a near death experience .
    And this is why I'm not an advocate of drink water and mind your business chant!! Sometimes God uses people around us to avert pending danger like this chronicle .
    I'm glad you're admitting your mistakes, dust yourself and keep making good progress with your life .
    May God's wisdom lead and direct you .

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  20. I learnt a thing or two from this. To say that you saw the signs very early and you ignored. Hmm

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  21. How a young lady will open her eyes and allow a destiny destroyer destroy her destiny is beyond me. Ladies please listen, you are first a human being before being joined to anyone in marriage. What I mean is, if it is going to alter the course of your life, please do not go ahead. It is not love. A time will come that, that thing you think was love will give way.
    I met one demon like that in 2018 in CHURCH. All he knew was talk about sex and about money. Always calling big big money but he didn't have a kobo to his name. I became his feeding and transport and even money to go spend back home in his state. He'll call and the next thing I hear is "Babe, my big boy don finish, please borrow me...", ah, first money I borrowed him, he never repaid, told him to let it go after a long time and made him understand that he was not credit worthy so after that, he paid back whatever he borrowed. That was aside, paying his transport even from church or picking up the Bill's after going out. Always wanting to use POS in places that he knew didn't v such services even when ATM is close by so I can pay. I "wised" up and started meeting him with just enough for my transport.
    I dusted my shoes and moved when one time he called and was telling me how he saw a girl he f*cked 4years back when she was 16 and that she was now 20 and with huge breasts. I was disgusted. I asked him you mean u had sex with a 16year old girl and you knew her age and you were 29 at the time? He said in his words "no be me disvirgin her now and she carry breast and nyash full everywhere"... friendship ended that day.
    Whenever I remember him, I just say to myself that oil dey my head and my mama's prayers are not in vein. I cannot end up with an irresponsible human abeg.

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    1. ๐Ÿคฎ๐Ÿคฎ๐Ÿคฎ
      Corrupt communication from someone is one of the very hot red flags for a practising Christian . ๐Ÿšฉ๐Ÿšฉ

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    2. Poster were foolishly stubborn seriously! You wasted your 20s in a very disqusting affair all in the bid for what exactly? May God guide you from now onwards Amen!

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    3. When I saw the "sex" part, I knew he was not a Christian. There's a difference between a church goer and a Christian please

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  22. I wish my friend would read this chronicle
    She’s a single mother doing wifey duties to a married man who is a pastor
    They broke up a week to the guy’s wedding, yes he didn’t tell her he would be getting married!! It’s the wife that called to warn my friend off...
    She cried her eyes out, I lend my shoulder for her to cry on, we went through the phase together...
    My friend went back to this same guy after 2 months now she’s a side chic to him
    She didn’t tell me about it but I got to knew anyway... my instincts were always right, I got the shocker of my life when I was going thru her gallery and found out they were back together
    Now I have learnt how to mind my damn business but somehow I still thinks about it...
    I knew what she went thru when she learnt of his wedding, she just wouldn’t listen
    ๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜”

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    1. They always go back to their vomit.

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    2. You cannot cone and kill yaself. At least you tried to be a good friend to her...she will learn the hard way

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    3. Pastor Kwa! Wonder shall never end.

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    4. Better leave that your friend. If she can be comfortable dating a married man, she'll come for your husband one day.

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    5. They never learn, they just never learn

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    6. She would soon be a single mother of two for that fake pastor. ๐Ÿ˜‘

      Please, send her the link to this Chronicle.
      Pray that the scales of low self-esteem will fall off her eyes.

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  23. My dear, if I talk this afternoon to you en! God saved you plenty of to mes but you kept on going back to him. My dear live with it cos you use your 2 wide eyes enter wahala. To think you kept on getting pregnant plus you had 3 years to change your mind. My dear my mind says you have not learned anything till now. Thanks for sharing.

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  24. This your write-up was a traumatic read. Anyway, you didn’t send it in for advice.

    Please do as you have said and leave. Men know that once they tamper with your earning power, your options reduce drastically, and that’s why it was important to him to have you jobless and dependent.
    I also believe single men/ladies should critically assess every red flag they see. If only we can shun those butterflies in our tummy so our brains can think! I watched a video where a guy said, most times we end a relationship or marriage for the same issue we had noted in the first months of dating someone, but we ignored that issue then because of our love for the person. When it manifests into its worst form, then we know ‘we can’t take this’.

    When it comes to a decision on marriage, please be as wise as a serpent.

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    1. Every single person, especially ladies should note this comment by Mystic.

      When the butterflies flutter but the red flags flash, remember this comment.

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  25. Na real waah
    Dust yourself up, keep your head up, since there's life, there's still hope.

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  26. He did this...he did that yet you insisted on staying with him. Even when you lost 2 pregnancies you made sure you had a child for him at last...why?. Carry ya cross ooo

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  27. The marriage crumble before he moved to another state. God gave you plenty signs you no listen

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  28. Women leave men who are useless that has nothing to offer or want to be responsible.

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  29. lol, you are a very stupid girl and no cap!! i was getting annoyed and annoyed as i read on. even before the introduction is when you should have broken it off.
    you people use love to justify every one of your stupid decisions, goes to show you dont know love at all. READ 1CORINTHIAS 13:4-5 on what love really is>.
    I even thought you would have ended that you had left him and taking one day at a time but look at you. stupid and annoying chronicle, i am so upset

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  30. Thanks for sharing dear.๐Ÿค—
    May God give you strength and provide for you and your baby.❤

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  31. So if a man hasn't paid your Bride price, why do you pack into his house and
    start getting pregnant?
    Isn't that inverting everything; cart before the horse, legs up and spread, head down?
    ๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️๐Ÿคธ๐Ÿป‍♀️

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  32. Dear Poster, thank God you have realized that you might do something you will regret ,so walk away.

    No one deserves to feel less than loved and appreciated in marriage..
    May God grant you the wisdom and strenght,amen

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  33. Dear poster,this guy "love bombed" you,he rushed and prospsed to you under the space of 2months of knowing him which is very short,guys with baggages does this,you now fell for him and was blinded by the proposals,your problem is numerous,your husband is bad news,I can't ask you to seek for a divorce,I will rather say walkaway from him,put your life together,take a fresh start,work on improving yourself all round..you will be fine I promise..
    To the singles,take a look very well before you leap#Norush#knowyourselfworth

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  34. I know you didn’t write in for advice but it’s no use waiting and planning to make him feel pain. Leave now that you have only one child and go do something with the rest of your life.

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  35. Hmmm. The signs were there, your parents even advised you, but you didn't listen. I hope you have learnt something from your marriage.

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  36. Wasted 3 minutes of my life...mtchewww

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  37. You’re only sending this chronicle because he left you, if he comes back you will still resume your wifely duties.

    Let us hear word abeg. You’re an adult, face the consequences of your actions.

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    1. Poster my anger is that you waited until he dumped you! Mrs desperate married woman! You ppl will go and be slaving for MAN all in the bid to remain married. Whoever told women in Africa that they must suffer as part of being married.

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  38. But Stella she would have learnt from her mistake had she taken the bold decision to properly divorce the beast. The reading is so painful, because in between the lines we can read through the low self esteem, the coldness and loveless relationship. Your husband married you to cover up for his shame, cos he loves men in reality. Don’t even be blinded by sidechicks, because even though you eventually divorce him, he will misbehave the same with future wives. If he was courageous enough, he will divorce you and sexually engage with other men without feeling remorseful towards society. Unlike other women, you are lucky to have supportive parents who stand by you regardless of your predicament. I beg you to gather your strength and fight the battle to shame this enemy disguised as a husband, divorce and succeed in life. You ow it to your parents as well as your kids and any women in that situation. Good luck!

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  39. You are saying all these still in that marriage??what are you still doing there for Christ sake?? Get out of such situationship

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  40. Story story, if he calls or come back,you will still go back to him and open leg and get pregnant and he will disappear again.

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  41. Sorry Poster. I’m just glad you are finally getting bold enough to leave....Although the guy gave you more than enough signs tho.
    Please you still have a whole lot of future ahead of you. Drink life to the lees.

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  42. Dear Sisters,

    If you can, Please avoid men that are so childish, bad mouth other people (exes, family and friends), talk too much, always center everything around sex, Hide their HIV status, has tiny prick, so stingy and always testing girls to know if they are Materialistic, Had previous form of Madness, Came from an Unstable home, No father figure he listens to or respect, Confortably lie to people to paint a better picture of himself and when caught in the lie try to manipulate thing and also do not flush the toilet after doing his business.

    I need to send Stella a mail. I can’t believe my friend went through all this with One stupid Ibo 35 years old boy. How I wish she can come to Abuja let me help her teach him a tiny little Lesson.

    I am even pissed that she allowed herself to be hoodwinked into dating a guy that introduced her to his sister as Financee less that 10 days of meeting.

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  43. Poster, I don't have any pity for you. You deserve it all. Sure you sent in this because the guy abandoned you. Lmao. Women can do anything to get and stay married.

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  44. I couldn't read because of anger. Nonsense! Suffer head Nigerian women. You will still go back him. God gave you signs but you refused because you think with your vagina!

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  45. Na your type go curse girls wey dey sleep with men for money but there you were sleeping with him without any benefits. You have low self esteem. You allowed him treat you this way. You are not the victim here. You girls go into such situations with your eyes wide open. You saw the signs, you know but you like to gbensh a broke nigga. See your life now. You will claim single mother and want people to pity you. I'm usually not this judgemental but I have observed that we women are too emotional and we let emotions get in the way of reasoning. You messed up big time! Damn! I just pity the baby you brought to suffer because the dad doesn't care. I will rather be Regina Daniels than be a single mama that is suffering

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  46. Your story is so painful that I couldn't finish reading it.

    It is well.

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  47. Stella please post. Nigeria full with daft women who will do anything to please men and when a woman who has discovered herself and wouldn't settle for less they call her a bitter feminist. Some of you don't know your worth, you live to glorify men and service their ego. Some of you have no self esteem and you never seek out for your own happiness but the happiness of men. Only few Nigerian women make a conscious effort to be happy, the rest would sacrifice their own happiness for men. You were hell bent on having a child with this man. You were selfish, you just wanted a baby to pepper your friends so even while you saw the signs you still went ahead to become pregnant all over again. Your story is different from the average Nigerian woman. She will go ahead to have kids for a man that doesn't treat her right despite all the troubles. This is a new age, women find self love and self fulfilment. Do what makes you happy, if your job gives you happiness why leave it because another human being insists. Why are you women like this? Why do you love suffer and pity? I know you aren't super rich, how do you intend to cater for that child alone? Out economy is messed up. I know you will start feeling entitled and expect your parents and friends to help you with the care for your child. This is sad. You all need to take charge of your life and reproductive organs. Stop thinking with your vagina and think with your brains. Life is more than being with a man!

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    1. I just drank a shot of my best and most expensive brandy in a toast to this your comment.

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  48. My sister, the only thing you can do to him is to ensure you succeed, go get a job, get ur life back. Please please and please. Divorce that man now. You are still very young.

    I have a friend that divorced, now she is married. She married a single guy who is younger than her and the guy is totally in love. They have 4 children now, which includes a set of twins. The guy accepted her and her child. They all live together happily.

    Having said that, why are we women so in love with pain. I sincerely can’t understand why. Why don’t we value ourselves? I am sorry to tell you this sis, this guy treated you just as you treated yourself. You obviously placed no value on yourself.

    Get out of that marriage today.

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    1. Sweet Aproko @"...why are we women so in love with pain. I sincerely can’t understand why".

      Let me answer you. That's because parents raise the girl-child by daily drumming into her ears that her ultimate goal is to marry and live for her husband and they see their own mothers endure same crap.
      "Sweep well, don't you know you will marry." "Scrub the floor, don't you know you will marry". "Wash clothes, don't you know you will marry". "Go and cook, don't you know that's the way to your future husband's heart". "Keep quiet! Don't you know you are a girl and will marry".

      Unfortunately, most of today's women are dragging around that inferiority complex and low self-esteem 'bestowed' on them by their parents.

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  49. See as man take your happiness and dey use your life play,e never tire you!!!

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  50. Please tell me you were jazzed o. I refuse to believe someone can be this dumb. I blame all the telenovelas you all were watching.

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    1. My dear things are happening, I don't think it is jazz. She really loves the man to stupor and has a warped concept of love. Poster you need counseling. Just know you deserve to be loved. Please try to see a therapist.

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  51. What I know for a certain is that you guys compliment each other...to say I am pissed is an understatement....
    How does someone lack all manner of selflove....Aunty but you say you went to school...I am not here to judge shaa.
    Hmmmmmmm
    This kain life wey short pass the word shaa,.....naim person dey gamble

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  52. My dear she wasn't jazzed. The way some ladies love you would think they dont think and see clearly. That was how my kid sis married a man whom we warned her not to, now she wants out of the marriage.marriage that isn't even up to a year.

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  53. You will train a child the next thing is once she is married the parents will to continue to feed her......
    Let's assume you don't want to work because of him
    What about your family...your dad and mum..you don't feel the need to take care of them....or you belong to the#awonwokegang#
    Some children are selfish and wicked
    RUBBISH!!

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  54. Please run from that man. Look for a job and start all over again thank God you are a graduate,and no matter what he says don't go back to him.

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  55. Adding your female Facebook friends and texting his ex gfs. Chai. Why does this sound like things my ex used to do. Thank God I was quick to run away because this your story has shown me that I was silly to regret my decisions and start missing him, even hoping to have him back. Sorry dear

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  56. Sis those miscarried pregnancies are no ordinary thing. God is trying to save you from the biggest mistake of your life. Run while u still can

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  57. Poster am sorry about all you went through but all the signs where there from the start but u igorned it, please promise your self to do well in life for him to cry about what he missed.Marriage is to be enjoyed and not to endure,please move on like yesterday,the right man will locate you soon.

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  58. ...you did not send this chronicle in for advice but permit me;

    Step 1: Start over again.

    Step 2: Start over again with a better self esteem.

    Step 3: Did I mention start over again, without your baby's daddy in the picture.

    Step 4: Pick yourself up, dust that certificate and start over again.

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  59. I've been a silent visitor here for sometime now and I must commend those whose comments are really sincere but i must point out that some persons just give d impression that they've got theirs all figured out. That's not always d case, no one's life is perfect and to imagine the courage it takes for one to wash his/her dirt linene outside. C'mon guys we could all be just civil in our comments so we don't end up making posters feel worse.

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  60. There are signs but you went ahead. I just hope you have learnt o,bcs you sounded like you would still continue with him.
    How do ladies cope with men that treat them like nothing?
    I just can't pretend to be fine with you when I'm not, I will let you know so fast and take my decision straight up. Abeg oo

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  61. With the crop of men being raised these days, i laugh at ladies who insist on marrying their age mates. You will marry an overpampered baby and turn around to write chronicles. Marry who loves you and forget what mouth will talk.

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  62. what are you still waiting for? Please dump his sorry ass and move on with your life. he doesn't deserve you...

    If you like don't learn from your mistake...

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