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Wednesday, June 24, 2020

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative....

Na wah!!!!







STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
TO CONFESS OR NOT


Something is eating me up........



I attained puberty quite early and lived a sheltered life,I didn't know alot about men and relationships before I gained admission into the university,the first guy I had s#x with in my second year travelled out few months after we started dating without informing me,I was devastated, 7 months after, A friend later linked me up to her boyfriend's friend as I was always mopping about my Ex that took my virginity and left me in the cold..


I would call this her boyfriend's friend" K"..
K was advanced in age and told me he has been heartbroken a lot of times, I made it clear I was not going to have premarital s#x,he spoilt me silly with gifts within his financial capacity,then one day he started complaining about being committed to me getting anything in returning,one day I slept over and he said we should make out whatever that was,I obliged,few days later we had s#x,he said he didn't release in me but I told a friend who told me the precautions to use after...


The drugs I bought was fake as few weeks after I was expecting my period but it didn't show up,K had begun to show me he wasn't the nice guy I thought he was,I saw chats of him asking matured ladies out,sometimes when I go visiting I see men that weren't in his house before we slept with him in the living room,any question asked about their presence was diverted,then he started saying disrespectful things to me,me that my parents could give the whole world...


something snapped in me and I made up my mind to break up,few days after I complained to a doctor friend I hadn't seen my period ,he advised I took a PT test,I did and found out I was pregnant, I broke down in tears ,my life was finished before me,in my confusion I called K and informed him,he insisted I kept the pregnancy....


how was I going to inform my parents?

I settled for an abortion though I was scared,K and I fell out which was what I wanted eventually, we never really understood each other, he always took whatever I did or said the opposite way,we had over 10 years age gap between us,afterwards I moved on with my life,faced my studies,then I met A a year after,A was nice,pushing to meet my parents, in between I told A about K,it got messy but we put it past us as K kept telling everyone till this day I left because I met A richer man,no lady should ever go through what K put me through...

This was a year after I left k and K had married o,a year into my relationship with A, he and his friends kept nudging me about marriage,I insisted on graduating first,few weeks later I found out A was married,I was shattered everyone knew us together in my school's town::


I kept it a secret and tried breaking things off,he kept coming to beg,threatening to kill himself,6 months after,I met a new friend,we got talking and invited me over to his place,my biggest mistake,I went there,helped with cooking,it was too late for me to go back,I stayed over thinking I was going to have the room to myself,my new friend started pestering me,I opted to go into the living room to sleep,he promised he wasn't going to disturb my sleep anymore,I believed him,he let me sleep,first thing the following morning ,my new friend jumped on me and raped me....

I ran off,took precautions,few weeks after turns out it was fake, I was pregnant again,I was stupid enough to tell my new friend,he called me names,an opportunist and all,I started thinking of what I had become albeit unintentional,I had a medical abortion and moved on,I kept myself busy with school activities,there I met A high profile politician in my school town,he claimed to be impressed with my foresight and tenacity and started mentoring me,before I knew it he invited me over to his place,we had s#x may be twice,one day I thought about all and I wasn't proud of all that happened to me...

I graduated and found Christ...

I try to counsel young girls around me using my experience, I am not a bad person,friends and family attest to my kind nature and good heart,i was only naive and stupid,I am presently at the peak of my educational career,10 years after,I met someone that loves me,his mum is late,his elder sister is like his mum..

One day I went through his sis's facebook page and found out she is Facebook friends with the politician in my school's town and also with another of my Exes,I am wondering if I should come clean or keep quiet about my past,I have told him some parts but didn't mention abortions I did,I am eaten up by guilt..






*Come clean and tell him about what?So your mumu didn't end in school?confess to what?Didn't you say you found Christ?All your sins are forgiven and washed away,you are a new person...

The worst that can happen is that the politician and the other guy will say something bad about you right?Well the best that can happen is that you have a mouth to deny it and you have legs to move on with your life if your man believes them....

Do not 'fess up what will be used against you later!!!

103 comments:

  1. Pls follow Stella's advice no strength to type but this your chronicle nawao

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    1. Small pikin dey worry you. MY friend keep quiet and face your front.

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    2. There is nothing to confess. Face front and mind your business. Those talking about you have a past too.

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    3. Dearest Poster,

      Listen... whatever you do, do not open up about your past. Past is past for a reason. And if he goes on to find out in the future, God will give him maturity to deal with it. Remember to remain tight-lipped about your past. Take care

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    4. If any exes mention your being pregnant for them to your man or SIL deny deny deny ni o and tell your man you only said it to see if they truly love you that you were never pregnant FINISH

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    5. If you know the atrocities some of the men you are confessing to have committed, you won't even bother.


      On this blog, someone said he slipped an abortion pill into a lady drink, imagine confessing to that one?


      See ehh, there are some things that should not be hidden don't get me wrong e.g you have a child, your womb is damaged, you have a health condition, your age etc.


      But that you want to confess that you slept with X number of men and you had 2 abortions, do not try it. African men are unable to process this kind of information.


      Some of these guys have raped, gangraped, stolen, killed because they were cultists, aborted several times for their girlfriends without confessing to anyone oh. Why is the woman always pressured to confess?

      It is all in your past, thank God you are a changed person and you have made peace with your God. The lord has forgiven you, keep your mouth shut and enjoy your relationship.

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    6. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚ Stellz about leave me with that your second question abegπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚
      @Poster, do not confess to anything. If he loves you, he will stay with you no matter what he hears out there.

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  2. Poster ever one has a past,even the guy you're dating now. KEEP YOUR PAST IN THE PAST!!!

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  3. Confess what naa? You no get sense or what exactly is your problem? Guilt? If it was a correct guilt, you wouldn't have opened legs again after d first guilt.

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    1. Did you read where I mentioned he raped me? Back then I was quick to believe everyone regardless of their sex meant well,thank God for Christ and I thank God I discovered this blog some 8/9 years ago,I am no longer where I used to be

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    2. Please move on babe πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™πŸ™πŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜

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  4. Been Facebook friends with someone does not mean they are closed friends. I have fb friends I have never met or spoken too before. Thank God you are now a new creature in Christ. Don't let the devil use your past ti scatter your future. Leave the past in the past!!!

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    1. Thank you, the exact thing I was going to post.

      Poster, don't assume because they are friends on Facebook means they even know each other in reality.

      Please keep quiet.

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  5. Shut up and drive!!! Your past should be your past.

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  6. While reading, I kept shouting that you should stay away from men na. Once bitten, twice shy na. Haba! You were naive only the first two times. Other times, you knew very well what you were doing, albeit averse to staying single. Please forget about everything and keep shut. What will be will be.

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  7. Poster I'm glad you found Christ and have turn a new leaf hence you are forgiven..on telling him about your past and abortions? Follow your heart and make sure he's the type that you can beat your chest he won't use it against you tomorrow should incase there is a fall out,if not close up and don't tell! So things are better left unsaid and in the past that they belong

    All the best in your decision making

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  8. I can see you are still naive, do not say pim, in fact if the yeye politician is one those yeye men that kiss and tell, deny deny deny, tell hubby that he asked you out and you refused, since then he has peddling lies against you.

    God has forgiven you

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  9. Somethings are better left unsaid.

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  10. I am with Stella on this. DO NOT CONFESS ANYTHING to this new boyfriend. I don't think he has a right to know everything that happened in your past. Your past is your past. Leave it there.

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  11. The less you tell men about your past the better. Past is the past and you are now a changed woman. Relationships you have to use your head not only your heart. Strategise well to get a better chance. People wonder how all these former ig runs girls end up with good men and forget that these girls know how to play the part and strategise and reinvent themselves well. No man wants a woman that has a high body count/shady past no matter how much they lie that it doesn't affect them. So use your brain and play the game, darling.

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    1. Abeg don't use IG girls as example,once you cast as a runs girl on social media e don finish o. Don't flaunt nonsense abeg.

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  12. Confuse what.. You had better take that secret to your grave. Only God forgives and forgets, human can forgive and not forget (then comes trust issues and conflict). Na guy dey advise you so. But if you decide to spill out the secret, then you be able to know the difference between complete and finish

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  13. I believe these are your past. Let him know about it. If he's the one, he will stay and if he's not, move on and the right person will come. Make sure you dont live a life of guilt and regret. Words about your past might surface some day so its good not to be despartae and caught unaware. Good luck.

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  14. Confess fire!! Better move on! If they badmouth you, then deny it. Make sure you tell him about the politician and the ex, so that whatever they tell him, he would have atleast heard some part from you.. Hold your head up and deny the rest biko.

    There are things you confess to man, I don't think abortion is one of them.

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  15. Ha!!! The Angs of this blog will have heartattack on this post today.

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  16. How about you get to know him first well enough before you think about opening up. From what I deduced from your post they all seem nice to you at first and you always seem to believe in their goodness only to meet up with a blockage and the true reality of who they really were. Are you sure he really loves you? Or are you just caught up in the newness of it all? I notice you trust easily. Are you sure he is really the one? Well, I believe in honesty all through and through but sadly, not everyone is strong enough to handle the truth. Does he have the emotional maturity to take all of that in? A friend got married to an ex-prostitute but hey! That's him. Luckily enough they met a friend from her last who tried to blackmail her with her sordid past but her man was already in the know of it all and the friend was shamed. Imagine if she kept quiet.

    Any past that could hamper your future by rearing its ugly head in the future should never be kept in the past. 'The one for you', would never be bothered about your past. That's my belief. Be honest but make sure he is worth your honesty as well because who is to say he doesn't have a past too.

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    1. Poster. This is the best advice you can take. Follow this to the latter.

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    2. I love you! Your honesty is refreshing.

      I wonder how everyone saying don't talk will behave to find out their man knew he was sterile but did not
      talk before marriage.

      Her pst could affect them in marriage later on, please.
      She has done abortions don't the husband need to know before he shook head and they start trying for kids in the future. What if her womb has been injured that is how he would be entering what he has no knowledge of. One chance marriage!!!What if he was your brother would you all give this advice with everything she wrote here?. I tire for una If he knows and still decides to shook head then good but luring innocent people into what they were not privy to is wrong . What if the does not have a past?. Not everyone has a past, please.

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    3. Truth like the clear blue sky
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    4. Thanks,humans are unpredictable,I have made up my mind to keep it to myself ,if it comes up,I would own up;it's my past and I am not going to let it define me.

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  17. you have confessed to God, that's enough. shut your mouth, don't say anything.

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  18. Stella Weldon, your comment is on point. Poster pls don't confess anything, you already confessed to Christ and he has washed your sins away and thats all you need.Is the person you want to confess to a saint? Let he who has no sin cast the first stone

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  19. Move on, some secrets are better kept secret, just like Stella said don't say things hat will be used against you later. Keep shot and prepare for the worst incase he meets with your ex politician friend. Be careful pls, he who dines with the devil uses a very lonnnng spoon. Ekwuchakwa m!

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  20. U are now a new creature and old things have pass away.
    U had relationships before which u are not proud of but don't tell anyone u had an abortion except your maker cos most men can't handle the truth.

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  21. Move on, some secrets are better kept secret, just like Stella said don't say things hat will be used against you later. Keep shot and prepare for the worst incase he meets with your ex politician friend. Be careful pls, he who dines with the devil uses a very lonnnng spoon. Ekwuchakwa m!

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  22. Stella. Nothing wrong in telling him. Let's stop lieing in our relationships. I had sex with 11 guys including my husband. I had 4 abortions and dated a married man once. I told my husband all when we where dating and noticed we where getting serious. He never used it against me except for the married man part cause that happened while we dated. He as since stopped. My husband was my 10th. I have 2 kids now. And to the glory of God all is fine. Let's stop pretending. If he his yours he will stay. Now sometimes I gist about it with and I feel free within my spirit. You had 2 abortions and had 5 sexual encounters does not mean you are damaged. I know a few ladies that claim to be virgins and their lifestyle is nothing to write home about. I dont belong to that school that hides stuff from the partner after all he his supposed to be my friend first. Forgive yourself madam.

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    1. Thank you o

      This is why marriages don't last nowadays when the foundation is lies, lies and more lies. Husband and wife will come into their fake union with lies and years along the line everyone falls like a pack of cards.

      Everyone here is saying don't tell and the husband too is there and who knows what he is hiding and his friends too are telling him don't tell don't tell. These are the same blog visitors who promised to question their men past to ask if he has done any atrocities before. e.g incest. Two lie lie people will now come together and marry themselves without even knowing a thing about themselves.

      Poster as you are hiding this your past just have it at the back of your mind that your man too has been advised to hide an important part of his life that may be detrimental to your marriage in the future. After all, everyone has a past🚢‍♂️

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    2. Abi? Cos me i was wondering why she wants to kill herself for a seemingly normal girl life. 2 abortions and 5 body counts nai she dey wan die put!
      What man will even leave a girl they love cos of that???
      All the judginas here will now form 2 body count and no abortion or virgin. Akuko!

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    3. Truth like the clear blue sky 🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️🀸🏻‍♀️

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    4. Comparism is what i will never allow in relationships or marriages. What goes for A might not be gd for B. Just because ur hubby doesn't mind or care about ur past does Nt mean another man will take that. According to the poster, she said she has told d guy part of her past. So she should b careful running her mouth.

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    5. Comparism is what i will never allow in relationships or marriages. What goes for A might not be gd for B. Just because ur hubby doesn't mind or care about ur past does Nt mean another man will take that. According to the poster, she said she has told d guy part of her past. So she should b careful running her mouth...

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    6. @Tade Adeola, Every man is not your husband too...since it is say to admit everyone here is judging by their own man.

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    7. Don't take this advice. You told your husband yen yen yen, do you think other men can handle such info like your husband? Come and tell my husband you slept with 10 men and watch him change and condemn you or that you dated a married man? You will not hear the last of it.

      There is nothing wrong in sharing your past but a lot of men cannot handle a woman's past.

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    8. 16:38 And because another man will care about her past doesn't mean others will. It cuts both ways. Poster you may think they are not close friends but just Facebook friends with his sister and get the shocker of your life later from the sister who has them as her friends. Life is unpredictable. Stop postponing the inevitable. If he is yours he is not going anywhere.

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    9. Learn to pass your message across without being rude. What is yen yen yen @1650

      Every man is not her husband the same way every man is not your husband who according to you, would eventually act petty and rub it in on your face whenever you have an argument.

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    10. Hi guys. Am the original poster.

      For those saying my husband is not their husband you are very correct. We all have different maturity level.

      That said. I never disclosed my past with anyone until I saw seriousness in my man. He wanted marriage from the first day we got serious. And I observed him for sometime. When I saw his seriousness I wrote him a letter and told him all my past one by one. He read the letter and burnt it in my presence.

      Now you would ask me why I did that. I knew I already had 4 abortions. What if I cannot give birth again. He now finds out in future I am certain if that happened he would never have forgiving me. I told him with one mind. I told myself that day let the worse happen. We either move on or get stronger. To the glory of God we got deeply more involved.

      What worked for me might not work for you. But for me oh. If given the same situation I will come with clean hands. I can ever enter a relationship with someone that I can not open up to and vice versa. Marriage to me is not about sex and given birth only. I want to have it all including peace of mind.

      So poster. Please ask yourself. Are you that serious with this guy to open your past with?

      Also like I said earlier. Forgive yourself. That way this things would not look like a secret anymore. You would be free to discuss it with anyone sef. Your own would stay.

      Enjoy the rest of the day guys.

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    11. Thank you for shedding more light @anonymous original poster


      @anonymous 16:45 mo ya look away.. Oiin 🀣🀣🀣🀣


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  23. Don't confess anything to him but if you must do, never mention the abortion part bcx its not necessary... Will he also tell u the number of girls he had impregnated and aborted for? After all I guess you never told him you were a virgin when you both started dating.

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  24. Omo poster
    Close mouth and face front pls.

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  25. Wow pls seal your mouth. It your past let it remain there.

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  26. Well said Stellz, like seriously men stop sex shaming your exes it's not nice at all, poster abeg face front like Stellz said, even in pressure don't give in, we live in a terrible society which is not favourable to women in so many aspects including Sex shaming. Young girls please try and avoid premarital sex for your own peace of mind, not today but tomorrow.

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  27. Ma'am Stella my love for you just tripled ( sorry can't help it, I had to say it.) Been following your since I was 14 and I love the fact that you are honest and blunt. Poster I wish I can advise you but can't never really been in a serious relationship tho but if there is anything I have learnt in this blog is let your past remain your past. Don't go looking for trouble where there is none. Calm down and pray but don't spill please.

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  28. You are a saint compared to what we read here. My happiness is that you have found Christ and old things have past away, live your life and enjoy it to the fullest, for how long will you keep on tormenting yourself, maybe this is the moment in which you will get things right for the first time, don't let it slip.

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  29. Is it not better to tell him now your past and move on with your life. If he his yours he will stay. Ladies. Learn to stop pretending to guys. No one is perfect. We all have our flaws. I am happy I told my husband about my past while dating. He also told me his. Now we laugh alot about our past and I thank God i came clean. If he is yours he will stay.

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  30. I personally do not see anything wrong with the woman you described up there if and only if she has truly found Christ and she means it.

    Saying the truth will also be dependent on that factor, it will determine the response you would get from your partner. Here I mean, If he is also truly born again he would understand not to judge and move on but might be shocked due to his perception of you he already has in his head prior to you opening up. The truth is, Men, do have an image of the woman they are having a relationship with and it is always good and never bad.

    As a Christian, he should understand you are a new creature and I would advise you know his true persona first and how strong in Christ he is before you reveal your past.

    Your decision to say the truth should never be based on the fact that your past actions can rollover to the present and affect the future based on the sister's findings later on, but because it is the right thing to do. I believe in utmost sincerity in relationships and marriage. If I find out a single lie or an import important part was omitted I see it as a fraud because you did not give me the chance to decide if I truly wanted to be with all of you(past and present) or not. I say this as a very honest person myself.


    Gates.

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  31. Nne you have found Christ so sin got nothing on you...when Christ have use nchicha to Clean the whole past...what past are u talking about again?πŸ˜’πŸ˜’πŸ˜’πŸ˜’πŸ˜’πŸšΆπŸšΆπŸšΆπŸšΆπŸšΆπŸšΆπŸšΆ

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    1. Another person in Christ said;
      Galatians 1:13 For you have heard of my previous way of life in Judaism,
      how intensely I persecuted the church of God and tried to destroy it.

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  32. I love what Stella said

    You have nothing to confess

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  33. Confess What!!!!!!!lord God gibe this lady to understand that its only we confess our real atrocities ....
    Madam receive sense!
    Get wisdom!
    Keep quiet
    What make u think that the man you are confessing to is a saint too?

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  34. What is eating you up now is guilt which is understandable as a Christian.
    What might eat you up later is a "somatization" of guilt (search google for that word Somatization). It can result in anything bodily known as illness. Let me give you a Scripture as one that "has found Christ".

    James 5:16 Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.

    Did you see that?
    You want healing of your body, mind and soul? You want your prayers to be "powerful and effective?" Then do the needful, confess your past and stop what is eating you up. The worse scenario, he bolts away, then you know he never loved you. If he is God's gift to you, he remains with you.

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  35. Babe get sense look cox if u allow your mouth purge unnecessary, the shit will be served back to you in future.... So just take flagy,and diastop with chilled juice

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  36. Yes, confess your bad deeds to this person you claim you love and free your conscience. That "eating up" you mentioned will make you age before your time.
    And if you don't confess, it is a matter of time, it will surface.
    Nothing surpasses that peace of Christ, don't trade him for anything.
    Those telling you to keep mum do not understand that "Peace that passes all understanding".
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    1. Is the guy a saint? Has he confessed anything to you? My friend don't confess nothing, just let him know you had a few relationships in the past and If you knew what you know now, you would have done things differently.

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    2. @16:54
      The guy;
      1. Did not write us a mail to ask for our opinion; did he?
      2. Is not being "eaten up by guilt"; is he?
      3. Is not even on this blog, is he?
      Please pick another fight and exhaust your energy elsewhere.

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  37. Yes, tell him everything.
    And hope you have learnt your lessons.
    No man should be trusted to harbor your body in same house in the name of sleep over if that man hasn't paid your bride price.
    He will definitely invade your body and violate you.
    Hope the girls here are learning?
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    1. Yes,I have,I wish I knew half of what I know back then,discovering this blog in 2011/2012 in my final year reshaped me and helped me refocus,I am not there yet but I can say I have made progress and I am accomplished in my own rights. I tell young girls this all time,it's wrong to visit guys alone,if you can't meet in public forget it

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  38. So Stella, your idea of finding Christ is to lie, to deny your past deeds?
    Wow! This is new to me.
    Did Apostle Paul deny that he was a murderer? Let's read him;
    1 Cor. 15:9 For I am the least of the apostles and do not even deserve to be called an apostle, because I persecuted the church of God.

    And when people heard about it all;
    Galatians 1:13 For you have heard of my previous way of life in Judaism, how intensely I persecuted the church of God and tried to destroy it.

    So there is nothing to deny for a Christian. God has forgiven it all and any man who claim to know Christ shouldn't hold any of those against a christian.

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  39. Not only come clean,na come cleanest.Keep quiet.

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  40. Sister keep your abortion secret to yourself. Not all men will understand after you tell them you had abortion.
    If your ex's tell your new man anything like Stella said you have legs to take your walk to sanity again if everything turns insane.

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  41. Behold all things are past away, behold all things have become new.

    Besides no one has asked you anything yet and if they do, then you tell him you did some things out of ignorance that you ain’t proud of but you are no longer same person because you are now in Christ.
    No need going into details dear. Everyone has a past they aren’t proud of
    Shikena.

    Let the peace of Christ rule in your heart

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  42. Poster if I hear PIM!😷😷😷😷

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    1. nk4Christ? hmm....to think I almost believed your name.

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    2. 16:46πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ€£

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  43. Poster if I hear PIM!😳 😳 😷 😷 😷

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  44. Poster if I hear PIM!😷😳😷😬😷😷

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  45. Mother confessor! Ndo!!!

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  46. Nne don't confess anything, they may just be Facebook friends not close. So shut your traps!!! You've been through alot in the hands of men, so enough ok.

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  47. Wow this so pathetic! but thank God u`ve recieved christ now which is very important. for me i go by what aunty stella said by you not telling your husband to[ be] any futher issues about your self again, b/cos me as a man there are things that will never go off my memory in life most esp when it has to do with my wife rather u better lie to me or for ever remain silent even if eventualy i got to know in future the tension may rise b/cos children most have come in between us.

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  48. I love you Stella.youre wise! Hanty,if you've found Christ as you said,confess to him and keep quiet.If you tell any deputy Jesus you had two abortions,hmmm you're likely to look like the biggest sinner alive.

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  49. As long as both abortions was done medically and you are okay,then there is no need telling him anything.

    I would also advise, that you should be patient and see where you relationship is heading to,then again the kind of person he is(some persons will mock you with your past)

    So my dear thread carefully.

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  50. At a point, in the journey of our lives we all have made mistakes. Even your so called bf and his sister has once in their lives taken a drastic decision due to one circumstances or the other.

    So my dear poster, since you have accepted Christ confess to Him alone ( He is the only supreme being that can forgive our sins without using it against us).

    Remember those people you are dealing with are humans, so shut up, face front and live a better life that will glorify God's name.

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  51. Confess nothing... The men may not even remember...do you know how many girls a typical politician gbenshes in one month, one year?

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  52. Too many excuses. You ladies should learn to take responsibilities for your actions. Always lying about rape and shii to gather emotions.. you were young ko, but you know how to be collecting preek, you better park well and just admit you had a dirty past that you're not proud of cos you refused to take the advice your parents gave you.
    You're only feeling guilty cos you fear your secret is about to come open, if not you would have continued your pretence and fake life.

    As regards telling him, I have always been team NO SECRETS .. the earlier the better.. you might just be postponing the inevitable. You might decide to hide the past only for it to come out after you get married and probably already pregnant or have a kid for him. What if he decides to leave you then? What if he begins to treat you like trash.
    You had better come open now so you know where you stand.

    When you were doing aristo with politician, you don't know. That time you were feeling smart and not listening to advice like some girls in this blog.. I know I'm wasting my time cos you'll definitely still go with the wrong advice which seem like the easy route.
    I don done my part.. Enjoy

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  53. Spot on Stella!

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  54. Am of the opinion that your partner should be in the know of your past but you watch out for his kind of understanding and if the relationship is alter bound,as you cannot go about telling everyone you just met about your past.

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  55. Hahaha! I dont know about you, but i am taking all my secrets to my grave. I dont even tell myself my secrets anymore. I dont remember them.
    Poster, your biggest problem is self-awareness. If you are aware, you wont allow all this repeated mistakes to happen. For someone who is easily deceived by man, you sure like their company alot. That they took your virginity and traveled is enough reason for you to stay off men and face your book but you couldn't. What's with the naivety? You are a grown ass woman now. It is your word against anybody's, from the politician to the whole nine yard of uselessness that you dated.
    Continue, you will still write chronicles about how your husband used something you told him to abuse the living day light out of you.
    Don't you people learn from all the chronicles that you read here, that men are one kind species. You can never predict how this will go, even years to come, if you reveal all this secret.
    Madam grow the 'f' up. Life is not fair, but you have to be intentional about your life.
    I have not seen that love that will make me drunk enough to start sharing my secrets.

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    1. The poster is not stupid. She has sense from her post you can tell she only decided to spill the secret because of fear not because love is shacking her.

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  56. I have few Facebook friends I have never met before but they just added me or maybe friends to a friend, u don’t need to tell ur partner anything and if the man claims he knows u, tell dem he asked u out and was disturbing u back then simple! Trust me , don’t listen to people saying tell him ur secret oo, my partner uses anything I told him against me, even stuff about my friends he uses against me.. be wise! Most men are not built to accept certain things

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  57. Stella i think your advise is not well suited in this situation. Everybody is different thats what makes us unique. Everyone has a past, even the so called virgins are mainly secondary virgins and vice versa, my point is, Some guys prefer knowing everything before marriage and so they wont have any surprises while some don't like knowing. POSTER please do what makes you the most comfortable so you be at peace with yourself.
    My advise personally is to confess, if he cant handle it then wish him all the best. You say you are a christian so you have found Christ meaning you should also be dating a christian and in Christ old things are passed away. like a commenter said if you lie and he finds out in the future it may affect the trust in your relationship.

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    1. You were making sense till you wrote even the so-called virgins are secondary virgins. Speak for yourself alone NOT EVERYONE HAS A PAST. such generalization because you wanted to feel good about your own past.
      I did not do a single thing till marriage and when I say a single thing, I meant everything and I am sure there are people like that out there too.
      Stella post oo

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    2. 17:58 You must be a secondary virgin speaking from your own experience to know all the virgins in the world are secondary. Such boldness in jumping into conclusion. It is always hard to believe what you are not. True virgins exist who are virgins in every aspect so deal with It!!

      Poster biko only come out and say the truth if marriage is in view. You can't be telling a man who you don't know yet whether he will be your husband or not big secrets like the one you have. Be wise. Make sure he has proved himself sure and given you real assurance.

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  58. Poster, try to know the guy well and confess to him. Don't mind bvs oo. Yes, you are now in Christ but the old things that have passed away are your forgiven sins by Jesus Christ. That doesn't mean you cannot share your salvation experience with your partner to be. If God says he is the one, nothing can change it. Or do you want to live in fear of guilt all your life? So after marriage, you will be praying that your past should not come hunting you someday. Talk your talk abeg.

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    1. Has the partner confessed anything to her or he doesn't have a past? It is only the woman that should confess. Nothing is hunting her that she had sex and got pregnant, not like she has a child she is hiding somewhere.

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  59. Lies can run for 100years, but it will take just a single day for the truth to catch up.

    You are born again... Your past has no grip on you anymore. But your being born again is to tell the truth always. Say the TRUTH and the TRUTH only will set you FREE. Right now you are still in bondage.

    You can be in Christ and remain in bondage.

    WHEN THE DELIVERER NEEDS DELIVERANCE...

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  60. Poster, how can you keep buying fake postinor? Isn't it possible that you took it way after the window of efficacy? If you take it anytime aft 48hrs you're simply playing games with yourself. If you're overweight it also won't work o.

    And I'm with Stella, confess what?
    Do you think the politician will even remember you? You think he wasn't cancelling babes left, right and center.

    No need to confess but do not lie. If you're asked a question answer but that's all

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  61. What exactly are you confessing? Listen to Stella because this her advice is bae.

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  62. The truth is everyone seems nice before they show you their true colour....Also remember that no one is perfect. Just be careful when dealing with people especially guys as you seem to have less luck with them....protect yourself don't go to a guys house and sleepover if he is not dating you officially. Aldo, you need to watch what a guy says cos thats who he truly is.....men say their mind in passing a lot....their silence, their speech and everything has meaning.....get to know this new person before you get serious. Just be careful avoid these types of messy situations. Just don't fall for the bullshit cos you have already fallen for it a few times.

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  63. Honestly, this is tough. Are you guys dating dating? Like planning a future? I hope you are not just falling for another guy "again "

    If you two are working towards ending up together, tell him. You have to tell him at some point. It's simple

    You: I have done somethings in the past I'm not proud of, things morally wrong. I'm in Christ now unlike then when I wasn't. I've confessed to my lord and I believe he's forgiven me. All I ask is for you to accept me the way I am. I'm not going back to that life, I only plan on living in Christ.

    Truth is, these things are tough to say, admit or get over. Check his maturity level. If he can handle it tell him plainly.

    I'll really want to be told everything as it is, so I know that I choose you regardless and not getting into something without the whole information.

    Your past doesn't define you, remember that. But in this present, can you live in denial? If the tables are turned, what would you do.

    Imagine marrying him and finding out some ugly truth. How would you feel? Tell him at the right time, which is now. What is yours, is yours.

    I don't know if what I typed is making sense right now sef. I pray God grant you wisdom to handle everything

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  64. AS long as you didn't claim a virgin, he knows that you had ex's. Leave the past behind pls. You were never a prostitute or runs babe even if.

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