Hmmmmm......
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
CHRISTIANS AND REMARRYING....
I'm 29 years old, jobless and an orphan. Life has not been fair to me but I keep managing.
I really need to settle down. Now, someone proposed to me but the problem is that he has been married before but they didn't do church wedding.
Now, as a child of God, my worry is will I be committing adultery by marrying a man that has been previously married although they didn't do church wedding but the lady had a baby girl for him before the divorce.
We all know what the bible says concerning divorce and remarriage. I need the input of God Fearing BVs please..
*Ah this one hot....
let those who are competent in this reply you.
As afar aa they are divorced and the man takes care of you, go and marry abeg.
ReplyDeleteThose telling you not to Marry him won't provide husband for you.
Provided he paid her bride price they're still married before God.And if you go ahead to marry him you've committed adultery as long as the wife is still alive. There's nothing like church wedding in the Bible. We're the ones that adopted the Western way of life.
DeleteMoreover, most divorced men have horrible character that's why their wives dumped their ugly ass. Most Nigerian women love being married so for a woman to abandon her marriage and flew means there must fire on the mountain. You better shine your eyes. You're still very young. Just be patient and pray to God. The right one without baggage will surely come.
My dear
DeleteYou know the answer already.
You are not supposed to marry a divorced man/woman. The person is not allowed to remarry except anyone of the 2 dies.
Your only option is a single man thats never been married or a widower. Stop trying to add another meaning to the bible by seeking our opinions. Also is there a part of the bible that talks about church wedding? You people sha like adding juice to this bible. See marriage is simple. The moment 2 people come together and gets blessings that's all to marriage. Whether na room oh Or church or court. It does not matter. I hope that clears your doubt.
I think she can marry him o. I have seen born again Christians remarrying. So long as no be she scatter the marriage. God can see your hearts
DeleteAre they just separated or he has returned bride price?
DeleteBiblically, it's wrong to marry a divorcee.
Please don't marry him but I know you won't take this advise because you are desperate.
Anon 17:54, it's not about what you think or what you have seen other Christians do, it's about what the Bible says. That some Christians marry divorcees doesn't make it right in God's eyes. Most of them are living in adulterous marriages. The only thing that scripturally frees a divorcee to remarry is if the spouse commited adultery while married.
DeletePoster, did the man's ex wife cheat on him while he was married to her? If she didn't do not marry that man. Obey God and he will give you your own husband.
Biko can you tell me where God or Jesus said is a sin to remarry. Jesus said it's better to stay single. Biko polygamy is not a sin in the Bible as far as he marries you my dear carry go. But your hubby according to Paul can't hold a key position in church because he is a polygamist
DeleteSee you all, Bride price is traditional and not biblical or religious. Marriage is a socially constructed phenomenon and we paraphrase scriptures in the bible to support it.
DeleteThere isn’t a straightforward answer when it comes to the issue or marriage, re-marriage and divorce. I would strongly advise poster to pray and trust her conscience.
Do you homework to ensure you’re not getting yourself into unnecessary issues with previous wife , child and family etc. If you’re happy with all those aspects, love your life as you see fit and pleasing to God.
This whole issues of not marrying a divorcee is mere interpretation from so called men of God when it is clear that having sexual intercourse alone is as binding as a ceremony in Church.
You only live once so don’t allow matters such as marrying a divorcee bother you. Pastors and those telling you otherwise commit bigger sins in different context.
Regina D married as sixth wife. Has given birth.
ReplyDeleteEveryone ia telling her congrats now. Do what makes you sleep at night.
This girl get conscience na, I wonder how someone will marry someone's husband and be feeling funky in top
Delete@Bianca
DeleteSo moving into a man's house as sixth wife and giving birth and receiving "congrats" is what makes you sleep at nights?
And Regina has become your role model?
Wow! And you think God who instituted "one man one wife" is a fool?
Well his foolishness is wiser than men's wisdom. 1 Cor. 1:25
Such is life dear Bianca. Whatever gives one peace mehn.
DeleteAnon 17:05 holier than thou. Judgina
DeleteHow many wives did Abraham, David, and those other men whom God loved in the bible have?
DeleteAno 09:53?... mention the other men now... btw, Abraham didn't marry two wives... Sarah was his only wife, please
DeleteHow can someone who reads the Bible say Abraham's only wife was Sarah
DeleteI don't think there's anything wrong since they were not married in the church. You can go ahead and have your white wedding.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, speak to your pastor/priest and hear wat he/she says.
Have you not been committing fornication? If you are a virgin, good, if you are not, you are still sinning.
ReplyDeleteNot everyone fornicates like you you hear?
DeleteSo people don't repent from their sinful ways. You sound stupid
DeleteWhy do some of you think every body fornicate like you all? This no comment doesnt make sense abeg
DeleteAs "a child of God," the first thing is to fast and pray and seek God on such an important life matter.
ReplyDeleteThe relevant question is;
Why did the former wife (yes her bride price was paid) divorce him?
If it was due to adultery, has he repented and has he been restored? 1 Cor. 5:12-13, Gal. 6:1
You already know the teachings of Jesus so, let's not dive into it.
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Good one!
DeletePoster take this advice.
DeleteANG,you seem to know the Bible so feel free to correct me if I'm wrong. God frowns against divorce so why will you tell the poster to pray& seek God's face on a matter He doesn't love? What is allowed according to the Bible is separation,ONLY in a case when the life of a partner is threatened by the other (in the old testament, the Israelites were known to be stubborn and hard hearted before killing their spouse).
DeleteThe separated couple must not re-marry until their partner dies. That is when a partner is free from the covenant of that marriage. Then, the said separated widow or widower can only marry a co-widow or widower, or a single man/woman that was never married.
Although civilization has made us woke to seeing divorce as a norm but dear Poster, according to the biblical teaching, you cannot marry someone whose partner is still alive (separated or divorced in this scenario).
Anon 15:07, you have not answered the poster's question.
DeleteAnon 15.07 are you ANG? If you are, I'm delighted because you seem to have dropped that your judgemental way of advising. I do like your advice but when I remember words like naija girls,fork etc, fear dey catch me, lol. But now, I've fallen in love with you and somehow, subconsciously, I begin to scroll down to see what you have to say first before reading other comments. I even thought you weren't hear anymore ni o, kudos mama.
Delete@17:14
DeleteThe poster likely wants to marry an unbeliever and is looking for supporters.
Please can you quote the Bible verse where God himself, JEHOVAH SAID HE HATES DIVORCE
DeleteWhy did he divorce his ex wife?if he was widowed,fine!ask questions,of course you can marry someone that was once married,Ruth was,though she was widowed,married to Boaz,the Bible is against divorce except on grounds of immorality,so do your findings well on this man before you say I do,peace✌️
ReplyDeleteAmazon Baroness, that part of the Bible has led so many people to their early graves (domestic violence and they can't leave because Bible said so)
DeleteThe same Bible allowed men to marry more than one wives... You didn't tell her that part.
Even that same Bible, I think Genesis 38:8 encouraged a widow to sleep with her late husband's brother to birth for her dead husband...
Please, let's leave Bible out of this.
If the man is good and truly no longer married to his wife, poster is free to marry him.
@Chike, all your quota are from the Old testament. Not one from the new testament. How far? All have a balance. In the old testament they didn't have Jesus a and lived by the law. In the new testament and now we live by Grace. Because Jesus the one who gave and gives us grace fulfilled the law by dying on the cross. Now we live by Grace and not by the law.
DeleteAt Chike all those are old testament. Please refer to new testament. It was clearly and visibly written. Let's stop deceiving ourselves please. We are all sinners. You can divorce BUT do not remarry until the other partner dies. Hard fact but that's Gods will. Even if you where the one that was not at fault. You are not permitted to marry.Poster pele oh. But at age 29 why are thou so desperate. No single guy in sight. I hope you are not settling for less. I just hope so. Your narrative is rather toooooooo desperate for a claimed born again Christian. So if you want to marry this same guy you would not do traditional marriage but move straight to church abi so you can be legal. You need to mature first.
DeleteLady T and Anon,
DeleteIf the old testament is not part of the Bible why are all Pastors and Daddy GOs still preaching tithe or is tithe in new testament?
What is old testament still doing in the holy Bible...
One thing about Christians is that they pick the part in their Bible that suit their life style and preach you.
Chike. Tithing is wrong. No tithe in the new testament. Rather help people. You can give to church but not tithe to church. Thanksgiving offering etc. Tithe is wrong. Follow your bible not your GOs and pastors.
DeleteAnon 19:38
DeleteYou should be telling that to the people that their pastors told that old testament is useless but tell them if they don't pay tithe that their business and life will scatter.
Please the old testament is very much part of the bible... they work hand in hand, all one need is understanding...even the coming of Christ was mentioned as far back in Genesis 3:15..
Delete@chike TEFLON pray for divine understanding and study your bible... if not, it wouldn't make any sense
And yes, thithe was mentioned in the
new testament, please
Just google bible verses where thithe was mentioned in the new testament... it's just that one should not give out of compulsion... Shalom
Calm down you sound desperate! The real marriage is traditional wedding. Has d lady returned the brideprice to him. If yes no wahala. Did he do court wedding? Where is the certificate of annulment? If he have these things or done those i mentioned. Then he is good to go. Pray well and be sure you have peace, inner witness and joy when you are with him. All the best
ReplyDeleteWhy are you like this? How does she sound desperate?
DeleteAbeg, stop accusing the lady of being desperate. If she was, she wouldn't have cared about it if it was ok for her to marry him.
DeleteIn this Nigeria, once a lady is in her late 20's, anything that she says/ do will be considered as "desperation"..
DeleteIf she was truly desperate, she will not be sending in this chronicle as she would have gone ahead to marry him without soliciting for public opinion.
It is really not every chronicle post that you must have an advice for..
Chizzy j
Phoenix is right, she is desperate abeg. Please if you are a single Christian on this blog, you need to seek the face of God before accepting a man's proposal instead of coming here to ask us.
DeleteWhat if this is not the man for her? poster go on your knees and pray, ask God to speak to you and he will.
She does not sound desperate at all.
DeleteWhy not pray and fast?
ReplyDeleteWhy not contact the ex-wife and get
first hand information?
You are a child of God you said, is he a child of God?
Was there friendship at all or the man just appeared and "proposed?"
Do you really know this man?
If he is not a believer, what fellowship has light and darkness, the temple of God with that of idols? 2 Cor. 6:14
Or have you seen money and chose to be blind to realities?
What has the ex-wife got to do with it? Is it to confirm that they are no longer married?
DeleteMany christians are divided on this subject. I have personally talked to some spirit filled pastors and I got contrary opinions. Some said marrying a divorced person is an unforgivable sin others said it's not. I read it up in the Bible and I got more confused! Honestly, God we need your wisdom in this matter!
ReplyDeleteAnon 15:12
DeleteYou get the point now. Just like I told Amazon baroness up there, Bible is not complete and some parts contradict each other.
The Bible people that wrote Bible did it to favour men and not mankind in general.
David and Solomon story will guide the poster to make her decision.
Anon dear,there's nothing confusing here. Marrying a divorced person whose partner is still alive is the same thing as committing adultery. Our God is not an author of confusion.
DeleteChike, God is not an author of confusion, his word is YEA and AMEN!!!!
DeleteLet the poster pray and ask God for discernment!!!
Everything concerning life and living is in the Bible my dear!!
Don't give advice on a subject you are not clear on!!!! The way God punished in the old testament, is that the same way he punished in the new testament?? Why are we now referring her to the old testament??
It's well with all of us oooh
Cookie,
DeleteIf old testament is not useful why haven't it been removed from the Bible?
Chike TEFLON the Bible is complete. The Old Testament (the law and the prophets) foreshadowed the New Testament - Jesus Christ fulfilled the Old Testament, bring us into Grace.
Delete"The letter killeth but the Spirit giveth life".
The Law is holy, righteous and good but the "fallen nature of mankind" cannot obey the Law.
That's why Jesus Christ came, fulfilled the law - gave His life and nature of righteousness to the human spirit that receives Him.
The Law is summed up in love God and your fellow mankind.
You cannot understand or interpret the Word of God with mere human intellect if you are not born of the Spirit of God.
IN CONCLUSION - this poster cannot marry a man divorced from his wife except there is undisputed proof of the wife's infidelity or unwilling to stay married because her husband got saved. In all this, it should be proven beyond reasonable doubt that husband and wife cannot reconcile.
Poster, you should let go and pray to God for your own spouse.
@Chike TELFON it's like you listen alot of contradicting opinions of people who claim to be "Christians" without proper knowledge of what the bible says...
DeleteJesus said in matt 7:21-23 21 “Not everyone who says to Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven. 22 Many will say to Me in that day, ‘Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your name, cast out demons in Your name, and done many wonders in Your name?’ 23 And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness!’
Please study your bible and see what God teaches for yourself... God is not an Author of confusion
The poster up there already has the knowledge of the Truth, i don't know why she's coming here to create controversy... it is well
yes,the bible is against divorce on grounds of adultery but why did he divorce his wife in the first place? take your time to know him very well but one thing that is certain is that the woman will be seeing your husband for keep up. just pray about it
ReplyDeleteDon't add
ReplyDeleteDon't subtract
Bible said it clear
Surely u will commit adultery if u marry him
Born again
U are trying
Is not easy to be a born again as a single girl
I tried it when I was single but dick don't allow me to succeed. That was when I noticed that sex is too sweet.... Please continue oo is not easy joor
It's easy if you have the fear of God. I've stayed for years without having sex. I know a young guy of 35 years that is still a virgin. If you fear and love God, you'll keep his commandments.
DeleteThis anon 😂
DeleteAnon 15:16
DeleteAnd surely David is a man after God's own heart.
Just because David did somethings and got away with it doesn't mean the poster is David... wisdom is profitable to direct
Delete@Chike David did suffer the consequences of his actions. Study your bible
DeleteYou simply avoided mentioning if this man was a believer like you?
ReplyDeleteIf he is not, which likely is, why are you even asking a question about marrying him?
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I don't like people who carry religion on their head like gala and people like you are of the reasons.
DeleteDid you also read the part of the bible that said if the wife is a believer and d man is notit won't be a sin if she stays because chances of the man becoming a believer is there???...
Delete@16:44
DeleteWhy not give us the bible passage that you lifted that "thrash" from?
Don't add
ReplyDeleteDon't subtract
Bible said it clear
Surely u will commit adultery if u marry him
Born again
U are trying
Is not easy to be a born again as a single girl
I tried it when I was single but dick don't allow me to succeed. That was when I noticed that sex is too sweet.... Please continue oo is not easy joor
Please do what you need to do.
ReplyDeleteYou did not break up his home.
Being divorced is not a life sentence.
Do u love him? If so, marry him. If you don’t please jejely leave him alone. He’s been through enough.
Just make sure you get to the bottom of what went wrong between him and his ex-wife.
"God fearing BVS",over to you
ReplyDeleteYou no join abi 😂
DeletePoster commit the New journey into Gods hands, if the man is divorced you can marry him, provided you know the reason he separated and if you can marry him,Hope he loves you not just because he wants to marry Asap! Pls confirm if he truly separated from the woman .
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DeletePoster even King Solomon married 700 wives and 300 concubines
ReplyDeleteOh! I forgot to tell you Jacob married two sisters, Rachel and Leah.
DeleteAnd what was the outcome?
DeleteOBIOMA, he died peacefully.
DeleteChike , you is a CLOWN hahahaha
DeleteLolssssss....chike you're nuts...I had a good laugh
Delete@Chike you think it's funny?.
DeleteIt's obvious you have no knowledge of the bible. Jacob didn't marry two sisters out of free will, sit down and read about him. Also after God noticed that he loved one and hated the other, Rachel who he loved was unable to conceive.
And i think you really should go back to your bible and have a good study about King Solomon, you think he didn't have regrets? Oh please
Solomon was overtaken by lust and greed, he forgot his first love(God)... because of Solomon's actions God turned away his love from Israel... you should have a good study of your bible
Solomon's story should be a lesson to many Christians... no Christian should go down the path Solomon did
@Chike, i beg you, watch what you say, because all you've been saying shows you have no clear knowledge of the bible and it is better to be quiet if you don't. May God give you understanding.
Anon 23:18- Jacob did not marry the two sisters out of his free will. Do you think anyone divorces out of their free will?
DeleteDear poster,you wont be doing anything out of context. But make sure to know if the bride price paid on the woman has been returned before you go in.
ReplyDeleteI am a catholic charismatic born again. I married a divorcee and we got wedded in the catholic church with over 10 priests as witnesses. Abeg, go ahead and marry him if you love him.
ReplyDeleteWOWWWWWW Nice
DeleteIf you like marry with over fifty priests. God’s word doesn’t change. You cannot Marry a divorcee as long as the spouse is still alive.
DeleteI think the first question you need to ask yourself is are they properly divorced? That means if he paid her bride price, her family would have returned the bride price to his family. Also, if they married legally, they should have gotten divorced through the court. If they are not legally and/or traditionally divorced, then STOP! He's a married man. Run away!
ReplyDeleteIf your findings on the above question makes it clear that they are properly divorced, the second question you need to answer is why are they divorced?
For christians, the only way it is ok for you to marry him is if the reason for their divorce is infidelity. If it is not, then in the eyes of God they are still married, regardless of whether they are divorced or not, regardless of whether they wedded in the church or not. As long as they were married either traditionally or in court, the rule still stands. So if his reason for divorce is not infidelity, then STOP. He's another woman's husband.
Even if the divorce was due to infidelity, it is also necessary to know if he was an emotionally or physically abusive person. Find out from his neighbors and people around him. If possible, get the ex wife's side of the story. It is true that some ex wives may be bitter and would tell lies, however many women have left their marriages for genuine reasons. Just saying.
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DeleteSo if the man was the unfaithful one in the marriage then should she not marry him? I want to know really.
DeleteAnd what if he was unfaithful for reasons that will not be in marriage with the poster??
Is the man God fearing too?
ReplyDeleteWhy did he divorce his wife?
I think that if he has a good reason, then marry,
but if not, like maybe, he just wants to enjoy a new wife, just know that the same thing that happened to old wife, will happen to new wife.
Above all, ask God himself, He will answer you.
Make the Holy Spirit your friend and you will get your answer
Hope you are not the cause of his broken marriage???,this one you are hiding under being born again
ReplyDeletewhosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery. ... But I say to you, whoever divorces his wife (unless the marriage is unlawful) causes her to commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.... Matthew 5 vs 32..
ReplyDeletePoster, it's a dicey situation... Pray and ask God to speak to you... Also, allow your spirit and conscience to lead you...
Which spirit is she calling upon again?
DeleteTrust me, the only spirit that will speak to her in this situation is that of the antichrist because all she needs to know is clearly stated the the bible... let's quit tempting God abeg or do you think God will say something else different from what his Son said in the bible? Abeg
My dear the whole duty of a man is to fear God and keep his commandment,deep down you no that it is a sin to marry a divorcee,if turly u are a real Born again u will not even mention such issue
ReplyDeleteHim being married before is not a bad thing if he has divorced his wife,make sure you get the necessary information about their divorce not from him only,do your findings.
ReplyDeleteWe cannot tell a man not to remarry and enjoy the blessings attached to being married after a failed marriage,you are not committing adultery to me since you are not the reason behind their separation.
you need to read about Pastor Ituah's life over this matter and read yesterday IHN ,the part sent by Bv T'aiye,God does not condemn us,He loves us.
Hmmmm well if there was no bride price paid, then there was no marriage. But if a bride price was paid and consent was given which in this case it is, then do not marry this man. The truth is if this man becomes a firm believer 2mr, he will have to send you away even though you must have given him kids and then be reconciled with his 1st wife. Now if the 1st wife already moved on and remarries, that man still has to stay unmarried and keep himself in prayers until either the wife finds Christ and comes back to him or the eyes of her understanding be opened. Pray and tell God to bring the bone of your bone to you. You are very young and I understand that not having both parents in your life too is also making you lean towards an older male counterpart. There are still good and single young men out there who would love and cherish you. Just so you know I am also in the waiting room and I have declined divorced men who come to seek my hand bcos something tells me that this unions might come back. So let me be patient a little bit instead of going through so much pain later. I wish you well.
ReplyDeleteYou're right of the man sending the 2nd wife packing. I've seen a man did the same after saying he found christ.
DeleteMy people and religion, so if two people married in church and are not compatible they should stay on top of the matter until one kills the other. Call me an unbeliever but all i can say is the grace of God is sufficient and God has given us wisdom. It is left for you to apply it. Are they properly divorced? Have you gotten to know this man enough to be sure you can spend the rest of your life with him? Compatiblity, tolerance, understanding there are million and one thing you should channel your focus on, most importantly put it in prayers. After the old testament there was new testament oh, work on your spirituality no carry religion for head like gala. I done talk my own finish.
ReplyDeleteThe point is,he was once married,whether court marriage or not,they were once married.So dear,if you feel led to marry him, go ahead.As long as you are sure they are no longer together
ReplyDeleteSo if I marry one of those troublesome presenters and my marriage is not as I dreamt of, I should stay there and die? You people are very wicked? Marry a bad person and stay in that marriage and come and tell us stories. Hypocrites all of you wicked souls.
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DeleteCalling people Wicked souls because of their opinion is not correct.
This is why you seek Gods face before marriage! If you end up with a bad man, no one is saying you should stay put. You should actually leave! It’s common sense. Only thing is, you can’t remarry as long as he is alive. So you better pray for a happy and peaceful marriage
DeleteVery correct @06:15
DeleteI think you should get a job first though. You are putting the cart before the horse. You sound desperate.
ReplyDeleteSo every young lady must get a job before getting married even if she has a ready suitor? You sound stupid
DeleteIf they are divorced on the grounds that the ex wife cheated on him.
ReplyDeleteThe main marriage na bride price, Church wedding is secondary.
Na born again response I give you so
Anon 18:46 no mind them. No be divorcee Ibidun Ighodalo marry and the whole world including BVs here were busy eulogizing her after her death. Sebi una no Bible pass her husband pastor Ighodalo.
ReplyDeleteWe always interprete issues and give advice base on the situation on ground and not on generally acceptable standards. We are always quick to ask people to leave a marriage that isn't working and then criticise those who move on to another relationship. Do you expect a divorcee of say 27 years old in Nigeria to remain single till he dies at maybe 65/70 since women live longer. Let's be realistic abeg.
Many of us here who are good at calling people home breakers or side chick have congratulated Regina Daniels for marrying/birth of her son. We fail to realize that Regina first dated Ned before they got married. In summary we judge based on results we see not from an unbiased opinion.
My advice therefore poster, is do what right within your conscience.
Poster do you know that God wants you to be happy.yes the Bible Say the divorce stuff and all but ,im a Christian and i believe God wants us to be happy.look at it, its like saying a woman that was almost beaten to death leaves her marriage and later finds a Christian guy to marry. the church will otnow say because she's divorced and the wicked ex husband is nt dead the Christian guy should not marry her .look at that it's not fair on both the woman and the man so they should remain sad cause one evil man Is not dead.as far has its a Christian relationship ,the man is properly divorced and you are sure PS :also seek the counsel of the holy spirit go ahead.because God has your best at heart.and if that man was God sent don't miss your blessing.look at Abigail in the Bible married to a fool but God brought David her way,or esther was the king not a divorcée,but God strategically positioned her there to save a whole tribe ,look at ibidun how much of a blessing she was to people from marrying her divorcee husband ,they told the man he cannot marry her self because of this same divorcee issue cause he wife was not dead but look how happy they were don't miss.o please go ahead
ReplyDeleteMalley, keep twisting the bible to fulfil your own selfish desires o. It is well
DeleteYes, God wants us to be happy, but good things happen to bad people and bad things happen to good people. It's just life
Proverbs 14:12 There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.
That death is not just physical death o... spiritual and eternal death is inclusive
Please which is the worse sin, getting married to a married man to become second or third wife or getting married to a divorcee that the wife is still very much alive. Help out o.
ReplyDeleteBoth na committing adultery. There’s no other way you can put it.
DeleteThe wife is still alive so you shouldn't marry him except they re official devoirced or the wife is late.
ReplyDeleteI was discussing with yesterday with an older friend who is a retired soldier and he was telling me how he divorced his first wife and married another with whom he had kids with. He was saying his first wife is regretting and wants to come back but I could also sense he wants her too and I called him out. He somehow admitted and I told him he could bring her back as she is his real wife and he is only living in sin with the current wife. Know that before I told him that, I asked if he believes in the Bible as the word of God and he answered yes. Anyway, he started arguing as expected and I told him that I might decide to become a second wife tomorrow but that the Bible won't change.
ReplyDeleteLong and short of it is your guy has a wife if you are a true Christian.
Read Kenneth Hagin’s book- marriage, divorce and remarriage.
ReplyDeleteIt will enlighten you better.
Do your background check well and go ahead to marry him if you want, all the best
She should read her bible, please
DeleteWow! Let me sit back and read comment as am not a Christian so no input from my end.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, you came to a place like this to ask for advice as a born again? Are you sure you want the right answer or you just want public opinion. First and foremost, you don't go to a brothel to ask about being chaste... You go a church don't you? You should ask your pastor or priest...
ReplyDeleteMost of the answers you will get will be confusing... Some will be right, but add their own, some will be misleading...
Now to answer you... If the man did not marry the first time in a church but only native, he is not bound to that marriage because it is not Christian marriage. The man man is free to marry someone else and leave the first. Only the marriage in church is considered binding on a Christian. The church permits native marriage out of respect for native law and custom and not acceptable as finality of Christian marriage. The divorce Jesus spoke of is this, one that is unlawful, a marriage outside God's law. So you can marry the man if it was the native and they are divorced.