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Sunday, September 13, 2020

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative....

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
DEALING WITH A TROUBLESOME FANATIC CO WORKER::


Good day everyone.


Please permit me to just go straight to the point.


I work in a small firm of 3 employees, a secretary, a cleaner and our boss.
Now our secretary is a Fanatic. Yes, I'll call her a typical fanatic. She feels her self contained apartment is already waiting for her in heaven. She has informed us several times that Rapture is coming so so so and so date and time.


Last year (when I started working there) she said Rapture was taking place December 2019, I honestly thought she was joking because I had just started working there and didn't understand her, then she said January 2020, then during the COVID lockdown, she bombarded my phone with messages about how Jesus was coming that period and I should "repent"


She has preached to me several times about weaves, makeups, trousers etc. I just ignore her.


Sometimes she sees me in my office when I'm less busy quietly praying my Rosary, still she condemns The Catholic Faith at every given opportunity. Sometimes when she's praying (she prays very loud and speaks in tongues when our boss is out) she prays and asks God to "save" the souls of those worshipping idols in the name of being Catholics, I just ignore.



Whenever our boss travels, madam Secretary closes by 2pm while the normal closing time is 5pm, saying she's going to church. Sometimes she goes for vigils on a week day e.g Tuesdays then comes to work the next day at 10/11am especially when boss is not in town. She's judges everyone and everything. She has a problem with everything that passes by even flies.


She said we should stop watching TV because her pastor told them in church that actors and actresses have blood convernats with the devil (Lord knows I am not making this up) She has really been brainwashed.


Now, there's this guy who's office is next to ours, he's a Muslim and an I.T guy. They're into computer stuff, Wi-Fi etc. We became platonic friends. We just gist about politics, schools, Buhari etc normal Nigeria wahala. Sometimes he connects me to their Wi-Fi so I can browse Instagram, blogs, job sites etc. 


He's a really nice guy and very intelligent. I love talking to him because I learn alot from him. Our secretary has preached to him so many times to "give his life to Christ and change from that stupid religion" I was dumbfounded and embarrassed the day she said that to him in my presence, I couldn't believe it. 



He then told me that she had said worse things to him before I started working there. One day she came to me and expressed her disappointment on how I'm associating with an unbeliever, that I shouldn't degrade myself, we serve a God different from theirs blah blah blah. Do you know after sometime she stopped speaking to me in the office, when I give her messages from our boss she won't acknowledge me, when I greet, she won't answer, just silly childish attitudes generally. I confronted her because it was getting out of hand, I told her I see her as a big sister and I didn't expect such from her. 



After that she changed and started speaking to me. I confided in our cleaner, an old woman, she told me she noticed the secretary's behavior towards me but didn't want to say anything. She said everyone in the office avoids her and they knew an issue was bound to happen between us because I was always gisting with her. But in my defense, I just started working there last year and no one told me about her. She advised that since I know I have nothing serious with this guy, I shouldn't burn the bridge between us because no one knows tomorrow.


Now my main problem is that she started giving me attitude again recently because of my friendship with the same Muslim guy. It's worse now because the looks in her eyes are starting to scare me. The way she looks at me these days, God! I'm beginning to see her as a dangerous person. 
 I feel I have ignored her enough and taken enough of her wahala in that office, there's a limit to what everyone can swallow.


She feels she and her pastor are the only perfect people on planet Earth. She doesn't take anyone's advise expect her pastor's. I once heard her call us in the office "second hand christians" and I couldn't help but laugh.


Here's what I'm thinking:
*Should I match her fire for fire? Go down to her level whichever way she wants it? OR


*Should I report to our boss because quitting my job is not even an option in this economy.


*Should I just stay away from this guy, keep it simple to hello/hi? I am really tired of the whole drama.


Let me state in all Honesty that she has her good sides. God won't even be happy with me if I lied. She has her good sides, she can be very nice when she wants to be but I feel her bad sides outweighs her good and she can get dangerous.
Please advise me.





*Stay away from her and maintain being nice......I don't think you should stop talking to anyone because of her....

If her problems towards you become too much,you can attempt to report her but before then just ignore her totally and face your work.
Having people like this at the work place must be really horrible but my dear,imagine those who live with/around her!!!

77 comments:

  1. Poster learn to ignore her. People like this do not change rather they get worst.

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    1. Poster pls immediately report her to your boss.The lady is making the work place very toxic for you.By trying to adjust ,you are supporting her toxic behaviour.Whatever her belief are ,she is supposed to keep it to herself and not force it down your throat.Report her immediately and let your boss give the appropriate punishment.If it was my organization, such an employee will be fired immediately.

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  2. Christianity is not fanatism and no one should be pressured to join 'it' because it is not a cult.

    Everyone will NEVER be Christians and not all Christians will be in one denomination.

    I steer clear of people like this, I give them a really wide berth because they throw Christianity in bad light.
    Even Jesus associated with the publican, Samaritan woman and even showed mercy to the thief on the cross.

    I hope ANG sees this and realize this is the picture almost everyone has of her on this blog.

    Just ignore her and do your job .

    One day she will by herself expose herself.

    Nonsense and ihe e ji agwo ofe.

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    1. *fanaticism.

      I had an experience of a female lecturer back in school then that was fond of penalizing or sending out those who wore trousers to her class, and I disliked her.
      How can you impose your personal belief on students of a federal University?

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    2. You have said it all. To all Christians out there,we are called to be the light wherever we find ourselves. Where is our compassion, meekness and humility that Christ demonstrated while on earth? Your lifestyle should be a witness. If your religion is making you out to be a jerk,then clearly something is wrong.

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    3. I love this , very true

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    4. My sister was like that when she was worshipping in Chosen,she even burnt my clothes one time when i was in school excuse being that they were worldly clothes, my family saw hell that time so I understand how you feel poster, thank God she came out, travelled and saw life differently. Try all your best to ignore her, she will soon get tired, you don't force people to join your denomination rather you encourage an adult through your attitude.

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    5. I remember a nurse was sacked for this. She was preaching to her patients and you know how 'oyinbos' can be. They reported her and she lost her job.

      Somebody sends in a Chronicle and you automatically assume the person is a Christian?? Is it only Christians that send Chronicles to Stella?
      I don't get it jare.

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    6. ANG your food has come oo.... Happy birthday ma

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    7. Biko, is this not ANG, abi na ****, I dey fear those type of 'Christians' ooo, what a toxic place to work in.

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  3. is your coworker ANG?

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    1. Hahahaha. Ajuju n'ese okwu.

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    2. Most definitely.

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    3. Lmaoooooooooooo

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    5. 🀣🀣🀣🀣 15:10 you asked the right question.

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    7. I am sure they are sisters. Lol

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  4. Dear Poster, no one deserves to work in a toxic environment like you described. Please speak to your Boss asap. No need to report all her absences or attitudes towards any other person, just keep it strictly on her interaction with you and how it makes you feel.

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  5. The issue here is you give her too much attention,let her be in her office or corner,after good morning face what you're employed to do,buy earpiece and plug it in if your workplace allow that.

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  6. No one knows the day nor the hour Matthew 24:36
    Love your enemies, pray for those who persecute you... Matthew 5:44
    Pay no one evil for evil Romans 12:17
    Servants obey your masters as those who belong to Christ Col. 3:22
    Let your good characters be evident to all Phil. 4:4-9
    When you pray...pray in secret Mathew 6:6
    Woe to you Pharisees, for a show, you make lengthy prayers Mathew 23:14
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  7. Easy to handle.. ignore her on a friendly level. If its not professional or work related, dont bat an eyelid at her. Religious fanatics are very wicked, their bad mind is made by devil himself.

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  8. She's giving you attitude? Soooooo. Dear poster, ignore this person, and block her to avoid getting messages. Friendship is not by force. You're there to work, abeg face your work and avoid unnecessary and unhealthy friendships.

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    1. Honestly, I don't see an issue here. You see her in the morning just say Goodmorning xyz and go your way, whether she responds or not is irrelevant. Keep her at arms length. Face your work and continue to be friends with the Muslim guy.

      I can't stand people who are too critical of others and think everyone should be like them. So what is wrong with being friends with a Muslim? Who is she to tell you what to do?

      Abeg free her and stop giving her any form of attention. Let It end with greetings, no gisting, nothing.

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    2. No issue o, Ms Abroadian. You greet, and move on. If she responds, fine. If she doesn't, fine. I have friends, irrespective of their religion o. It's the heart that matters.

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  9. If I am the one I'd match her fire for fire. She is losing it and needs to be checked. Tell her to stick to her lane and never give you attitude or preach to you or pray in reverence to where you worship cos you can see she is mad but choose to respect her till. Some persons need to be checked, after giving her a piece of your mind on Friday, come on Monday and apologize. She will never try it again. I am so pissed off.

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    1. As Christians I will advise everyone to be careful, guard your heart with dilligence, be careful about the kinds of Churches you worship, the kind of messages you listen to. Pastors are humans and when they read the Bible they read based on their own understanding and interpret same. We must be weary of being brainwashed cos it is real. I watched a documentary where a celebrity met a pastor at a bar in the US. and they became friends, beforehand they began talking and exchanging views, the pastor convinced him that all his possessions were
      worldly and needed to do a with them and cut off from family and friends into isolation to serve God, as his riches were a distraction from worshipping God and he did exactly that. Sold all his properties and handed the money to the pastor and moved away to a forest where the pastor had his Church. They were not allowed to use cellphones or communicate with anyone for years. This happened for over 15 years until this man came to his senses. I have also had a colleague who worships with particular Church here in Nigeria and you need to hear and see his ideologies, one time he said if any of his daughters ever wear earrings or trousers, he would amputate them because the Bible says, if your right hand causes you to sin cut it off, he deprives himself of any good thing that looks like enjoyment, his children are not allowed to socialise, onlyept at school, you can see something is wrong. Since then, whenever I see that Churches program on TV, I mean the Church he worships cos I had to ask, I quickly change it cos I don't know what kind of doctrine is making that man behave like that. Please let's stay woke.

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    2. "We must be *wary* of being brainwashed"

      The "Pastors" in those two cases practice "mysticism" and not Christianity. They hypnotized and deceived those men. They did not study the Bible by themselves asking the Holy Spirit to teach them rather they swallowed those Pastors words/teachings hook, line and sinker.

      ASK QUESTIONS. Never listen to anyone that shuts down your questions.
      God is wiser than any question man can ask and has answers for everyone.

      Without asking questions, you cannot learn.

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  10. You sound like a young nice lady. Pls avoid her and you need to school her small on matters of the Bible if she comes condemning you again.
    She obviously has an issue.
    Tell her you are preaching to the guy just as Jesus did.

    Avoid her and greet her well oh. But no unnecessary talks with her.

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  11. This isn’t so much of a problem. You started on an overly friendly levels hence her confrontations. You need to understand that you can be cordial with your colleagues. If you choose to make friendship, thread carefully. From your write-up, it’s obvious you both areNt age mate so just accord her the respect and be cordial. Stop being to familiar and nice that’s why she feels she can talk in your face. If you stop granting her that familiarity levels, she will face front. Don’t confront her. Just start with subtle changes and move on from there.

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  12. You see all these religious fanatics enn they are one of the most dangerous people out there. They mask their toxicity and shrewd ways under religion. They can kill and maim because they believe so much in their beliefs and their religious leaders.

    Report her because she is obstructing work flow. How can she not answer you when you boss tells you to deliver a message? She is bringing personal issues to work.

    BVs plz know the God you serve for yourselves and stop worshiping your religious leaders so u don't end up looking like this Posters colleague.

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    1. I say dem wicked eeeeeee. Wicked people to ever walk d face of the earth.

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    2. God bless you for this comment BB! I don't know how someone that calls herself a Christian cannot live in peace with someone you see everyday talk more of Almighty God you have not seen with your eyes ooo! Jesus Christ said my yoke is light not burdensome. Please poster don't allow her to make you leave your job continue to dwell peaceably with her. Continue to endure she is a thorn in your flesh. Just continue to be cordial with her don't let her bother you my dear. One day her cup will full!

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    3. Very wicked dogmatic people. Worst is trying to impose their madness on others.

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    4. U so right BB very wicked lots!
      Nkiru the day her cup will full is so close bcos I cant imagine how her family live
      Ms Abrodian that is the height. They can't even tell you in love. They are always right!

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  13. Poster is the woman’s name madam Grace, the story sounds exactly like someone I know, if a lizard passes, she’ll say it’s an agent of the devil and was sent, same with cockroaches and mosquitoes, if someone greets her she’ll say the person is trying to steal her star and her destiny, she blames every challenge or failure on anyone close to her, these are the kind of people that can kill others because they think they are witches, I don’t know how close you are to your boss but you need to call his attention to this issue because it’s a mental health issue, she is mad! It is better to draw the line and stay away from her completely or you change it for her, buy her a rosary and start disturbing her to convert to Catholic Church so she can leave you alone biko

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  14. Hmmmm,just ignore her nd continue widur work,i do not say u should keep her malice.. But if she continue giving attitude ,u can report her to ur boss.

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  15. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚.. Second hand Christian.

    Funny.

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  16. Dear poster pls kindly ignore this lady,simple greeting should be what connects both of you..the way she's going about soul winning isn't healthy at all, sinners already knows they are sinners, reminding them they will go to hell and all or telling you not to put of trousers,weaves is not the gospel of Christ.. telling you and the Muslim guy the love of Jesus and what He came for is what she need to preach and not preaching of weaves and you been with an unbeliever.. she's too judgemental and self righteous and that is PRIDE

    Don't let her stop your friendship with the Muslim guy,she has no right..unless it's your sole decision to stay away from the guy

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  17. Fanaticism is wrong. As much as I Love Jesus and like telling people about I don't condemn people. The Gospel of our Lord Christ is the gospel of redemption and not condemnation.
    If I were you, I will ignore her until she will start doubting her own existence. Ah ah, isn't Christianity suppose to give one peace? Why is she using it to take away your peace?

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  18. Please keep her at arm's length, continue being friends with whoever and if possible join the Angelus prayer to your rosary.

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  19. Stay away from toxic people, say hi to them from afar.

    Do your job, be cordial with your coworkers and stay at peace with yourself

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  20. You really need to ignore her for your peace of mind. Come to think of it, how come she's now viewing you as a christian just because you are friends with a moslem? No matter how nice she is, don't let her stifle your life. Its us human beings that see religious differences and act based on it to towards one another, not God.
    Though I'm a christian, I have some really serious Moslems as friends just because of their personality and intelligence.
    Please be bold enough to LIVE YOUR LIFE.

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  21. Just be platonic with her, reduct the time you spend with her too. Continue your relationship with the guy, wetin concern her? She that said world was ending since 2019, she never receive sense as we de speed enter 2021?

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  22. Dear poster, I'm a Catholic like you. Present her case to Jesus in the blessed sacrament and remember her in all your prayers.

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  23. Dear poster, imagine she was the lamp holder or file cabinet in your office, and you would leave a more happy life, had a so called pastor wife that is exactly like your secretary, we are both colleagues, and men did she condemn me from me not sleeping in church to wearing double ear piercing,to being worldly because I greet a lot and am outgoing,later learnt she was secretly envious of me when she confessed, that I am her role model and always want what I have achieved, yes you heard me right, a pastor wife and a lawyer. I ignored her like she was the waste paper basket, bought ear piece that were constantly in my ears even though I wasn't playing nothing. Our special assistant on religious matters,stop coming to work, moral lesson don't let any tse-tse fly steal your joy.

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  24. She's Bv ,we kno her, she's also frustrating us here too

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    1. Very true.
      Poster you've met ANG in flesh

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      The way I jump that woman's comment. I don't read it at allllll

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  25. I haven't read the comments yet. But I think this lady has a mental disorder. Be careful and avoid her.

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    1. You are quite right, signs of bipolar masked with religion and hearing voices...

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  26. Same thing that causes fight in the north, some Christians will vomit vile things from there mouth and for a Hausa man if you insult Islam his worst side will come out. Islam that when you see the real ones practicing, you will be forced to like the religion. I have being reading the translated Qur'an with open mind and its messages are not bad as terrorist portray it. Religion has been targeted by some evil forces in the world, while Islam is being made to look violence with terrorist creation. Christian are being made to accept everything outside the doctrines of moralities.

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  28. That lady is even worse than my father that also thinks Catholics worship idols

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  29. Please ignore her and do your work. Your relationship with the IT/ Muslim guy is none of her business. Don't end that friendship because of one hypocrite that claims to be a Christian. Ignore her.

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  30. Poster just ignore her. You seemed to be a good person, a good catholic. I like that.

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  31. Poster pls ignore her. You seemed to be a good person. A good catholic. I like that.

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  32. Poster, ignore her completely. She will try to put more fire if you do this,but just ignore her. Just greet her only. Then,if she gives you trouble related to work issue, that is when you will report her to the boss. Don't ever quit talking to anyone because of her because it doesn't make sense.

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  33. I don't know why we Christians can't live at peace with one another; always battling over doctrinal supremacyπŸ˜”.
    This was the same issue I faced in my former place of work. Thinking they could convert me to a pentecostalπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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  34. I don't think she is as righteous as she claimed,because if she is, she won't come to work late and leave earlier than expected. It doesn't matter if the boss is around or not, it's written in her contract so she should adhere to it.

    This alone has shown the kind of person she is, so please just stay away from her and concentrate on your work. Moreover, you are an adult and you shouldn't be told whom to associate it.

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  35. I don't think she is as righteous as she claimed,because if she is, she won't come to work late and leave earlier than expected. It doesn't matter if the boss is around or not, it's written in her contract so she should adhere to it.

    This alone has shown the kind of person she is, so please just stay away from her and concentrate on your work. Moreover, you are an adult and you shouldn't be told whom to associate with.

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  36. I think the woman is suffering from bipolar disorder,the Yorubas call it 'were alasho'

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  37. Are you sure you're not working with ANG?

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  38. Sounds to me like a narcissist who has used religion to justify her behaviour. What she is practicing is not Christianity. Her type will crucify Jesus at the drop of a hat because he ate with sinners. My dear, live the life of Christ, but watch your back Follow the Biblical counsel to be wise as a serpent but gentle as a dove.

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  39. If you must report her to your boss, endeavour to do so while she is there seated too, in her presence! Let your boss know her attitude affects your work output and you just want a change so the organization could move forward. OR just ignore her completely!

    Note: In any new organization or environment you find yourself, always try to study everyone very well so as to avoid this type of wahala.

    BV Teetee.

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  40. Set awon holier than thou. They can never do no wrong. They are always correct and right at all times.

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  41. I can guess the church the woman attends, but let me keep quiet. Everyone has said it. Just ignore her. And if it gets too much report her to your boss.Shikena.

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  42. One day that your boss will be around, call a meeting and let her be seated there. Download everything as you have told us here(leave her going to church during work hours out of it) Tell your boss to pls instruct her to stay clear from your personal life and spiritual beliefs.

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  43. Poster why are you allowing this brainwashed human being bully you? Eh? You don't have mouth to fire back at her and tell her to mind her damn business??? Tell her 'my relationship with God is between me and him, thank you very much, go have a seat.
    It seems you're a miss goody two shoes. You better learn how to draw boundaries for yourself and demand that others respect them. So what if she doesn't answer your greeting? Then stop greeting her. Let her be on her own. Go about your day smiling, laughing and chatting with no care in the world. Why are you letting her dictate your moods? You said she has started talking to you again but it won't be for long I can bet you. I know her type and it's only a matter of time before she resumes the nasty attitude. At some point, you'll have to rise up and treat her fuck up.

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