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Thursday, September 03, 2020

Nigerian Woman Cries Out After Ex Husband Abducts Their 3 Kids To Spite Her...

Seluona Ubebe went through hell in her Marriage to Victor Nordi,she suffered Domestic Violence and 'intimate assault' and when she had had enough,she packed her bags and ran....Divorce was finally granted after many years as the ex refused an did everything to stop the divorce....

Now he is refusing her access to the kids he abducted from her in the guise of them spending summer 2019 holiday with him

Her story is pathetic and might make you upset.......



She says

''My name is Seluona Ubebe and my Instagram handle is @seluona_
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I was formerly married to Victor Nordi. We are divorced and were granted joint custody of our three children by the court.
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Last year,My ex husband came to take our three children from me in Lagos to spend the long vacation with him in Abuja on the pretense that he would return them to resume school in Lagos, but he never did. It's been over a year now and he has refused to return them to me or give me access to them.
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I have made two attempts to visit them in Abuja (last year September and this year August) but each time, he has refused to let me see them. To make matters worse, he recently took them to an unknown location to hide them to prevent me from seeing them.
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I have been prevented from speaking with them on phone and have not been able to see them. I have made several attempts to call him, sent text messages and even sent people to him, all in the bid to plead with him to allow me see my kids but all these have fallen on deaf ears.
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I am besides myself with worry and fear as I have not been able to see my kids let alone ascertain the state of their wellbeing.

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I have been in Abuja since last week but have not been able to see the kids cos he has hidden them again and the gateman at the house he stays refused to allow me in on instructions from him.

My phone number is 07013706820 ,please I need help to see my kids.
Please somebody help me''





*This should not be allowed to happen....
The Law in Nigeria does not protect the women from their exes and this is not the first time i have heard of the man abducting the children to spit the woman....

Please reach out to this woman and help her if you can......
I know a BV this happened to and she had to agree to start sleeping with her ex just to see her children because nobody could help her...THIS IS WRONG!!!

69 comments:

  1. This is wrong! You both have joint custody so why can't he respect that?! I pray help gets to her.

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    1. May we never marry a man who will turn out to be our enemy, ijn. This is exactly the story of my ex and I, luckily for me I got the kids and took them out of the country. He did everything to spite me in the union, lies, disgrace, belittling, you name it.God smiled on me, gave me financial freedom and a great man. He is now begging to see the children, NEVER!!!

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    2. Anon, you are a repeat of the man up there. That he is a bad husband doesn't mean he is a bad father. No matter how great your new man is to the children, those kids father is very much alive. If he can visit the country u are in, let him see his children. They deserve their father. Let them decide whether their father is a good person

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    3. I am sorry you had to go through this but please let them talk on the phone. May God soften your heart to make this happen.
      Thankfully, you had financial freedom and are now miles away where there are laws to protect you and ur children

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    4. I am 12:36 , My kids are older now and have decided they don’t want to talk to him. This happened 6 years ago, no matter how financially stable I am , I still ask for a little support. He will get angry at me for asking(school fees)and stop calling his children for 8 months or more. What is the point of them having a father who cannot support financially but spends money on parties and his friends. That sentiment does apply to me, because he knows why I left. It was a matter of life and death. I will never put my children through that danger and emotional abuse again.

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    5. @lovetoloveu I should let him see them and have a similar experience to the poster lady above?? My son still has nightmares of what his dad did on our last day, he becomes agitated at the mention of “visit to Nigeria”!!! Thank God for his grace and therapy for him to be the strong,confident, God fearing boy that he is today.This man bullied the hell out of me and his kids, he even paid outsiders to
      harass me on the street!! I don’t want to say too much because grace found me.

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  2. May we never come in contact with violent men.

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  3. Madam,go and meet those human right welfare whatever!..
    Can you imagine?..
    I'm sure the kids want to see you too but he must have told them terrible things about you!..
    Nne,use juju too!..
    You must get your kids by fire and by brimstone!...
    Nonsense!...

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    1. Queen, you never ceases to baffle me. πŸ˜²πŸ˜²πŸ™Œ

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  4. This is so bad and so wrong! Why are some men like this? The man obviously wants the woman back, he doesn't know she could grow balls to seek for divorce and be free from his shackles. Now, he's using the kids to spite the woman. I pray help comes your way speedily madam, I can't imagine the trauma she's going through.

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    1. Very wicked sick man.....trust me he doesnt want her back for good. Such men can even kill her if she returns back to him. Its the lack of control over her life he doesnt have anymore. Such men dont love u but dont want any man loving u also. They cant handle rejection of any kind, reason he fraustrated d divorce.
      Now hes using the kids as a pun cos dats all he has left,he can no longer hurt her except thru d kids. The kids being with him its not cos he misses dem its to make d mother suffer.
      Stupid narcissist. This is what Iconolas ex husband(Dare Ajayi) too did. Kidnapped d kids from Abj and moved dem to Lagos. Didnt see her boys for 2yrs.

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    2. Yes and hid the kids with his late sister. Wicked souls, forming angels on social media. Maybe it was that one that dealt with her sef.

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    3. Anon 12.26 dont talk abt d dead like dat biko. She acted dat way based on how her bro painted d ex black and she cared for dos boys cos d bro cant even do it.
      Olamide and Dare share custody now and probably in a better place.

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    4. Anon 12.26 that is a very vicious thing to say ..and I'm shocked ..tommorow is unknown for us all

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  5. Man is a sadist and an oppressor. He wanted to keep maltreating the woman till forever but now she’s broken free, he’s mad. Weak man.
    For how long can he keep the kids away from their mum?
    She should go with those hefty men and break down the gate, get her kids out. But this plan needs serious planning.

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    1. Very mad man.. Person wey see the yeye man with his agbari-Ojukwu head and his glasses now go think say na angel on earth! Sick man

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  6. Na u dey abuse the woman, she finally leave cos of abuse, u still want to continue abusing her even after Divorce.. You are simply a wicked man from hell.. Let her see her kids joor.. Some people are just devils themselves

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    1. That's how toxic people do o.. They won't treat you right, they will still not want you to leave!

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  7. This is so childish. Why involve the kids? They belong to you both for goodness sakes. To think he frustrated her plans to be rid of him. If she were so much a prize in your eyes you would have treated her better, right? Some of these men don't want to make you happy, still do not want you to make yourself happy. This is beyond disgusting. Narcissistic men. Why hurt your children just to hurt their mother? I wonder how those kids must be feeling in all of these. I hope she gets the helps she needs fast and he pays for flouting the court's order.

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    1. Na so my ex do me but God has given me victory

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  8. So sad, please may the appropriate authorities help her. Some men are beast, they feel no woman will leave them. Bitter losers everywhere.

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  9. I read on Stella's Instagram page, how someone advised you to go see Ahmed Isa of Human Rights Radio, Abuja. Make sure you first go to the court to swear an affidavit, after then, write to the radio station for you to see Mr. Ahmed. God will use his to solve your problems. Also make sure to have all your 'receipts' of proof.

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    1. Best advice so far unlike the serial commenter who asked that she ''use juju''!!. Madam make sure you have receipts then head back to same court, ministry of women affairs and the radio guy as advised above. Also put everything into prayers, no matter how daunting it looks now, there is a sliver lining. Wishing you grace and favour.

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    2. Shanks and 12:22 πŸ‘πŸ‘.
      My thoughts too.

      You got joint custody, use the law to fight him.
      Write to his employers (if employed), then get a warrant and arrest him at his place of work. EPIC DISGRACE❗

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  10. Lawyers in the house, is there a way she can take this man to court, again? Why prevent her from seeing her kids when they share joint custody?

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  11. This is so wrong. I hope a human rights lawyer can help her. Women suffer a lot in this country. Imagine not seeing or hearing from ones kids for over a year. It's an emotional torture.
    That man is very wicked and foolish. Hes also punishing those kids because they need their mother.

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  12. This country and its law doesn't favour women. I know who this happened to. They were not even married. She started living with the man and they had two children. A girl first and a boy as the second. He refused to pay her bride price atleast. After living together for more than 6 years. He will beat her up and chase her out of the house even at night. One night after beating her up, he pushed her out with only her lingerie on, she slept in their neighbours apartment. The next morning, he was gone with the girl. Left the boy who was like a year old at the time. The girl was three at the time. Since 2014 till now, he is no where to be found with her daughter. She cries everyday especially not knowing the wellbeing of her daughter with all these story of sexual abuse flying everywhere. She is so scared. His family said not to worry that the man and the girl are fine. They won't disclose their whereabouts.
    Her family nor even send her sef because she was warned not to live with him at all until he does something on her head not like that would even stop anything bad from happening to her. I just tire. Anytime I remember her I weep.
    God deliver us from evil men. Amen.

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    1. @Lucent
      Why should the laws favor women?
      Shouldn't the law be balanced and protect every citizen?
      You first sentence is suspect. 😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲

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    2. The worst thing a woman can do is get involved with d wrong man. That thing can mess up a womans life. Who u marry is the MOST IMPORTANT decision u make in ur life....bcos it will determine d course of ur life. Whether it will turn out for good or for bad.

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    3. Oh Beds & Roses, how do you like your ice cream? I'd like to send you some. We women owe our children the best fathers I tell you. This story is heartbreaking.

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    4. @Bed and Odun
      But when women see money, do they look at his character?
      They just dive to dig the gold.
      That is the cause of it all, greeeeeeeeeeeeed

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    5. Ignorance

      Sentimental love

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  13. So the court granted her joint custody and for a whole year she hasn't seen
    the kids?
    Why not go back to the same court and
    see how it goes.
    Can a lawyer here volunteer to help this woman please.😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲

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    1. I wonder. Go back to the same court and complain. What the man had done is contempt of court. He can be imprisoned for that. Go and get a lawyer madam,preferably the same lawyer that helped you with the custody case. The man is definitely not above the law. Husband from hell. Using poor,innocent kids as pawns in their wicked vendatta against their ex.

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    2. Would have been good to listen to the other side of the story to get a balanced perspective from the side of the man. As we know there are usually two sides to a story esp when it concerns marital. What about mediation through the families before putting on social media? Yes if there really was an order of joint custody, best to approach the same court to intervene. How about the well being of the children whose parents are being publicly exposed....

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  14. This story up there just upset my mood. If you can help, please do. Any man/woman doing this should know it's the original kidnapping. If we were in a sane country, the punishment prescribed for kidnappers should be what such a person deserves.

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  15. THis was what happened to me? after 15 years of marriage. The only difference is that I am in the abroad. Domestic abuse/violence? and when I have the courage to move on, he made a plan with the help of his sisters back home. I will tell my story some day.
    My ex- try to do it to me in this abroad, I ran to women aid
    They visit the house with a police, found out that he has book a tickets for my kids to Nigeria. But not for them coming back. Immediately they took their passports. And I took him to court because he wants their passports back. For good two years I fought with all the strength in me. I couldn't get a lawyer to represent me, the judge kept saying this strange and mysterious.
    But I know I serve a living God, who is more than any juju or Voodoo. I represented myself, the judge told me? When presenting my case and evidences( coupled with D/V evidences which I have saved on my email for years ( it was like a diary), It does not need to be polished. That gave me the reassurance to fight harder.

    It was God all the way, and I worn the case early this years. And stopped him from the taking the kids out of my state.

    I keep encouraging women to look unto God, be prayerful, and let God fight for you.

    I wish I can help this lady. Madam please don't give up. Keep fighting for your kids. They will oppressed and bully you, but don't relent. If I can do it, you can do it also. The only difference is, you are in Nigeria. I pray that help locate you ASAPπŸ™πŸΎπŸ™πŸΎ

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  16. She should go back to court after reporting to the closest police station. She trusted him with the kids and the idiot betrayed her.

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  17. I guess this is what my ex wanted to try with me. He left and eve said i can do whatever i like with the kids and then wants to take them out after months of not coming home, calling once in two weeks or once a month. then just because i insist on being with them where he is taking them to, he took me to welfare. Someone i have incriminating evidence that can lead to loss of his job. i just kept quiet and warned him he will sleep in jail if he tries to ever take them out forcefully. children haven't seen you for 8 months and you want me to hand them to you, do i know if you are now a ritualist, if you like carry girlfriend follow body, i don't care, i must be where my kids are.

    Mtcheww. They are all shocked that i can be this strong in one year, after begging and even his friends said all he is saying is "my mummy said' Most times this rubbish is fueled by the man's family members. In my case, the marriage him and his mother always threatened me with i don give them make them go chop am. I am happy and sane, which is the most important thing in raising happy kids.

    This morning i saw my son kneel in front of the crucifix praying, i smiled, joined him and prayed for him and encouraged him to care for his younger ones. It hasn't been easy but I am happy i will and plead with God to help me in raising sound and responsible kids. God forbid i will stress to raise good children and still try to dominate their homes. Mothers controlling sons marriages is a sign that they never did their jobs

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    1. Anon11:57,God bless you for this comment. My husband said his mother says he should not marry me again so he sacked me from the house and his mother wants to take my baby away from me. But I didn't agree to it and my mil says I'm a witch.

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    2. you sound like one event planner

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  18. What do you expect from a man wearing those crooked spectacles? Mtcheww.

    Stella, please add his personal details. Example where his works and let's call his employers out until they make him do the right thing or sack him. If he's self employed, let's call his business out. Evil man!

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  19. There are lots of functional Human rights groups in Nigeria, many fighting for women with cases like this; she should visit them and tell them everything that happened without mincing words.

    She allowed it to happen... Its been more than one year and she still didn't know what to do.

    If there's a divorce agreement, the man has no rights to abduct the children, he has no rights to take the children without first consulting with their mother and another formal agreement reached.

    He should be arrested and the children sent back to their mother.

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    1. She allowed it to happen,really?
      Please don't blame the victim, it is better to ignore the post than add to her hurt..
      It is so easy for you to think that there are lots of functional human right activist in Nigeria when you've never sought for their help.
      She is probably financially incapacitated, her ex knows this and he is using it to his full advantage.
      I pray that she gets the help that she is looking for today.
      Chizzy J..

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    2. Chizzy J, I'm not one of those that won't say the fact. Nobody is adding to her hurt by telling her the honest truth.

      I read the post and I commented as the spirit led.

      Peace

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    3. Led by the evil spirit because the spirit of God will edify.

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    4. You lack empathy be consoling yourself by claiming you told her the truth.Somebody already broken,break her more and tell yourself you told her the truth

      Tee

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  20. This is why court wedding is good oh, my mum has been singing it like a song to me.
    I told her that my fiance is not in support of court wedding& she vehemently refused to give her blessing if I am not gonna have a court wedding.
    I don't know why African men are against co- parenting like a normal adult with their ex wives. Why put a child through that traumatic experience because of your hate for their mum, there is little you can do to destroy that mother & child love anyways..
    If these kids becomes an adult & shuns their dad, world people will now term them rebellious kids.. This is why mother's day is more celebrated than father's day, an average African dad would put their ego, selfish feelings before their kids safety & happiness...
    I pray that she reconnects with her kids oh..

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    1. This people had a court wedding, that doesn’t stop shit from happening. What you need to do is pray for a man with a good heart!!! Church wedding, traditional or court all need divine intervention for it to work.

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    2. In Africa, the man solely owns the children, the woman is just a mere figure head or vessel that is why at the slightest opportunity, they threaten the woman with the kids.
      You will hear stuff like 'I will take my kids from you and kick you out'.

      To add Insult to Injury, the law does not protect women enough from this whole Injustice. Imagine the teremity, disregarding a court ruling because he knows It is Naija and nothing will happen. If there were dire consequences, he will not try this nonsense.

      I pray she gets a lawyer to fight her case probono and she reunites with her children.

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  21. My elder sister baby daddy did same to her 2years ago
    They both agreed on vising the child since they never got married and he took the baby who's just 5years old to abuja
    His younger sister is a barrister in Abuja and also a baby mama to a popular figure
    When the period of visiting was over, he refused to return the boy oo
    That he would be schooling with his sisters kids and also he needs to know people from his fathers side too
    This is a man who denied the belle and lied to my sister which was the reason the wedding never held
    My sister involved a lawyer and guess what!!! He was bought over with money
    He asked to sleep with her first and settle with the boys father that after all Men are always right
    The barrister sister dared my sister to come for her son, My parents went to their family house and gave them 48hours to return him or get ready for war in any aspects
    They sha returned the boy and the baby daddy said because of the embarrassment he would never pay for the boys welfare
    Guess what,
    Today my sister is happily married and the boy is the one begging to change his surname to my inlaws name
    My sisters husband is preparing to take him to court and welfare then begin adoption process if allowed to let the boy take his name which the child wants
    He calls him daddy and he told his mother that he was treated like a slave in abuja at just 5years old
    MEN DONT HONOR JOINT CUSTODY THEY SHOULD ONLY BE GRANTED VISITING RIGHTS

    Story long
    But that alhaji with a big construction firm and oil and gas fucking a barrister in Abuja, your first son no be your own sha
    Let karma finish the war

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  22. Until I hear both sides of the story, I would not make any comments. One-sided stories in cases of this nature makes the story teller always the victim. I have had a first-hand experience of something similar then when I spoke with the other party and heard another side of the story I went back to ask the first story teller some question, which they were very evasive about and not answering. Ever since that experience, I never reach a conclusion on one side of any story.

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    1. you are wise @anon 12:47

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    2. So, what story could he tell that makes it okay for him to disappear with the children? She was a bad mother?? She has a new lover?? Nothing can justify what he did, he is already in contempt of a court order and should face the consequences. You are not wise nada!!

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    3. Absolutely correct....something very fishy about this narrative

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  23. When two elephants fights, it's the ground that suffers. I'm 100% certain those children aren't happy wherever they are. Narcissistic men are so many, they'll do anything to hurt women who stands up to them. If this woman finally gets custody of her kids, this man would wash his hands off them forever.. I've seen it happen many times but good riddance!

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  24. Madam please go to Human Rights Radio, the president and founder of Brekete family, Ordinary Ahmed Isah will be able to help you.
    I hope and pray it ends in praise for you

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  25. This is just sad. I don't know why must man are like this. A lot of woman will be willing to let the ex visit, see and spend time with their children but the men, they will prevent the women from even seeing their children. What exactly does he stand to gain other than inflicting emotional and physiological pain on this woman? We have lost our humanity
    FIDA needs to look into this. Stringent laws need to be set in place.
    Dear Lord, please come through for this woman. Use ur servant Ahmed Isah.
    I can't even imagine the emotional and psychological trauma.

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  26. Madam, you are not as helpless as you think, or your ex-husband has made you believe, or as you have narrated.

    Please do any or all of the following:

    1. Call or contact the lawyer who represented you during your divorce proceedings. If you were not represented by a lawyer, contact FIDA (International Federation of Women Lawyers) Abuja or Nigeria Bar Association, Abuja. Google the addresses or go to the High Court of the FCT headquarters. You will meet lawyers who can give you the addresses. If you have a court order for joint custody, the court is ever willing to enforce such order. The court in Abuja can enforce a judgement from a court in Lagos

    2. Go to the welfare department at the local government council nearest to the residence of your ex-husband.

    3. Go to the Radio Station as already advised. Please go with the court order and family photographs to prove your case. If you don't have them in Abuja, send a message to Lagos for them.

    4. Write to the employer of your children's father if he is employed by a reputable company or by the government.

    5. Actively involve your family. They were present at your marriage and collected/returned your bride price.

    Please ignore some women here who only saw your challenge as an opportunity to abuse men and their ex-husbands as if all men in their families are evil, and as if women don't do to men what you say your ex-husband is doing to you.

    Please do not go about this matter in anger and bitterness. Focus on your right. And please do not assert or enforce your right as a a matter of "wicked men oppressing women" - you will be surprised by the number of men supporters you will get if you don't.

    Based on your story, you have a good case.

    Lady Stella, you may forward to her. I am a Lawyer, I don't handle matrimonial cases hence I don't want to contact her or send directly to her.

    Thanks Lady Stella.

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    1. I actually know the man here, he is a lawyer,lives in gwarinpa, not sure he works under anyone exactly. He is a very violent man, saw him last in February with the 3 boys. He dated my friend, and disappeared into thin air when she informed him she was pregnant. He actually told her when they initially met that their mother was late. I was the one that represented her at the police station when he was trying to use the police to harass her, lol! When I got involved, he chickened out, Gee! My appearance at the police station was epic. I actually know him as Tunde, dirty old man! Told alot of lies to my friend, he was just living a lie.

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  27. Shyt like this is why I bother no woman who has decided to live their life alone without being attached to a man. Some of these creatures called men, are nothing but heart attacks, diabetes, strokes and insanity waiting to happen to you. God don't trust them, Satan don't trust them so I don't know why women always think they can trust them.

    Madam, report the children kidnapped to the police. A kidnapping is a major criminal offense. Just because it is a family matter does not mean you have no protection under the law.

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