Nollywood actress Charity Nnaji, is of the opinion that marrying a rich man would always guarantee happiness in a union.
In an interview with Sunday Scoop, the actress said, “I can marry because of money. If one doesn’t love a man but marries him because of his money, one would later fall in love with him. But when one loves a man who does not have money, the love would later fade.
I don’t care how strong the bond is, once the woman is the one footing the bills, she may start getting angry. Money is like a solid foundation that holds marriage. An average Nigerian woman who is married to a jobless man would most likely cheat. Love is not enough as far as marriage is concerned.
A young woman would only marry an old man if money is involved. If one marries a rich man, one would love him naturally without stress. I have seen a very lovely relationship that crashed because of lack of money. Money is like a spice that garnishes relationships.
With my past experience in marriage, anyone I would consider would have to be rich. I don’t plan to burden him with my children’s responsibilities but I cannot marry a man that I earn more than because he would feel threatened. I am not ready to settle for less. If one is married to a rich man, wisdom demands that one should save for the rainy days. If a rich man later goes broke, the survival of the marriage would depend on how the man treated the woman when he had money. If he treated one well, then one could endure with him. But, if he treated one unfairly, one would leave him even before the money (totally) vanishes.”
Nnaji, however noted that she would not want to marry an ‘old’ man. “I don’t fantasise about old men. I see them as people that had enjoyed themselves in the past and only want to take advantage of me. Life is too short to stay in a frustrating marriage. What is the point of having money in marriage when I am not satisfied sexually? It would eventually lead to cheating, which is not good for a married woman,” she said.
The mother of three also recounted how she was abused by the father of her three children. She added, “I was a victim of domestic violence. Marriage is for the living. I can endure anything but not domestic violence. The more I prayed, the worse he got. I love my kids so much and I did not want them to grow in such circumstances. The last incident was terrible and after the fight, I decided it was over after 13 years of marriage. My mum tried to give me reasons to endure my marriage but I just could not stay any longer.”
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With my past experience in marriage, anyone I would consider would have to be rich. I don’t plan to burden him with my children’s responsibilities but I cannot marry a man that I earn more than because he would feel threatened. I am not ready to settle for less. If one is married to a rich man, wisdom demands that one should save for the rainy days. If a rich man later goes broke, the survival of the marriage would depend on how the man treated the woman when he had money. If he treated one well, then one could endure with him. But, if he treated one unfairly, one would leave him even before the money (totally) vanishes.”
Nnaji, however noted that she would not want to marry an ‘old’ man. “I don’t fantasise about old men. I see them as people that had enjoyed themselves in the past and only want to take advantage of me. Life is too short to stay in a frustrating marriage. What is the point of having money in marriage when I am not satisfied sexually? It would eventually lead to cheating, which is not good for a married woman,” she said.
The mother of three also recounted how she was abused by the father of her three children. She added, “I was a victim of domestic violence. Marriage is for the living. I can endure anything but not domestic violence. The more I prayed, the worse he got. I love my kids so much and I did not want them to grow in such circumstances. The last incident was terrible and after the fight, I decided it was over after 13 years of marriage. My mum tried to give me reasons to endure my marriage but I just could not stay any longer.”
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ReplyDeleteWhy do people always think marrying an older man means you will be sexually frustrated. I have dated younger guys and married one but left him cos of DV. I'm currently dating an older guy who is divorced and I'm having the best sex of my life with mind blowing orgasms. It's amazing how hes able to keep up with my high sexual appetite. We are made for each other
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DeleteIn other words for better for stay for worse for go, choi
Deletecharity your marriage crashed becaude you be asewo lol
Deletethree kids & you still have to expose all your thighs inside net, looking for rich man. you no dey hustle ni, abi your hustle no dey pay you...even asewo suppose to invest her savings in other legitimate business na
Thanks anon 15;50 for the lecture. I am older man married to a younger woman and our sex life has been explosive π§¨. I am well to do and blessed with a huge blokos. We are so in love with each other. Please people great sex and good communication plus money equals a dream marriage.
DeleteAnonymous 23:08, you got me laughing so hard. I'm on night duty but on break atm and my colleagues were staring, wondering why I was laughing
DeleteBy mere reading the 1st paragraphand seeing her picture up there, I can already see why her marriage crashed.... it even lasted for long.
ReplyDeleteJudgina
Delete"Those who love money never have it enough"
ReplyDeleteWhen the love of money is there in a lady's heart, there is a problem in sustaining relationships.
That problem is the fact that she will
abandon anybody that no longer has money (the object of her love). I have also seen this happen a lot in
relationships. Remember that "money do develop wings and fly away." That one has it today, does not mean that one will have it tomorrow.
No comment. Let us focus on ending SARS first We will come back to this.
ReplyDeleteBut really. Everyone should be allowed a second chance of happiness. Rock your boat dear.
That your analogy of love and money was/is so wrong that we could already see why your Marriage crashed....Money is very essential in marriage but it is not "a solid foundation that holds marriage together"...gbenu oshi dannu
ReplyDeleteI have never seen her movie before
ReplyDeleteShe is right about marrying a broke guy!..
ReplyDeleteI can never advise not even my enemy to tread that part!..
Marriage without money is hell fire!..
If the guy goes broke,you stay or leave depending on how he treated you when he was well to do!...
I would rather stay single than getting married to a broke guy!...
queen for once I agree with you 100%
DeleteThey won't hear you sis. They are already in the comments defending their broke boyfriends and husbands and insulting the lady. Later they will start wondering why the man starts acting out to prove his manhood by cheating n spending the money they give him on "broke" girls. Men like to be needed esp financially. If a guy is clinging to a lady hoping to get money from her, he doesn't cherish her or find her attractive enough to be with her based on her person alone. They keep warning women n women continue to put cotton in their ears.
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DeleteHey, woman you are talking from both sides of your mouth and even through your teeth and ears. π
ReplyDeleteYou still said you would leave a wealthy husband before his wealth vanishes. THAT MEANS YOU ARE A FAIR-WEATHER WIFE❗π€¦♀️
Money never guarantees that a rich husband will treat his wife well. We've seen miserable wives with very wealthy husbands.
Some weathly husbands would dole the money out to their wives but still subject them to physically, emotionally abuse as well as cheating.
That's not so say some wealthy husbands do not absolutely adore and dote on their wives. They abound.
What some of you forget to go for in a spouse is love, mutual respect and resourcefulness.
Both husband and wife should be committed to giving each other their best.
Well, this your story is what my friend playfully tag 'consolation of the wicked'... because you are already a second-hand wife after three. π
.... but still subject them to *physical*, *emotional* abuse as well as cheating... (my error π)
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ReplyDeletePeople of God , what again is love, when I hear people say love is not enough,it makes me wonder, please what is LOVE?
ReplyDeleteYou cannot chop love nau
DeleteA shallow minded person can not survive marriage.
ReplyDeleteShe is 100% correct. Love is not enough in marriage. Money+Love= a blissful forever.
ReplyDeleteThey will still come under your comment to defend their 50/50 unions and Bob the builder Ways. Pls stop trying to save women that don't wanna be saved. I've found a lot of women on this blog are quote desperate to be married and booed up. When u tell them about themselves it strikes a cord and they resort to Insults
DeleteMarriage is not easy oh! If I knew what I know now I would have married the okay guys that came my way instead of settling for less than I deserve.
ReplyDeleteTen years down the line and family leeches will not allow the mumu to do anything tangible. When I manage with my children to be able to achieve something, the family will come from nowhere and ask for handouts and like a sacrificial Lamb he gives without thinking about our own plans and the future of our kids.
It is enough to marry a guy that does not give you wahala, getting married to a man in the real sense who will stand for you and the kids is importantest. How can someone suffer to work for years collecting good pay yet has nothing to show for it because the parents that gave birth to plenty children left him to shoulder their responsibilities. Papa when don pass 70 years is looking like someone in his early 40s because he didn't stress himself to train the battalion he gave birth to. Rather the small boy that is not up to 40 is looking haggard with grey hair because he had to shoulder responsibilities that is more than him.
The greedy siblings nkoh? As they are leaving school and working, they are still leeching, every day give me l, borrow me, help me. Oh! God I am tired.
How did I manage to end up with such a fellow for a husband. Even parents train you in school and you have to sort yourself, but this one after training in school, them marry now pay rent, I am sick, register professional course, recharge DSTV for them, buy car for parents cruising, come and build house for me in the village while I live in the city in a house I own. On top of how much salary? With two kids that needs taking care of too. While you are living in a rented house that is almost collapsing on you. Ha!!! Make una help me before I do the unthinkable, my own savings has been exhausted from borrowing and not paying back.
I seriously need to take a break a clear my head.
Please take a break to clear your head...it's very very important. ....I have a friend who is suffering this too....her husband is so stingy to her, she has to hustle on her own to get cash to do anything for herself
DeleteMy dad didn't allow our older siblings to contribute to our education. He said he didn't want them to use it against us when he is gone. So, guy man used his monthly pension allowance to see me and 3 of my younger sisters through school.We had the opportunity to live large in school but dad blocked it. One time, he called all his children and told us "If you buy any slippers, shoe and clothing items for me, be very happy and dance if you see me wearing them. All that's important to me is the unity of the family, be there for each other and always support yourselves. While the last 4 of us were younger, my eldest sister got married. She came for my immediate younger sister, she told my dad she wanted little sister to come stay with her. My dad looked at her for over 3 mins and asked "did l give you out to anybody at any point" Big sis said no and dad told her, go back to your husband's house, l don't have a slave in my house.
DeleteI guess your husband made the choice to help his aged parents and siblings. He obviously doesn't know where to draw the lines. I don't fault his siblings, he is indulging them. Please stop borrowing money to avoid creating unnecessary problems for yourself.
Omo. That one na real sticky situation. Why I dey fear all these guys that take extended family as do or die. Sometimes the immediate family suffer just to keep extended family happy..n the extended family do beef the wifen kids not knowing that it is the wife that even gingers the husband to give
DeleteWow. I don't pray to be in your situation
Delete. Sorry dear. I don't support divorce but is there a way you can start making money for yourself n your kids? So sorry you have to go thru this. Too bad u didn't know better before leaping in. Money makes n breaks marriages. Don't let people deceive you that a man can be managed or changed or built up to what u want financially
I'm 28 and single,reading about marriage scares me alot I swear
DeleteSorry dear. I once almost dated a guy like that, grateful to God and my bestie who drilled sense into me, we broke up. I have no problem with helping your aged parents and younger siblings cos they are dependents.. but he had elder ones married with their families depending on him. Like full grown men depending on their younger brother for food cos they can't sustain a business. I think it's best to marry one with similar mindset and values.
DeleteWow!!
DeleteAlexander your dad na real man, honestly.
Maximum respect to him!!!
Kaα», anonymous 17:29, you are really passing through a lot!!!
The time to be firm with your finances is NOW!!!!!
See they will brand you wicked, selfish among other names, but please don't give in to emotional blackmail.
Do it for the sake of your two children, bikoo.
Haaai!
Some people sef, minus zero consideration for other family members.
She is talking from both sides of her mouth. Money is very essential in marriage no doubt about that,but making money a priority can only lead you to the wrong man.
ReplyDeleteShe is not talking with her full chest but I get her point..any woman that is the one feeding a man or bearing majority of the Bills in a relationship will definitely be getting frustrated n losing respect for the guy. It is not how God intended but seems plenty women on this blog defend the practice and claim to be happy while doing it so who knows.
ReplyDeleteShe made some valid points
ReplyDeleteBy the way, she is so beautiful.
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\i agree! never marry a broke guy. i'm dealing with one and it's frustrating. 10 years in and i still get comments like 'is it because you are paying the bills. it nor go better for you and your family'. Looking for how to get out fast. it's crazy.
ReplyDeleteyou better run and fast
DeleteYour father is a real man and father Alexander
ReplyDeleteLike i have massive respect for her father.
DeleteSo if her husband becomes ill and is unable to earn or run his business like before, or they have to spend the majority of the savings on medical expenses she would leave him because he is now broke, or she has to carry the home financially. Anything can happen in this life, marry a man with money, but do not marry a man only because of money. You still need to love his character and respect him. Abiding love and affection still should be there and it needs to be reciprocal. Those things are needed so that when the difficult times show up you can weather them together.
ReplyDeleteGo ask the women who got married to rich stingy men or rich men who lavish their mistresses with the best and give the wife a pittance how they are feeling with their rich husbands. Let me not even talk of those who had their wives sign prenups from hell. He better be rich while respecting and adoring you to the highest for you to taste his money and for you to be well taken care of should he depart this world before you.
I they learned things here oo
ReplyDeleteMe too oo
DeleteMe too oo
DeleteImagine a 13 years used Tokunbo on Nigerian road dey act like tear rubber. My dear it is over for you. Thr beautiful ones are not yet born
ReplyDeleteThis one is just a fool.
DeleteI have been married for 20 years with 4 children and I don’t see myself as used or expired. In fact na now my shakara pass.
How much more this younger and pretty woman.
It’s your likes that make women stay in abusive marriages to avoid being called tokunbo and whatever rubbish you like to spew.
#EndSars.
Better to marry a rich man than a bloke man they both will cheat on you anyway so go for the rich
ReplyDeleteI learn so much from this blog walahi, from time memorial I avoid men that carry family problem for head like gala, I was entangled with one igbo man that he likes family wahala deputy savior of the world, he is igbo the second son but does practical every thing for them, he stays abroad and worst part him no go school and he is training some of them and his nephew, I sat down and advice my self, and when I ask him for any thing stories and promises, I have advise him to start online schooling at least get a degree bcos he seems intelligent, my advise went on deaf ears I talk tire, I had to end every thing straight up, person no dey see suffer enter am, I don't have strength for inlaws wahala.
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