Hailings.............
May the will of God concerning how your Monday should be not pass you by..........
WHO DROPPED THIS COMMENT?
I forgive you that i may also be forgiven...God bless you and prosper you more..
God bless and prosper all my haters so that they will be too busy counting their blessings and enjoying life to have time to curse me out...AMEN!!
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RE -CHRONICLE POSTER OF OCTOBER 31st
Dear Stella,
This is meant for the 31st October 2020 chronicle poster who aborted. I just want to share my experience with you and hope it helps. I read your post this morning. You can share it on the blog, it may help someone else dealing with the pain and guilt too but please keep me anonymous.
I aborted 2012 and I still think about the baby. He/she would have been 8 years old now. I didn't want to abort the pregnancy, in fact, I never knew I was capable of shedding blood not to mention the blood of my first child. So I understand the emotional and psychological pain you are passing through.
It took me years to forgive myself but I still think about it and wish I could erase that part of my history. This is a secret that nobody knows except me, my ex and God. I know God has forgiven me.
The pregnancy wasn't by choice, I was in 200 level and just 18 years old. He was my first boyfriend and serving in a different state. It was a long distance relationship. I wanted a long distance relationship so I could concentrate in school. Then one day he travelled to come and see me. I insisted he stayed in a hotel but he refused saying he can't lodge when I'm leaving in a self contain apartment. I trusted him and allowed him to stay that night but he raped me instead. The next morning he asked me to take postinor 2, I did but my system did not accept it and I threw up. I did not know I was supposed to retake the drug. He travelled back that morning and that was how I lost my virginity.
I was still trying to come to terms with that when I missed my period and a test confirmed I was pregnant. I was scared of my family and sad for disappointing them but I was ready to keep the pregnancy if he would support me.
Unfortunately, oga insisted I remove the pregnancy. He even used my family to blackmail me, telling me how disappointed my mum would be in me.
Well, I had to abort the pregnancy. I did D & C but I think it was not successful. It was a very painful procedure and I thought I would die. After the D & C, few days later the doctor gave me a drug to insert in my vaginal and my mouth. I don't know if the D and C was not successful but that one was painless and I bled for a few days and that was it.
I hated my ex after that and broke up with him. It took me over 3 years to forgive him. It was actually a conscious effort because i do not want to go to Hell. I have forgiven him but I have not forgotten.
This secret has been with me for 8 years and this is the first time I'm letting it out even though it's on a faceless blog. So I understand how you are feeling. The pain and guilt is beyond comprehension.
I never enjoyed sex after that encounter for many years, it felt as though I was being raped. I always felt tense during sex so I avoided it.
I'm getting married in a couple of weeks and I sometimes wish I could tell my fiancé but I know this is a secret I would take to the grave. We never discussed about my sex life and I hope we don't. He knows I'm not a promiscuous lady but a well behaved lady from a decent home. Maybe that's why he never asked. But if eventually he does, I intend telling him I lost my virginity out of curiosity and end the conversation there. Telling him about the rape would lead to more questions which might make me open up about the abortion too. So next time, learn to keep your mouth shut! it's not everything you tell.
I would have advised you postpone the wedding until after birthing the child and secretly carry out a DNA test to ascertain who the real father of the baby is, that way, you would still have a little respect and give the child to the real father. I actually do not blame your fiancé for calling off the wedding, because there are certain things men can not deal with. I know my fiancé will empathise with me if I share my secret with him, but I also know one day he could use it to insult me.
Human beings change, never trust a man so much as to tell him your secrets. And never tell anybody about this events including your female friends and your future husband.
I'm free from the guilt now, I have forgiven myself but I have not forgotten. Life has been fair to me and God has been very faithful to me. I am doing very well in my field.
My advice to you is to forgive yourself. The first step is believing that God has forgiven you. Whenever the devil brings it up to torment you, tell him God has forgiven you and the blood of Jesus has washed you clean. Also, accept your mistakes. I was shocked when I read you slept with 3 different men within a short frame of time and you feel your fiance is the father because your mind told you so. Please stop sleeping around, and if you must, love yourself enough to protect your self. Do not make your body a playground for every Tom, Dick and Harry.
Aside from pregnancy, there are worst things out there, even worst than HIV AIDS.
Get a career, grow your career, discipline your body and seek to acquire financial independence. I did it, other ladies are doing it and you can also do it.
May you find peace. Amen.
Thank you for sharing!!!
Get a career, grow your career, discipline your body and seek to acquire financial independence. I did it, other ladies are doing it and you can also do it.
May you find peace. Amen.
Thank you for sharing!!!
I don't even understand why will a man be asking you about your past when he is not telling you about his?Why would he make a big deal of that past when his is dirtier?Please women should stop this nonsense of talking about their past to new lovers...he does not need to know Jack!!!
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How to Disarm Oppositions and Get Anyone to Agree With You
Stella,
Recently, I made a comment on your blog and mentioned how a mad man taught me a little secret to disarm oppositions, interviewers, and to gain people's approval.
A number of your blog visitors asked me to share the secret, so I decided to write a note and hope the message is understood.
What the mad man taught me had evolved into a more advanced system on interpersonal skills, so please read in between the lines and if you feel it is okay to post it on your blog, please go ahead and make it public.
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How to Disarm Oppositions and Get Anyone to Agree With You
Human beings, generally, can be classified into two categories. The first category is made up of feelers. They are the majority.
The second category is made up of thinkers. They are not as many in the first category.
Feelers are not necessarily people who place emotions above reason; rather they are people who deliberately refuse to accept the need to think and accept responsibility for their actions.
If credit is deserved, feelers want it; but if blame or reprimand is deserved, somebody else must take it. So blame game is an integral character of feelers.
Thinkers, on the other hand, are not necessarily people who lack empathy; they are people who expect others to see the world through their own prism.
Most times, thinkers get themselves into trouble because they lack diplomacy in dealing with people in the other category. To thinkers, truth is truth, right is right, wrong is wrong, and error is error. Unfortunately this mindset is unacceptable in the world of Man.
A clear understanding of the message in this note can make one a superstar in any field of endeavor. The principle can be used in business, politics, ministry, relationship with the opposite sex, etc.
How to know if one is a thinker or feeler:
A very simple way is to choose between praise and criticism.
Feelers want praise, accolades, and appreciation. Hence the vast majority of humans are feelers.
Thinkers, on the other hand, are indifferent to PUBLIC praise, accolades, or appreciation. But what about criticism?
Some thinkers accept criticism as opportunities to grow and evolve while some reject it and thus end up in the public trash.
There are two primary ways to take advantage of this psychological make up of humans. One is for personal development and the other is for public image and dealings.
For personal development, one must deliberately push praises, accolades, and appreciation far from the mind and pay attention to dissents and criticism.
In dealing with people physically, a smile and accolades followed by truth or otherwise, as occasion demands will win people over.
Though the strategy may not work with thinkers who have evolved; it will nonetheless disarm oppositions. This is one of the keys to winning.
Adam, Samson, Saul, Solomon are examples of feelers in the Bible.
Weigh public reactions against the TRUTH and adjust your dealings accordingly..
The statement above presupposes that the reader is true to his or her own values.
Be careful of accolades to avoid falling into error.
FJoel
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How to Disarm Oppositions and Get Anyone to Agree With You
Stella,
Recently, I made a comment on your blog and mentioned how a mad man taught me a little secret to disarm oppositions, interviewers, and to gain people's approval.
A number of your blog visitors asked me to share the secret, so I decided to write a note and hope the message is understood.
What the mad man taught me had evolved into a more advanced system on interpersonal skills, so please read in between the lines and if you feel it is okay to post it on your blog, please go ahead and make it public.
__________
How to Disarm Oppositions and Get Anyone to Agree With You
Human beings, generally, can be classified into two categories. The first category is made up of feelers. They are the majority.
The second category is made up of thinkers. They are not as many in the first category.
Feelers are not necessarily people who place emotions above reason; rather they are people who deliberately refuse to accept the need to think and accept responsibility for their actions.
If credit is deserved, feelers want it; but if blame or reprimand is deserved, somebody else must take it. So blame game is an integral character of feelers.
Thinkers, on the other hand, are not necessarily people who lack empathy; they are people who expect others to see the world through their own prism.
Most times, thinkers get themselves into trouble because they lack diplomacy in dealing with people in the other category. To thinkers, truth is truth, right is right, wrong is wrong, and error is error. Unfortunately this mindset is unacceptable in the world of Man.
A clear understanding of the message in this note can make one a superstar in any field of endeavor. The principle can be used in business, politics, ministry, relationship with the opposite sex, etc.
How to know if one is a thinker or feeler:
A very simple way is to choose between praise and criticism.
Feelers want praise, accolades, and appreciation. Hence the vast majority of humans are feelers.
Thinkers, on the other hand, are indifferent to PUBLIC praise, accolades, or appreciation. But what about criticism?
Some thinkers accept criticism as opportunities to grow and evolve while some reject it and thus end up in the public trash.
There are two primary ways to take advantage of this psychological make up of humans. One is for personal development and the other is for public image and dealings.
For personal development, one must deliberately push praises, accolades, and appreciation far from the mind and pay attention to dissents and criticism.
In dealing with people physically, a smile and accolades followed by truth or otherwise, as occasion demands will win people over.
Though the strategy may not work with thinkers who have evolved; it will nonetheless disarm oppositions. This is one of the keys to winning.
Adam, Samson, Saul, Solomon are examples of feelers in the Bible.
Weigh public reactions against the TRUTH and adjust your dealings accordingly..
The statement above presupposes that the reader is true to his or her own values.
Be careful of accolades to avoid falling into error.
FJoel
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TESTIMONY OF THANKSGIVING
Hello Stella,
I trust you are doing good. I just want to share my testimony to encourage BVs especially those who believe in God and also the fact that your blog is a reference point to this testimony.
I have just qualified as a Chartered Accountant. This is a big deal because I first sat for the final level of the institute's exam in May 2019. Out of 5 papers I wrote I made 4. Sat again for the paper I failed in November 2019 and still wasn't successful. Long story short, I took it again in September and inspite of the preparations and sleepless nights, the paper didn't go as expected.
I came out feeling so sad and discouraged, then I went to see my church pastor because he had encouraged me prior to the exam and also told me to return with my testimony. When I got to his office, before I even opened my mouth to tell him my exam didn't go well, he just stood up from his seat and started congratulating me, he said I was now a Chartered accountant. That I should go and raise an altar of praise, twice a day for 30 mins each and declare whenever I finish praising that "father, I thank you for making me a Chartered Accountant".
I started praising God everyday like he counselled and kept making the declarations. Then Sharon Aminu shared the testimony of her conception and I started using it as a reference point to God whenever the devil wanted to plant the seed of doubt in my heart. I told him "God, you did it for Mrs. Sharon Aminu, i don't know her but I thank you for what you did in her life on the altar of praise, and because you did it for her, you will do mine". I also promised to testify if I passed my paper.
To the glory of God, i passed and have qualified. It was indeed the mercy of God because I know how the exam went. I thank God for your blog and just like Mrs. Sharon said the last time, God is a Blog Visitor.
I also want to use this opportunity to ask that anyone or organisation in need of an accountant or Finance officer should call for my CV. I have experience in audit and I know my job.
Thank you
Congratulations...
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You want to kill yourself?if your man is acting funny and wants to end the marriage,let him go if he is the one causing you this amount of stress but please DO NOT KILL YOURSELF...........
If you want a child so badly,adopt one until your Biological one comes.....
Dont lose FAITH in God.............
BV Sharon Aminu gave a testimony of how she conceived after she stopped worrying,she stopped running around and she just left it all for God and today she is mum to twins..RELAX and don't post such sad and frightening comment again please.
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BIRTHDAY GIVEAWAY
Dear Stella,
Today is my birthday and I would like to give out a custard bucket of rice to ANY bv who really needs it. The person must reside in Port Harcourt and he or she must bear the cost of waybill.
Contact is WhatsApp 08185737479
Thank you for all the motivations I get from the blog. Have a nice day.
From bv
Chittoncleaningservices PH
Happy birthday and thank you for reaching out to someone...Kisses!!!!
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IHN has landed. Good afternoon everyone.
ReplyDeleteFinally, I made it her today.
DeleteThe heat now is something else o. Stella I like that prayer wey u pray for haters o, thank God she has found peace with herself/himself. ..
Madam that wants to kill herself because of her husband is acting funny, weldone o. Shebi you don't have any other family to live for. So women who have stayed for 10-20years b4 birthing a child nko. Learn to love yourself and be at peace with your self too it is well with you.
Congratulations to the newest chartered accountant in town, more wins
God bless the givers.
DeleteSigning out meme is cool.
Men hardly tell ladies their secrets, so pray and confess to your Father in heaven.
Poster thank you for sharing ur experience.
DeleteAunty pls u dnt have to kill urself ok. Just stop worrying nd concentrate on urself. I pray that God will come through for you ok.
Good evening everyone,today has been a hectic day
DeleteHappy birthday to you Chittoncleaningservices God bless you
don’t do something permanently stupid just because you’re temporarily upset
ReplyDeleteForget what you feel and remember what you deserve.
Know your worth👌
GOOD AFTERNOON EVERYONE🤗
Where God will take you will blow your own mind! He will set you in high places
ReplyDeletefor His glory
If you can't eat jollof rice without stew on it then you have serious trust issues.😫😂😂
ReplyDeleteBobo put copied
DeletePlease house can someone please put me through on what black friday sales is all about?
ReplyDeleteI saw some notifications on facebook which is to be on the 6th of this month in relation to it. I heard things are always cheap.
I intend to get a small oven that I could use to do something with my life. I saw one For about 11k but I can't really ascertain how spacious the inside would be. You know how picture angle can deceive.
Please can someone through more light on it for me abeg.
Thanks
Black Friday simply is a half price slash of whatever is in stock. It's an end of the year sales (they want to sell out all goods so as to re-stock newly for the new year) Konga, jumia and other online stores do these sales.
DeleteSince it's an online buying, you cannot ascertain what you will get except you know how to differentiate by the sizes in length/meters and if at the end of the day you don't get the exact thing you ordered for (I mean in size or color) I don't know if there is a clause that says you can return for a change since it's a SALES.
However, it is best you read their terms and conditions to know "if" you can return it for a change incase of necessity.
I also remember some years back, I picked some items for Black Friday but I didn't get all the items delivered I only got some.
Good luck in your purchase.
I am venus, thank you very much. I saw the terms and conditions icon but didn't read it. I'll go check again
DeleteWhen I do online shopping, I look at the dimensions and the measure the space I want to put the item using a tape. I do this for rugs and most things that are not clothes.
DeleteE.g, I plan on getting an American fridge freezer during the sales, I checked the dimensions of the one I like and I have gone on to use a tape to measure the space it will go into and my old fridge freezer. I see little differences in size and it matches my interest. This way, I'm sure of what I'm buying.
For quality, I read reviews, especially the bad ones.
You may say, “My circumstances don’t look like I am favored.” Stop looking at your circumstances and start looking at the God who controls the circumstances. - Pastor John Hagee
ReplyDeleteHolla guys👋
ReplyDelete@Isaac dear pls avoid me oh🙄🥴
@Tbabe my love ❣️😍 happy birthday to your twinnies🥳🎉🎊💃🏼 God bless and prosper them
@Pretty Patience congratulations for the arrival of your nephew 💙💙💚 God bless the new born🙏
@Betty O happy anniversary dear🎉🎊💃🏼🥳 God bless you and yours,next year by this time we will celebrate with you for your bundle of joy in Jesus name Amen 🙏🙏
Ciao💋💋
Thanks Paris
DeleteAmen
Paris my love🥰😘 if i avoid you wetin i gain?😁🤗
DeleteGood afternoon dear, have a lovely day🤗
Amen.Thanks boo boo.
DeleteIt's a money making Monday and hope y'all are doing exploits wherever you are at? Good afternoon to y'all that keep it 100% on this blog and not the bad belles that feel threatened unnecessarily.😂🤣😹 IHN rocks...
ReplyDeleteHi IHN😘💝💜💙❤💖💞💛.Enjoy the rest of the day.
ReplyDeleteAMEN to your prayers Stellz.
ReplyDeleteHappy birthday Chitton🎂🍻🍾
ReplyDeleteGod bless your new age..
Welcome back @ Candy and your healing is permanent in Jesus name. Amen..
Happy birthday to your twins @ Tbabe🎂🎂🍻🍾🍾
God bless them real good..
Happy birthday to all the celebrants in the house🎂🎂🎂🎂🍻🍻🍾🍾🍾🍾.
Good Afternoon Ndi Oma😍😍😍
The sun is three & half much here😭😭😭😭😭
Ngwanu bye✌✌✌
Thanks SM darling😘😘😘
DeleteAmen.Thanks sweetie.
DeleteIt's Monday IHN
ReplyDelete#ENDBADGOVERNANCE
Call me 🤙
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ReplyDeleteBored ooo
Ihn is here some one go don tear pant and bra for this...Stella I miss those crazy bvs emjay,German juice etc
ReplyDeleteEmjay I trust u r fine,miss u
DeleteHi🙌🙌 all.
ReplyDeleteKeep being safe out there.
For the birthday wishes on US,we appreciate you all. May God bless you and give you a course to rejoice always.
From the twin boys,Kelvin & Melvin.
Happy birthday to your twinnies Boo🎉🎊🥳 God bless and keep them🙏
DeleteHappy birthday bv Chitton. My boys star mate.
DeleteMay God bless your new age dear💋💋
God bless them too
DeleteMay God bless, and keep them. Amen.
DeleteHappy birthday to the boys.
DeleteParis,Patience,Candy & ms tee,thank you sooo much.
DeleteGod bless you guys real good🤗🤗🤗
Poster with the testimony of thanksgiving,I thank God for you.
ReplyDeleteI think I'm going to copy this your manual too. Thanks for sharing
It's not eating stockfish that is the problem but picking the teeth with toothpick after is the problem
ReplyDeleteParis Savannah
Mtcheeewwwww 😏😏😏 don't go and get your own 🆔 imposter! Na you go taya las las! Long hiss
Delete😂🤣@Paris Savannah,wetin dey occur?
Delete@Paris I think the person is admiring you lolzzz. We have some mischievous people here
DeleteOle id I can't deal..will u pipu not get your own ID haba namikots
Delete@Phoenix very mischievous I tell you,is this how to admire someone? Na wah oh! Same line the imposter dropped last week
DeleteParis boo boo,abeg forgive am ya.. abeg
DeleteGood day Stella, I hope you’re safe.. I saw a recent video of MC Oluomo and I couldn’t help but wonder what pushed Ehi to him...😳😳😳.. ladies please be content with what you have so you don’t have to sleep with just anything for money!!! 🤮 🤮🤮🤮
ReplyDeleteTrue love maybe 🤷
DeleteI was startled myself cos she obviously settled for less.😤🥺
DeleteI was shocked too. He has a bad leg, Ehi is really trying
DeleteLove is in the eyes of the beholder and she is the beholder. Sometimes it is not about how a person looks but how that person treats you.
DeleteHappy birthday Chittoncleaningservices.May God bless and protect you.
ReplyDeleteGod has been so good to me.
ReplyDeleteGood afternoon Blog visitors.
His blessings shall remain permanent in your life. Amen.
Delete💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽Happy for you dearie
DeleteMay your joy be full too.
DeleteMay your joy be full too.
DeleteThanks for sharing that recovery after abortion. I have never seen a lady that did not feel that strangulating guilt after taking an innocent life in the womb.
ReplyDeleteI also read about the second lady that is contemplating killing herself after 2 years of no conception. That is not the solution. You need to take time to find Christ and live your life in him.
I also think that the lady that survived rape and abortion should take this to heart. Supposing you do not conceive, years after marriage? Supposing that hospital tests show that your womb was damaged by the D&C?
Don't you think that if your husband finds out any other way without your telling him, it will become a more dicey situation for you. Think about this mantra of "taking secrets to your grave." Most times, the secrets either weigh you down or burst before reaching the grave. Cheers.
Good afternoon bvs.
ReplyDeleteSo I went back to FOIHN to check this "adivincci" Holly Molly 😭😭 I felt like slapping myself for even engaging that little boy in the first place😩 social media truly be giving y'all edges I kid you not! Adivincci how can you look that and still have a disgusting character smh it is well.
ReplyDeleteYou have a more disgusting character. Social media be giving people edge,yen yen yen.Even if you are so rich or so fine or both,so what? You need serious help.go see a shrink if you have the money,you need it. This is from someone who saw your post from yesterday,not the adivincci
DeleteLmao. I didn't know i had a partner in crime o! I not only viewed his pictures but googled 2015 posts on Eesah. I read comments on his Hello cover challenge and Ooni of Ife's coronation. I laughed non stop yesterday. All I'll say is, may God have mercy "upon" us.
Delete😂🤣😹 @Anonymous,you have said it all and bless up.His or hers is a life that's useless and fucking miserable so ama treat him/her like some dingy piece of shit trust me.E pain am!
Delete14:36 since yesterday you did carry over tell me Haney who's got issues? I wasn't even talking to you! Again I ask,who needs to see a shrink? Smh
DeleteAmen @ Cassie a big amen my love.
Who's Cassie? A nobody that's trying to use me to get attention i guess.😂🤣😹 Get a huge grip or you sure will be struck by thunder.Onura!
DeleteYou fucking need a shrink with your lowlife and clout chasing dunderhead of a friend called Cassie.Stay off of my back cos you are insignificant to me.#Peaceout
DeleteYou are not different from Adviccin madam Gwagon.
DeleteI senior you in all ramifications but still ignore your comments.
Don't be a hypocrite
Buhahahaha like I said social media be giving y'all edges see who is talking lowlife? You tattered thing in a dirty compound looking miserable and malnourished you dare!!! You are already smitten by that thunderstorm that's why you are horrible! Imp.
DeleteDon't mind the hypocritical dolt,@Dietitiannezz.He or she go dey alright las las
DeletePicture(G Wagon), I referred to yesterday because it was the same ugly character you displayed there. Your blog ID made me think of you as one who had real beauty and class but nay I was wrong. Change is constant,I hope you do change.
Delete@Adivincci, you too should change. You've got role models here like Martinsaboy to emulate. Nobody really likes people who are full of negativities and I see a lot of it in your replies here
16:29 keep your stupid advise you bloody hypocrite the same thing you are correcting of is the exact same thing you are doing on here in your comments! My goodness is it that people do not think? You don't read what you write then comprehend it to see that it's same thing you are saying about me is what you are doing? " My blog ID blah blah" you little busu a thousand years you can never come close to me it's not bragging it's facts! Why do you I'm pained because I engaged that thing? It's because he could never come close! You both! Never!
DeleteNezz did you ignore my comments now? Act your age it's a shame for one who claims to be a senior and think he/she is wise only to be corrected by a junior I remember when you start beefing you made a silly insensitive comment I replied you now we are here! Smh you think teaming up will help you? You are old I hope you age in wisdom.
😂🤣😹😹😹😹😹😹😹🤣🤣🤣🤣 E pain am! Thanks @Anonymous and of course,i sure will work on what you have said cos i react to call outs swiftly in most cases.
DeleteNB:I don't take absolute poo that stinks from nobody and i will clap back at you big time.Sentimental peeps that attack me cos i am highly opinionated,i think it be nice you rest cos it's not possible for you to stop my freedom of speech.Thanks!
Gwagon,go and read or study the word "ramifications" mgbeke feeling funky!!!! I know your type,frustration overload is what is your problem.
DeleteDietitian Nezz!!!
I'm done with you rats.
DeleteLMAO G Wagon, your first comment cracked me up walahi.😂😂😂😂😂
DeleteYou above me should shift with your attention seeking tactics cos you are so not worth the stress.I am so done with the brainless dunce.😂🤣😹 10k mama that ass lick the heck outta people,swerve..
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DeleteMonday IHN present ✌️ good afternoon blogfam.
ReplyDeleteCongrats to the newest chartered accountant in town.
Happy birthday Chitton🎈
Sign out meme is so correct: garbage in garbage out.
Enjoy the rest of your day blogfam.
Thank you
DeleteThe pain TTC women go through can only be imagined. Would never wish that on my worst enemy.
ReplyDeletePoster, I pray your story changes today and that u will come testify real soon. Don't give up
Good afternoon everyone.
ReplyDeleteIt's a beautiful Monday afternoon,thank God for his mercies and faithfulness.
What a great testimony, congratulations to you,more success.
The bv complaining about child/Ren issue, please calm down and don't harm yourself with useless thoughts, Remember worry doesn't solve anything, you need to be calm and realize that God's time is the best,at the appointed time, you will carry your children, hold on, be hopeful and strong 💪💪,God is still God
I know a lady that was gangraped by robbers, got pregnant, aborted and kept all in her heart. She had issues with relationships afterward due to self pity and shame. It affected her sex life in marriage. She noticed that her husband was distant and acted weird after their first night of sex. He began to give excuses for intercourse avoidance. Finally, he had to ask and she confessed to what happened ten years before they got married. The man wondered why she had to lie if she was actually a victim of rape like she "claimed." He found it difficult to trust her again. Do you know that that marriage did not outlast the first year?
ReplyDeleteAnd the lady had a baby as a divorced woman?
Sometimes a simple telling of the truth is the best. You were a victim of rape for goodness sake. The shame should belong to the rapist.
😩 that's so sad.
DeleteThe husband is an extremely wicked man.
DeleteExtremely.
Is it easy to talk about rape?
Is it that men cant confess about their past to their women ? Some of these men have dirtier past. Who are the rapist? Majority are men.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
@16:25
DeleteSee, a victim of rape is not "dirty" as you allege. There is nothing, absolutely nothing dirty about surviving rape.
The dirty one is the foolish/wicked man that raped her. So, yes, the rape victims should actually speak up, especially to
a significant other, about their horrible experiences. It is better if the person (of dishonor) takes an earlier walk than
any other scenario.
If she didn't own up she may still be married. I think the divorce is because she told him. Many men can't seem to stomach rape even when it is not the woman's fault. The trust ish was just an excuse because if he wanted to fix things, he could have.
DeleteIn-house news inside sdk community on Monday, welcome
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ReplyDeleteGood afternoon BVs!
ReplyDeleteHappy birthday Chitton, God bless your kind heart.
To those who celebrated with me this morning, God bless you all. I truely appreciate
Congratulations dear
DeleteThanks SM baby
DeletePP
Hmmm... Insulting someone just to feel good?
ReplyDeleteSome people are just wired!
Happy New month to us all.
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Good afternoon BVs!
ReplyDeleteHappy birthday Chitton, God bless your kind heart.
To those who celebrated with me this morning, God bless you all. I truely appreciate
Ihn don land..hbd to u chito nwa ne.
ReplyDeleteThank you to the writer of the post on how to disarm opposition and get anyone to agree with you. I got value there
ReplyDeleteThe BV that is TTCing, sis just calm down. Take some breath and draw faith from BV Sharon's testimony. Did you read the story of the person that is now a chartered accountant? See I am single,34,living with my parents. It's a bad combination,shebi? But you know what? After you have prayed,you must then praise and then you have patience.Be thankful for all the blessings you already have and still thank Him for the ones you are expecting.While you are doing that don't forget to enjoy life while you can. Take yourself out and eat some fish or sharwama,whatever,from time to time because the time is coming when you would barely get 5hours sleep each night,you and your hubby will be 'racking' brain on how to pay school fees and all other expenses for the kids. You don't want your testimony to others to be that you spent all that time worrying,do you? God has got you. Just believe.You will carry your babies in Jesus name,amen.
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DeleteTTC Bv please try to loosen up. Your attitude could be contributing to your condition and annoying your husband. Don't get me wrong, I know your ish is serious but your attitude is not helping. You threaten us or who to commit suicide? If you kill yourself life continues. Why not hold on to God and try to have peace which could help your system. Go and read Mrs Aminu testimony again to encourage yourself and start confessing positively about your baby. Also focus on other things and people and be blessed. By God's grace you will come here to testify. Just try to be grateful for what you do have and thank God for what he will do. You are still way better than a lot of people.
DeleteGood afternoon everyone...Anonymous Thank God you have repented, Heaven has gained another soul...The essay of How to disarm your opposition; it is very apt and very well put thank you...
ReplyDeleteCongratulations to our latest ACCA chassis chartered accountant there is power in praise and your pastor set you on the right path..Congratulations dear.
Anonymous 8:15 I want you to do something...If you know someone who is believing God for the fruit of the womb..You guys should do AGREEMENT prayers and choose an appropriate time and just start praising God ''Don't ask him for anything'' just praise if possible do your own hallelujah challenge...Be cheerful, smile a lot.. When you are making love to your husband enjoy it and be cheerful...If you keep worrying, her hormones will be on high drive and conception will not take place..Read your bible, use Mrs Sharon as a point of contact..God no dey sleep oh my dear.
Chitton dear I wish you a very happy birthday and God bless your hands and he will continue to provide for you and your household. God will also prosper your business Amen...
Good one Phoenix 👌👌
Delete@Chitton, Happy Birthday dearie, God bless your new age🥰
Thank you @Essa and @Phoenix
DeleteHot afternoon here.
ReplyDeleteBv that just got chartered, congratulations.
Bv that is depressed, please hang in there. Your miracle is here.
Happy Birthday Chitton. God bless you.
ReplyDelete@Tbabe Happy Birthday to your twins. God bless them.
Congratulations on your testimony about your ICAN exam.
Going to conceive BV, be joyful and don't lose hope... Your change is here.
Amen.Thanks sweetie.
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ReplyDeleteGood afternoon my lovely bvs..ma'am Stella good afternoon to u..I admire ur forgiving spirit.
Blog PA welcome back and I pray sickness is far from u IJN.
Happy birthday to those celebrating..wishing u everlasting joy.
Bv that's ttcing..stay calm cos ur miracle is here.
Candy baby thank God for restoring ur health,it is permanent IJN.
Enjoy the rest of your day lovely bvs..e go be ✌️
Hiyaaa Osundi dearie. 🤗🤗🤗. Thanks so much, and AMEN.
DeleteStella please post now. It's urgent.
ReplyDeletePlease bvs help me.
I want to move to ikorodu. Do you know any safe estate which is not far from the bus stop? Thanks. I am planning to rent a self contain or mini flat.
To the lady that lost two pregnancies, calm down please. Be calming down. Are you aware there are some women who have their wombs removed on account of fibroids? Are you aware there are women 15 years in marriage without a child with multiple miscarriages and hopes fading on account if age and no money for IVF or adoption? Are you aware there are women with failed multiple IVFs? Are you in the know there are women living in their husband's family house without a child and are 10 years in marriage? With all the pressure, they are soldiering on?
ReplyDeleteThe truth is if you kill yourself, you will have no single sympathizer. None. Those pressuring you will still call you names. From the other side, you will see your husband sampling ladies before settling with one. From the other side, you will see the things you hold dear, your secrets being used to correct mistakes and live life.
You're even married. Some of your mates are not and will not. Some have died. You even have a phone to write this. Do you know some people are still using that 'touch' phone?
They rate you're going, do not cause God. Calm down please. Some of the stories you read on this blog are from from known BVs that went anonymous and they are real life stories. Your case is even better than some people's yet the are hanging in there.
If suicide was an option, some of us would not have seen this decade. True. Why give up? Quiting is not an option. Never.
Calm down, please. You will triumph. I tell you. You will.
Good luck.
God bless you greatly Baltika...TTC poster, pls read this☝ wella. God will answer you in no time
DeleteYou said it all Baltika
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ReplyDeleteTo the TTC lady, you are not alone. I have been on this journey for nine years and I know it will end in praise someday. So, cheer up
ReplyDeleteHey kiks-bal,you will carry your baby by this time next year in Jesus name!
DeleteKiks! You have faith and God will not let you down Sis! I waited for 10 years, I got pregnant 2 months before my 10 th anniversary. God has wiped away all my tears! He has put a song in mouth. He blessed with a very handsome boy, he that remembered me and blessed me will surely do yours for you. Just keep thanking him. You will carry your babies by the special grace of God. Poster, who is contemplating suicide, God is not asleep! Do not lose hope. He will bless you with your babies in due season, it is only the living that can have a child. Be of good cheer Sis!
DeleteIt will surely end in praise dear😊
DeleteGood afternoon moi pipo! How we dey?
ReplyDeleteGood afternoon bvs.
ReplyDeleteHappy birthday @chitton God bless your new age.
For the TTC woman God has heard your cry you are already blessed.Relax you must surely testify.
Why are some men so heartless and wicked, even to your own child?while some people are looking for children even if its one,you have one and you totally abandoned him. Ladies please, close your legs until marriage,men will disgrace you.God please come to my aid,strengthen me Father and give me the grace to overcome this trying times.
ReplyDeleteGod will see you through. It is well.
DeleteIts well with you dear 🤗🤗🤗
DeleteTTC poster pls keep hope alive. You will have your children soon. Some ttced for 10yrs before God answered them and they didn't kill themselves. I pray yours would not be long like that. Pls go to a specialist let them check what is causing the miscarriages. Baby dust to you ma'am.
ReplyDeleteT babe, happy birthday to your twins. God bless and keep them in good health and peace in Jesus name. Congratulations.
ReplyDeleteAmen. Thanks Mimi love
DeleteCongratulations to the latest Chartered Accountant.
ReplyDeleteGod will give everyone of us testimony/testimonies this month in Jesus mighty name Amen.
Stella, I'm the one who wrote that comment apologizing. Thank you for forgiving me and not holding it against me. I'll do my best to be a better person. I don't want to fail God anymore, especially after everything He has been doing for me in my life. Thank you again for accepting my apology. May God bless you, increase you, show you mercy like you have shown to me and grant all the secret desires of your heart according to His perfect will. Have a blessed day.
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ReplyDeleteSo mercy got married and it's not ike
SDK was right all along abi na movie
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Aunty that want to kill herself because of horseband funny behavior,shebi your life begins and ends with husband? For your information, no man gives you 100% happiness. Your happiness lies in your hand. I am also married for two years with a son but my husband is emotionally absent. Infact,since I gave birth late last year, he's acting like I don't exist anymore and it's not as if we're having any issues. Did I die? No!. Am I worried? Yes sometimes, but that won't make me hurt myself because of a mere mortal that have no stake over my life. Sister, giving a man a child does not guarantee your happiness with a man. There are those battling infertility for years and there husbands still stand beside them no matter what. If you die today, it won't take him up to three months before he would gladly replace you. Better make yourself happy and see what God has in stock for you. On a lighter note, this is my first time of commenting here after being a silent visitor for over 5 years.your post touched me. I greet you madam stella
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ReplyDeleteHappy new month 💃💃💃💃
Congratulations to the Grand chartered accountant who received mercy.. the TTC bv put all your trust in God he is a faithful father who never fails.. may God continue to bless the givers on this blog.
ReplyDeleteTo the TTC lady who is contemplating suicide, hang in there my sister, I am also on this journey, my marriage will be 5 years on 23rd of this month and I am still trusting and believing that God will answer me and others in this journey, please don't kill yourself because you are yet to have a child or because your husband wants to leave, you are precious to God and your family and your testimony will someday encourage others.
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