STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
PRAYING FOR A HUSBAND
I am single and seriously want to get married as I am already above 30. I kept praying to God to destroy and scatter anything preventing my husband from finding me. Omo, my ex who married someone else on the insistence of his family ( he started fighting for us and I discouraged him, told him he needs his family in the long run and he can't fight them because of me), we broke up peacefully and he went ahead and married someone they chose (Long story).
He came back and told me he is filing for divorce and can no longer stand his wife. I asked if he is doing it because of me, he said no but for his peace of mind.
I asked him why he contacted me and told me, he said because I am the only person that have given him genuine advice that has profited him.
Well, I told him to go back and work on his marriage for the sake of his guys, (that's what they tell African women), told him he made his bed, and should continue lying on it for the rest of his life. He has resumed sending me gifts like I'm still his woman and I have been sending his gifts back, I can afford to buy myself gifts.
I forgot to mention that the marriage is barely 3 years. People marry your friends o, e get why.
Anyway, dear God, I don't want a second hand or fairly used, please give me my own. BVs, please help me with prayer point and also pray with me, I am not that bad to still be unmarried till now, my only crime is being an introvert. I work Monday-friday, rest/cook on Saturdays and go to church on Sundays.
`*There are prayer points if one needs a husband?Ah,i didn't know oh....As for your ex,you should only advice based on the true story of things,you didn't ask and you are telling him to stay and work it out.
let me sit back and read those prayers points that will shared with you and cant wait to see if there are Bible verses that pray for husbands or wives.
Your desperation for marriage will land you to hell, we should pray for u as what, go and meet your pastor for prayers since u are too lazy to pray for yourself, how is your personal problem our business, common gerarahere
ReplyDeleteWhere have you been Angelray?
DeleteEasy o.
DeletePoster... Remove your mind from it, mingle but close legs like a mermaid, your husband will come.
Auntie why are you this bitter?? Bitterleaf Cynthia Well in SDK Blog, we pray for each other... Welcome ooo
DeleteAngelray pls change ur name to demonray. U re so bitter!!!! Damn it!
DeletePoster, if you're truly not interested in your ex, why are you still in contact with him? I bet you're indirectly happy that he's having issues in his marriage., You better stop getting giddy and avoid that guy!
ReplyDeleteI pray God Almighty in His infinite mercy, look upon you with mercy, forgive you your sins and grant you all your positive heart desires.
The man that God created to be your husband will locate you in Jesus Christ name.
I hope when the man comes, you will recognise him?! I pray that God show you signs and open your spiritual eyes.
You desire marriage and God will make it happen
My thoughts exactly! She's super excited his marriage has crashed. Wicked girl! Poster, you stylishly want to hear our opinions on getting back to your ex but used prayer points for a husband as disguise.
DeleteIf you don't geddifok!!!!
You are on point Shooter Gyal!
DeleteThe way you some of you judge people on this blog, one would wonder why your lives aren't perfect. I didn't read where she stated that she was happy her ex's marriage broke off, But as usual Ms. A, You have already concluded, Madam the way you got a shot after your divorce with another man , is the same way the man is shooting his shot at her, abi is it crime for a divorcee to find love again irrespective of who they seek that love from? .
Delete@shootergyal you are so fucking bitter, you think every one is an opportunist like you.The poster has placed a lot of value in the guy's
life, that's why he's coming back to her. Do the same to the men you date or dated, and they will never forget you easily. If I hear pim from you again. Ode buruku.
As for you poster, if you still love that man, pray over it and give it a shot, and if you don't move on and pray harder, your man would locate you. Don't mind all these bitterleaf people on this blog. Them no reach abeg.
P. S, I'm not the poster. You both are free to spill the trash from your mouth. #Scorpion.
Stella pls post.
@Shooter Gyal, @Ms. A, you too spoke my mind. She is indirectly asking us if she should go back to her ex, but she tried to put it in a very cunning way. We can decode her methods.
DeleteAnon 17:11 you need to be calming down. Are u going thru a similar situation? Not every man that comes back is coming back because you added value to his life o. Some are just coming back because they want to gbensh something that they have gbensh with easy access before. Others come back out of boredom and to hang on to you as an option or to see if you can massage their ego. That why some exes will be doing off n on, going n coming while shopping for the woman of their dreams. Doesn't necessarily mean they want you back. Just means ur allowing them. If life has not taught u that by now then u must be young/inexperienced. Few men do come back because they made a mistake n that just may be Poster's scenario but she needs to watch first while keeping her legs closed not believing that the man will divorce his wife until she sees evidence
Delete@Anonymous 17:11, If she doesn't want to have anything to do with him why does she entertain his calls? She should block him on all are social media and move on with her life. There is no point including him in her chronicle.
DeleteHer chronicle should simply be about how a single 30 year old introvert who is seriously looking to get married can meet suitors. Nothing should be mentioned about a divorced ex who she doesn't want to have anything to do with.
Anonymous 17:11, I see where all the bile and hatred is coming from, but, God pass you!!
DeleteDem wan die for my matter
Funny chronicle, let me finish laughing 😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteYou’ll meet your husband in the kitchen on Saturday...
ReplyDelete30+ and you’re not going out to meet variety of characters???
P.s I’m single n searching
Don’t call my business line.. my PA will block you
Honestly. The best thing to avoid being desperate while single is meeting a variety of guys weighing them against each other n then narrow them down by how serious they are and how many of your standards they meet up to. Poster I know it may be hard but u need to use those Saturdays and mix. If u don't have friends there are a lot of mixers and events advertised on social media where u can go and mix and meet people. Make sure u look your best, check your weight and dress sense.(annoying but men are shallow and the dating pool is competitive) if u don't know how to do makeup invest in a weekend class. Seriously no time to waste time esp as a single lady in Lagos. The best is to have prospects groveling at your feet. That way If one or 2 mess up you can replace. I literally don't stress over any man once they start slacking cus God has a way of bringing new ones in my life. That was how this guy I liked so much was pulling back. I didnt chase. I just demoted him in my mind n gave another guy that was toasting me a chance n went on a date. U won't believe that my crush happened to be at the same place. It was then he started sitting up and showing interest n we are engaged to be married now. Men have to feel u are desirable to want to be around you and a man won't even know you are desirable If you are laid up every weekend in your house, tying scarf, eating,cooking and sleeping. Try to go out and meet people more. Go n be seen
DeleteIt's well poster. Your God given husband will locate you.
ReplyDeleteDear poster, this situation is quite dicey. I am of the opinion that you shouldn't go back to him cos he still have same family that was against you guys settling down together. Anyway, you are an adult, kindly make any decision that you can live with the consequences.
ReplyDeleteI think she can still be taking to him and keep her options open for now. She can use that time to study if he truly wants her or if he is back for sex. Oh yes poster pls close your leg. Some men come back just for knacks
DeleteGod will surely answer your prayers, read Isaiah 34:16.Your husband will locate you but are you ready ?I mean emotionally, spiritually, mentally ,etc That you are over 30 does not mean you are ready for marriage o, think well. What kind of a person are you? What kind of man do you want for a husband(write the qualities you want down)Which areas of your life or character do you need to work on? Attend singles summit, seminars and programmes to learn ,read books on marriage Pastor Faith Oyedepo, Late Pastor Bimbo Odukoya' s books, be more outgoing and social too because when God will answer your prayers, he won't just drop the man on your laps while at home. Be happy, dress well and enjoy your spinsterhood while the offer last. All the best.
ReplyDeleteMadam, some people have their destiny or a particular desire on pause, because mother nature have something for them, it will Scatter someone's marriage, because she has someone for them, or a particular business will be stagnant, all because the universe wants them to tow another line. In essence, what I'm saying is this, your ex could be your soul mate, so be there looking for first hand husband inugo.
ReplyDeleteIt is never God's will for his daughter to marry another woman's husband. Please stop that nonsense.
DeleteGod bless you. I believe God has a way of moving mountains to fulfill destiny. Destiny can only be delayed but it can never be derailed. For all poster knows this her ex may be the one. But I don't think she should give her all to him before he fully divorces his wife and proves his worth to her. My 2 cents. Me I will keep him as option and be enjoying his gifts
Delete@15:15 no no no. I disagree! What happens to fighting for their love when they were still dating??? She did not fight for her love and she even encouraged him to end the relationship. So No he is no longer her husband as long as current wife is still alive! Poster go out and date! Leave food alone and figure out your next relationship. A single man
DeleteAnon 15:55 stuff happens. If God can allow someone to snatch someone's boyfriend and marry him. Then he definitely would be okay allowing a couple that he didn't intend for marriage to divorce so that their intended partners can marry them. Fear made poster avoid marrying the guy . Sometimes fear makes us delay God's intention n plans for us
DeleteAnon 15:55 what if the woman he married is not God's intended wife for him. The fact that he married another woman doesn't mean that is who God wills him to marry. Ijs
DeleteStella of course there are prayers for seeking a spouse.
ReplyDelete*May you not marry someone that will thwart your destiny
*May your marriage lead you to heaven and not hell
*Let there be a speedy connection to whoever will be your spouse
*Yoke of late marriage etc be broken
*Every force that's always making you to attract the wrong set if persons be destroyed
*May you bring favour to your spouse
*Disappointment at the edge of breakthrough be destroyed
Etc
👍 nice one
DeletePlease come for Shiloh 2020. It's starting next week Tuesday. I will be fasting throughout mine and coming with an expectant heart. Try this and see God in action. You don't necessarily need to be in canaanland,you can just go to any viewing centers around you and engage violently
ReplyDeleteAs if I was the one that wrote this chronicle,35 and still hoping to get married, he should intensify his search and find me Biko, I'm introvert too. Can't wait to see my cute babies
ReplyDeleteY'all introverts are the cause of your problems. Will you die if you socialize? Borites! 🙄
Deleteshooter gyal you obviously dont think before you type. also you are not intelligent. very daft but always rushing to criticize. being introverted is a character type and not what they choose to be. they just need to learn to maximize the traits. stop saying they are they cause of their problems like they choose to be introverts..
DeleteYour own will find you soon sis.
ReplyDeletePoster, I wonder if Omo your ex that you ended it with was your answer to prayer but you refused him because of his family...?
ReplyDeleteFor this cause shall a man leave his mother and father and cleave to his wife. That's what the bible says. Once you become his wife, you become his main family and his primary support system. Such a shame. I have seen friends make the bold decision by faith and with lots of prayer to go ahead to marry when their family members have been disapproving and God has been merciful to them and it has worked out.
It seems like Omo saw what you didnt and you have sent him to a marriage he never wanted and is ready to end. It's a real shame, but he too should have independently made his own decision on the matter.
Anyways, you are where you are now, I pray God will answer your call and give you the husband you desire, I pray it will happen soon, but you may be waiting for awhile, God's timing is not our own.
In the meantime, while you're waiting, be as productive as possible in work, giving, serving and being kind to others. Showing kindness actually opens doors when you least expect it. I pray it opens doors of answered prayer unto you.
Blessings!
Prayer point fa...kikikikikiki.. Set awon marriage is an achievement. Anyways... *side eyes* May God grant you your heart desires o.
ReplyDeleteAll of us introverts God will help us. Give him space. All this jumping in and jumping out he’s doing is not healthy. If he wants to divorce leave him, don’t put mouth. Even after his divorce still free him. Look for your man. It doesn’t have to be him
ReplyDeleteHe ain't getting divorced.
ReplyDeleteAs in! He just wants to continue chopping your ponyor. May God direct your husband to locate you in Jesus name
DeleteLol today own na helele me sef want learn and teach person. Reading comments today!
ReplyDeleteYou go fear prayer points.
ReplyDeleteSay father, give me the grace to block my ex so that we both can move on and my own man will locate me. Amen
Stella's single and mingle is coming up, try your luck OK.
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile take it easy OK and continue praying with specifics o
Poster I join my faith with you as well..I am happy you are doing the right thing...Just hold on it will happen, instead of wallowing in thoughts why not strengthen your relationship with God, just be yourself, be outgoing..I am an introvert like you but you must break that cycle..There is one thing I believe love finds you when you are not urgently searching..It will happen dear be rest assured, your man will locate you..If you think that man will still be distracting you then strategize on how to cut him off so you can focus..E-hugs and all the best
ReplyDeletePoster just be yourself.
ReplyDeleteDress well, look nice and well groomed. Don't beat yourself over your age. Ur husband is close by.
You just like moi then. Hardly go out, work week days. Met my hubby in the church.
All the best dear.
Another chronic introvert here, mine had been watching me come back from work for months till he summoned the courage to approach me.
DeleteJust be yourself truly, be nice to people and well groomed. Avoid all those marriage advisers and prayer warriors, just believe that in your own good time, it will work out for you.
Same here oooo
ReplyDeleteNo social life at all
I pray God in His infinity mercy will have mercy on us singles.....
Is God going to send the husband to your house? Where will he find you when you don’t have a social life.
ReplyDeleteMaybe he will be the delivery man, plumber, electrician. Why can't God send a man director her doorstep, it's not impossible😁
DeletePoster, pls avoid that ex, block him if possible. I am 40, single and also an introvert. I don pray tire, MFM type, na to make myself visible for people to see me be my next plan of action. I even joined some online dating pages on IG. Try to go out more and mingle
ReplyDeleteYou don't sound like you are mingling yourself. Why you hiding in the church, behind the computer and claiming to be an introvert. You are like a turtle hiding, why? You are 40 now set yourself free and drop all these labels you added to yourself. Set yourself free! Go drink the wine, wear the miniskirt, get out on the dance floor and tear it up. Enjoy your life!
DeleteAnon 18:38 God bless you. On the other side of fear are your wildest dreams and desires
Deleteyou can mingle without going wild. comport yourself as a christian. you are doing well with the prayers and dont stop but in praying what is God saying? is it to be patient? is there a reason? some peoples delay are spiritual and God sometimes reveal why or who has held them captive...sometimes it is just to change a habit of yours, change circle of friends etc.. yes so while you go out and mingle be sensitive to the spirit so you dont fall into the hands of wicked men. they will make you drink wine, take you dancing, fuck you and leave you hanging and wasting more time.
DeleteLord in your mercy hear this poster prayer. Avoid your ex, he is married unless you want to be second wife.
ReplyDeleteI also belong to this group.Lord have mercy and settle maritally.
ReplyDeletehe started fighting for us and I discouraged him, told him he needs his family in the long run and he can't fight them because of me-- He loved you enough to fight his his family but you discouraged him for reasons best known to you. I bet you needed excuses to leave the relationship at some point.
ReplyDeletetold him he made his bed, and should continue lying on it for the rest of his life....... Really? You stopped him from fighting for what he believed in. Years after you are blaming him and calling him a second hand.
People like you don't deserve what's good. Hopefully, the next guy will work out on you when he realises you are not worth fighting for.
Don't come under my comment to commit trash, l will for the first time go out of my way to insult you
i dont even know what to say......she even said "people marry your friends o"
Deleteit's like she is blaming him for the break up, even though she is the one that ended things
All is i see here is gloating and lack of personal responsibility and accountability
Apt 👌🏽
DeletePoster I don’t understand you sha. You’re just going back and forth, no sense of responsibility. Seems like you don’t want to make any decision by yourself so that if it doesn’t work, you can find someone else to blame. Shebi the poor man wanted to marry his friend and you chased him away now you’re coming here to talk wetin dey run like motor
If you want this your ex after he gets divorced, you better marry him after weighing your options. If not, you sit in your house and wait for God to send you another. However, rest assured that what ever decision you take has its own merits and demerits
Poster, don't go back to him no matter what. The family people that didn't allow him to marry you initially will still he against you, thinking that you are the one that broke the marriage they "anointed".
ReplyDeleteThere is no special prayer point for marriage, God knows your heart desire, He will bring it to pass in His time.
Hmmmmm, I will be 36 by next year and I'm praying and believing God for marital settlement.
ReplyDeleteAnd you shall receive it. May he be everything you ever dream for and more. May God blow your mind with what was stored up for you all these years. May your cup runneth over until it form its own river❣️
DeleteSo it is people that are bad that are unmarried after 30? I can see through you already. I know your kind. What a mentality. Tufiakwa!
ReplyDeleteYes, she has some rigid views of people. But that may be a product of her culture and upbringing. Unfortunately, she does not see anything wrong with this and that is the problem.
DeleteMarry your friend e get why
ReplyDeleteYou are so ridiculous and dumb
Extremely dumb
Do you think all the people going through crises didnt marry their friends? The way some of you release statement without being analytical shocks me.
What if you decide to marry your ex and he goes back to his EX? I am sure you will change your tactics.
Obviously your ex likes Exes and familiar territory. How can you tell? He married someone the family knows and at the slightest challenge, he is going back to you-another familiar territory and guess what, when the challenges comes, he will go back to his former wife.
When a lady is single, distractions will come and when you feed it, somehow there will be an aura around you that you are taken even when you are single.
Continue with your E get why.
Some people actually think they have the manual to a good marriage. I hear.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
Yes, stella. There are prayers for every situation.
ReplyDeletePoster, you see the moment after prayer is the perfect time to be weary of counterfeits appearing real. Because there is this tendency to mistake the next man that shows up as the reply to your heart request. Especially after praying you have to be on the watch to be able to know fake from real. You are probably thinking to yourself that, why after praying, your ex showed up, could he be the one? Could he be the answer to your unending prayers? You are in a vulnerable situation right now that even a bad sign is better than any sign at all.
Please be careful. Because it is not always like that. Sometimes you might not get the reply to your prayers immediately even though God has already made it happen.
Avoid that man totally and do not give him a listening ear nor space to let him grumble about his wife to you. The more you acknowledge his existence the more he feels he has a chance and hurts his wife who might be hoping for a chance at reconciliation and that is not good for you who is asking God for your own home, to end up being the catalyst for the final breakup situation in another's woman's home indirectly.
Introverted ladies like yourself end up meeting their man in church or around their vicinity. Do not ask anymore but just give thanks to God for answered prayers because I am sure at your age you have prayed all possible prayers there that you can think of. Be very active in your church, it is also a social gathering on its own since your work won't spare you the time to mingle.
There will always be obstacles when one set out to marry one's true husband. Satan raises those obstacles and hostilities
ReplyDeletebecause he hates marriage, more so, the one that God has appointed for that individual. This is what I read in your story.
You seem to have pushed away your husband when he chose you over his family; which is what it should be. For a man has to leave
his father and mother and unite to his wife and the two will be one flesh. See Matthew 10 and Gen. 2.
He shouldn't have listened to you. His marriage wasn't what God joined together, it was what family sentiments/your own sentiments
joined. I do hope that this man will come to his senses.
I feel that your true reason for sending in the chronicle is that you are contemplating going back to him, but undercover seeking advice under the guise of being disturbed by him.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, nobody is a used person. Everyone goes through life living out different experiences. If you still have feelings for him and this can work then what is the matter? Divorce does not mean a person is broken or impure. Impurity comes out of the spirit not the flesh. Tossing people aside because they lived out a life experience we didn't is not actions of the Holy Spirit. If you still want him then go for it. You do not know the length of days that both of you have been allotted on this Earth, time is precious. However, if you take him back he needs to setup clear boundaries with his family and defend you if they try to disrupt your peace. Otherwise, if your heart truly is no longer in it which I highly doubt, then carry on seeking your own destiny and I am sure what is for you will find you.
Bia dear poster,
ReplyDeleteYour post smacks of immaturity at a self denying level. Yes there prayers for everyone's Godly spouse. But what I don't understand is why we plough religion into everything. Even things ones commonsense should relieve us of. Deep down, you are still emotionally attached to this guy. But physically denying this obvious. For that you aren't emotionally mature for marriage.
Calm your nerves and take life easy, not this seriousness you peg it at. Change your attitude with people, be more approachable and always keep an open mind.
The only part I don't agree with your post was where you said "Anyway, dear God, I don't want a second hand or fairly used, please give me my own. BVs, please help me with prayer point and also pray with me." First no one decides for God, stop this mindset because you are indirectly feeding it into purpose. No human is second hand or fairly used, it's an insult to the many good humans who walked out of their various unhealthy marriages. Or had the misfortune of being entrapped in a deceitful marriage. Or those who were innocently impregnated or novices who got pregnant out ignorance. With that ending comment, you indirectly explained to us the kind of lady you are.
God is not man, who says what you are running from is not what he is preparing for you?
Lastly, please change your orientation about life and people. That's the first step to finding a partner. And no prayer point can work with such ungodly disposition. Be a good babe by dusting your heart off all these negative ways you see the other around your walks.
May God give you who will give you peace of mind and respect your individuality. Remain blessed.
Also ‘I’m not that bad to still be unmarried till now’. So you generally assume that other people who are unmarried at a particular age are ‘that bad’
ReplyDeleteForgive me for being all over your chronicle but Aunty, your mind and mentality need serious amendment. Goodluck with finding your husband. Remember not to judge him too harshly when you find him, nobody is perfect, he might also have been fairly used by someone else
Poster you deserve to remain single. Someone's son can't be burdened with a human like you. You are a tufiakwa
ReplyDeleteAvoid your ex, he only want to catch cruise with you and nothing much.
ReplyDeletewhen a man says he will divorce his wife and marry you do not believe him till he presents you the divorce papers then you are guilt free knowing you had no hand in breaking a home. that said face your front and pray, there is a set time for everyone. some marry late or early not because they are good or bad but two ready parties met and marriage happened. yes some are delayed for reasons that might be spiritual, manmade etc but as you pray God can reveal some of the reasons. being an introvert is not a bad thing. I am an introvert to an extent and i met my husband in church. I married at 34.
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