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Tuesday, February 02, 2021

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MAMA BROKE OFF THE RELATIONSHIP



Madam Stella please I have an issue I would like for your advice.


I used to date a girl sometime back and I really liked her. The problem then was that my mother had reservations about her. So i ended the relationship with her.


The truth is that i didn't really end it, I just disappeared and i made sure she couldn't get in touch because i didn't want to hurt her.

Lately, I have been having dreams about her and i want to reconnect with her. When i left her,i got into another relationship which my mother introduced me to, but this one was a disaster. 

The girl cheated on me a lot and gave me an std.

I truly feel i am a nice guy,but have not been lucky in love.
I have really been thinking about this my ex lately, I am not married and i dont believe she is.I have snooped on her on social media. 


How do i go back to her? Will she accept me back? What if she's in a serious relationship already?

I Am also hurt that she didn't fight for me back then. She didn't contact any of my family when i disappeared to ask about me, so i felt she didn't really care too.

 Before you bash me,I am genuine about my feelings towards her. The problem is I was immature back then and i couldn't stand for my right.
I also couldn't explain to her, so that was why i ghosted her.
it's been more than 5 years and i am ready to settle down,My younger sister recommended this place to me and that is how i started reading Stella's blog.

Pls advice me without insults.




Hmmmmmm.this is really really sad!
I dont know if she is still free for you but you owe her closure.
Please contact her and start by apologizing for ghosting her
If your mother is still alive and you tell her that your mother is the reason you dumped her,if you marry her, the relationship between both might not turn out right.
Before you think of re-toasting her,please apologise to her for what you did...Good luck!

65 comments:

  1. You ghosted a lady for a whole 5yrs and you want her back? Mama’s boy
    I pray she’s in a serious relationship now sef so you can truly learn your lessons

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    1. Poster We have all made mistakes sometime in our lives..However I hope you have learnt your lesson and untied your mother's apron strings from your waist. When you need to reach out to her..Call or meet up and genuinely apologize to her and own up that it was your fault(I don't think you should tell her it was your mother who made you do so; it will show you don't have balls)..Learn to take blame or responsibility for your own actions! You never fought for her rather you want her to fight for you?! That is a very unfair judgement and please don't raise this or ask her why she didn't fight for you cause you let her down..Just apologize so you guys find closure and keep it moving!! Even if she is single, don't ask her out or see how you can kindle the relationship that same time..You can do this at a later time when you are sure she is fine with..Remember prepare for any eventuality from her; she may not want to give you that audience...Be patient and take it easy..All the best..

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    2. Amen my sister. You can just imagine

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    3. He ghosted someone’s child for 5 good years. Can you people here this man? Then he is also bringing a lovely std package for the lady chai!!! She should have fought for you bcos u are what exactly? For you to even consider your mother’s offer shows u are not a man sef. The same mother what would have probably destroyed the girl’s life if he had attempted to stay with u? Abeg jor if the lady ur mother gave you was all nice and all, you probably would not remember this ur ex. Afterall that other lady treated you well within the last 5yrs so I will advise you use another 5yrs to Takecare of yourself and treat yourself again and then find love all over again so you can appreciate life. You want to run back to a lady another man must have probably been helping heal from the pain you caused.

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    4. Is thia my ex? πŸ‘€πŸ‘€πŸ‘€

      I beg you dey your dey πŸ™. You contacted me already and I told you off, please leave me alone. Of would you prefer I string you along whole chopping your money and still not take you serious?

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    5. Lmao @ I'm hurt she didn't fight for me back then. This statement reminds me of a movie I watched. Alex Ekubo was cheating and when one of his babes confronted him, he asked her to fight for him. Peeele Ryan Gosling with a touch of Denzel Washington's accent and Vin Diesel's abs. Aaamazing *in MC Lively's voice.* If roles were reversed, would you take her back? Move on and leave the poor girl alone while you're at it, shove that nonsense talk of being a nice MAMA's boy up your a**. The effontery! 5 years fa! 5 years not 5 days or 5 weeks. Broda, e buru!

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    6. @ Fan Amennnnnnn to your prayer

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    7. See your mouth like ‘you’re hurt she couldn’t fight’
      As John cena or what?
      You ghosted someone’s child for 5 years for no reasonable reason. And you’re here claiming you’re hurt she couldn’t fight for you...
      Mtchew! I sincerely pray she’s I’m a relationship (Whether serious or not) so she wouldn’t have to go back to your sorry ass.
      Mummy’s boy!

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    8. I'm just laughing@comments. Hehehe!

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  2. Brother, the deed is done, u ghosted her when she needed you most, it will be better u move on. Dont try to get her back.

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  3. If I was her and u came back, I'd string you along so bad you won't even see my wedding coming...lol.

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    1. BB give me hi 5 πŸ–!

      So you didn't want to hurt her so you ghosted her. That was so cheap, low and cowardly. Well you were young. Go appologise first so at least you can get on her friend-zone at least.

      Half bread is better than puff-puff.

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    2. You dey mind am???

      In fact he will pound the yam for my wedding,nonsense.

      All these useless mummy's boys that sent stand up for themselves allowing mummy says to dictate their marital homes.

      Please go and buy a teddy bear. You should be able to manage that not so?
      Hopefully mummy won't dictate how many times you can hold it.

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    3. Shebi e no wan grow up,she should lead him on nah.

      I don't even want this for her sef.....make e carry him STD and immaturity go else where.

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  4. Nothing wrong in re connecting with her. Find a story to tell her, apologising along the way. If she's single, she might accept you but understand the trust will not be same. You just vanished and she knows but could not understand why you left the way you did.

    Majority of the times, arrangee girls/boys/marriages do not work

    Good luck.

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  5. You have to come clean to this girl and tell her exactly what you did and
    that with profuse apologies.

    It is so easy for us to seat on the judgment seat in our own case.
    So you judge yourself "a nice guy" but you fornicate and hurt a girl for doing nothing to you and you turn around and blame her for not "fighting for you?" That girl has dignity, she is rare!
    Let's approach judgment from God's perspective and we will be alright.
    We are all "sinners" before God and we all need to repent and make Jesus the Lord of our lives.
    In that way, we begin to see sin the way God sees it.
    πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’

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    1. Fighting for him? Imagine the clown. Did you fight for her?
      Did you fight for yourself?
      As you proved you were not fighting for nko?
      Maybe she don tire sef and saw it as a sign.

      Bottom line, abeg leave this woman and face front.

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    2. I dey tell u. The babe has dignity.Yes, she might have loved you very much,but is not ready to chop disrespect bros of it.Many girls would have been running after you and your family to find out what happened.A lady who knows her worth.i pray she's found a better and more deserving MAN.

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  6. You are hurt she didn’t fight for you? You have already started off wrong. I am not sure your maturity has improved much. You were the offender here, she had no business sucking up to your family prior to marriage.

    That said, you only need to reach out to her and find out where she is, relationship-wise. Nothing says one can’t reconnect with an ex, if both are available. Don’t give an excuse for the ‘ghosting’ you gave her. Honestly anything you say will only reflect wrongly on you. The truth is you were less mature then but if I am the lady, my question now will be, how detached are you now from your mum’s apron-strings? Ability to stand up for what you want, even if it’s standing up against your family, is one of the hallmarks of maturity.

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  7. Why not man up and admit your wrong?

    I am always surprised and shocked when people have sex outside of marriage and blame others for giving them stds.
    Really?
    The moment you broke God's law and have sex outside of marriage, you are sowing std and you shall reap it.
    Why? Because, the person you just had sex with might have had it in a previous relationship and on and on the list goes.
    So if you do not want stds and the consequences of premarital sex, stop
    having premarital sex; period.
    πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„

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  8. First thing;

    Get in touch with her (calls).. Apologize and also state your reasons for ghosting.

    Don't jump into telling her immediately you want to date and all that.

    Just calls and from the calls you will get answers. After sometime, invite her on a DATE. then see her response.

    If she comes for the date, apologize again, be real with her. Ask her out by then, see the response.

    From there u go know if she will be yours or not.

    Don't go and be telling her that one girl u dated gave you std, cheated and all that oo. Mr gentle gentle.

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  9. You ghosted someone for almost half a decade and here you are claiming how genuine your feelings is/was for her! You're even making her seem like a the bad one; asking why she didn't fight for you.

    Oga, let that lady be and go find someone else that your mother will accept. Your mother didn't accept her before, what now made you feel that she will accept her now?!

    Please, go knock on another door

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    1. Are you minding this one? Make I no sin so early in the year. I trust myself. You ghost me for 5 years, you can never meet me where you left me. Yeye dey smell

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  10. Mama's boy pls stay away from that innocent girl you don't deserve her

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  11. Ndi Mama anyi si....how market?

    So if this second girl didn't cheat on you and give you STD, you won't remember the first one exists.

    Please leave that girl alone. Nobody wants to have anything to do with a spineless person let alone someone who does not have a mind of his own.

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  12. Pls kindly leave her alone now that she's at peace with herself. Go look for someone else and man up with your mum in your life. A whole 5years and you think she should be stagnant in her life. And pls stop that rubbish you said "she never fought for you, when you knew you wouldn't have stayed true to her. Is she Mike Tyson??
    We shouldn't insult you??? But you insulted a wise girl's intelligence with your action. Mtchewwwwww

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    1. πŸ˜„πŸ˜„πŸ˜„ @your last statement. 5 years that some people have had all this kids they want. This muntula is speaking grammar here. Nonsense and ghosting

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  13. You should have told her all that happened , not ghosting her. I won't blame her if she doesn't accept you back, you caused it. Ghost mode is the most emotional heartbreak ever. You did not try at all.

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  14. Let me get this.. You ghosted a girl because your mama told you to but you want her to fight for you even though you made sure she couldn't reach you. You wished she contacted your family..the same family that have reservations about her?

    Dude stop. ✋🏻

    You claimed to be mature now so have you discussed with your mom about getting this girl back and will she accept her now or are you setting her up for more ghosting? You are not lucky in love yet the one girl that loved you, you ghosted her. smh

    You don't deserve this girl even if she's still available. You still have a lot of things to work out so I wish you luck. If you manage to get her back, you better be good to her, Mr nice guy. πŸ˜•

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    1. This guy is a coward. He is not a real man..it shows in how he let his mom make decisions for him. And it shows in how he heartlessly ghosted that girl to avoid confrontation. He has a long way to go cus if he marries anyone his mom will still be interfering until she breaks up that marriage.

      By what he said about the 1st lady she is someone that knows her value. I think she will have moved on n I don't think she will take him back

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  15. Marry your mommy

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    1. And that’s on Mary had a little lamb. Periodt

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  16. You ghosted a supposed nice lady for five years and openly confessed that you made sure she couldn't come in contact with you now you're hurt she didn't fight you? Are you insane? What is wrong with you? You're not even sorry. You've not taken any blame and frankly you're not ready for any form of relationship.
    Man up and face her.
    FYI, ghosting is the worst feeling ever. No closure, nothing. You feel like you're crazy but you don't know the cause. You feel you're not good enough but you don't know why. You feel abandoned and unloved. Ghosting is worse than an actual breakup.
    If you really want her back then you should be ready to face her and your mother too

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    1. A lot of these men are damaged and secretly hate women

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  17. So you think her heart is your family house that you can walk out and walk in anytime you like abii.
    You are so selfish to think of going back after what you did .

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    1. okay, this is hilarious. 🀣🀣🀣

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    2. I was so angry reading this chronicle and decided not to comment but this here is funny


      πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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    3. 🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣

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  18. My mummy say boy man. Leave that girl alone. Is your mum dead or still alive? Cause she that refused the girl them, will refuse her now. Don't Goan put the girl in another emotional trauma.

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  19. Leave her alone please, and have you treated your std before you pass in unto the next girl.

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  20. Please leave that innocent woman alone. You don't deserve her.

    Can you imagine? So if mummy's choice didn't cheat on you,you won't have had sense.

    Mschew!!!

    I pray when you contact her, you'll find out she's happily married with kids. She just doesn't update her Facebook page.

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  21. She didn't contact your family member?And you are upset. Like Seriously??so now she didn't care.

    Oh olorun...

    How can you ghost someone and expect the person to call your family members. Who was she supposed to call. Does she have their number? Or was she to go to your mum who has reservations about her?.

    So, if this relationship had worked out, would you have even remembered her again? You just care about yourself.

    I'm pissed off, like really because someone just played this card on me.

    You ghosted me and you expect me to run heedlessly chasing you to God knows where?

    Somebody like me that doesn't have any media page, you won't even get anything.

    I wish you all the best sha. Let it not be like, I don't wish you well.

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  22. She didn't contact your family member?And you are upset. Like Seriously??so now she didn't care.

    Oh olorun...

    How can you ghost someone and expect the person to call your family members. Who was she supposed to call. Does she have their number? Or was she to go to your mum who has reservations about her?.

    So, if this relationship had worked out, would you have even remembered her again? You just care about yourself.

    I'm pissed off, like really because someone just played this card on me.

    You ghosted me and you expect me to run heedlessly chasing you to God knows where?

    Somebody like me that doesn't have any media page, you won't even get anything.

    I wish you all the best sha. Let it not be like, I don't wish you well.

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  23. Please leave that girl alone. I am sure she has moved on with her life and doesn't remember both of you ever dated.

    Oh because other girls have showed you shege, you suddenly remembered you lost gold??

    So the ones your mummy approved turned out disastrous?? Pele, continue to search for a wife and leave that a girl alone.

    All the best.

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  24. Fought for you indeed, as a fighter that she is ba??If your mother did not like her im sure she would have poisoned your siblings mind against her. What if they told her you were married?
    5years is alot...Call her and apologize but let her be

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  25. You will have to start out with an apology and show true contriteness in your former actions. Then take small steps to become friends again and regain her trust, then see if she is interested in you romantically. Do not try to bomb her with love because you got bitten in the ass when you replaced her. If things had gone well with the girl of your mother's choosing you would not be thinking of your ex, you are only thinking of her because you remember how she treated you good and made you feel loved, but you are NOT entitled to her love, you have to EARN it! If she doesn't want you back accept that, it is you who fckd up anyways and she does not owe you anything. You will be on her mercy and grace, and accept that!!!

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    1. Put yourself in the girl's shoes, will you ever trust anyone that treated you like that?

      How can you ghost your girlfriend just like that? Not that she offended you..

      What is the guarantee that Mr will not run off again with another excuse?

      Selfish mummy's boy.

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    2. LMAO!!

      I actually pity this poster..... Better leave because she'll so string you along, you no go believe amπŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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  26. An ex did me like this, he went so far to cut ties and it hurt then and still hurts. Sadly i crave him so much and i know a part of me will always want him but the fear of the hurt keeps me away from reaching out. I now envy people that have never felt deeply connected to someone because it’s easier for them to move on i guess and trust me it’s not about being strong it’s just that ur soul feels empty even when u are with someone else.

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    1. Hmmm.

      Are you me,i could have sworn i typed this.

      sometimes the ones we deeply love doesn't even care.

      They move on so swiftly and then you wonder if they ever loved you from the onset.

      They cut ties without any remorse, the truth is any guy that cut ties with you never loved you,they probably used you to pastime.

      I've learnt my lesson and I've sworn never to be too attached to a guy.

      So Apt at the latter part of your comment 'it's not about being strong, it's just that your soul feels empty even when you're with someone else'.

      Leave that lady alone,you didn't fight for her then,this goes on to show you're weak and can be easily manipulated,you want her back now because she's the only option left.And like i said earlier,go get yourself treated before you ask any girl out and please when your STD is gone....ZIP UP and don't engaging in premarital sex.

      Tueh!!.

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    2. Anon and Gem do not go back. This is someone who tried that shit at "old age". Wasted 1½years of my life
      Thank God I am in a better place now. Mourn him and move on. Shit was painfulπŸ™☹

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  27. Mummy's boy,you need to treat yourself first.

    What's your plan?you want to lure her back and infect someone's child with STD right,some guys just treat women like trash,do you think she's some kinda novel you abandon on the shelf and comes back to read when you're bored.You do not deserve that lady's love,you're seeing her in your dreams probably cos your conscience is hitching you.Well,you can reach out to her and apologise.....but do not try to woo her back into your life.Go back to your mummy's choice that infected you.......una fit eachother.


    Radarada.

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  28. Poster do you know the hardest part about being ghosted? It's that period of just waiting . Waiting for a text, a flash, anything. That period can really feel like forever because you just cannot comprehend or understand. She does not understand so she just waits. Hoping and hoping for an explanation. Any explanation at all. You hurt that girl and you must apologize. Not the I want you back kinda apology but the I am truly truly sorry kind. Will this make everything better? No. But it might just be the beginning of something else for her.
    Good luck and plz learn from this and always do better.

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  29. If you genuinely love this girl as you claimed, then I think it's time to do Fighting by showing her how really sorry you are,then from her reaction,you will know your next line of action.Goodluck.

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  30. Oga, don't annoy me this night, remain in your ghost mode and keep it moving. You are a very terrible man.

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  31. Poster, the summery of the feedbacks here is simple! You still never get Sense periodt!!!!

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  32. What annoyed me the most is how actually typed that she didn't fight for you after ghosting her.You have the effontery to type that. You are only back because you have been dealt with. Please let her be

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  33. Me I don't understand the part u said u were expecting her to fight for you? I'm sorry is it she who finds a husband or he who finds a wife. A man in love is the one to fight for the woman he wants and not vice versa and I think the girl is very smart and knows her value that is why she let you be.

    In fact I don't think you want her, ur ego is just hurt that she treated u indifferently and moved on without emotion. U pupils curious and wanna make sure u leave her in an emotional state over you. Pls leave that girl alone! You will fumble her heart again n

    I think she is honestly too good for you. She deserves a real man that will fight for her and stand his ground on being with her no matter what mommy says.

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  34. Oga leave that girl alone. You're not man enough for a queen like her and u show no skills that will make you a good head of house. Go and marry your mommy. You're a baby that looks for mommy to make tough life decisions for you and I feel very sorry for you because your mom has shown that her wife picking skills are not the best. . Man up! Grow some balls and learn from this so that the next girl that comes you won't make the mistake of taking her for granted again.

    . I like how she didn't fight and that is what is eating your ego alive! I hope she never responds to your message

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  35. Stupid boy,you people actually believe he wants the girl back! You lie man! 5yrs oh my goodness,this guy is wicked,this guy only needs closure cos the babe didn't bother to stress herself looking for him after he ghosted her,the stupid guy felt hurt and his ego bruised,not like he really loved his ghosted ex,if you truly luv someone, you can't even do without them for 1day nor 1month,you did 5 good years without her,guy man biko keep it moving.

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  36. Mama's boys are the worst. You have not been able to find love because your mom CONTROLS AND MANIPULATE YOU. Are you able to tell your mother what you want and desire. Hell no, because you don't know what you want. If you stood up to your mom you will never been in this mess. You want your ex to fight for you or your mom. You gave up on her and threw her away because your mom said she was not enough. Now if the girl your mom introduced you to and things worked out with both of you, will you have ever remembered your ex. The worst could have been if she married you and your mom didn't like her. From your write up it showed you will never defend her and your mom is more valuable. Very selfish. Thank God she moved on.

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  37. Leave her alone.
    You do NOT respect her. You do not value her.
    You're only seeking her out because you have exhausted your other options.

    You do not mean her well, please tell your mother to find you another woman

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