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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
DOUBLE DATING....
Stella, Good day,
I got myself in this triangle since October. I am in a relationship with two guys, I have been with for 1 for a year, started with 2 few months ago, the problem now is I realize I can't double date,and deciding who to be with is a problem as they are both unique in their own way.
1- is a good guy from a better family than 2 and knows about my health status ( I am an hepatitis B patient ) and he is ready to stay with me, he is a student and into business.
His downside is his temper, he gets angry easily.
2- is a working class, bread winner of his family,a great guy, a giver, he knows I have a medical condition but not sure what it is,he is a calm person but extremely Jealous, he didn't finish secondary education.
We all have the plan of relocating, I want a better future for myself and I know my health status requires regular follow up. I am scared if I go with 2 he might begin to feel intimidated in the future, I am a lover of education which he is not, also will it be easy for him to relocate?
My fear with 1 is his temper, which he promise to see Advica therapist, but I hear people say you can't change someone who isn't ready for a change. Advice is needed Thank you.
Go with the first guy....You have more chances with him....This second one might even Japa when he knows about your health status.
First guy is better, I thought i have heard somewhere that hepatitis B is treatable with a good herbal medicine in enugu can't remember the axis.
ReplyDeletePaprika please confirm and tell us.
DeleteIf the first guy is good
DeleteYou won't look for another elsewhere.
ask yourself what do I want?
Herbal treatment???
DeleteLas las na plcc e go be.
Let's be guided.
Anon17:05
DeleteWhat is wrong with herbal treatment? ignorance dey do most of una..rubbish
@Paprika, please find out the herbal doctor and revert to us. I also have a relative living with the disease.
DeletePoster relocate by yourself. None is for you.
DeleteNeither one. Run! No 1 will lead to domestic violence. You are not compatible with No 2 in many areas and he is also jealous. Red light. Concentrate on your health and relocation. Then you’ll have the upper hand
DeleteBe careful with hepatitis b & herbs. In fact once you have a liver issue you shouldn't take drugs anyhow you might just accelerate the disease progression and injure your liver even more. Some herbs cause hepatitis on their own you now want to add it to viral hepatitis. Be careful.
DeleteMy rule of thumb when it comes to herbs is to never take in what I can't cook with and even at that practice moderation. You can take something like moringa ginger lemon celery. Regular stuff not barks roots things you can't pronounce their names.
Cross check your zodiac sign compatibility with the two first
ReplyDeleteLol 😂 i am honestly a sucker for zodiac sign too .Poster go with the first guy
DeleteZodiac na scam abeg.. Don't believe it rarara at all at all
Delete@Olawealth
DeleteIt can't be scam when most divorce cases I have come across were never compatible. Compatible signs are not void of problems, but tolerance level is high when zodiac signs of the couple match.
Whew Chile! Just marry all of them 3 I mean polyandry isn't bad after all. I'm just kidding and I don't have any advise so I'd sit this one out. I wish you all the best tsk tsk.
ReplyDeleteGo with the first guy...
ReplyDeleteSo, let's be clear, you're cheating on your guy with a new guy that isn't even in his class in terms of education... I hope you're not one of those that goes with the matra of all men cheat or that men are scum?!
ReplyDeleteDo you even know what you want?!
Please, go and search your heart, know what you really want apart from being a sucker for education. You should stop playing with two people's hearts, they are humans too.
I concur.
DeleteI hope for your sake that they are not double dating too cos you could be playing yourself.
The girl is actually cheating on his main guy, which is the first guy.
DeleteNa contentment no let am stay with the first guy.
Ojukokoro and wobia. That's what pushed you to date the 2nd guy.
Because of his money and how he throws money at you.
The first guy is still your best choice. No need to run.
She might just be talking to them both nothing serious. Mrs A I assume you are married m most of these guys these days are time wasters and absolute jerks.
DeleteDon't go with anyone. Treat yourself first.
ReplyDeleteNo cure for hepb at the mo'
DeletePeople change because they are willing to;also because they see a void and willing to fill it up;and not because you are advising them to change..
ReplyDeleteIf he isn't willing to change that anger issue;then he isn't ready to take up responsibilities which comes with marriage..
In marriage;Anger must come in because not every decision your partner wants or take most times would go as you need..
Hence Anger can destroy in a second what took you years to build or put together..
Also if his anger is that which pushes him to "Break,destroy or scatter" properties;you would do yourself good to avoid the marriage talk now until he is ready to work on himself.
You can't claim to be a better person when the slightest provocation sends you raging and you do things you end up regretting later..
For the Second guy;discuss with him first and hear him out;then run your conclusion with what he tells you(not what you think)..
Also that a man doesn't love education for himself doesn't mean he won't want the best for you..
Priorities and dreams differ for every individual!
So face reality;bring up the discussion and finalise with facts..
@MARTINS
First guy for me but if you not so sure about them, better u leave them both. Again see where double dating don land u...
ReplyDeleteFrom anger to violent. be careful with the two sha. Only you, two men? I raise Beyoncé hand for you.
ReplyDeletePoster, go for further tests for hep b and see if you’re qualified for treatment. There’s a guideline for the treatment of hep b. There are carriers that are not infective thus do not require treatment. Treat yourself first.
ReplyDeleteNo cure for hepb
DeletePoster I will advice you like an Elder Sister forget those two guys..You will meet your own man..See you a man with anger, rage and malice avoid these category of men..Marriage is all about character not solely based on love..Since you want someone educationally advantaged then I doubt if both men are for you...And please Hepatitis B is not a death sentence so don't wear it up your sleeves or whip yourself..You are gonna be fine with the right treatment..All the best
ReplyDeleteYour head is there!!!
DeleteDon't be with any of them!!
Dont put all your eggs in one basket, in Linda's voice.
DeleteHope you are not having sex with them? Treat yourself first. Tell B about your health status and see whether he will run or...
Be open for love
All these treat treat no cure what exactly is she going to be treating? Treatment only helps slow disease progression
Delete1 has a temper
ReplyDelete2 has a jealous streak
Why would you consider Any???
Don't come back with any chronicles o
Don't go for any of the guys. Anger issue is not a walk in the park, it can easily lead to violence. Find yourself first......then relationship follows
ReplyDeleteit's funny how we are ok with people dating 2 or more people are the same thing......until we are the 2nd choice.
ReplyDeleteAfter my ex did it to me last year I wouldn't blame any girl. He didn't even have the decency to tell me. He just wished her happy birthday on WhatsApp with stupid talk about his life being void before meeting her. Men are the absolute devils. They deserve all the evil they get. Now he's trying to get back with me like nothing happened. Would have blocked his ass in my immature days.
DeleteNeither of them. But if they are the only two men in the world for you then choose the one you feel most at peace around.
ReplyDeleteYou are double dating my dear.fear all this silent people eeeh ,if dem wan bite ur butock dem no dey mind if shit dey der ooh.
ReplyDeleteMy husband is hot tempered but I have found out his mumu button anytime his 😠 angryso dear poster study the 1st guy and knw his mumu button ant thank me later.
So what’s his mumu button? By always kissing his ass or cooking a delicious meal for him to calm him down?? This is why he has not worked on his temper. Pampering a grown ass Man. 🙄
DeletePeople on this blog kill me every time, I always see something that makes me go ROTFL...
ReplyDeleteWhen/If someone is not educated and doesn't like it, that's a big red flag...
Follow your brain and take your heart with you.
Cheat..😁 if it was a guy, he would've been dragged like tiger generator for dating two girls with his medical condition.
ReplyDeleteMy dear, you see the double standards of your fellow women.
DeleteNa God go help us men for this world . Lol
Don’t go with anyone. You see anger issues and most people here are telling you to go with number 1 even with the anger issues? You better relocate by yourself and leave them. Must a man be in the picture? What you cannot bear now, will not change in marriage. So better have sense.
ReplyDeleteFirst guy seems like a better option but the anger issue is a serious red flag o.
ReplyDeleteP.S: stop cheating on your boyfriend.
If 1 were all that, there would be no need for 2.
ReplyDeletePeople who have multiple sexual partners
ReplyDeleteAnd Sexual partners of someone who has hepatitis B virus are prone to have the disease.
Poster, your medical report, if required during relocation may affect your relocation plans.
True. Depending on the country. If her viral load is bad she won't pass Canada medicals.
DeleteTreat urself first
ReplyDeletePrevention is better than cure. No cure here
DeleteIt doesnt have to be those 2 men. Please free them and look for another
ReplyDelete