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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
DANGEROUS LOVE
How can a man claim to love you but when he thinks that you have slept with another man he publicly humiliates you. He does everything to make other people think that you are a prostitute just because he doesn't want you to find another man? Is that love? Is it normal for a man to be this jealous?
Now he says he wants to marry me. He has gone to see my parents. He doesn't want us to have sex before marriage because he thinks I will sleep with another man since we don't live together. He took me to the gynecologist to confirm my virginity before he proposed.
He doesn't want me to wear too much make up, he wants me to dress modestly, he doesn't want me to have male friends and he wants to know all my female friends and if he thinks that they are wayward he starts carrying face until I understand that he doesn't like them.
He doesn't like me going out without telling him, he needs to know where I am with who and what I am doing. He wants me to be all about church school and work. He is so jealous and possessive. I mean can such a man kill me if he thinks that I am sleeping with another man once we are married? That's my fear
*Please whatever you do DO NOT MARRY THIS MAN oh....RUN!!
You want to be living in bondage. This man isn't normal. It's his type of people that cheats without remorse. Virginity test before proposing. Lmao. Lord help you
ReplyDeleteLiving in Bondage Part 3..Do you need anyone to tell you or prophesy what will be become of you and that man..My dear run o **in Asari Dokubo's voice**
DeleteWho gave him permission to go and see your parents.
DeleteAkuko ndi okada
Poster this man can kill you ooo
DeleteSome face front and leave his unfortunate ass
DeleteSimply**
DeleteYou allowed him to this level what do you now want us to tell you?
DeleteAbeggi
My dear, you are about to marry a mad man. Take it from a sister who has had first experience. It's not love, the man is a psycho with low self-esteem. He will frustrate you in that marriage, you will explain yourself daily for things you have done, things you are yet to do and those he imagined. He would separate you finally from your friends and family alike. He has not added family yet till after marriage. He will beat you up cos he dreamt you slept with a man. He would dictate your dressing, if you laugh with gen repairer you are a hoe. He would search your phones every single day, he would the woman selling by the house to watch and report when you come out of your own gate. Friends will desert you. Pray, he does not ask you to leave your job because Mr. Kpani messaged you. Sister, I love you so much, see as I take my time so, take describe this picture cos I was there. That marriage will frustrate you. He has mental issues and needs to be alone, na isolation camp you dey go. Such people have skeletons in their closets they are hiding. They may even be the ones sleeping around hence their insecurity. Even marriage counselors will tell you to be submissive when you complain the guy is suffocating you with his kind of love. Love let your breath, it would never confine you, or change you so much. It would rather make you shine. That man is evil. He would tell you your vagina has widened one day from his imagination and even smell your panties when you return from work for smell of a man. Sister I said run just as my friend advised me and I no geee hear. I thought after marriage his insecurities would disappear but na lie, he became worse. Neighbours will hear him call you a hoe out loud. Runnnnnn don't marry that man else you will beg for God to help you get divorced. The guy na mad man.
DeleteYou see say I no hide my ID cos I don't want you to think say na spirit dey advise you hence I left my ID on sis. Pleases no marry that man.
DeleteThings we read on the internet!!
DeleteNa this kinds of men dey cheat pass. Serial cheat who is insecure. PLS RUN
DeletePoster it seems like love because sometimes we equate jealousy, possessiveness and the likes to love especially when we see our friends complaining their boyfriends or husbands do not give them attention. Yea a “little of it” is healthy, but this man right here will STRIP you offfff everything you hold dear just to satisfy himself.
DeleteI learnt this the hard way, I came out barely with my life and now just trying to pick the pieces of my life.
POSTER Just so you know , marriage will make it worse, he hasn’t scratched the surface of his MADNESS yet.
Whatever anyone tells you I know u won’t listen because we are online ppl giving advice, your closest family n friends will cajole you with “talk to him”n so on, well experience they say is the best teacher.
Funny how you allowed a mere man to control your life up to this level... But you will still marry him and send in another chronicle to Jeweluchi.
Delete@ Tiana... Sorry you have to go tru this yourself. Not all meh are normal oh.
DeletePoster follow what Tiana said , I have experienced the same thing I just got a divorce from the modafucker I married, I experienced everything first hand, he still got a baby from someone else took her abroad with him while stalking me here in Nigeria, run for your life pls.
DeleteBetter still, go to kirikiri and tell them to lock you up. It will be better than the one you are planning to enter.
DeleteI won't be surprise if Mr Mad man is impotent. You cheat or you did not cheat, he will either kill or destroy you patapata that there will be no remedy for you again once you marry him.
A word is enough for the wise.
You too work on your self worth, cos I doubt if you have any.
Tiana, you nailed it. The same problem my kid sis into now in her marriage. I warned her but some said he's in love with her that's why he's treating her like that. She is regretting it today and stuck in the bondage (marriage) because of children.
DeleteMy dear poster, run for your dear life before it's too late.
Tiana God bless you, you didn't add, he will remove her pant after each outing to check if she had sex,.my neibor husband does that(they call him pastor
DeleteMy dear, dust your slippers and ran away.
DeleteLike break up with him over the phone and refuse to see him.
He can even harm you if you break up.
Do you remember the banker that was stabbed multiple times by her husband? This is how it started.
Please just leave, he isn't doing you any favors, who is yours will eventually find you.
How can someone who knows you are a virgin call you a prostitute?
How dare a man take you for a virginity test biko, don't you have parents? did they condone this.
Stop giving people the right to treat you anyhow. My father taught us this quite early.
God bless you Tiana for speaking out.....this is what my friend went through, she is always scared around her hubby...then the beatings started, she moved out and involved his family, the hubby denied inflicting those injuries on her o...her father in-law has begged her to go back, me I no put mouth again. I pray he changes for good
DeleteNa vawulenx I dey see if you marry.
DeleteFirst week....hot slap
Few months..... Red eyes
Few months again...Dr Imo and
Nurse Caro hospital
Wetin you wan hia again?
How can you allow such a person go visit your parents? See, tell your parents all these things you typed here, and if they are wise, they will warn him to stay off n stay away. He can bathe u with acid.
ReplyDeleteHelp me ask her o, infact I didn't even finish reading the chronicle.
DeletePlease run cos it will not end well. My elder sister married someone like this. We thought it was love back then. Today, the man sits his children who are not even up to 18 yet to tell them their mum is a prostitute.
DeleteThey are going through a very bitter and traumatic divorce.
Poster, you're stupid sha. I blame you 100%. For not respecting your self at all. Nne gi gba aka nwa
DeleteDear poster, google Othello syndrome...that is what your man suffers from.
DeleteThey usually end up killing their partners
Please if you din't read my first comment, read this one... please run
That's your fear and you still wants to chook head to answers Mrs Ovularia. You better run and leave your slippers.
ReplyDeleteAs you are running just be thinking that snake is pursuing you when you saw it, that is the speed I want you to use.
Mad man taking you to check if you are still a vagin
Snake ke or death sef. Snake is better than this o.
DeleteAnd MUMU too followed him for check up.
Living in bond age part 1-700
DeleteThis guy is obsessed and may end up killing you if you marry him
DeleteRead what Stella wrote a hundred times. Memorize it. Write it down. Gum it to your bedroom wall. Do it. Don't marry him!!! RUN!!!
ReplyDeleteI agree.
DeleteTrouble and Bondage is right here playing and dancing with you and you're there embracing it.
ReplyDeleteYou better take your two legs and take a walk from that man, he is not good for you at all!
What da hell of an 1821 mindset of a man
And why are you fixated on sleeping with another man?
If you must marry (I mean, not this particular grenade waiting to explode)don't go about committing adultery.
Bia, Madam or Mrs A. E. read what poster wrote and get understanding.... "if he thinks that I am sleeping with another man once we are married?"
DeleteWhere did the poster write that she intends to cheat or commit adultery?
Mrs A. E.. actually the man is the one fixated on her committing adultery.
DeleteHe doesn’t love you, he loves the idea of who he wants you to be.
ReplyDeleteLol...all this traits reminds me of my ex,looses oshi, he refused to disvirgin me cos he believes I will be sleeping around and he won't know, the beating in campus nko? Poster run o, very dangerous lover, he threatened to kill me if I ever leave, cut me off all my friends, but guess what? I arrange with a friends bro, who is an officer to be my new boyfriend, the lazy idiot can't even face his fellow man, he ran, thank God he helped me to keep my virginity
ReplyDeleteSee you see death. You are digging your grave with your own hands.
ReplyDeleteAs in, this is the exact comment I wanted to type.
DeleteVery diligent somebody, she no dey even reason shovel.
Na bare hand she dey use, kwentinue o.
E be like say death just dey hungry you like hot indomie. 🤨
Am so angry with you.... How can you continue dating someone like this... I so pity you..... You see the handwriting on the wall yet you allowed him to see your parents.... My dear get ready to start sending your own chronicles soon.... Even if you are desperate to get married not this type of man.... I beg you sis please don't marry him.... When you get there you will regret it.... Take your time and think about it.... Much love from here
ReplyDeleteShe’ll probably still marry him because he’ll “definitely change” after marriage. That’s their mantra...he’ll change after marriage. They heap coal on their heads with their eyes wide open all in the name of marriage. Nonsense.
DeleteShe is already sending chronicle now. After marriage it will just turn to at least once a week.
DeleteWhy I am upset is that u will still go ahead and marry this man, hopefully u don’t end up dead at the end of the day and u know u live in Nigeria, nothing will happen, u will be buried and no justice for ur family, u are a fool for allowing him to visit your parents even when u know this man is not what u want in life, let me let u know what u are going into, u would live in fear, bondage, isolation , abuse and manipulation, Jesus didn’t die for u to live the rest of your life like this , divorce or death would end this if u don’t leave this man, it’s better to marry late than marry and regret, if u think u want to pepper your friends with marriage , they won’t be in d house wit u when he is controlling and destroying your life, if after this advices everyone gave u and u still go ahead then u will revert it and remember this day
DeletePOSTER RUN FOR YOUR LIFE OOO. I WILL NOT TYPE MUCH!
ReplyDeleteTrust me, he has a sex organ issue- either he's a one minute man or he has a Bic cover kini that's why he's being so paranoid.
ReplyDeleteRun
One big pot of Nkwobi and chilled drink for you Anon. You know book✔.
DeleteCharacteristics of a man with gbola malfunction. Too small or suffering erectile dysfunction. That's why he is labelling her a prostitute in advance even after the virginity test. Instead wey these sons of Adam go talk wetin their problem be, make we give dem simple solution (as long as it's not a spiritual problem), they will be looking for daughters of eve to frustrate. Poster sef is an enabler. I pity her in advance because she go marry that guy o especially if she dey see money collect for him hand steady😕. All these advice na just comic relief to her mbok.
You're seeing all the red flags displayed and you're still asking for advice instead of you to Usain bolt ABI? I know you're desperate for marriage and will not listen to advise from here... Na here we dey to read your second email..🚶🚶🚶🚶
ReplyDeletewhat are you still doing with this man?. How old are you? You enabled him. Maybe you made him see that you are nobody without him. How can you follow a man to a gynecologist to confirm your virginity 🙄
ReplyDeleteYou better wake up before your fears turn to reality.
As in she opened her full Vagina for nothing else but to ascertain virginity for one stupid man??
DeleteVagina that I was even sort of shy to spread in a doctor's face during my labour and delivery?? What a shame.
You are still asking questions when you should be relocating and changing your phone number. The guy is a psychopath, and you are feeling him for a future show down. You better receive sense now.
ReplyDeleteI just don't understand how people don't know what love is.
If you are a Christian, read 1st corinthians 13 -the whole chapter. Read it deeply, everyday until your spirit internalises the words written there. May God help you.
*feeding
DeleteAgain, in case you decide to Run, please, for my sake do this before that- Tell him you would love to see his penis and also touch it to know if it responds to stimulus.
ReplyDeleteHa! He will strangle her ooooo!! Poster, please don't try it. That is one major reason he is paranoid, wants to marry a virgin (who has no prior sexual experience for comparisons) and monitoring you like CCTV. Other wise girls before you ran away and he doesn't want you to do same. If you dare hit the nail on the head of his affliction gangangan, he will kuku kill or maim you. Maybe you don't mind sha because you still dey ask "suicidal" questions.
Delete1. Follow mad man go hospital go dey check virginity. So who will check his own?
2. Gave him your house address and date for "introduction".
3. Still asking if it's love🙄.
4. Keeping your virginity is good but should never be the sole reason a man marries you. Na ritual?
You better run!You better run!!You better run!!!
ReplyDeletePoster, this your question has an obvious answer which you already know.
ReplyDeleteLet me ask you mine.
Poster, will you marry that man if anyone or even everyone here advises you to go ahead? 🤷♀️
How old are you? Is this the only man on earth?
ReplyDeletePls run and don't look back. A man who doesn't want you to have friends except with his permission is a no go area.
He will be scrutinizing your every move. That is prison. Pls leave him. Someone else will come who will give you a breather.
This is too much abeg, better run for your life.
ReplyDeletePlease, for the sake of your own life that God gave you for free, please don't marry that man. Your second name will be regrets and bitterness. This man will so frustrate your life ehh dt you will be angry all the time, and believe me,he will get physical cos of that overpossessiveness. Tell him you are not yet ready for marriage or that you want to get your masters first before marriage, just give an excuse dt will mean he has to wait for long so dt he will leave, and be firm about it. And most importantly, don't talk to him about your fears,cos he will pretend to change and drag you to altar, only to return to the beast he is after your wedding. Just swallow your plans quietly and discard him....he is a NO NO NO. If you like take my advice, but I hope you don't remember it when it's too late. All the best
ReplyDeleteShe should use wisdom. He can harm her or her family, case of if I don't have her nobody will.
DeleteThou he will still end up killing her after marriage or disable her.
Poster are you that desperate to get married,this man doesn't love you at all, he's obsessed with you.
ReplyDeletePls run for your life!,pls run oooo,
You didn’t need to send in your chronicle. You know exactly the decision you need to make. Until you get to that point nothing anyone says here will be of any use to you. After all you let him see your parents....
ReplyDeleteThank you!
Delete👍
DeleteAnd at your age, you foolishly followed him for the "virginity" test just because you want a ring right? The signs are already but obviously, you are too blinded to see that this a battle disguised as a blessing, a control freak who will not stop at anything until he puts a full stop to your life. He is not married to you yet he has all this control measures-dictating your friends whom you obviously met before him and who did not mislead you to loose your "virginity" until he showed up; your looks etc. Be clear Nne, any man that separates you from family and friends and dictates what you put on your body that attracted him to you is clearly an ABUSER and a VIOLENT one at that. If you like, foolishly wed him then return here to cry "had I known", na you sabi. You may not like yourself but PLEASE, PITY YOUR PARENTS/FAMILY and run for your life without your slippers and with your two legs touching your forehead. Inukwa!!!
ReplyDeleteYou have said it all!!!!
DeleteIf I were in your shoes, I would have taken a walk as soon as he mentioned the visit to the doctor, my dear that's a sign that he doesn't trust you. Please don't marry this guy oh, you will regret it oh.
If you do please keep the chronicle with you oh, don't bring it here.
Gbamsolutely✔
DeleteRun o !!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteThat man described by the poster reminds me of one or two of same gender on here.. Poster flee!
ReplyDeleteYou're seeing with clear eyes and you still want sand sand to enter your eye. Are you well at all?
ReplyDeleteRead about narcissist and you'll get the answer to your chronicle
ReplyDeletethe real truth!!!!!!!!!! read about narcissistic personality disorder. runnnnnnnn
DeleteMarry him at your own risk...we will be here waiting for update.
ReplyDeleteNne please don't just run, relocate and pray to God that he doesn't harm your family. How did you let yourself be sucked in by this psycho???
ReplyDeleteI hope he doesn't pour acid on you.
Please run as you are running, pray!!!!
As in! If she's serious, she should just GHOST HIM. Change location. Change phone number. Disappear for a while. My own is: does your mother know all these? If not, why not? If she does and hasn't done anything to end this, why? Is the dude rich and responsible for the family's upkeep? Do you think you are too old to find a better man? Nsogbu di somewhere🤔. She didn't send the full story.
DeleteGhost him oh and tell your family everything so that they will be alert spiritually and security conscious. I dated one for 6 months and that is the worst relationship that I regret with everything in me till today. Please, stop asking her how it got to this extent because it will always seem cute at first, constant phone calls, your friends being jealous and his friend's girlfriends being jealous of the "attention" until it starts choking.
DeleteEveryday after work, he arrives in my house and sleeps over, he will eat 3 times before morning, he wasn't working or bringing money oh, even phone calls to my family members, he is there, listening intently but will go outside to make his own calls, all female friends are ashawo, don't even talk about male friends. I ran away from my house to a relative's place to escape that relationship and threatened to arrest him if he doesn't stop harassing me. Poster, run oh!!! No road that side.
PS: Sorry to male BVs that this might offend but he had a really small dick and was a 90 seconds man. I believe sexual prowess can be worked on and managed with the right diet, exercise and medication if required, not by thinking you can cage another human being with your insecurities.
Hmm this is very bad poster run
ReplyDeletePlease blog visitors, anyone has an idea of Stella's official mail address, need to send her a chronicle, thanks guys🙏
ReplyDeleteSdimokokorkus@gmail.com
DeleteThank you @ St Elsewhere Phoenix 😍
DeleteYou are not serious. You actually did virginity test lol and allowed him see your parents. You are obviously desperate for marriage and nothing we say will make you change your mind. Since you have decided to dig your own grave, goodluck.
ReplyDelete👏👏👏👏👏👏. I'm loving y'all queens telling her the gospel truth. Poster wan dey whine us like waist.
DeletePlease the virginity test is not the problem here. Nothing special about that.
ReplyDeleteThe problem is the man's mind. It is messed up.
Something happened to the man that messed him up really bad.
Lady, you will need "seven of you" to stay married to this man.
"Use you virginity to pray to God and serve God." I believe you understand what I just wrote.
And surely, God will give you a Husband seventy times seven better than this man.
By the way, I am a man.
The virginity test is a huge problem!! If you don't trust me enough to believe I am a virgin when I've told you so, then its a problem.
DeletePlus the love is condo if a man can only marry you because you are a virgin. He has no right to take her for a virginity test, but since she enabled his foolishness, why is she crying foul? Poster as all have said including Stella, run for your dear life. Work hard on your self esteem so this nonsense does not repeat itself. Thanks Tiana for your experience.
DeleteDeath should be the least of your fears. That man is going to wreck you psychologically, he will manipulate and make you his pet. You won't have access to your family and friends. You can't even relate with your closest neighbours. Depression will take over life and you may end up killing him or killing yourself. I won't tell you to run, the choice is exclusively yours. He may end up locking you at home when he is going to work. The two of you have mental health issues, how else can one rationalise your following him to the hospital to verify your virginity. Craze people
ReplyDeleteAre u ready to live this kind of life poster ? U can see nobody suppers u to marry him and all of us don’t live in d same house but we reason the same thing on this issue cos this a death trap U would regret, if u decide to go ahead and marry him and he makes ur life miserable , pls don’t cry and blame or curse him, because u have d right not to marry him now we have adviced u oo, he won’t change for u, he is who he is , a mad man ask u for marriage and u said yes and want him to change, who is d fool? It’s U if u marry this man, a word is enough for the wise
DeletePlease fly as your wings can take you. Leave that mad man
ReplyDeleteTOXIC TOXIC TOXIC RUN WITHOUT LOOKING BACK.
ReplyDeleteSdimokokorkus@gmail.com for the poster asking for Stella's email address
ReplyDeleteI have the feeling you find your situation amusing, please marry him! I wan check something.
ReplyDeletena so e de start ohhhh, better run if you lovvvvee your life, remember those who have been killed by DV please dont add to the statistics
ReplyDeletena so e de start ohhhh, better run if you lovvvvee your life, remember those who have been killed by DV please dont add to the statistics
ReplyDeleteVirginity test my flat ass.. mtchewww 😏
ReplyDeleteBetter run away from this man, he's already abusing you emotionally and psychologically and you still had the mind to take him to your people 🙄
Una go see fire. Una go dry ask DAFT questions 'Fire na you be this?
ReplyDeleteChook head na!
😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁 no mind her jare
DeleteWith all these sign staring at you, please run.... Love or compatibility is not enough to overcome the disaster that is to come after marriage.
ReplyDeleteAre you okay?
ReplyDeleteLike seriously are you okay?
I really don't understand ladies ooo ha!
See all the red flags yet you are still considering marrying this crazy person.
Ah ah, love yourself naa! Haba!
Let me tell you, what you see and experience now is 1% of what you'll experience in marriage.
Marry him at your personal risk.
HE WILL NEVER CHANGE, HE WILL GET WORSE I ASSURE YOU.
imagine taking you to a gynecologist to be sure you are a virgin...smh
Please love yourself and never settle for less than you deserve!
U marry him, he will treat u like his property and a furniture in his house, don’t marry him o, u will cry and pls don’t blame him when u start to cry, remember we adviced u not to, pray for another man
DeleteMy dear,this is not love ooo,take this advice from someone that has been there,he will so control your life,and still blame you for everything,he will sit imagine things and accuse you with them,he will check your phone everyday looking for things to accuse you with,he will make you beg him everyday for things you know nothing about,you will suffer emotional trauma,you will be a shadow of yourself,he will make you loose your self esteem,he will end up abusing you physically when you try to stand up to him,you will see yourself as the problem and not him.My dear runnnnnnnnn is s far as your legs can carry you.You will find someone better
ReplyDeletePoster, ENSURE YOU DO NOT MARRY THIS MAN. DANGER LIES AHEAD.
ReplyDeletePls run for your life. This is not marriage pls.
ReplyDeleteObsession is all l see here
ReplyDeleteEgungun be careful na express you dey go!!!! Motor go jam you, e don happen i don tell you ooo
ReplyDeleteYou're not yet married to him, but already living in bondage. Run
ReplyDeleteHe followed you for a virginity test yet you dont feel you're in danger.
ReplyDeleteThe only thing that can make a lady stick to the mad man you just described is either money or desperation.
Poster do not get married to that man. Run for your life....Run
ReplyDeleteA man is showing that he is MAD even without marriage and you are typing chronicle.RUN RUN and Never stop running
ReplyDeleteTee
I saved my next door neighbour in 2010. She was in a similar situation. He beats her like every week and locks the main gate from outside. After one beating episode, i saw her sitting in the compound all swollen. I called across the fence, she ignored me, then i said to her "do you know that i can save you from this man"? That was when she looked up at me...this beast had seized her phones and she hadnt contacted her family and friends for months. I called her siblings, they flew from lagos into PH, they jumped over the fence and when they saw their sister's scars and bruises they wept and wept. Packed her stuff and waited for him . They beat him till he bled from all orifices and warned him to back off (i even saw his tiny willy sef). I am still in touch with her, she got married to a great guy who truly loves and pampers her. Love u TJ
ReplyDeleteGod bless you for helping the woman. Luckily she had a great family to support her. He had worked on her mind to the point that she saw no way out. Things dey happen sha.
DeletePoster please dont marry him oooo,believe me if you do ,you will regret it.
ReplyDeleteMy divorce case is still in court as I write this I have been with such man,and it dose not end well.For your own good take this advice please
Aunty. This right here is my ex-husband except that he did not support my church activities. You see why i said “ex?” You better run for your dear life.
ReplyDelete@1.23, I tell you, even that church will be cancelled after she marries that man. Bet it.
DeleteHe’s just keeping quiet now to look like a godly person. When that time reach, he will accuse even mummy GO of pimping his wife out to pastors in the church...or something equally crazy.
This babe doesn’t know she’s playing with her life. I just feel sorry for her cos I know she will still marry him, for the fact that she sent in this chronicle to ask a question that she already knows the answer to.
Dear Poster.
DeleteThere you have it. Over 110 comments and counting, including Stella and not one in support of you marrying this man.
110 comments from different people, from different stations of life, age, qualifications etc and all wondering how you can be this gullible or foolish or clueless or blind or DESPERATE!
If you decide to go ahead with this man, you will only have yourself to blame when the shit hits the fan.
If you think he has one small money that you’re chopping, remember, God can also bless your work, make you successful and give you your own money.
It certainly cannot be love cos what he’s showing you isn’t love.
Even Jesus after laying down His life for us made salvation a personal choice.
Let me repeat. Jesus died for your salvation, yet will not force that salvation on you, even though you know that was the best gift mankind ever got. Is this the kind of love that you’re experiencing in your relationship currently?
Leave him and pray for God to send you a man that will truly love you.
If you chose to heed the warnings here and leave, be wise about it. Don’t let him know why, just disappear. Don’t discuss it with him or else he’ll convince you that he’ll change. Just leave.
God help you.