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Sunday, October 17, 2021

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
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Stella please post this as a Chronicle.

I met this man on the first of January this year. We exchanged numbers and he gave me a lift home. I sent him a thank you text and I later saw his missed call but I didn't call him back as I travelled out the next day.


February 1st I sent him happy new month message and he replied, same thing in March. Then he called me, told him I wasn't around and we exchanged WhatsApp numbers. We would chat and do video calls. I didn't have anything in my mind just friendship, then one day we were chatting and he said he has suffered so much heartbreak and he likes me and all. Because I wasn't expecting it, I gave him one answer that I can't even remember and he said we would talk when I get back. 

I got back end of March, got him a polo and a perfume for his birthday. He said he would take me out, he would do this and that but it was all audio. He would come and visit but he never mentioned anything relationship again. Then like the end of April, he just went off, no calls, messages or anything and I refrained from calling or messaging him too so he wouldn't get the wrong idea. 

Then in August he started coming around again, sending messages beautiful angel this and that. He is a nice guy but I feel he can't express himself, maybe from his numerous heartbreaks. He's 42 but he's so petty you would think he's 20. Waiting for me to call him. 


We are both mature, I'm 32 so I expect a level of maturity from both of us. I posted one of SDK's wise saying on my WhatsApp about a man that hangs around a beautiful woman but can't talk would fetch water at her wedding. I thought it was funny only for me to see,'' the guy you think is an idiot for pampering you is the king another woman is praying for'' 

I felt it was petty because my post was not targeted at him and if he felt anyway about it, he should have discussed it with me, why post something silly as a reprieve? Then he stopped calling or messaging after that and I didn't send him until he messaged days later. The story is getting too long but can someone just tell me what is happening?






*Do you want to date this man? you act like you dont and you act like you do.. You sent him a silent message by giving him a birthday present but he did not pick up your message.
Like you said, he is petty....
Just move on instead of forming relationship drama with him when you are not in a relationship...

72 comments:

  1. Ya catching feelings? Lol. u suppose wise up n know that man may be very married. Stop feigning ignorance.

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    1. Both of you are not in a serious relationship according to your narrative,,you are dating yourself by yourself and for yourself..

      Keep moveeeeeeeee dear.

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    2. ๐Ÿฅด๐Ÿฅด๐Ÿฅด๐Ÿฅด๐Ÿšถ๐Ÿšถ๐Ÿšถ๐Ÿšถ๐Ÿšถ๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿผ‍♀️๐Ÿƒ๐Ÿผ‍♀️ poster abeg move or abi u are catching feelings niii?? ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

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    3. What is happening is that you don’t need that kind of man in your life. I pray God brings you your own man because this one is a basket of problems waiting to be unwrapped

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    4. First n foremost, “ HE’S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU”. Secondly. your post was most certainly targeted at him and you were trying to send him a subliminal message. Bottom line, both of your are immature for your respective ages.
      Please move on.

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    5. That man is 200% married with kids,hence his behaviour. Wise up dear.

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    6. Even if single

      He is not emotionally developed enough to be in a relationship with anyone talk less of you

      You too have standards

      What in the petty , ungrateful, quick to anger, uncommunicative trash behaviour are you wanting to settle for?

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  2. I guess you like to date the man but you're waiting for him to woo you, I doubt if his kind will do that, if you like him, just shoot your shot.

    But with what you posted up there, that man will be a very petty and nagging man, and I'm guess you are as well. So both of you can't make a good couple



    *Larry was here*

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    1. Another unnecessary Chronicle. Woman, you were leading him on. A man you admitted can't express himself and is 42, summoned up Courage and asked you out and you have him an anyhow answer. Ok.
      If you were in his shoes and something like that was posted, how would YOU feel. Hiding under simulate ignorance is annoying. If your post was so innocent, why then are you crying foul about his also 'innocent' post??
      Y'all don't know what you want. Biko, leave the man, you're blocking road for his wife.

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    2. LARRY ๐Ÿค๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘

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    3. ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ blocking way for me oooo Larry iburo ezigbo mmadu

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  3. How old are you again. Madam there is nothing in the picture you just painted . Block everything about the man and move on with ur life.

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    1. Na so them they block????

      Everytime block block.

      Have you blocked your own???

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    2. LMAO!! SixFeeta ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

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    3. Sixfeeta is assive you are in same WhatsApp group as the poster

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    4. ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ response with anger

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    5. ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคท I just tire @Blessing.

      To who brain is given, wisdom is expected .

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  4. My dear move on from this grown baby. The signs are all there oh!!! He thinks he's doing you a favor. This move of his is to make you desperate!! You are still young and will meet better men. This petty character is what has made lots of women take a walk. Please move on and have your peace of mind okay. Don't buy anything for him again.

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    1. Thank you.

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    2. She has started buying and buying in a relationship that is yet to be ascertained.

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  5. Hmmm! I think it be nice you move on from the on/off relationship that's headed nowhere

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  6. This man might be married and this while scenario isn't even clear.

    There is too much toxicity here, just move on.

    You will find yours.

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  7. When you posted one of SDK's wise saying on my WhatsApp about a man that hangs around a beautiful woman and he replied with same energy, don’t you think he wasn’t replying to your post or are you the only contact on his phone, poster get over yourself, do you want to date this man or not?

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    1. For her church mind they are dating..

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    2. Him replying with that quote us a bit of a turn off. Ew. It's like he wants the woman to think he is a nice guy, but is not. Such men are a red flag, RUN! If he was really nice, he won't feel the need to guilt trip you.

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    3. It shows an emotionally unintelligent man

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  8. "I wasn't expecting anything..." ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚
    Nne, you were expecting marriage.

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    1. And that is why we are reading a chronicle. Always be truthful

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    2. ๐Ÿคฃ๐Ÿคฃ Y’all are ruthless.

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    3. @Perxian
      NOthing "ruthless" here and nothing is wrong with a full grown woman expecting marriage from a man she is dating.
      In fact, THERE IS NO NEED TO DATE A MAN YOU CANNOT MARRY. That is time wasting.

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    4. @Anonymous 19:58 expect that she is denying everything

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  9. You did not target the comment at him, so why are you pained that his own was targeted at you?
    Did he include your name? You see that when you judge others, multiple fingers are pointing at you in judgment?

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  10. You guys are compatible in a way.. you both think alike and have that childish attitude in you... I see the relationship not working.. move on please, you’ve got some growing up to do though

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    1. Thank you. I will try.

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    2. You bought him gifts. He is 42 and you assume he is single and somehow doesn’t know how to approach women? This man is so married and YOU know. Leave him alone for his wife and kids, he gave you a ride and you already were gifting him and sending in chronicles. There is nothing in your write up to indicate a relationship. He is married. Let your own find you.

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  11. I'd say next time y'all meet, just fuck him very well, fuck so much that he will get off your mind. Cos from what am reading now, u no go rest until u jam his wife and kids then get heartbroken.

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    1. Na so you dey fuck random people? Thank you but no thanks.

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    2. Poster at this time and age you're buying this crap talk of not knowing how to express himself?. Lmao. Dont wait around to find out the reason hes still single at 42. Yes, men are seekers , so if a man isnt married at 42, either he didnt want to , or women ran. For this guy, we both know it's the later. Run while you still can

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    3. Lmaooo @ we both know it's the latter. I can't lie, he seems cringe just reading about him makes my skin crawl in disgust

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  12. The is married with children,,please poster move on,,he is not into you,,he is just catching cruise.
    The early The better for you.

    He no even send you..
    Just move on,love will find you soon..

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  13. Lagos Mainland Girl17 October 2021 at 16:40

    Seems you like him and want him to ask you out

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  14. You better not start catching feelings for an unserios fellow, just block his number for your peace of mind

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  15. Poster why would you think his posting that is in response to yours, when yours isn't targeted at him? Or did he quote and reply to you? If he didn't then you shouldn't feel targeted.

    Again, I think you're already catching feelings if not you won't be bothered by these but I advise you to look forward. Don't let age make you settle for less.

    Also, don't you think he's married? He went off the radar like that and came back as if nothing happened. Move on poster, this one isn't yours.

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    1. Poster you don't need a man with Nepa anointing

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  16. poster listen, the man is using emotional manipulation tatics on you and it seems to be working. a man who truly loves a woman wont be on and off or mess with a woman's head. you got him a gift he didnt reciprocate, he texts you on and off and gives you audio promises.. what more do you need to see to see that the guy is just emotionally manipulating you ?? this usually works on naive women or women with low self esteem. please move on with your life.. if you find it difficult to do so please block him on all platforms. the fact that you are 30 doesnt mean you have to be desperate. the right guy will be the exact opposite of this one

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    1. Stella please do a piece on emotional manipulators

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  17. Were you expecting him to woo you ?judging from your narrative, maybe he might be married ๐Ÿค” at 42, I would be expecting some level of seriousness from him. You either ask him clearly what he expects and tell him your expectations too or just leave him and move on.

    SN I dont understand the calibre of men on the streets these days ๐Ÿ˜•

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    1. Many of them are entitled, emotionally stunted, selfish, mean, manipulative leaches and vindictive creatures

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  18. Poster know what you are after, if this man's attitude I not what you like just lock up and move ๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ™‚

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  19. I think there's something fishy about him. Find more if you're interested in him

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  20. The guy is married and searching. Let him be.
    Get you a man and be busy with your life..
    Delete his number for your sanity.

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  21. I think you are cunning, you sent that link to hasten up whatever you wanted from him, but he saw it as a desperate move. Your move irritated me too, some people do not like cunning persons . A man who wants you will be serious, not this one.

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    1. She isn't cunning. Just desperate and it was soooo obvious.

      Sweetheart, I've been there and I understand and do not blame you. It's natural to need companionship at your age but take your time and focus on 2 things; 1.SELF INVESTMENT- improve yourself and make sure you are increasingly stable psychologically and financially. I said increasingly because these two resources can never be too much. The more the better. 2. HAVE FUN - go out, club, make friends, have new experiences, have sex if you want to just for the fun of it, buy that jewellery, wear that trendy dress, make that beautiful hair that takes a whole day to make, laugh from the pit of you stomach, be nice and cheerful, forgive offences even b4 it happens,make excuses for anyone or any situation that did not benefit you, make sure your living space makes you happy whenever you come home, spend money to furnish and clean your room/house, be happy.
      When you do these things I mentioned up there, you will soon stop attracting this kind of man. In fact, such people will see you and will never be able to say hi. People (men and women) with your kind of energy will start locating you and you will never stress to keep them. When you pray, don't pray like God is deaf. Ask once then move on with gratitude in your heart that He has heard you and will give better than the qualities you asked for in a life partner.


      Ok bye๐Ÿ˜ฎ

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  22. Young ladies, there is no age too old for marriage. Watch “I will wait for you”, I think by Adesua before she met her husband. I watched it on YouTube and sent it to a lot of ladies in their 30s and on. She said she came from the UK to perform it in 100 churches before Lala Akindoju and someone got her a role in Lagos open mic theater and nollywood.
    She did not return to the UK and later in her 30s met her husband. I’m nobody’s fan and she could be my child but I watched the remake of the poem by a famed poet by her and I couldn’t but forward it to several young black ladies here.

    Why is there pressure on women? Is it self imposed, imposed by society, or fellow women? Do not let society dictate what age you should do anything. Go at God’s pace for you. Everyone’s destiny is different. Like a young American woman of 25 told her Naija mother, “would you like me to marry at 25 and be divorced at 28”? Of course the mom said “God forbid in Jesus Name”. There is less pressure on ladies here. Boycott any relatives or friends that put pressure on you. You do not even have to be active in old students associations where there is pressure and only marriage and babies are discussed.

    Enjoy the single season of your life. September stories have shown us that many marriages built on the wrong foundation are audio Instagram marriages. Same when waiting on God for children. Avoid “pepper dem groups and folks”. Wait for God so you do not spend years regretting. This is from an older woman married for decades with adult children.

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    1. Thank you Mama! Waiting isn't easy but God provides the grace.

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  23. Keep in moving, don't stop.
    Keep on moving, don't stop now

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  24. @ Poster, is this guy name ste****? Does he work in ac***** b****?

    Please, answer this questions?

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  25. Your post may not have been targeted at him but I can understand his response. He matched your energy and replied you in your own coin. E hurt you baa, now you can see how petty and hurtful yours too was. See forget talk, there's a part of you that wanted him to see it, that wanted to hurt him small to get a reaction from him. It would have been best to clearly communicate with him that you want to know what you guys are doing. Simple. Anyways.. these are things you must know.

    1. This man does not owe you love or relationship. Infact, no man does. Consider yourself single until you are in a serious relationship.
    2. A lot of people are saying he is married. I don't know why but you may want to do some background check to rule out that possibility.
    3. If you are talking with someone consistently for up to two weeks, you have to consider the likelihood that he will ask you to be in a relationship with him. If he does, clearly communicate. Answer: Yes. No. I am not sure yet and I need XX weeks to give you a response. I think we need to know you more. Just be mature and clear on what you want or how much time you need. Don't feel obligated to respond immediately.
    4. If you are not honest with yourself, you may not be honest with others. There is nothing wrong or shameful in desiring relationship or marriage. It is a good and even godly desire. If you are honest with yourself that you have this desire, itwill help you weed out time wasters or men who don't share the same desire with you.
    5. Have standards of how long you will talk with a guy. Don't talk with anyone forever. Be bold to ask why you guys are talking. You want to date only those who are also looking for longevity. Feel free to end it with anyone who does not have same desire as you.
    6. In other words find men who are going in same direction as you and fall in love there. But most women make the mistake of falling in love first before finding out the direction the man is going.. Date strategically...

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    1. Summary

      DONT LET ANYONE WASTE YOUR TIME!

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  26. Red flags oo. Respect yasef

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  27. Abeg there's nothing here for both of you, just go your separate ways if you can't keep an ordinary friendship

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  28. The world is in a state. For all we know life could end next week, do you want to waste your precious time trying to decipher a man's feelings for you? You waste your limited time concerning yourself with someone who refuses to mature and grow up. Just friend zone him and keep it moving.

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