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A MARRIAGE TO THANK GOD FOR...

Good afternoon Stella and Bvs, So I remember when I was dating my now husband, he hardly ever calls.

In the beginning I didn't think much of it, then the longer and more purposeful the relationship grew the more panicky I became Because at that point I had grown to love him so much, like he is a script I wrote. 

He fits perfectly into the imperfect kind of husband I had always wanted. Someone who respects and supports the reality that I am a career woman, working to be at the top of my job. And interchangeably helps out with the home, at the same time not intimidated by my growth and what I bring to the table. 

But friends kept convincing me that he was still married, yes he was divorced with a child and I was a single parent, never married. Also, he never invited me to his place for not so convincing reasons I didn't understand better then. 

 I had sworn never to visit guys at their houses, I wasn't that much bothered. It was visiting that got me pregnant with a child (long story). So the pressure was there from my friends to unravel the mystery, I wasn't keen because I feared what I might get to find out. Instead discussed it with him, yet he'll give the same excuse - I decided to finally respect it and lied to my friends in other to kill the pressure.

I had prayed for a good and wonderful friend and husband, so I was relaxed and was open about our relationship and just trusted borderlines because he does likewise with me. 

He gave me butterflies not worries, there's a sense of peaceful friendliness and a happy essence being in a relationship with him. As such I wasn't, worried. Like I said, he fits into my own idea of the husband I want. His shortcomings are well accommodated by my person, same for him. 

We dated for 3yrs and like a wildfire, we accelerated marriage process and boom got married. It's been 6yrs of a sibling-like friendship, that leaves me reflecting on the mistakes I could have made to truncate this happiness that didn't look like what could happen.

 If I had listened to the many interference that wanted to put out the fire. I look at the sole fact that he is trustworthy, understands me beyond my own understanding of myself.

 One of the things I love about him, is his laid back but very smart nature. Not always in a rush but always get things done at the right time in the right ways - very wise man.

 I can still remember how i often asked him if he genuinely loves me like he claims or it was just the fun, because so often he doesn't act it. I didn't realise he shows it, I was mostly focusing on the ways I think love should be. But each time I step back to critically look at our relationship, I always see the convincing reasons to stick with him. 

Very articulately mature, humble, very respectful and have these affectionate interpersonal relationship. The thing I love most about him are his flaws, they are my weaknesses in a partner. Even though, I earn way more than him, he has always done his bits, I do my bits and we leave the rest to God.

 Looking back now as I celebrate 9yrs of knowing you, you are who you told me you are - an unusual kind of man. Still don't call, neither am I a call freak. Still hardly ever let anyone knows our home - except core family and a very few friends.

 Even in marriage we are still dating, I enjoy how we navigate discussion from serious issues to trivial matters in one swoop without breaking the art of communication. I love you my Igbo Angel, please house pray for this union to continue in its bliss, with our quarrels and disagreements. God has been faithful - you are my ride or die. 

Each time you look at me the way you always look at me, I'm inspired and strongly motivated to keep pushing for my goals. I'm overwhelmed, you are the marker.

 Thank you Jesus, for this godly marriage.

Awesome!....It is really nice reading things like this about marriage in these time where people are divorcing like it is going out of fashion ..

I hope someone reads this and learns the lesson therein.....