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Sunday, August 28, 2022

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE

A MARRIAGE TO THANK GOD FOR...


Good afternoon Stella and Bvs, So I remember when I was dating my now husband, he hardly ever calls.

In the beginning I didn't think much of it, then the longer and more purposeful the relationship grew the more panicky I became Because at that point I had grown to love him so much, like he is a script I wrote. 



He fits perfectly into the imperfect kind of husband I had always wanted. Someone who respects and supports the reality that I am a career woman, working to be at the top of my job. And interchangeably helps out with the home, at the same time not intimidated by my growth and what I bring to the table. 


But friends kept convincing me that he was still married, yes he was divorced with a child and I was a single parent, never married. Also, he never invited me to his place for not so convincing reasons I didn't understand better then. 

 I had sworn never to visit guys at their houses, I wasn't that much bothered. It was visiting that got me pregnant with a child (long story). So the pressure was there from my friends to unravel the mystery, I wasn't keen because I feared what I might get to find out. Instead discussed it with him, yet he'll give the same excuse - I decided to finally respect it and lied to my friends in other to kill the pressure.

I had prayed for a good and wonderful friend and husband, so I was relaxed and was open about our relationship and just trusted borderlines because he does likewise with me. 

He gave me butterflies not worries, there's a sense of peaceful friendliness and a happy essence being in a relationship with him. As such I wasn't, worried. Like I said, he fits into my own idea of the husband I want. His shortcomings are well accommodated by my person, same for him. 



We dated for 3yrs and like a wildfire, we accelerated marriage process and boom got married. It's been 6yrs of a sibling-like friendship, that leaves me reflecting on the mistakes I could have made to truncate this happiness that didn't look like what could happen.


 If I had listened to the many interference that wanted to put out the fire. I look at the sole fact that he is trustworthy, understands me beyond my own understanding of myself.


 One of the things I love about him, is his laid back but very smart nature. Not always in a rush but always get things done at the right time in the right ways - very wise man.


 I can still remember how i often asked him if he genuinely loves me like he claims or it was just the fun, because so often he doesn't act it. I didn't realise he shows it, I was mostly focusing on the ways I think love should be. But each time I step back to critically look at our relationship, I always see the convincing reasons to stick with him. 


Very articulately mature, humble, very respectful and have these affectionate interpersonal relationship. The thing I love most about him are his flaws, they are my weaknesses in a partner. Even though, I earn way more than him, he has always done his bits, I do my bits and we leave the rest to God.


 Looking back now as I celebrate 9yrs of knowing you, you are who you told me you are - an unusual kind of man. Still don't call, neither am I a call freak. Still hardly ever let anyone knows our home - except core family and a very few friends.


 Even in marriage we are still dating, I enjoy how we navigate discussion from serious issues to trivial matters in one swoop without breaking the art of communication. I love you my Igbo Angel, please house pray for this union to continue in its bliss, with our quarrels and disagreements. God has been faithful - you are my ride or die. 

Each time you look at me the way you always look at me, I'm inspired and strongly motivated to keep pushing for my goals. I'm overwhelmed, you are the marker.


 Thank you Jesus, for this godly marriage.




Awesome!....It is really nice reading things like this about marriage in these time where people are divorcing like it is going out of fashion ..

I hope someone reads this and learns the lesson therein.....


86 comments:

  1. I love reading stories of happy marriages. The kind of peace that comes with being in a healthy marriage cannot be traded for anything

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  2. May your marriage continue to be a happy and beautiful one.

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    1. Wishing you love and peace with good health together.

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  3. Many more blissful years in marriage I wish you ma. Congratulations, may God bless your home.

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  4. And so shall it continue to be for you and your family for ever and ever, Amen.

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  5. I am so happy to read this ๐Ÿฅน๐Ÿฅน๐Ÿฅน๐Ÿฅน.
    I pray God keeps you both in his love in Jesus name

    Mma Nwachukwu

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  6. God bless your home ๐Ÿ™

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  7. God bless your home ๐Ÿ™

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  8. I had smile on my face while reading this chronicle. In deed, love is very sweet and beautiful when you find one. Poster, I pray that God will sustain your love for each other. Keep enjoying your marriage.

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  9. Amen, i smiled throughout reading this, everyone should work on their relationships there is no manual from heaven , also have the heart and of love, respect, humility, togetherness and forgiveness. God bless your home poster!

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  10. Poster you spoke to my spirit, thank you so much!!

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  11. This is so refreshing to read. May your marriage keep withstanding the test of time, you shall never turn enemies, Amen. I wish mine the same thing.

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  12. Your story is beautiful ❤️. May your marriage continue to thrive in Jesus name ๐Ÿ™

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  13. Thank God it is well and I hope negative people won't come later to put their usual comments ,they dont see any thing good in happy people

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  14. Congratulations to you both.
    So was he still married as at when you guys were dating? You didn't tell us that. Your friends have your interest at heart to want you to be sure he was actually divorced then. I dont see that as an interference set out to put fire. From your write up, you were actually scared to ask him if he was genuinely divorced. Maybe fear of confirming your fears. There are so many cases of men lying their ways into innocent ladies life, claiming they are divorced just to disorganize the lives of these ladies. Whereas, they are just going through a rough path in their homes. Separation is different from divorce.
    Once again, congratulations on your beautiful marriage. More happiness.
    Sista Jane

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    1. ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿพ

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    2. This makes sense!!

      I have come to realize that some women don't really mind.

      This story is refreshing to be honest, for her sake I hope the man did the needful so as to avoid wahala in the future.

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    3. @Anonymous 15:18, I was already 2yrs divorced at the time of dating her.

      Stella thanks for this, she asked me to be on the lookout for this since Thursday. This wife of mine is a blessing I prayed for at the blessed sacrament - a woman who I fit into her vision of a husband, imperfectly to the glory of God.

      She is my everything, may God not allow us to be led by our confused human nature into making our wife as a mere girlfriend and marrying someone who was supposed be just an acquaintance.

      I thank everyone for the word of prayer. And to any marriage going throught difficult times, may God give each the wisdom to overcome it, with the best solution in Jesus name.

      Darling you are the best.

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    4. Sometimes its better to block friends from ur affairs abeg. Many have lost good partners cos of friends...friends dat accept even worse shit in dere own rltshp will start telln u dont accept dat blah blah. Iv had such experience of a friend dat will always talk down on my own rltshp and put ideas in my head. This same friend her husband impregnated someone outside and she was still willing to work it out. Meanwhile u give others advice of shit they must not take from their men.

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    5. @anon 20.15 wow you also write like your wife . What a wawu. Chronicle isonu

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    6. 22:01, you better stop! ๐Ÿคฃ

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    7. Hahahaha @22:01 she thinks we’re stupid. That’s exactly what came to my mind before reading your comment self. Na wa for this chronicle. At the end of the day, poster you married someone else’s husband. Full stop ๐Ÿ›‘

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  15. Thank God ooh this is Timely . I am one of those that has made up my mind to just Dey my dey , Marriage is just so Scary Honestly .

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    1. Sis don't worry, the right man will locate u

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  16. I love your write-up. Keeping some lines though. God bless your home with more love, peace and joy. Amen.

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  17. Am happy you just encouraged me to continue. Marriage is not scam

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    1. Yes it's not. When you are married to the right person, you enjoy marriage to it fullest.

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    2. tJ how do you know ๐Ÿคฃ

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  18. Marriage is sweet. 13 years,and Mt hubby still adores me.if he's not at home,he won't allow me to rest with calls and chats, every news he has to share, Im always the first call, if someone offends me,na me go be the first to hear, he's such a good man,I pray for him daily, I've never asked who is this girl,or who sent this message for 13 years, but my hubby is a blessing,he takes my family as his. We spend time in my family house during holidays than his. If he has issues with any of my siblings he will be the first to reach out,. Good and happy marriages exist,but when we share,the other people on the other side of marriage start attacking us

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    1. 16:24, guess you're at the other side of marriage ,sorry I honestly pity u

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    2. Nsogbu๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

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    3. See the bitter leaves yawning already.

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  19. I wish you happy marriage forever. Continue to look back with joy and happiness๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜❤❤❤๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿ’ƒ๐Ÿ’ƒ

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  20. Beautiful piece๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿฅฐ

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  21. Things I love to read about relationship๐Ÿ˜Š. Your love towards each other will continually wax stronger in Jesus' name

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  22. May the love between you both never cease.
    God continue to bless and keep your beautiful home..

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  23. May the love between you both never cease.
    God continue to bless and keep your beautiful home..

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  24. Nice one. May you both continue in wedded bliss.

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  25. I am happy for and may the happinesses in your heart last as long you live.

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  26. May God keep keeping your home strong. Such an incredible write up

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  27. This one na chronicle of hope. Thank God for you poster.

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  28. May the bliss you enjoy now never end.

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  29. Marriage is very swt with the right partner, but if u have made a mistake marrying the wrong person, and u have done all it takes to make it work, kindly separate quietly and live ur life in peace. Dear poster, God will continue to keep ur beautiful marriage, he will keep supplying u and ur hubby the wisdom to navigate through. U will celebrate 50yrs of marriage. Such a refreshing read

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  30. One thing I understand in this life is that, people actually know and feel it when they meet the right person. At that point you will understand while it never work out all along with some persons you had known earlier.

    Understand this--- Anyone can want you, but the love hit different when someone actually values you.

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  31. ๐Ÿ˜ŠGod bless your home. Good afternoon

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  32. Awww,I love this chronicle,God bless your home continually.๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ˜˜

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  33. Nice one. May your marriage continue to be blissful.

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  34. Thanks God, reading about a healthy relationship gives me joy. May God continue to bless your home.

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  35. As I read through this I remember about 8years ago I wanted to leave my marriage, infact I had even left my home and ran to Lagos leaving my child behind.while in Lagos and not knowing what next to do, I mailed stella that wanted to give up my child for adoption so that I can go live my life freely but she replied me that she can't interfere since it involved a child.having no where to turn to,i went back home and reconciled with my husband.its been 9years of my marriage and we're so happy together that we sometimes wonder what went wrong at the beginning.our family and friends teases us most times that we behave like newly married couple after three kids.we deliberately make each other happy.sometimes that my head want to spark,he will just give me that look like" I must continue to enjoy this peace in my marriage".WE MOVE

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    1. The leaving you left reset his brain. Congratulations on ur later happiness

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    2. Awwww. God continue to unite your home in love

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    3. All is well that ends well. Continue to make each other happy.

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  36. Congratulations Poster. I can relate to your post and sentiments and the lesson there....in deciding who to marry, pls keep your friends out of it and make your decisions based on your own experiences, needs, yardsticks etal. Your friends' opinion ...very secondary.

    God bless your home.

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  37. More blissful years of joy, prosperity and peace is what I wish you and for those passing through marriage and relationship issues,God will enter your boat and solve every issue before you.......... Josaria

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  38. Wow๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘lovely story. May God keep protecting your marriage in Jesus name ๐Ÿ™

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  39. I pray for the Lord sustain the love and happiness in your home. This is a nice story

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  40. May God continually keep your beautiful home

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  41. Stories like this are like medicine to the soul so sweet and encouraging. Poster. God bless your home. Whatever that made him divorce his first wife will never come up between you people. Enjoy your home.

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  42. Nice one may God continue to bless your marriage
    You shall experience bliss all through

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  43. When you marry your best friend... Poster may your home continue to be blessed.

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  44. Thank God for you dear poster
    God will continue to bless your homy

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  45. May God sustain the love in your home.

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  46. I'm happy for you,I wish you more blissful years ahead.

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  47. Poster, I am so happy for you and for the bliss that your marriage brings you and your husband. I am glad you followed your gut feeling about you husband and it turned out beautiful.

    I bet you if you had brought it here the advice you would have gotten from most of the female BVs would have scared you more that what your friends told you. Thankfully, you stuck to your intuition.

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  48. There are good men out there. They mostly don't appear like what you want. May God bless me with one, amen ๐Ÿ™

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  49. Congratulations poster. Your happiness is contagious. I pray for you that your marriage will continually be blessed.

    Sunshine BV

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  50. See me blushing☺️☺️,wishing you many more beautiful years together,Moral of the story,your relationship between you and your partner is not a community project,know this and know peace.

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  51. The man got it right the second time, if you missed it the first time, there is hope, be bold enough to move on. It can be better.

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  52. Hmm. Very unusual relationship. I'm happy for you

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  53. May you continue to enjoy your marriage.

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  54. This is so refreshing to read. May God continue to bless and keep your beautiful marriage.

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  55. More love, happiness, understanding for you and your husband

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