STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
CONFUSED
I'm confused, as in totally confused.
I'm confused, as in totally confused.
I reconnected with an old friend through FB. We got chatting and i told him I'm married with kids and I have a small business I'm running.
Last month was my birthday and he asked for my account number to send me small something to buy malt. I sent and he transferred 100k. I was happy and thanked him. We continued with our normal chatting.
On Friday November 4th, I saw an alert of N1 million in my account from him, I thought it was a mistake and I called him only for him to tell me that it was from him to me.
Ha! How!! where!!!
I've never seen even half of that amount. I asked him for what he said I should use it to get small things for my kids.
This is three much .
He just laughed and cut the call. My people I'm confused, how can I explain 1m in my account. How will I tell my hubby without him suspecting something, you no how men are.
My hubby is a jealous type. I didn't tell him about the 100k because I know how he will react now this one. Pls I need advice on what to do.
What concerns your hubby with how much is in your account? what is that? Do you also poke nose into his account? I know some men reading ME SAYING THIS but your husband has no business knowing how much you have, some men will make sure they help you empty the account by borrowing all or you wont have peace in the Marriage..... Too many stories abound.
If you didn't tell him about the 100k, why should you tell him about this one? code the money and save it for a rainy day, he does not need to know!... Any time you bring out money, tell him your borrowed it.
Meanwhile i hope it is not ritual money gifted you? or money to lure you into ritual or something sinister...
DONT EVER GO TO VISIT THIS PERSON ...dont!!!
In fact if longer throat will allow you, cut off contact with him immediately!
There's actually no need for you to tell him.
ReplyDeleteI just hope the man isn't into shady deals sha
Well it depends the kind of understanding you have with your partner, my hubby is very understanding and as long as he is aware of the friendship he wont be bothered, when you start hiding things, then that’s were there’s a problem.
DeleteYou also have to ask yourself if you are catching feelings, if you are, kindly cut off communication.
Well, since he claims it’s for the kids just tell yourself you probably were of good influence to him in the past 🤣
Aunty put that money into your business, as long as he doesn’t cross the line, we good. Once he starts talking off point you let him know you can’t and you will quickly like to make a refund.
Most people may tell you to refund it but aren’t in your shoes and do not know your immediate need.
Push up (original)
Be careful the kind of things you chat with him lest he blackmails you with it. Very very few men give free gift. You might say you know him enough but a lot of water has passed under bridge since you guys went separate ways. Be careful. Be extremely careful.
DeleteGood luck.
My own be say, be very careful about that person, that #1m without asking from a distance friend calls for worry.
ReplyDeleteIf you're afraid your man might see it, go and open another account and don't include SMS alerts or ATM.
I'm just thinking that man is not into any shady business that might tarnish your image if he's caught by the authority in future.
*Larry was here*
Exactly, na so dem arrest one bank cleaner for receiving kidnap ransome money that year. Customer came late to the bank and begged him to transfer to his account and withdraw for him. Transfer from his kidnap colleague's account to cleaner's account, cleaner withdrew cash for him and received a 'handsome' reward. Guy man escaped but cleaner was arrested cos the cash could be traced to cleaner's account. Cleaner was tortured and eventually released, don't know if the culprit was ever caught.
DeleteThat's my concern, as for telling your husband, don't bother telling him, as long as you didn't do any bad thing and don't intend to. As Stella said save the money for a rainy day and stay away from that man, make devil no tempt you to off pant one day.
Screenshot all the chat, don't cut out any date or time, and save the screenshots in your email. If you have another phone, use that to record the chats while you scroll down and also back that up to your email so no one can claim that the photos are edited. You can present it as evidence any day of required to prove your innocence.
DeleteIt's possible he deduced from your chats with him that you need financial help and decided to send you money. Honestly, one million isn't a lot of money to some people.
Don't tell your husband. Don't blow the money either. Save it for a rainy day.
Good advise from Anon 17:20. Poster come and hear oh!
DeleteThank you anon 17:20. Stella weren't in the same state so no physical contact.athank you for your advice.
DeleteOpen another account that your husband doesn’t know and transfer the money there. Don’t block the person yet except he start pestering you for physical contact. Pray and fast for guidance and protection against any kind of ritual o. If u are like me, you will dream if the person is a bad person, then block him straight.
ReplyDeleteThe guy is a yahoo guy. They spend money unnecessarily. No one who suffers to make genuine money will ever try this. What sacrifice did you make for him when you were still together? Did you stay in the hospital to look after his mum when she was sick?
DeleteOpen another account that your husband doesn’t know and transfer the money there. Don’t block the person yet except he start pestering you for physical contact. Pray and fast for guidance and protection against any kind of ritual o. If u are like me, you will dream if the person is a bad person, then block him straight.
ReplyDeleteBlock him straight if a bad person and do what with the money?
DeleteStella, please post. Some of us are here to learn.
Open an AXA mansard money market funds account and put this money inside for the rainy day and like Stella said "be kiaful"
ReplyDeletePoster do you have something doing? Add the money to your business or use it to start up something. Don’t tell your husband or risk losing that God sent.
ReplyDeleteI know Dante and co will come after my innocent comment but poster be wise
Fan Emmanuel
Do not visit this person ooo
ReplyDeletebefore dem use you do Suya for coven
Haba..
DeleteDo you think this man is a fool..
You go collect 1m no come free go see am? When he demand for the money back shebi you go fit pay am back without story..
No wahala
You guys worry too much
DeleteHe was her friend before
He has met better days and he’s helping her
Some of you can be hard to help. Too much suspicion
He doesn’t want sex. Enjoy the gift and move on
Dante😂😂😂😂
Delete16:43, it is your type that long throat will put you inside trouble! so what they were friends? Do people not change overnight? she should visit him if she will live to tell the story
No aproko I wasn’t talking about visiting him at home or privately
DeleteNo woman married or not should be visiting someone she just reconnected with it just met. Feel free to meet in a public place if you want to
I can't believe we are supporting she keeps the money and block the man that is just a friend expecting nothing in return. 🤣
DeleteLet's just hope the man doesn't come for his pound of flesh.
Just read Stella's advice over again.
ReplyDeleteThere are still one or two good people who will give without batting an eye lid. There are, but few.
ReplyDeleteWhy must you tell your hubby,knowing fully well he's a jealous type.
ReplyDeletePlease code your money,God can send help from anyone,just be very careful.
If he decides to give you more,collect and keep praying for more,you don blow congrats!
See them..
DeleteUntil most of you are at the recieving end of something, you'll never see the wrong in it..
That man is someone husband, you as a wife would be comfortable with your husband giving another man's wife 1m in secret bah..
Make Una continue.. na Una way
DNte I won’t be comfortable but I’m also not he jealous type so I can’t see any reason not to tell me
DeleteHowever on the principle of it, I don’t think she should tell her husband. Even the Best guys get jealous over this type of thing and their ego will block the road cause he will insist you must cut off contact with the guy
In Nigeria we pray for sudden helpers..when help come people will think something sinister. Tell your husband about this incase troubles come after but why una go Dey marry people Una no fit share good news with. God Abeg o 🤲🏾
ReplyDeleteThat's eeh, something is wrong somewhere.
DeleteThis is the main question
DeleteIsn’t your husband supposed to be your friend? Like
Wo
Dear poster, please put that money into some kind of investment, you can ask Martina about the best one to do.
If the guy is acting shady you simply pull out and refund him and have your interest in peace.
We cry for helpers everyday yet when one comes along we say rituals. If he was your friend I don’t see the ish.
Push up ( original)
I really don't understand the relationship people have with their spouses sha. From the minute we reconnected, me and my hubby sef have turned it to gist. From the first 100k, hubby don know. Not that he will ask for a kobo but I don't know why I won't tell my husband. Me I don't know o
DeleteI'm so surprised reading people's comments tbvh
Not everyone has a sinister motive. I went on holiday to a town in a southern African country earlier on in the year and I decided to buy a few items from a shop. I got chatting with the girl looking after the shop and my spirit just took to her. I regularly saw and chatted with her whenever our paths crossed during the holiday. She took my phone number and we became good friends. I was shocked when I found out how little she earned per month and encouraged her to start a small business on the side with her savings. We discussed a few potential business ideas and decided on one. She didn’t ask me for anything but I sent her £500. She is a lovely and hardworking girl and just needed help. The small business is now picking up and I have promised to send her some more money to put into it next year. I always find honest people to help whenever I can because someone helped me get to where I am and I want to pass the kindness on. I am a woman and I earn my money honestly through a professional job and have done nothing dishonest in my life. Now I would be very upset if someone insinuated that the money I help other people with is from rituals or something evil. I told the girl not to tell her fiancé about the money but she didn’t listen because of love. Now the guy is regularly beating her and, even though she hasn’t said this to me, I know he is collecting money from her small business as he doesn’t work. It makes me very angry but some people just don’t know how to be sharp.
DeleteGod bless you, there are still good people like you out there.
DeleteGod bless you, there are still good people like you out there.
DeleteAnon 19:42 your kind of assistance is far different from that of the poster. We know all this things
DeleteAs a man, Oga wey do transfer is playing foundation to start up a relationship with you.
ReplyDeleteAs others have advised, no need to tell your husband as it will definitely cause problems and never in ur life agree to a video or physical meeting even if it is in the church.
If you do otherwise, you will definitely regret and your husband fit still catch you.
I think u need to ask that ex what his intentions towards you are and make it clear that no matter how much he sends to u, u can never have anything to do with him (small evidence to prove to ur husband that u never asked for the money and that you didn’t do anything to receive that money)
ReplyDeleteAs per telling ur husband, na u know the kain husband wey u get and only u can decide if it’s wise to tell him.
I too love money so I no fit ever tell u to return that 1m
Please follow this advice, before he will start blackmailing you in the future, before he will threaten to tell people he slept with you hence the 1m transfer,now without evidence how do you explain to people that he gave you that money for free and why you never told your husband...there are still good people sha but thread with caution
DeleteDon’t ask the guy any questions unless you’re ready for the answer. Just continue to play friendship
DeleteNumber two, what is your plan for the 1m. Use am well cause everyday is not Christmas
Poster, pls follow this advice.
DeleteThat ur friend might be into rituals. And if you refuse to dance to his tune later on, he might scatter your marriage. Better don't spend the money yet, becos you might need to send it back to him.
ReplyDeleteWhat does this your friend do for a living.
Small money una dey panic say nah Ritual ? make God save you all for the poverty mentality . shi i just sent an old married female friend 400k that i have not seen in 3 years and have no plans to see
ReplyDeleteBe there lying until Jesus will catch you.
DeleteNo man that’s not related to you will send you huge amount of money without expecting anything from you. My own be say if you won eat frog eat better frog PERIOD
Fan Emmanuel
Fan Abeg leave that tin. I’m still friends with the guy that asked for my hand in marriage years ago. Never wanted him in my bed
Deletelike i said poverty mentality is a disease. If you got money you will understand it does not cost much to be off assistance to women and not expect anything back
DeleteFan Emmanuel, this is actually a lie, I have male friends in tech and other fields, I have dashed them money before and they have done the same, no intentions whatsoever, I even know the women in their lives.
DeletePush up (original)
Fan a good friend who is married dashed me a million bucks because I got some professional work done for him.
DeleteMy husband knows him and my folks too. I've had him speak with my
Believe it or not 1 million is for a onetime grocery for some folks
Lol, Stella, he might not be into ritual. Some people are rich with legit business like that. Spending extravagantly does not mean he is into illegal stuff. Some men can spend their last dime on a woman they love.
ReplyDeletePoster, its obvious that guy is interested in you but do not give in to his advances. Its a different case if you're not married.
Do not block him yet, but be distant from him. If he sees that you're not the isekuse type and youre always ignoring him, no one will tell him to leave you alone. He will run without his shoes.
"Woman they love".
DeleteCan a man keep loving a married woman and is it right for a man to continuing gifting her money she didn't ask for out of need beyond her and her husband's capacity?
If all is right in this gifting of money, why does she need to hide it from account to account?
After collecting N1.1m from an old friend she should distant herself from him and keep ignoring for him to run away right? How about asking him for an account to return the money. What stopped her from refusing to give her account in the first place? What stops her from simply thanking him for the gifts so far and telling him politely but with some firmness that no more because of what it might cause in her marriage or how some people may construe any further gifts?
I am just remembering the story from Info State of that man and his wife who received money from her brother into her account for the brother's building project without telling her husband.
Stella says the husband may borrow the money. Yes. He may also think the Poster is into something else. Men differ. In some tribes, it is a taboo for a married woman to collect money from a former male friend, especially a former erotic lover.
All said, the man may not actually be interested in her beyond what he is doing as Poster simply called him an old friend.
The Bible says wisdom is profitable.
@16:24
Delete*Ondo State.
🤔🤔🤔
ReplyDeleteWomen!!! See them scheming and teaching their gender how to lie and hide things from their husband.If he eventually finds out now they will still be the ones that will say why didn’t she tell her husband.Woman pls do whatever you feel is right and what you would want your husband to do to you if the case was reversed.
ReplyDeleteIf he finds out she can explain
DeleteProblem is why are you telling him all your business
Would you be happy if one woman is giving your husband money and he didn’t tell you anything about it till you found out?let’s be putting ourselves in other peoples shoes sometimes before we tell people to hide or lie about stuff from their spouses
DeletePray and pray that GOD BLESSES your giver. Pray that God protects you and your kids in Jesus name, amen 🙏
ReplyDeleteThe word old time friend calls for concern, you never can tell what the person has been doing since you lost contact,be very careful so that you don't become a chicken being fatly feed so that it will be feed on later
ReplyDeleteKeep the money from your husband so you don't scatter your marriage with it,
and stop contacting this person
I know the kind of man I have. From the beginning, I'd have told him about the 100K and who sent it and he won't feel 1 iota of jealousy because he KNOWS me.
ReplyDeleteIt's even with shock and utmost surprise that I'll show him the alert.
You should not hide this kinda news, so that you'll have someone in your corner if shit hits the fan.
God bless you,infact not telling him and he later finds out he won't believe any explanation you give him.
DeleteThis is my husband too oh.
DeleteThank you TS. I don't think I will have the mind to keep such secret from my husband. What if there are turn of events, how do I explain myself, and how will he ever trust me again? Poster, my point exactly is that my husband must know about this credit alert just in case....
DeleteThank God for the guy & the ladies asking the poster to be open with her husband. This “gift” is a bribe and the consequences may affect and alter the lives you both built. Long throat and secrecy aren’t good in a marriage o. Happily married for three decades, I never keep important things from my husband even when I made more than he did. Money reveals a person it changes nobody. Someone said “how much is a million naira ”? It’s not about how much in absolute terms, but it’s the idea and what it means within the context of the society you live in. If this guy was your relative it would have been ok. Just don’t complain when your spouse begins to spend on a woman outside because accountability goes both ways in relationships.
DeleteThank you oh, poster you have started what you can't finish.
DeleteTell your husband about that money, let him be jealous if he wants to be but at least he will know you're being honest.
Let's call a spade a spade here, first thing you should have done if even attempted to return that money and then if he insists, let him know you'll inform your husband about the monetary gift. That will keep him at bay if he was already nursing sinister plans.
You're calling for trouble..
ReplyDeleteThat man is insulting your husband and you're welcoming him.
What kind of man gives somebody's wife money..
When men wants something from a woman, whether physical or spiritual, the shortest cut is by giving her money, to wet the peak/ easy access, especially with a married woman or one in a relationship, when they do it and get the impression that she didn't tell her husband, boom! Now they know they can come at you and you won't be able to tell anyone cause where do you want to start from without shooting yourself on your feet.. even if you tell your husband, it still tells that you don't respect him and you married a simp, the man would still come at you for whatever he wants, unless you had thanked him for the first one and told him your husband isn't comfortable with it, so he shouldn't send again..
Some of you ladies sense blocks when you see money and refuse to see the trouble it would put you..
Now you'll begin to lie when you have to spend the money on business or otherwise.. you'll begin to lie to your husband on the source..
What happens when the man demand the money back when you refuse to give him what he wants after you have spent the money, knowing he would tell your husband if you don't pay back, would you have no choice than to open up to your husband or dance to his tune?
I'm not disappointed with most of the comments I'm reading here.. and you begin to wonder what the problem with nowadays marriage is, marriage that is filled with lies, deceits and secret.. Una never ready to leave the street..
Later Una go come here dey ask me to change my cycle, it's the audacity for me
Lol at somebody’s wife
DeleteIs that her only identity in life
She’s somebody’s friend and the friend is helping her. Should he have calls her husband for permission. What she chooses to tell her husband is her affair
Lol @ insulting her husband. From some comments, it's obvious that some people don't have a giving spirit. Some people prefer to pay their tithe by helping people around them instead of giving it to a church. If 100k is a large sum of money to poster, it's possible the friend felt she needs help or how she appreciated the 100k. Some people will not even say thank you if you give them 100k. They will remind you that it will only buy 1 bag of rice and few ingredients because things are now expensive.
DeleteNo wahala..
DeleteJust don't complain when your husband is friends with some lady somewhere and sending her huge sum of money..
I know the comments I saw here of the man that was chatting with his ex turned friend, and how he was insulted in that chronicle, I also didn't support him cos I no dey support rubbish, e reach Una turn naw, Una dey support cos you want such to happen to you too and don't want anyone to see anything wrong in the wrong..
Make Una continue..
No be kuku my wife or family she dey bring shame to✌️
I almost NEVER agree with your comments, but on this, I do wholeheartedly.
DeleteHow do you know the sender is married? What if this 1million is like what one thousand naira is to you? 'A lot' is relative.
DeleteA stranger who doesn’t know the faces of the recipient gave Bvs on this Blog as much as 800k,500k,300k,200k etc respectively and till today didn’t ask for anything in return..
ReplyDeleteA “FRIEND” gave another 1M and it’s already suspicious without him asking for anything,some are even suggesting it could be ritual..
If a stranger can give fellow strangers as stated above,why should a friend be suspected for having ulterior motives?
There are givers;I have been a beneficiary and I pray for Angel Pee and Koof always..
Some humans are kind at heart,it’s just who they are;neither does it mean you are using them..
In my opinion;until this man does something bad or ask you out knowing you are married;simply appreciate him..
Telling your husband is up to you;you know the kind of man you married and the best approach..
If you are still in doubt;open an Opay account and send the money there;deactiva te alerts;it will accrue good interests for you just incase there is a need to send back the money in future..
@MARTINS
Also if there is anything to worry about;does the bank sender bears his name?
DeleteIf yes,you are safe..it’s just to be sure your account wasn’t used to receive illegal funds..
@MARTINS
Well said! It's people that can't fathom giving others that amount that find it difficult to believe he doesn't have a sinister plan. How many men that cheat with married men send them the money upfront instead of asking them to meet someone to collect it? Some even end up not fulfilling their promise. Poster, keep chatting with your friend and maintain the friendship boundary.
DeleteOga Martin's, the circumstances you referred to are different.
DeleteA gift through a blog owner to her/his Bvs is very different from a gift from an old male friend of a now married woman. Especially as the woman did no clarify the old friendship.
Old classmates and school mates gift and open doors of wealth to each other. Such is even expected. Usually, everyone in their circle gets to know
But an old male friend not clarified is ...
Even the Poster is not comfortable with the gift, and that is not only because of the amount as some Bvs want to make it appear.
Poster should refer this her friend to this blog. Let him join Angel Pee and Koof. We plenty here who would love to be gifted.
By the way, I am fully Anon here.
This is not a random act of kindness. I have wired money to random folks begging on IG from an anonymous account, helping a few without them even knowing my name as I send the naira through a third party. This is a Greek gift and when the consequences start, remember you got a few voices of caution here. “A bribe corrupts the heart”
DeleteFinancial advice : Change the money to dollars and invest in Eurobonds for the future. Google United Capital for their investment platform.
ReplyDeletePersonal Advice 1. Wisdom is profitable to direct. If telling your husband will cause problems, shush.
Personal Advice 2: It MAY be a harmless gift, or he may be trying to get you soft so he will sleep with you. If it gets to that, Resist! Do not allow the devil destroy your home, except you honestly desire an end to your marriage. That’s if it turns out he wants to sleep with you o. And if he then tries to blackmail you because of the money, you can liquidate the investment and remove yourself from the situation. For now, relax and save ya money. Love and light.
It’s too late to change money to dollars
DeleteI don’t this is good advice anymore
It’s better to hold still or buy land
It's never too late to change naira to dollars. Poster, please buy dollars and keep for a rainy day. By the time you need the money, dollar may be 1500naira to a dollar.
DeleteJust make sure you carry the aboki man to the bank and have a bank official check and confirm that every bill the aboki gives you is not fake before you transfer the naira equivalent to the aboki.
Dollar May be 1500 but it may also go back to 470. This speculation will drive some mad if it goes the other way. Be guided
DeleteThere is a difference between playing an ostrich and being realistic. Everyone is praying for dollar to even become $1 but it will not happen overnight and poster will have time to sell if it starts dropping. I had a conversation with someone when this spiral began that pounds will hit 1000naira. How much is it today? It's not rocket science that it would happen if govt keeps blowing money the way they've been.
DeleteA male friend gifting a female friend such huge amount is suspicious- unless when you were friends you once helped him and he's indirectly paying back in gratitude. Knowing Nig men, he may want an affair later on. Plus lack of transparency in marriage is not the best. I won't even accept as a single girl talkless of married..hmm
ReplyDeleteNa this kind post I miss ANG sha, he/she would have talk sense into you😅
That money is not just a gift, from 100k to 1m....maybe 2moro he will send another 100m. How many men have given their married female friends a million plus without demanding for something.
DeleteExactly!
DeleteThank you.
DeleteStella has said it all. Why must women disclose everything to their husbands? Do men do the same? Anyway me i learnt the hard way. My husband will do like he’s upset u got it then chop it all for u. As for the man giving u maybe it’s truly a gift.
ReplyDeleteAll of a sudden, trust and accountability are no longer important in marriages!!!
DeleteUna well done ooo
Poverty na bastard ! Kai! Look how you’re hyperventilating over 1mil? In your next life be rich or marry rich so when you see such amounts you don’t shout like an ambulance. This is so sad
ReplyDeleteIn any case what would your husband be doing inside your account? He’s poor , controlling and jealous all in the same breath ? Na wa oo
Please invest it , invest it oo, before you start telling stories that touch .
Lady MorgiannE
Ps : you want to return money ? Why ? Lmaaooo
Poster dp you intend spending everything at once?
ReplyDeleteCos that's the only way he can suspect your spending.
Delete your alerts.
Spend on important things, not like he's always around you 247.
Don't tell him anything.
You can always say business is going really well.
If this guy starts talking about wanting you abeg block him everywhere asap
I was given N5million naira equiv , by my ex in the USA. O havent seen this guy since 1993. I quickly went to fashion school, graduated, bought machines and other stuffs. He also gave me N1.5m for my wedding as well. He only calls to check up on me once a while. @poster, invest the money and keep screenshots of your convo in case you misplace your phone. Some ppl are angels while others are green demons
ReplyDeleteThis is why some people don’t fight with their exes
DeleteGod abeg find me this kind friend na. LOL.
ReplyDeleteI pray it's not an illegal money though.
If you cannot tell your husband, return the money. The entire amount.
ReplyDeleteHmmm, reading comments is my hobby
ReplyDeleteAnd trolling people too
DeleteDon't return the money and don't spend it either until you fully knows the man's intentions and telling your husband about it may cause problem for you so be wise
ReplyDeleteDo fixed deposit if you do not want to use it for any business yet, you can fixed for one year. It's long enough for his really intentions to be revealed 😊😊
ReplyDeleteGod please i need this kind of ex. My first love, the guy who disvirgined me is now a billoniare, we met recently after so many years and i told him about my intention of wanting to put up a business and pleaded with him to support me and he agreed. Only for him to travel back abroad his base and started ignoring my what'sapp calls and text messages i have been sending to him reminding him of our discussion.
ReplyDeleteThis world
DeleteIf he helps some people will say he wants somethings and so some don’t help
Ive been helping a friend with her kids. She had this type of
Remove mind from him
DeleteFace GOD
Stop disturbing him
DeleteFace God.
Sorry dear una still knack sha
DeleteWhat do you want to tell your husband since you know he is a jealous lover. Please do not tell your husband about the money just lock up and face front.
ReplyDeleteI hope he is not one of those people that launder money and is looking for where to hide it. He then decided to use your account to hide the embezzled money?
ReplyDeleteI have been a beneficiary of God's goodness expressed through humans. Someone has given me a car gift, huge sums of money, dollars , etc. I have enjoyed unusual gifts.
ReplyDeleteThere are good people who give, because God commanded them to help you, there are others who do it because of what they hope to get from you. You can accept their gifts and still not fulfill their expectations.
Hmmmmm🤔 I’m suprised at how many women are ok with you taking money that much from a man who isn’t known by your husband and then hiding it from him! Poster as we say here, there is no free lunch”. The Bible says in Ecclesiastes 7:7 “ Extortion turns a wise person into a fool, and a bribe corrupts the heart”…
ReplyDeleteI’m an older woman and that money is not free. It may lead to regrets if you keep accepting & hiding such gifts from your husband. As a policy from my college days, I don’t accept gifts from any man unless we are dating and I have never accepted gifts from any man other than my spouse. I know times are hard in the country but I suspect even in your heart you know it’s not free. “ the spirit of man is the candle of God” says the Bible that does not change with the times.
Asin the comments here scare me..
DeleteI think I might have to leave social media for my mental health
Loud it
DeleteYes,like Stella said,cut all calls from him.u are a married woman and your hubby might not be please to know a male calling and sending you money as well.u don't have to let ur hubby know about the money to avoid quarrels in the home.goodluck
ReplyDeleteLol! You guys don’t believe there are divine helpers everywhere. I’m currently schooling in UK. Tuition fee of 15K pounds and accommodation of 10k fully sponsored by my boyfriend. Not husband o. Learning to fish for myself without me buying the tool is a divine blessing. I intend to pay forward too. Once I start making money from my career, I will definitely help the needy too because someone made that sacrifice. So babe invest the money wisely, be kind to people and see how God will increase you even more.
ReplyDeleteThis is different from the posters story. You said your boyfriend. That means it is a defined and genuine relationship and there is nothing to hide about it. Nobody will even advice you to hide it but this posters relationship with the said guy is/was not defined. And she is even concealing her communications with the guy from his husband.
DeleteMadam, being gifted money by an ex is not the issue! The urge to keep it secret from your spouse is a red flag. Openess in marriage is important. As a married woman, do not go about reconnecting with your exs and accepting gifts secretly.
ReplyDeletePoster, since you know that your husband is the jealous and troublesome type, don't tell him. Be careful with that your friend, study him to know what he is really looking for. Invest the money.
ReplyDeletePoster, don't tell your husband anything about the money .meanwhile be very careful with that your friend I think he is up to something don't visit him don't even meet him in any open place. Thank him and do away with him.
ReplyDeleteYou should tell your husband.
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