Hmmm.....
STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
ADVICE NEEDED
This is getting me angry.....
Why will this my colleague constantly request for my phone and always checks my pictures? We are not dating but just colleagues who gist from time to time and nothing more. He will come and ask me to open my phone and next thing he is checking my pictures.
I took a picture of my monthly flow to send to my doctor cos i have fibroid an the doctor asked me to take pictures so that i can show him during my next visit. I am yet to see the doctor so i cannot delete this picture and this guy went through my phone and saw it.
The idi#t is talking some rubbish with my phone, imagine if i have a nude picture in m phone this guy would have seen this. Thank God i do not keep such pictures.
Please tell me how best to stop this colleague from checking my pictures, he checks pictures including the ones he has viewed before. Help me with tough skin to deal with this issue cos i don't want to fight or say harsh words that i may not be able to reverse.
Excuse me? Stop giving him your phone!... If he comes to you to ask for your phone, just tell him that you cannot give it to him!.. Its you being nice and saying it the way it is.....
Why would you begiving him your phone when you know that he comes to spy on your stuff? cant you defend yourself..
Even if you are dating, he has no right to be going through your phone like this...
You no need advice,you need slap.Does he have your password or drags your phone from you,no be you Dey open am?some chronicles Dey irk me I swear.
ReplyDeleteStop giving him your phone
DeleteEasy peasy stuff
thank you for this wonderful slap, i really need it.
DeleteNa him buy you the phone Abi na him Dey shine your Congo?
DeleteLet me add my own slap 👋
DeleteNa wa o.
DeleteNne how old are you again?
Make una dey reason well, how can u be giving a guy your phone as in for shawarma or ice cream 🍦?
I will sha add my own 👋🏼. I will also help my sister add hers 👋🏼. Where she dey, no network.
DeleteNa guy man go take shift your pant very soon.
DeleteMy own is sharp knock to reset your blocked head
DeleteMake I add my own slap ni lol 😂
DeleteUna wan kill am with slap? 🤣🤣🤣
DeleteSerious defeaning slap o.
DeleteBia poster, what happened to the word NO?? Only 2 letters yet you can't use. Shior.
Add blow that can shift teeth, people pleasing at your detriment
DeleteWhy are you like this? Stop giving him your phone madam? Or are you under a spell?
ReplyDeletePlease stop giving him your phone.
DeleteIs he the one that bought the phone for you? Stop giving him your phone, I don't know why some people can't make firm decisions, when next he asks for your phone, tell him you're using it even if it's obvious you aren't using it
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
Auntie tel us the true story. Is he the one that got the job for you? Did you guys have a one night stand? Does he have something on you? If the answers to all of these questions is negative then pout your feet down and don’t give him your phone. Simple!
ReplyDeleteAll your questions are no no no no.
DeleteWith the fire i will get today, my head must reset.
Ngwanu download app lock like Martin suggested. Basically lock all the apps
DeleteTwo options..
ReplyDelete1) Don't give him your phone,state it how it is..
2) Download "AppLock" from your store then add your photos and any other app to it,create a password and when anyone's tries to open it will request for a password..
If you use an iPhone,activate you face ID.
Hope this helps..
@MARTINS
What did I just read...must you give him your phone,if you can't stop,then password your gallery.
ReplyDeleteIre ooooo
Why is saying ''No'' difficult for some people?
ReplyDeleteIf you don't learn to stop some nonsense happening around you or in your life, you'll blame yourself later.
Saying No to his request will hurt him but hey, are you not feeling the same way? Tell him, NO!
Poster Martins has said it all so please do as he has said.
ReplyDeleteStop giving him your phone.
I can't believe this is ann issue, Haba!
ReplyDeleteTell him point blank NO.
Gifty
Many people are just not adult but adolescent,how for god sake ask for advice on somebody that you work with asked you for your phone and you came here to ask us to help you how he won't get your phone again to watch.something is wrong maybe you have a feeling for him so you can't say no
ReplyDeleteEven my 2 year old niece is big at saying No. I really don't know why the word is difficult for people to use.
DeleteYou people just enjoy putting others down in this space to feel bougie; but are same in reality.
DeleteAnybody that was raised with strict discipline in an African home has a bit of the underlying fear this poster is experiencing that is making her find it hard to say no when she needs to.
Poster; work on yourself. You are a people pleaser that's why you can't say no. Certainly your upbringing
Hurry up and start working on it before it spoils things for you in life!
Download app lock and lock your pictures, messages and videos.
ReplyDeleteOR
Don't give him the phone, tell him point blank not to invade your privacy. Dunno why you are scared to talk, na here you wan come form tiger.
My gallery, messages and other important Apps are always locked. If you want my phone, no worries you can have it for as long as you want but na only to make call or those not so important Apps you fit open. You see that thing that your colleague is doing... I don't like it.
ReplyDeleteGirl lock your Apps abeg.. No too much talk cos he'll get the message.
Stella, I was expecting you to give her your E-slap sef.
ReplyDeletePoster, please be an adult and don't to give him your phone!
Just say no.
ReplyDeleteStella, wetin happen to that your slap picture?
ReplyDeletePoster like the guy. But he too over confident even though he never do the needful
So if he transferred Poster's private pictures and misuse them tomorrow, she will send another chronicle of being blackmailed after she found the man that will change her life. And ask Nigerians to call the Police on him?
Some women sabi shift personal responsibility o.
He is a colleague, not a friend. Please set boundaries in your life and stick to them. Nobody asks everyday to see someone's phone and check pictures, either he is mental or up to no good.
ReplyDeleteColleague kwa? Why would it be difficult to tell your colleague that he can't use your phone? It's not like the phone gives life and he'd die without the phone. You can tell him politely that you do not wish to share your phone with him anymore. It's as simple as that.
ReplyDeleteMy dear just tell him that you can't give him your phone. It is as simple as that.
ReplyDeleteAre you a child?
ReplyDeleteAre you a tata?
Abeg, make I see road.
You don't know how to send sensitive pictures to your mail and delete from your gallery?
Or create a folder and lock it.
Or say NO?
Awon crowd pleaser aye.
What type of advice do you need now,you are holding something and feeling d pain, and you expect somebody to tell you to drop something that is hurting you, nkwanu, keep holding it,even a baby will be like,,,i will nt give you my toy😒
ReplyDeleteAda ohafia
Poster what is too hard in saying NO whenever he asks for your phone?
ReplyDeleteSometimes I don't understand humans
I dont understand how this is an issue. na you dey give am phone na still you dey complain. Simply don't give him your phone na haba.
ReplyDeleteBe polite when highway say no the first time cause you were saying yes before
ReplyDeleteMadam you no sabi say no? Is your phone and your personal belonging, please learn to say no and mean it.
ReplyDeleteNa him buy d phone for u? Cos I can't understand this ur chronicle oya be nice and continue giving him .
ReplyDeleteJust be firm with your decisions.password your phone as well.
ReplyDeleteYou don't really need advice,with the rubbish he is talking already because of what he saw in your phone is a big reason to stop giving him your phone to check,stop giving him your phone to check,you are the cause of what you are going through now.......... Josaria
ReplyDeleteThat's why I don't like starting what I cannot finish.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, have you ever heard of the word "boundaries". Stop being a people-pleaser and take control of your life. In the first place, why are you even giving your colleague your phone to go through? Better face the work you are there to do, redefine relationships, and have peace.
ReplyDeleteHow old are you pls ?
ReplyDeleteNo one gets look at your phone, it’s your phone, your private life, he would soon that taking things he can blackmail you with from your phone, the heart of man is Evil, the your messages charts account balance, the intention is never good, stop it immediately
DeleteBiko poster can you kindly tell us what he comes to look for in your phone, when the work it's not a software he is looking for ,you mean as an adult a colleague a guy that's not even a boyfriend will request for your phone everytime to see his or head or what sotey he saw ,what's he is not nne I makwa ihe but boundaries,
ReplyDeleteAunty Stella e don reach when oyibo go add audio to blogs so that we go use ,voice talk sense in some people.
If I hear you give him your phone again I will come and arrest you for non assertiveness
Dear poster I know you're men pleaser,I know people like that who always want to appear good all time.....but if you continue like this soon people will take you for granted.say a big NO when you're not comfortable about something especially this your colleagues who is a spy in name of friend.
ReplyDeleteGive your phone to check.pics as what now?Are you baby or you just dumb?Collect a bigger slap.Even your father/mother has no right to go through your phones..no one has that right.Let it sink in.the next time that boy(yes he is a boy.)tries that rubbish again.Put him in his place and be very serious with it.
ReplyDeleteTalk to him harshly if that would make himstop.what rubbish!!
Low self esteem
ReplyDeleteEmpathy syndrome
Poster SAY I CANNOT GIVE YOU MY PHONE NOW
SAY IT ON 25 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS