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Monday, May 08, 2023

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative

 Hmm....


NARRATIVE TWO
ADIVCE NEEDED


Hubby and I went to his sister's house ,she just gave birth...I came back from work to meet him there around 9pm, so they were watching movies and series .
He kept saying we will go soon but when the time got too late, I got fed up and ordered Uber and left...
Please advice how I could have handled this better.


You really embarrassed him!
You could have just been patient, I am sure he was waiting for the perfect time to get up and say you were leaving......
There are lots of ways you could have handled this but it has happened so just apologise and let it rest.


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NARRATIVE TWO
ADVICE NEEDED


I met an abroadian who wants me to spend money when we meet. He's been telling me he won't pick all our bills. 

Mind you I'm just an entrepreneur, lost some huge sum recently and he still has guts to tell me that, do I still need more red light to bolt?


WOW, your mindset has shocked me.. You are locking for man who will be your ATM or what? So you cannot foot half of the bill? Like seriously? Love yourself so much that you will be willing to do what will make you happy. stop depending on a man in a relationship, its wrong!#
Can I surprise you? You are actually the red flag! ...My two cents!
 

77 comments:

  1. Poster 1, you should have just exercised patience for just that day with your hubby, now your actions will make his sister and hubby feel some types of ways about you.I don't know why we human just want issues, when there's none.

    Poster2, I wouldn't lie, I can't foot anybills for someone abroad who's coming to see me. Haba he even knows you had set back in your business. Tell him your mind, if he doesn't want then decide to quit or manage to share the bills with him.

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    1. Patience is virtue. Turn it and ses. If she was your sister...

      He's honest.

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    2. It’s a date,a first one at that so pls hold your money or stay at home.Most men nowadays don’t want a woman that can’t pay her bills on a first date .we don wise,say no to brokeass women.

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    3. Shyla, your dependent mindset did not allow you read the post to comprehend properly. The man said he wouldn’t foot all of the bill. He didn’t say she should spend on him.

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    4. Dear Anonymous(s) whether full or half, on first date or second, I'm not paying for anything. I didn't complain I wasn't having food in my house, you insist on the date by trying to woo me.I've a choice, I wouldn't pay a dime. After knowing ourselves and I'm fully committed in the relationship, then I will know, if I'm to support him. It's my choice and opinion.

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    5. Don't mind them Shyla.

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  2. Poster 1: it was already close of the day and a peculiar event of his sister giving birth. Really don't understand where you were rushing to. (Even if you were tired or had a long day. Atleast you would have lay on the couch and sleep off. When he is ready, he wakes you up.) It's actually disrespectful and to a man, his ego might be injured. You acted as the Boss.

    Poster 2. In abroad, it's a normal thing. He is honest with you and I like that. If you were to marry him tomorrow, you will always pay part of the bill.
    If you can't deal, pls let him go. He isn't wrong and you ain't too. It's just different continental ways of relationship.

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  3. Poster 1,
    Just let it rest as Stella said, it happens amongst many married ppl I know, they drive separate cars to manage this.
    I think hubby has understood and will allow you henceforth.

    Poster 2, I disagree with Stella, no need splitting bills if you are doing it grudgingly, you are probably not into him or with him for the right reasons.

    Let him go and find you a man that can support you financially or stay single till you get mentally ready to date and share bills like abrodians do!

    Goodluck

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    1. Poster 1 chillax I don’t think you did anything wrong except not bring fruits or pepper soup for the lady that out to bed, you had work and have work the next day, you also have your family responsibility. Please make some pepper soup for her and bring to her sit and goat and tell her you are so happy for her and you have to go prepare for work and your kids, tell her she should t heaiatate to reach out to you should she need anything and make some time on the weekend to see her and help with some house chores etc thy is enough
      Poster 2 if you can’t manage being with a guy that shows you his true colours, my dear pick race… there’s always someone willing to do more or atleast share thesame mentality with you on such matters. Exercise patience till the one that knows this comes

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  4. Call me whatever but a man that expects u to spend on a first date is a walking red flag. I understand spending on subsequent dates or u even offering to spend but him saying it is an obvious red flag especially if he knows you don't have.

    Poster one, yea, you embarrassed the hell out of ur husband. You could have kept making signs for you guys to leave then voice ur grievances when u get home and you would have deserved an an apology. Now he's the one you owe a serious apology

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  5. Poster two pick dates you can afford. Pick restaurants that are within your means and be ready to pay at least half

    Poster one, I think taking Uber was okay. Sometimes the body is too tired to continue. If your man I’d upset, offer to call his sister and explain
    The fact is even you calling Uber didn’t make him get up and leave so he too carries part of this

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    1. God bless you Anon 15:23 cos I cant see the big deal in her taking a cab

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    2. The issue is not taking a cab. It is walking out on her husband and sister in law as if they were wasting her time. In our side, spouses are not expected to walk out on each other especially in presence of family and friends.

      She was expected to narrated a story why they needed to go home and that they would be back at the weekend to spend time with the sister in law and Poster's new born niece/nephew. And then prod her husband to get up if be with additional story. That's how we roll this side. Lol. There is an old book on how to be a Nigerian. Look for it. It would be worth your time

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    3. I’m sorry 18:39 I’d rather my husband goes home than try to make me leave when I’m with my sisters
      Sometimes the gist has entered your body and you’re enjoying yourself let the tired person go home . I will join him

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    4. 19:26
      Points well made. In the given case, your husband is even expected to leave you behind with your sister and make arrangements for your transportation to work the next days.

      The shorter chronicles usually say more. They are usually written by the skilled in the use of words. At the time Poster arrived there, she already felt she should rather be at home. That feeling was made firmer by seeing them watching a movie. Poster saw the visit as a waste of the evening. That influenced everything.

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  6. Poster 1, use examples to make decisions, you were there already wait it out and next time, state it before going, if we do not leave at say 10pm, I will most likely take a cab, shikena
    Poster 2 you are the red flag

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  7. Run from the abroadian. He’s a red flag . Ignore Stella’s advice. He will eventually make you pay all the bills.
    A man who loves you wouldn’t mind picking all the tabs and no it’s not about self love . Self love is seeing red flags like this one and running , he has more earning power more than you, why’s he telling you to pick the bills too ?

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    1. Love for first date,did you hit your head?

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    2. Self hate is disrespecting yourself to the extent that a man reminds you you have to responsible to your needs, especially financial needs. Men should not just run from your type, they should be able to blacklist you to warn other men to run from you too.

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    3. I agree with Anon 15.27. A gentleman will foot the bill. A man who is serious about you, will pay especially if he is the one asking you out.

      If he insists, take him to your house and cook spaghetti. It's cheaper and No need for too much talk. Just ensure he only eats the food and not you.

      Only broke men will have issues with this advice. I dey my dey and you came to me but you expect me to foot the bills? Nah...stay home thenπŸ™„

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    4. How does not paying someone else’s bills a sign of being unserious?I just weak for how a lot of these women think sha.Women that ask men to pay their bills on a first date deserve men that ask women for sex after a first date.

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  8. Narrative 1
    You just ordered an Uber and left him, in his sister's house o. Tomorrow now, they'll start saying you're a bad wife , this and that because you have then the avenue to do so. You didn't handle the situation properly.

    Narrative 2
    It's not bad if you assist with the bills. In Africa, we laod the men with too much financial responsibilities that can actually kill them. If you're in a position to help with bills, what's wrong with it? It's a different thing when you don't have it

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  9. Poster 1....You didn't do well. Leaving like that is so rude. You're now their family topic of discussion. How you rushed out without your husband. As you apologise to your husband, call their Sister too and be nice. Use laugh cover what happened that day and just give excuse that you were really tired. But do apologise to your husband.

    Poster 2...Your life your rules. If you're looking for a man who will be the provider and head of your home, abroadian is not it. He's more of a 50/50 person. Keep looking.

    Personally, I don't share bills. Be a man, take me out and foot the bills, there are other ways I appreciate my man. Btw, when relationship don mature, sharing of bills comes naturally, you the girlfriend sef would want to help your man out without any hassle or him asking. Not at this stage, when he's suppose to be the MAN and lead.. Na so I see am.

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    1. What is this "MAN" we are shouting about sef?

      Be a man. Provide as a man. Do this as a man. Do that as a man. Do those as a man. A man is not a human being?

      When he starts doing all as a man as demanded by us, by society, by other people he is obligated to, by his expectations of himself, as educated, we are the first to shout and complain that he is behaving as a man.

      There is a name in my Delta State native language that "a girl child is a person also"..

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  10. No1,apologize to your hubby as what you did was wrong
    No2,wait fess..Are you sure you truly want a genuine relationship? I don't think so cos your kinda mindset is screwed

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    1. yeah right madam pick me, all this woke men are sitting on a long thing. Apart from your money what exactly do you have to offer a woman. If she was ugly will you date her? beauty is to a man what money is to a woman. As a woman it should be my choice to spend not drag me out of my house use my time, enjoy my company and force me to pay you must be seriously joking for real

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  11. Dear kings..

    May God safe us from 'strange' womenπŸ™.. both the ones that would embarrass us and the one that doesn't have sense..

    There was this girl I wanted to take seriously some years back, to be honest, I don even dey love up, but I noticed it's me spending always, not like I see it as a big deal, I know as Naija babes mindset be, but I was wondering, if maybe we now get married and I'm facing financial challenges, can these babe support?..
    I always give without her asking, like anytime she visits, I go at least give am Uber fare which is of course is more than the fare, even if we just meet in town say make me eat lunch or dinner, I go still give am bah, then she dey always task me some kind lose change too and this was someone that's working.. I wasn't seeing it as anything, I give when I have na when I no get you no go see this part of me..but I noticed this girl has never given me anything, on her birthday na me spend on my birthday, same thing, she no even shame say she no fit buy any gift..

    So one day I asked her, you know life is easy when there's support right.. I was like, if I marry you, I know it's my duty to provide but I'd like you handle like 30 percent while I handle 70 percent,. The same way I'll also be supporting you like 30 percent in the home runnings and errands..

    Omo na so babe flare up say e be like say I dey play, say for this Abuja, men dey wey dey assist for home and their wives don't support financially even tho they're working, that her duty is not to support, the man must handle the providing πŸ’― percent bla bla bla..

    Omo, I shock, cos I have sisters and I know how they can never be useless and senseless like this, yea, I and my younger sis lived together sometime ago and she was always adding her bits (maybe more than bits to be honest) to the home runnings, so I know wetin I dey talk..

    Even though I don dey love up, I knew we can never work, her mindset is dangerous.. she's married now tho, like I always say, the behind is not the future.. if you go marry because of behind only, na premium tears dey wait you for future.. I wish her husband well πŸ™..

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    1. i have told myself that i will assist my husband no matter how much i earn or what he earns. Is not good to leave all the load on one person cos this life everyone needs a helping hand. Same thing with men to always assist their wives with the house chores. No one that does not love support, no matter how little please assist your man.

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    2. Real senseless, poor home training is the biggest bane of the African children, especially its female children. Lack of proper mentorship in the homes. Entitled parents raising entitled children erupts dignity and self-respect in adult children.

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  12. Poster 2 Please and Please ignore Stella’s conception of how a relationship should be. Don’t ever be comfortable with a man who would unashamedly want to split bills with you on a first date, knowing your current situation. It’s a BIG RED FLAG!!🚩🚩🚩
    That man is not a kind man and does not have your interests at heart. However you can go ahead and try it grudgingly as I know you would be. Probably he might be acting from his cultural upbringing and experience

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    1. You guys don’t understand that it’s not about being kind or unkind,it’s about principles,it’s about the way of life.Because someone asks you to pay your fair share of bill on a first date doesn’t mean he he unkind or unreasonable.He lives where bills are split between even husbands and wives at the bar(something Iv seen several times)so why can’t you guys understand that and get off your entitled high horse?

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    2. 17:00
      And we all mostly want to marry Caucasian men as per say Nigerian men are tueh.

      So how we go do na? Start to learn how to split bills?

      Even at work. Most Nigerian female want their same-salary-level-friendly male colleagues to buy them lunch.

      And here we are talking about a potential gb...h partner. To share bills? Abeg no kos trobo o.

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  13. Poster one, You were wrong. you should not have left like that. that was very insensitive and rude of you. I understand you were tired given that you came straight from work down there, nevertheless, if you have already made that sacrifice; you could have waited it out, after all. you and hubby were going to the same house no matter how late it would have been. Apologise to not only your husband but to is sister too Except you told her you were leaving in an understanding manner.

    Poster two: I have no words for you. Really?? what if it is a test? he didn't say all the bills right? and if it is someone you like or intend to have future plans with, it wont be a problem sharing the bills. but obviously, because he is an abroadian now, he should spend abi? red flag ko, yellow banner ni. Just see it like its you giving yourself a treat, that way e no go pain you too much.

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  14. Poster 1: I think you should send your sister in law a text apologizing for leaving abruptly, though your husband is to blame, you worked all day and came back by 9pm to greet someone and he stayed there watching film? Really? Don't you have to work the next day? If he didn't mind sleeping, he should have ordered the Uber for you and then relax and sleep there, men should avoid creating awkward situations that will put their wives in a bad light to their families.

    Poster 2: I'm not comfortable with this abroad person demanding I share bills. First dates should be borne by the man, then subsequently I can chip in, besides, he earns in foreign currency and you aren't so buoyant right now or didn't he know that? Anyway, don't say anything for now, just watch and see how things play out.

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    1. I wonder if anyone cares about your comfort, comfort for another man hard work.

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  15. Poster 1. What you did was very wrong and disrespectful especially knowingly the person concerned is your sister-in-law. That said, no matter the advice you get here today, it will not solve any problem as the harm has been done already. Visit your sister in-law again or call her. Tell her your menstruation just came unexpectedly and you were experiencing so much pain inside. Ask her to forgive you. Buy another gift for the baby if you have bought one already to appease her.
    As per your hubby. Talk it through with him. Beg him and promise it will never repeat again. All is well. Marriage and inlaws need village wisdom.


    Poster 2. It is not compulsory you hang out with that guy. Who insist on a lady picking bills when he knows she does not have. Keep moving biko

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    1. No need to lie. You were tired. Acted without deep thought. Sorry. You always have her back. Except if the last is a lie. Carry a good gift for the baby. If you have not given one already.

      By the way, how was the relationship between the sisters-in-law before. My profiling of Poster's post is that the relationship was not that very very padi padi. If that is the case, well ... Women know how to handle their best friends in ways Poster handled it. They will sweet talk their friends to encourage them to go home; not just order can as Poster said she did

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    2. If you don't have don't enter a relationship. Go and focus on your business madam just an entrepreneur, come back to relationship when you are financial stable. Miss dependent.

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  16. Can’t blame poster one o imagine if she does most of the chores and takes care of the children and has to go to work the following day especially if she has to deal with hold up I really don’t see what she did wrong at least the husband will be more considerate.

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    1. My dear even if they had stayed the entire day on the visit, it still doesn’t justify her actions. That’s what we call sacrifice moreover that’s her hubbys blood and her relative by marriage. Sometimes we women complain of ill feelings from our in-laws, na this kind attitude the cause am. That attitude she exhibited can instigate a long-age rife between her and her in-law. Let’s exercise discretion in the manner we conduct ourselves.

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    2. Marriage is about sacrifices and waiting,irrespective of the consequences should’ve been one of them.Poster 1,your sister inlaw wont give birth everyday so you won’t be put in that situation everyday also.I say you should’ve waited

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    3. 15:52
      Poster reads as a woman who would have said so if those were the reasons for her action.

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  17. Madam you have already done what is in your mind cos you allowed your anger to control you. Since you did not use wisdom to handle this issue and you have already done what you have in mind, go and apologize to your husband and look for a way to make amend with his sister. Your husband was with his sister but you left him behind not like he was another girl, if your husband has done same to you will you be happy? My gender let us try to control our emotions, anger, cos it will do us good than harm.


    What is so wrong for you both to share the bill? don't tell me you are like those my gender who will keep on ordering things but will not pay shishi? I don't see anything wrong if you are to share the bill of what you both will consume when you hang out. If the guy is only asking you to spend alone without him adding then run but shared expenses are not bad.

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  18. Second poster do not listen to Stella and all those telling you it’s the way of life in abroad to split bills ….. it’s a big lie. You can’t just meet some guy that is asking you out, then you immediately start splitting and paying bills. I don’t understand this generation, a man can not woo a woman anymore? This is the stage where he should be trying to convince you he is good enough for you.After the 3rd date, if you are not yet interested or fully interested, then pay for your food, so it doesn’t feel like you are using him till you are ready to make up your mind.

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    1. Apparently, what you mean is if he is financially capable of picking her bills, rubbish. Some of you prostitutes and pimps raised you guys.

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    2. Anon 15.52, comment based on content of chronicle, don't qualify to justify your bad attitude.

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  19. Poster 1 : it depends on how your husband views it. If he is offended, apologize. If not let it be.

    Poster 2: Since you can't afford it, then explain that to him and meet in a place where you will not need to spend or meet where you can afford to split the bills.
    Everything is not black and white

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  20. I don't think a man asking the lady to share the bills on a first date with him was cool, he is not into the lady and does not send her . Poster one, the deed is done already, apologies to him and move on, but remind him not to try such again when next time you went out together

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    1. I find it very appalling that a lot of women share this nonsensical mentality.You guys need to stop thinking men are made to serve you and maybe things will be better for a lot of you.

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  21. I don't think you did anything wrong. You arrived there by 9 so I'm guessing it was around 11 and they were still watching movies. You had a long day at work and needed to rest and get enough sleep before the following day's work. Your hubby is the one who actually seems quite inconsiderate and insentive.

    However, did you leave abruptly? I would have said something like, "I would have loved to sit here with you guys but I have a long day tomorrow and I'm tired and sleepy and need to get some rest." If he still had no intention of leaving, mention that you will call an Uber and he shouldn't worry as you don't want to cut their time short.

    Anyway, you haven't mentioned what his reaction is. If you feel you need to apologise or if you want to keep the peace, do so, but I would mention how I also felt ignored and left so that I wouldn't be resentful and storing up hurtful feelings in my heart.

    Take care o.

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  22. Poster 2 order things you can pay for when on a date with him,he might be testing you , cheers

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  23. I feel like there is an AI Stella giving some of this advice. Stellz, you don get android replica 🀣

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  24. Poster two,asking a man to pay all your bills on a first date especially when you know his mentality is different from yours cos of where he’s from is itself a red flag.It’s a first date,pay for your own food and drinks but make sure the location is one that you can afford.y’all need to stop this nonsense mentality that men have to die so you can live.I see a lot of Nigerian women here in the US use their partners to climb the success ladder and dump them.you guys are not ready for this conversation sha.A lot is going on

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  25. Hold your money or sit in your house poster two.

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  26. Poster 1 well, I understand your how you felt but incase of next time, use style and talk to your sister in-law. But if there's no mutual relationship between you both please stay back till hubby is ready for you guys to go.
    I understand that you may have enough work at home to do or maybe you always wake up early to prepare for work next day.
    Apologies to your hubby if he is feeling bad about the it and maybe explain your reasons.

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  27. I didn't see anything wrong in sharing bills with your date, if you cannot stand it, don't go and embrace yourself. Anyway do what works for you @ poster two.
    Poster one, apologize to your husband and his sister because your attitude is not good.

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  28. Poster 1
    Pls apologize to your hubby and his sister.be more mature in handling issues
    Poster 2
    Communication is very important in a relationship.discuss this with him.if he doesn't have the qualities you need in a man,then find another.goodluck!

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  29. Poster number 2 he is used to that in the abroad.
    There is nothing wrong with him. He is probably suggesting such cos he feels naija people like to make abroad people spend money. I'm sure he knows his responsibility as a father and husband when the time comes.
    So if you don't mind go out on a date with him. Insist on a restaurant you can afford without breaking the bank or going beyond your budget.
    Have fun, get to know him amd make your choice.

    Poster no1 your body too hot.
    Just apologise and move on from it.

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    1. So becos she will contribute she should insist on a restaurant she can afford, otherwise what? You women have turned lack of self-respect to an art. And yes, I am a woman.

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  30. Poster 2

    I live abroad in the UK to be precise and I have never ever paid anything on a date be it first date or 10th date or even date night with a bf.

    Bench that guy asap he is not ready and go find another that makes sense

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    1. More like go and look for mumu Abi?na ode Una Dey like na.the one that will spend his life savings on you while you keep yours and then dump him when he’s broke.radarada

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    2. You’re delusional anon, I’m not a broke woman I have my own money but if a man asks me to go on a date then I expect him to pay and to be honest every man that have done this always pays no discussion.

      I have my own money and even take myself to better restaurants than those dates.

      Why would I leave my man when he is down financially, if he is a good man meaning he has sense and not a cheat and values me I got his back but most of you naija men in UK are actually senseless

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    3. Aunty you’re broke!! You’ve even taken your broke nigerian girl mentality abroad and I’m sure your tohtoh is already suffering it because nothing goes for nothing.

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    4. Lol… I laugh at you because this your mentality has sold you out. You’re broke my dear. You might think you have some change but no, you’re broke. No comfortable person would be dying to have someone else pay for a nice time out or a meal they enjoyed themselves.
      You want a man that pays for everything but if tomorrow he treats you like a man that ‘pays for everything’ you'll start shouting ‘control freak and misogynist’ up and down.

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    5. Whatever you say can’t even hurt my feelings because you don’t even know me in real life. I’m broke but the likes of your Nigerian men that meet me in real life are asking if I need a PA so they can be my PA hahahahaha, a PA job is the lowest of the lowest job where I work hahaha

      Ok Sir I’m broke then hahaha. By the way no sex for me for over 10 years because I refuse to date naija men that demand sex in a relationship like it’s their birth right; legs closed and eyes on my bag thank you.

      God abeg keep men like this away from me. Men that do not know what being a man means!

      Bye

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    6. Lastly you’re still delusional, where in my comments did I I say I’m dying for a man to pay for me on a date hahahaha if only you know me in real life.

      Let me repeat myself I said any man that has asked me out on a date always pays and this is never a topic of discussion they just pay all the time without me asking or even seeing the bill so what are you talking about.

      You keep shouting broke broke bro I can assure you you’re the only one that is broke between you and I.

      It’s not my fault I was born in the UK and raised here and meet men that know how to be a man by just paying on a date they asked a girl to come on.

      I bet you’re a guy that lives in Nigeria y’all are always angry hahahaha like my ex who lived in naija always angry and frustrated Pele o thank God that relationship ended and I have my peace of mind again.

      Ladies who were born in the UK never ever date a man in naija because being raise with love and being raise on survival are 2 extremely different things.

      For your info my ex in naija never offered to give me anything and I never ever asked infact I let him use my card when he needed to pay for something with an international card and the platform wasn’t taking naija cards and i never asked for my money back. I also paid a random vendor on IG to send him a birthday gift for his birthday. I took that risk for him and guess what throughout our 2.5 years relationship he never gave me or bought me nothing and I never asked and didn’t care because I truly loved him till date and I look after myself I travel around the world, Maldives, NYC, Paris, Santorini and Bali all with my money but due to his anger I had to run for my sanity.

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  31. Imagine this foolish poster 2. He still has guts ontop his own money o, lol. As Stella said, you are the red flag, may God deliver that young man from devourers like you.

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  32. Poster 2 you reek of entitlement. Guts for another man's money. Its like I read that he spends your money without your consent. Person money, its by force to spend it on you kwa! Na wa!!

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  33. About poster 2, this comment section is surprising me no end! Where are all of you seeing any gold digging women, as far back as my great-grandmother, all the women in my family have contributed to the family upkeep and i think it is perfectly okay for an African woman to rest in her femininity and be a kept woman. Poster, the abroadian IS the red flag, flee from him or you shall find yourself muling for no reason, the monies he saves from you splitting the bills will be used to chase other women (trust me, I know). It’s not just for men to be claiming leader in the household, they must make the necessary sacrifices because the woman will also make life altering sacrifices like risking her life during childbirth, the very thing that provides the man life-long legacy. Value yourselves women!

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    1. Getat there, you dont know anything. Ignorance always claims to know. No body needs to trust you, you alone can trust yourself. Relationship are partnerships, not grounds for favours peddling. Keep your womb, with this mentality, you shouldnt even be allowed to procreate. If you don't have money to cater to your bills stay single, bunch of leeches.

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    2. With a the sefl-worthlessness spewed you somehow ended with value yourself. Radarada!!!

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    3. I thought the idea of feminity was equality? Confused.com

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    4. Very interesting. Children provide men life long legacies. Hmmm. Now understood why some women like taking
      the children away physically and or emotionally when a marriage fails. It is done to positively and completely strip the man of his legacies.

      But are children really a man's legacies?

      Is there any woman, especially a Nigerian woman, who believes that the children she gave birth to belong to her husband as his legacies, and not to her?

      Why do women fight husbands who do not want children or more than already had number of children - the man says 1 child or 2 children is/are
      enough blessing(s) but the woman says no she wants more by same man. Why?

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  34. Narrative 1, you threw tantrum at your in-laws house, now looking for validation from SDK blog visitors. Okay ooo hmmmm.

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  35. Poster 1: please you were rude abeg, so you couldn’t just sacrifice that one day atleast? You would have slept on the couch or something. Now you have made yourself a discussion between siblings. You guys will just be creating unnecessary drama.

    poster 2: DO NOT listen to Stella’s advice.
    This dude earns in dollars? How much exactly does he wants to spend in Naira is much? On a first date, this man is trying to woo you and make you fall for him. This is the period he tries to impress you. He doesn’t even regard you at all if not, he would not have mentioned splitting bills on a first day.And for the people mentioning test? The man can get out with his yeye test.

    This same man will pay for a full blown vacation for another women for their first date. Please ignore that man and face front.

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