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One of my principles in life is to never date a married man. I've been so committed to that decision, doing anything otherwise will be strange to my person and everyone who knows me knows that I respect the marriage institution so much. 

So, a long time friend, older who has always liked me, and has always wanted something with me even tho he met me as a married man said to me, "baby girl you see this your decision, na people like you dey fall hard for married men eventually. When e happen remember say I tell you so."

Years after, the nature of my work took me to a very influential, wealthy and very good looking man in his 60s. He's not the first I've met who's that influential but after they failed to get me to date them they give up and say I'm difficult and different. Something about this new Uncle was different also. 

He's effortlessly caring, he's a giver and he genuinely wanted to just care for me at the time or so I thought lol. I felt really protected. This man came to my office with his full protocol team well guarded to look for me. I wanted to get his company to partner with us and he made me introduce my MD to him and praised me eh. My MD and co workers were like how's this man your friend cos he told them we were friends. How did you become friends with someone with so much influence. I felt important really.

His PA was surprised also and told me countlessly how lucky I was his Oga liked me and in his words "enjoy ooo na jackpot you hit so oga go spoil you well. Girls wey dey find this attention from him plenty." Truly, he can get any type of girl he desires. All them slay queens, flashy and sexy if he wants. He said none has ever said no to him but according to him, it's my decency and determination to work that attracted him to me. He was in love.

 The more I told him I don't date married men no matter what he gives me or promises me, the more he wanted to try. At the time my younger brother wanted a job, I got him a juicy one through Mr influential effortlessly.

Stay with me guys. I'm going somewhere with all this.

He goes back to his family in Abuja, wanted me to come over, wanted us to travel to dubai, tour Europe and some parts of Africa. I knew once I travel to meet him anywhere, definitely that would be an open acceptance to dating him and other things will follow but my principles won't just let me. 

To an extent I got attached, yea, who wouldn't. He offered me a soft life with zero worries. I was okay being just a friend to a man that influential but he wanted more and he really enjoys my company. I'm a good conversationalist and I have broad knowledge on a lot of things so most of these advanced men see me as smart and not just a pretty face. You will never get bored gisting with me. 

He said I should promise not to hurt him. He's fragile and all. 

Hmmmm.
One day, he had so much pressure from politics, family and work and just wanted to hang out with me. He called ooo.. He's coming down to my state. Ahh, I said okay, is it not to gist. He came down, with his plenty uniformed men. I went to see him, stayed around till about 9:00pm. Decided to leave. He was so sad. 

It happened so fast and we kissed. He didn't want me to go but after the long talk, I told him, even if I decide to do anything with him nothing will happen cos I was on my period. He really wanted me that night. I told him the kiss was a mistake, I regretted it and reminded him of my rules. 

He said I was selfish, he travelled back all for me. Called his PA to take me home. Oh, the first time I met him, the PA was the middle person. Apparently, he knew his oga would like me and he once promised his Oga to get him a decent girl for a relationship and I showed up with work. So, after that night, he said to me "You dey fall hand ooo. I don hype you finish for my Oga you just dey disappoint me".

 This people think all girls are like that. They're so used to changing them.
Anyways, after that night, he was really hurt, according to the PA, he reprimanded him so much he almost lost his job. Warned him never to bring someone who's that difficult to him again. 

He Suspended his PA and blocked me. I'm still blocked till today. Since 2019. I felt bad for hurting him so much, I tried to reach him, no way. PA was fighting to get back his job. I used different lines he just didn't want anything to do with me anymore. He blocked me on all.

 I really tried. I got so attached, then I didn't know how to let go. Not like I would have dated him, I just didn't want it to end on that bad note. Eventually, I accepted he's gone never to return. When his PA resumed after suspension, I tried again, but he said "Oga no one hear your name again. Just let it go".

I said all that because while I was with Mr influential, he said something to me. He said... I will be your sugar daddy, I'll take care of you, when your own husband comes we will vet him together to know if he's a good fit and if you love him then I'll even sponsor your wedding. I will teach you all you need to know about being a married woman. You can only learn these things from a married man's view. The mistakes and lessons. But once you get married, whatever we have will no longer be. He doesn't sleep with married women and he's committed to that.

After he blocked me, remember my first friend at the beginning of the story who said I'll fall for a married man someday. Yea, we're still friends and cool. I went to him and was so sad and he laughed so hard and said this life never say never. 

He said so, finally, you fell for a married man. Although nothing happened aside the kiss but you still fall "Kiss wey I don dey beg you since you carry am go give another married man". He said the man jazzed me, that it wasn't ordinary, I should thank my God he never had his way with me. He wanted something else from me. I remember once I sat close to Mr influential, he looked at me so deep and asked "who are you. Something is not right.". Was I jazzed? don't think so. But, ordinarily I won't let myself get so attached to a married man but I did with him.

So, I fell off with my boyfriend recently, and I went to my old time friend I mentioned at the beginning for counselling. He's a marriage counselor and relationship coach. I even call him brother mi to taunt him the more so he'll stop wishing we once dated lol. He said something again that reminded me of Mr influential. He said, you need a married man in your life, to teach you how to handle these young guys. When they see that they have competition they'll seat up. You're making it easy for them. Allow a married man show you the way, you will see how you go just marry fast fast. Good girl no dey pay in his words. 

From a relationship/marriage counsellor. Funny ikr! A lot of times I've laughed at those he counsels but he knows some good stuff too just don't be too judgemental with him and pick the good ones.

How on earth will me, dating a married man make a single guy serious or jealous. Brother mi, really wants to taste this fruit but again he brought back memories of what Mr influential said. "Only a married man will know who's good for you when he shows up". Brother mi, I respect him, knew me since I was a teenager, I let him dream on about dating me but I know deep down he genuinely cares for me. The same reason that made him say Mr influential jazzed me because he didn't understand what Influential did right that he never did. Lol

Why do Married men think that way? I'm not even considering their plenty talk but someone who's not strong willed listening to them will just reason it as true.

I just felt like sharing this piece. Long I know but I even omitted a lot to shorten it.
Thanks for reading.

Interesting read!... You are so strong willed.

dont regret losing that man please, he was never yoursand his reaction to your not sleeping with him is too extreme........Like he wanted to gbensh you and steal your destiny...LOL

Thanks for this piece....