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Hi Stella.
I met Emeka on a Nigerian dating site. I am single and searching. I am a working-class lady of marriageable age. Emeka resides in my city according to the information he told me.
Hi Stella.
I met Emeka on a Nigerian dating site. I am single and searching. I am a working-class lady of marriageable age. Emeka resides in my city according to the information he told me.
In the course of our chat. He asked what I was looking for on a dating site. I told him I was looking for friends so that I wouldn't sound desperate. Emeka and I have not met physically. He said he is looking for friends that will graduate into dating. We have been chatting for a week now. He has not asked me to hang out with him so that we can meet each other physically and we are both residing in the same city.
Judging from his online personality, I am feeling his vibes, but I can't say I love him totally when have not met him physically. He is always chatting me up online checking on me. Should I request we go on a date? But I want him to ask me that so that I won't look desperate or I should keep searching for love because I don't want to waste my time and end up being friend-zoned.
Hmmmm think that he might also be an emotional scammer...If you want to meet him nah you sabi but please do so in a public eatery and do not go to any hotel or house you dont know...He might even be a ritualist......
Dont be desperate at all.
Online dating these days is very dangerous, you might even be chatting with a lady as part of a love syndicate.Be careful oh.....
So desperate to meet someone within just a week of chatting, you even met on a dating site, better put emotions aside so that you won't be a victim of love scam
ReplyDelete*Larry was here*
So it’s wrong to want to meet a prospective partner soon before u invest feelings into it? Wow! Everything is usually termed desperation by u people
DeleteBe calming down, he's getting to you which is his plan
DeleteNothing desperate there
DeleteAre we on there to play tennten
We are there to date and we can’t date a screen
Invite him out for lunch or just to meet somewhere even to say a quick hello and keep moving
I dislike dating a man from Facebook or dating site because ihe a kpachata n'akuku ite na ana n'ite
DeleteNK it’s the same men in real life
DeletePoster, it isn't desperate to want to meet someone within a week of meeting them online. You are not there to play and waste time.
DeleteI'm my experience as someone who did quite a bit of online before getting married, I spoke to multiple people online, some I met, some I did not. But I never asked anyone for a meeting, I left it to the men to ask themselves. If they didn't ask, it didn't bother me as I had a busy and full life. So my advice is that you continue searching for love, until you are in a committed relationship that is heading where you want it. Also, be very careful when meeting, and trust your instincts especially if you have honed it properly
She should meet him physically in an open place as soon as possible. It's just casual friendship for now so there is no time to waste. Poster request to meet him. This will enable you know if his physical appearance is the type that you would be ok with. Don't prolong it so you won't invest your time on somebody that you may regret ever wasting your time on the day you eventually meet.
DeleteBesides, you know you would want something that is more than a friendship in a long-run, so why start-up the friendship proper without physically meeting for a start. You both came to dating site to make friends so let the "casual" friendship begin properly without any emotional thoughts. Be free, tell him to get his mind off dating, you just want to be friends with him, nothing serious. There is no desperation in such request. It will look desperate it after the first meeting you don't allow him to initiate another meeting. It will also look desperate if you start acting like you are lusting over him if you eventually meet. Allow him to make the request after your first trial and if the friendship sails properly you can ask for meetings just as you wish.
As una meet for dating site
DeleteBiko be dating on dating site oo
The Emotional Friendship should End on dating site
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Hmmm please take Stella advice ritualist are plenty in this country ooo
ReplyDeleteNo do not. I repeat do not.
ReplyDeleteGoodluck but,
ReplyDeletebe careful
Be careful Poster. Have an open mind and do not invest emotions yet. It's very dangerous out there.
ReplyDeleteJust one week? What a wow.
ReplyDeletePoster be careful mostly if naija is the location.
ReplyDeleteDon't trust anybody online until they have proven beyond all reasonable doubt who they actually are.
Wait first for him to ask you out then you plan a date at a public place & if possible have your friend watching & recording the date.
After the date don't relax o.
Turn to fbi.
May God help us singles
Just one week and you are sending chronicles.
ReplyDeleteMadam, calm down. Chat and chat. Ask questions and ask questions. Listen to what he is not saying as well as what he is saying. Follow your gut feelings. Keep your money to yourself and your family members. Be wise.
From this end, you seem desperate and can easily be scammed.
Take it easy.
I have never believed in online dating. More grease to the elbows of those who do.
ReplyDeleteWhatever it is, do not look for what is not there. He has clearly told you he just wants to remain friends for now with the potential for dating later. That's sound and objective. I think his decision should be respected.
And enough with the i don't want to sound desperate thingy. You are on a dating website.. nothing else gets more desperate than that. Of course since you say you are already of marriageable age, you most probably won't be too keen on time wasters. So keep your options open and get yourself out there.
In conclusion, one week is too short for any objective analysis. You guys are still practical strangers. I'd advise you give things a bit of time... 3 months maybe. Then you'd a full idea of the kind of personality your potential interest has.
Online dating works. Reason it has the whole negatives associated to it is because more bad news comes out of it than good news.
DeleteWhat of folks that met and married from this blog, what would you call that?
I don't think online dating means desperation abeg. It's the personality and actions of the person in question that reflects if they are desperate or not. Poster, I think you should keep engaging other people and other things in your life. Let him take initiative when he is ready and if he doesn't wish to meet after a reasonable time, just forget his side.
DeletePlease take your time,get to know each other well before asking for a physical date. you can ask whatever questions online especially through video call and please don't do nude stuff with him and whenever you will meet,let the meeting be in an open space.
ReplyDeleteAll the best.
Why the rush?
ReplyDeleteYou have caught feelings girl...🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteShe is lonely. Emeka is giving her attention and she is emotionally attached.
DeleteBaby girl, look for things to occupy your time. Go to church if you have so much time to feel bored. Engage in other social activities. Start watching movies and reading novels.
Be sensitive and keep praying for God to direct your path aright.
My dear, don't be desperate. Pray about it and allow the holy spirit to direct you.
ReplyDeleteGood luck🤗🤗🤗
I will advice that you don't ask to see him first so you won't sound desperate. Learn not to have only him as the person you are chatting with so you won't expect much from him , give others chance so, gradually, you will streamline the serious ones from the time wasters, and if you must meet anyone you meet online, ensure it is in a public place. I wish you the best.
ReplyDeletePlease I don't want to hear another story of a girl murdered by her boyfriend again oo, may God be with you.
ReplyDeleteMe I will say relax. It's too early.
ReplyDelete"I can't say I love him totally"...
ReplyDeleteSo you love him, partially??!! 🤨
After just a week of chatting with him online?!
My advice...give it some time! Crawl before you walk and run. It's only been 7 days!!!
Lmao! It's like the chronicle of those two blog visitors some weeks ago, who kept writing back and forth. That lady also said she loves the guy, meanwhile they hadn't met or even talked very much and the guy did not even indicate interest in meeting her. What does she love then?
DeleteOne week dating hnhnh you want to use your hand and delete the relationship allow the friendship to blossom first you re desperate o ,some guys if they see you re desperate they will say hian this one onye nke a dey pursue me like this nnahh ka m gbawa door,( this one you re fast like this na Ben Johnson things o he will vanish
ReplyDeleteAllow the friendship to graduate to dating ask some few things about him keep the communication lovely by contributing to important topics ,let him have the zeal to get to know you more reduce the speed, the way you re going you fit offer honeypot sharp sharp and start crying men are scum , you never relax for friendship you want to see na man work antie
Keep your dating line open to know other people too be wise to know when it's a scam, be safe too online dating you have to be smart to avoid evil minded people
You should request to meet immediately
ReplyDeleteIn a bid to not sound desperate, you are missing an opportunity to cut this thing off if there’s nothing to it
I can’t keep chatting with a ghost. We need to meet in person
At that point, some will start pulling back and from there you know
Some will agree and when you meet you may decide, HELL NO
Or things may go right
If you’re already on a dating site, just answe the question correctly. I’m looking for someone to date. This I’m looking for friends might be the reason he hasn’t asked you out. If he wants a gf, what will meeting you do for him
PS: always meet in a truly public place
Some quite restaurant where nobody sees you is not public enough. Pick one with lots of people
This is just me. I will request to meet immediately so if u don’t like me or I don’t like you, we move on before any unnecessary feelings have become attached
DeleteOne week talk, you are already writing a chronical? Plz give it some time.
ReplyDeleteMy dear that’s the time to write
DeleteNo time to waste time
Seek advice early on
Please be very careful, most of online dating are scam and most of the guys there are liars and unserious fellows, majority of them are married men and are disguising as single men, shine your eyes.
ReplyDeleteHe's not real. You will have your fingers burnt if you continue with him.
ReplyDeletePlease take it easy ooo lest you fall into desperate men who will just prey on your emotion.
ReplyDeleteIt’s too soon
ReplyDeleteIt reeks of DESPERATION and Men can detect that pronto
Take it Easy
CEO EMPRESS
Impatient desperation truly
DeleteNne calm down,don't be desperate.
ReplyDeleteContinue chatting with him for now,let him be the one that'll ask you to go on a date with him.
Pls do not be desperate.The right man will come at the right time.you need to trust God more.He knows the right one for you.
ReplyDeleteContinue continue very soon story will follow. Online dating is fraud
ReplyDeleteRequest for a meeting in a public place. He could be a scammer so be careful
ReplyDeletePersonally l don't like this dating online thing, though it works for some people, please if you must meet the guy let it be in a public place...
ReplyDeleteAll the best.
Shine your eye o,make something nor run you o, instead of you running things...you too dey rush na.....be very very careful......... Josaria
ReplyDeleteI don't understand this online dating.
ReplyDeletePlease don't meet him. He's married. Na dem dey like that site more.
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