Lets use today to discuss the issue trailing monies sprayed at weddings.....Today so many Nigerian couples got married and some out of this lot will have a big fight over the monies sprayed at the weddingy and the right of ownership...
For those not Married, what do you think about the monies sprayed at the wedding? Who do you think should take it? The Bride? The groom? both?
Are you already married? did you get sprayed at your wedding? who took the monies? was there any problems arising from who should take it?
As for my two cents, I think the money is for both but the woman gets it, she knows what to do with it........ I had my Church wedding in Germany and we got lots money but not sprayed, it comes with the card in Envelopes......Before we opened it, I asked my hubby if he knows how it is with the monies, he didnt stress,we just counted it and i vanished the money ASAP......LOL.... we have never discussed it till date and i get really shocked when i see men fighting with their wives over this money.....Oga please leave it for her as a wedding gift, she knows what to do with it for the house....
What is your take on this ? lets gist!
It should be for both. The man won't be able to leave the money for the wife if it's huge like Israel's own
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DeleteMoney should be for both but this very couple had BIG ISSUES before their wedding.
They're not saying much which is okay.
Months after our wedding,gifts were still rolling in.
We used initial bulk cash sprayed us to buy a tush exclusive apartment , not too big and started from there.
They both need deliverance. Something about the marriage wasn't right.
I agree with you...it's 'our' money now and not 'your ' or 'my' money again. Marriage have started be that oh. The couple should decide what to do with,either to use it to settle some outstanding bills or give it to the woman to sort out some stuff for the new home or just chop it. Hubby and I used our wedding money to pay off the photographer and video man. The rest I used to buy some home appliances and stock up the house with foodstuff and probs. Why will the couple be fighting over such a small issue?
DeleteIt's for the both of them. They can decide to use it for something meaningful.
DeleteThe couple
ReplyDeleteThey should decide what to do with it.
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During my elder cousin's wedding, both of them collected the money sprayed at the separately.
ReplyDeleteThe person Man or Woman who brought the money to sponsor the wedding should take the money sprayed;more like a compensation for your investment..
ReplyDeleteIn a case where both spouse invested;then the money sprayed should be divided and shared to both..
Now let's say the man solely sponsors the wedding here;out of love as an investor;or where money is excess,he can choose to gift the whole money to his wife..
But whereby he took loans or owing the event planners,it's from the money sprayed that he needs to balance up his gbese;so if you as his wife knowing he is owing for that wedding and still carry face or insist that the money sprayed is yours at that point;then you are VERY UNREASONABLE..
In summary just marry someone kind;money sprayed would be the least of your problem on your wedding day..
@MARTINS
Also as an investor and you know you would take the money sprayed;leave the money sprayed at the Bride while she is out dancing alone or with her Asoebi gang,it's not yours,it's hers..
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I agree with you Martins. 💯 💯
DeleteYou just help me talk everything finish.
DeleteI saw many babes insulting Israel over money sprayed online and I just wonder how some people think, did the babe add any money to the wedding? Was she the one that knows those big celebrities that attended and sprayed money? If Israel decides to give her, that's at its discretion, but she feeling the money is her rights it's just OLE mentality..
One of my elderly friend told me he gave everything to his wife in his, but I bet that it's because the money wasn't too big in his eyes, if they sprayed up to 50 million and he earns a salary of 300k, make I come see whether e go dey that generous..
We women should stop feeling entitled to money that isn't ours abeg, that's how I read a post here few days ago and saw how some BVs were insulting a groom brother for picking money saying it's supposed to be the bride's sister or friend,. Una be thief..
No be bride friend thief Pinky wedding gifts and wine for him wedding?
Let me not see this kind of yeye ole manipulation discussion again oh🙄
As ladies, we should be wiser, instead of fighting and skimming, just be submissive and you'll be shocked how your husband would become a 'mumu' for you
😁😁😁@"we women" Dante you and who? Lol!
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I agree with you to some extent Martins, but what if after sponsoring the wedding, his friends didn't really gift him much money compared to the friends and family of the bride? Some brides may not sponsor the wedding but she could receive lot's of cash gifts from her friends and family right?
DeleteIn all, I see no reason why a woman that didn't contribute a dime will be fighting with her husband over money realized from the wedding. She could ask for the money, not because she is entitled to it, and if her husband turns down her request, she has not right to fight over it.
The money belongs to the couple, no matter how much others like parent etc contributed ,there will always be bills to pay after wedding moreover during honeymoon ,none of them is working so it can be used to solve debt and expenses
ReplyDeleteThe two has become one no be so? I think they both should discuss what to use it for or put it in a joint account for the family use
ReplyDeleteUntil Pa Israel’s marriage saga, I never thought money sprayed at wedding was an issue; prior to my own wedding, my husband and I never discussed about money that will be sprayed on the wedding day but after our wedding, I counted all money and handed to him, he asked me to hold it, and he kept pinching small-small until he took the last 270k and that has never been an issue until now.
ReplyDeleteLike the previous commenter mentioned, if the couple borrowed to sponsor the wedding, all money sprayed should be channeled into paying debts, otherwise money belongs to the couple except in a case where the man is generous enough to gift it to his wife.
My ex didn't disturb me about the money sprayed or any gift given to us.
ReplyDeleteI only told him the total and he asked me to balance the photographer and keep the rest.
So I bought him a gift,foodstuff that can last us well and kept the rest.
Most couples around me often use the money sprayed to settle outstanding bills.
GOD forbid poverty minded spouse
DeleteI didn't contribute a dime for my wedding because I was not working then. Not even a pin. After the event, we counted the money and my husband collected everything. And sincerely, I didn't feel bad at all o ...
ReplyDeleteThe money spray should be for a couple, they can both make decisions of what it can be use for in their home.
ReplyDeleteThe money should be for the couple, on my wedding day my in-law picked the money even when it was my sister whom I asked to pick before I knew my greedy in-law divided the money among themselves and started telling me stories that my husband asked them, because of that lies against my husband he didn't welcome them in his house till date after 6 years we have done 3 naming ceremony he still refused to allow them in our home.
ReplyDeleteThings are really happening on wedding days🙆🏾♀️
DeleteI believe the money belongs to the couple.
ReplyDeleteMy own wedding, the money we realised was not up to 100k 🤣🤣. I just used it to stock the house with foodstuff and balanced the photographer, we even made a nice picture frame from it.
God old days when things were cheap. Photographer money was not up to 50k.
The money is for both of them
ReplyDeleteOkay Stella this is how it is done from our side.........
ReplyDeleteThere's this thing we call send off, usually it's more like a trad. Normally it's the bride's family that organise that one for the bride.
So it's expected that every money sprayed on that send off belongs to the bride alone.
While Saturday is meant for the groom alone, so the reception is mainly organised by the groom's family so it's expected that the money gathered during this ceremony is meant for the groom alone.
The husband can as well share with his bride oh if he wishes.
Na so we do our own.
As a man,I don’t think I will not be interested in money sprayed at my wedding.It belongs to my wife
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DeleteThis is a sensitive topic. Most understanding couple won't have issues,but when inlaws come up with selfish motive Na scatter be that. Also it depends on who is spending the money for this period wey couples use loan to fund weddings to meet societal pressure. God help us
ReplyDeleteI think the money should be for the wife and husband.
ReplyDeleteThe money is for the couple. They will decide how to use it. Some couples are starting at zero others are on their third marriage. I will spray for young couples starting out, I won’t for old established ppl.
ReplyDeleteI got married as an undergrad. I didn't contribute shishi in the preparation for the wedding. My own is too point what I needed and he paid.
ReplyDeleteSo the money sprayed was picked by his committee members. As I dey so I don't even know how much we got and when they handed the money to husband I didn't even see with my korokoro eyes and I no send.
The money is for both of them but someone from the wife's family should be the one to pick.
ReplyDeleteThe couple, but some groom fought over the money probably because of invited debts.
ReplyDeleteBoth has the right to the money sprayed. But most times the man always play the bigger person.
ReplyDeleteIn summary of it all, quarreling over wedding money should never be an issue between couple that love themselves
Monies sprayed at our wedding, parents funerals and children weddings don’t even concern my husband. I only had to give him the names on the envelopes and the amount in each so he could thank them too.
ReplyDeleteHe even passed the ones his friends/colleagues paid into his personal account to me despite the fact that he sponsored the parties 100%.
My daughters friends collected money at their weddings and their husbands decided how to spend the money in spite of the fact that we brides parents sponsored the weddings(traditional parties and white wedding receptions)because we are Yorubas.
There is no laid down rules to this. Depends on the couple.
the both couple
ReplyDeleteThe monies sprayed belongs to both of them.......... Josaria
ReplyDeleteBoth of them have equal rights to the money and both should understand themselves to avoid issues after the wedding money of the money sprayed..
ReplyDeleteI think the money should be for the couple and they'll now decide on what to do with it. If there's any bashi that needs to be settled,they can use money from it to settle all outstanding debt.
ReplyDeleteMoney sprayed should be used to settle outstanding bills if there is.
ReplyDeleteWhen my cousin wedded,the wedding almost turned a boxing zone upon the hubby was absent.
We did aseobi for her, time to dance came,we got bag to pack the money,the husband people got bag too,it became a competition who is picking more......one of the husband brother came to question us who said we should pick the money ,no response from us, another just walk up to us and snatch the bag tearing it into pieces,now as the both family have crazy guys they both came out to clash right in the middle of dancing floor,omo i comot shoe run.
Chai epic disgrace. The bride must have felt so bad.
DeleteChai, poverty minded people
DeleteJust imagine, they couldn't even respect the hubby that was absent and conduct themselves in an orderly manner
DeleteGood lord.
DeleteThe money belongs to the couple
ReplyDeleteIf money sprayed at the wedding is a thing couples have to pay attention to, then I think they have bigger issues to worry about than just that. Your finances both as the husband and the wife should be well settled before you even to think about settling down. But of course that's not always the case.
ReplyDeleteIn my thinking though, that money should go to the bride. It is her home after all. I don't see why the man should put his eye on it.
Is for both of them.
ReplyDeletePart of where I was married in ebonyi the party is in two bride s family dance reception final party is the husbands place , the money they sprayed on me we collected it , in my husbands place I no even shook eyes,na my husband friends pick ,couples should have an understanding about it to avoid problem
ReplyDeleteNa for the family. Na everything person dey drag? Nawao
ReplyDeleteMarriage never start and money fight has started. But then if the man paid most of the wedding bills, an understanding wife should know to do the needful.
ReplyDeleteDuring my wedding my sisters inlaw carried sack and was picking the money sprayed on us while I have already arranged my friends to pick our money. My husband being a gentle man asked me what is going on I told him I am even shocked. I quietly told him to calm down and instructed my friends to make sure my sisters inlaw doesn't pick anything, come see fight for picking money😀😀. I even call that my sister inlaw na so she dam for me, I just sensed they wanted to scatter My marriage na so I ignore those wicked girls wen be my hubby sisters. The plenty money wen dem pick till today I no see am, even though I was angry with them I didn't let that affect my home. The ones when my friends pick I asked my hubby to pay the tithe out and gave him the rest because he is better in managing funds. Money shouldn't bring issue to couple and the money is for both of them.
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