ADVICE NEEDED
A guy I know very well that we used to stay in the same compound was transferred to another state because of his kind of job,He has a girlfriend that stays in the same state with me, the reason for this chronicle is that
The lady is faithful to him and she is a wife material, but the mumu boyfriend is not taking her serious at all.
If the guy is around, both of them always come to my place to visit me,
The lady thinks that she is in a serious relationship, and she is driving other responsible man away...
If the guy is around, both of them always come to my place to visit me,
The lady thinks that she is in a serious relationship, and she is driving other responsible man away...
I always feel guilty, anytime I see her… She is respectful, and treats me like an elder brother because she is from my state...
I have jokingly told her that the guy is not serious but shr took it like a joke
I feel like telling her about her man with evidence, she don’t deserve this...
What if she is my blood sister or my daughter?
How will I go about it?
What should I do?
I have jokingly told her that the guy is not serious but shr took it like a joke
I feel like telling her about her man with evidence, she don’t deserve this...
What if she is my blood sister or my daughter?
How will I go about it?
What should I do?
WTF...Mind your freaking business please!... If woman dey hungry you, go and look for your own girlfriend and stop trying to break up the relationship......HISSSSS!!!!
Look for any way maybe Anonymously send her a message to let her know what is happening..atleast that will not implicate you in any way..
ReplyDeleteJust ringing it in her ears that it is a very bad thing for a woman to sleep with a man she is not married to, and a woman should always define a relationship at least 2 months into it
DeleteHmmmnn Stella, are you sure you are okay? Sometimes your advice is so outrageous! Unbelievable.
DeleteI would have love tell her but you see love matter it is tiring. Just be neutral and keep advising your male friend to be serious with her.
ReplyDeleteDon’t mind Stella
ReplyDeleteFind a way to tell her. The gratitude I have for people like you. Pls save your town girl
Don't mind your business o, tell her anonymously. Now that the relationship is now a distant one make it worse, she won't get to know the real man she's giving her heart to, please tell her.
DeleteThis mind ur business thing will destroy this country one day..
ReplyDeleteIt has destroyed it , people don't know what mind your business means just like "judge not"
DeleteAlabosi 🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeletePoster You can go with the oldest trick in the book: Get a SIM and send a text message anonymously to her detailing all the evidence you have gathered; please solid evidences oh... God bless you for looking out for her..
ReplyDeleteLadies, please learn to spread your dating net as you can make excellent choices of a life partner..
All the best...
If you tell some people they would think you are jealous s of their relationship. That's how out of pity, I told one about my neighbor that and she went to tell my neighbor that I told her. The guy told her that am jealous and she believed😫😢. Instead of her to use common sense and investigate to confirm the authenticity of what ever I told her.
ReplyDeleteIf am the one , I would tell her regardless . Because my mind won't allow me if I believe she is a good girl and she doesn't deserve such treatment.
Since you have told her jokingly but she refused to listen, please free her. Is best people find out things themselves to avoid you made me end this relationship, you broke my relationship or engagement. If you want to help her just sit her down and ask her vital questions as to where the relationship is leading to, ask her to define the relationship, let your guy also define his relationship.
ReplyDeleteYou need to keep talking to that your coconut head friend, he is not serious cos he is not ready to settle down but he should continue his mumu character cos soon that lady will see his true colours and walk away. He will be there someone else will take the lady away from him.
How will she listen to a joke
DeleteMe I would tell
ReplyDeleteI think it’s rude fir you to be bringing someone you’re lying to around me
For that reason, I will tell her
I’ll start but letting you know that you can tell or if I will
You know the girl is believing him cause you’re her town man and that’s why he too brings her around you so she’ll feel all is well
Don’t let him use you
She may be faithful not because of the man , may be that's who she is.
ReplyDeleteA mature mind in a relationship should know when is serious or not.
It's not about being in a relationship or starting a new one, do you have good intentions or you are just there to pass time or waste somebody's time.
The evidence you have I know is cheating nothing more.
I will suggest you mind your business let her find out by herself.
Because when it leaks or they break up, your friend will see you as an enemy and the friendship won't remain the same.
I support this, I tried explaining to my friend what she will go through if she marries a particular guy I know too well, she even confirmed all I said to be through that she has witnessed it. She broke up with him and later came back. She is now given me attitude, our friendship is gone. Be careful who you tell things. It is better you give her clues and let her find out herself.
DeleteThose friends are not worthy to be friends.
DeleteShe gonna learn soon. Don't advise a woman in love. She will never listen, infant... you'd become her enemy.
ReplyDeleteBlackberry you're right. I no dey put mouth for man and woman matter. Nothing you would say,until one's burnt.
DeleteGbam!!
DeleteSomeone u see to today that look like unseriou person could be serious tomorrow,just let her be
ReplyDeleteWhich kind talk be this? If na your sister, will you be saying this same thing?
DeleteOgbeni poster, tell her. Please tell her but let it not be known it came from you.
A simcard, set-up or something. If I know someone could have saved me from heartache or shame and they didn't for whatever reason, I would never forgive that person.
You can tell her and watch from a distance. And then reach out to say hello to see if she got the message. If she got it but still chooses to not have sense, then that's on her.
Have you tried talking to your friend about her and his attitude? If he's still not serious, then find a way to let her know anonymously. If you do it directly, they might both start avoiding you and see you as a "home" wrecker.
ReplyDeleteHave you tried talking to your friend about her and his attitude? If he's still not serious, then find a way to let her know anonymously. If you do it directly, they might both start avoiding you and see you as a "home" wrecker.
ReplyDeleteIt is better he avoids them too if they avoid him for standing on the truth.
DeleteYou clearly like her and want to start something. Go for it!
ReplyDeleteShooter Gyal
Simple!
DeleteMy ex boyfriend's former roommate has proposed marriage to me now but I'm taking my time. He saw how useless the idiot of an ex was and how I loved and respected him even thoufh he was wretched and I was taking care of him. This guy was secretly in love with me all those years but couldn't speak up because of what people would say. When the goat of a bf broke up with me then, he was no 1 on the list of people that consoled me and helped me get back on my feet but still didn't ask me because he didn't want it to seem like he wanted to take advantage.
Now, 10 years later, he is ready to get married and has looked for me.
Just mind your business , even if she is your mother.
ReplyDeleteWhen I learnt to mind my business 101!!!
ReplyDeleteIn my compound, A brother that used to help me with my studies as in assignments was dating one sister in the same compound.
One day while busy with the work he gave me, I overheard him chatting with some guys outside that he will just chop that girl and clean mouth.
Young innocent girl like me felt for my gender, as aunty wey she be, I go through her cousin to tell her wetin I hear.
The kind disgrace ,abuse, even reporting me to my mom that I am not well trained. I wept for days.
I learnt minding ones business till date,
One day ,the aunty came to ask for my forgiveness alone, not with multitude she gathered to disgrace me, cos brother don chop and clean mouth.
My father sent her away angrily, brother later called me to tell me he did it to vindicate me cos I heard what I said, and I did it out of love,but I should learn that people love to experience than learning from people who have experienced.
The damage is still dealing with me that sometimes people wonder how I do it.
Forgive the fool and let it go
DeleteBegin your path to healing , laugh at the memory
You did well , she was a fool
DeleteYou did well , she was a fool
DeleteAlmost same experience with my neighbor
DeleteGod Bless You for trying to save her
DeleteA friend of my dad did tell my mom about his affair and other things that he was doing. She was thankful but really didn’t do anything with the information. I think it is a very brave thing to do and it speaks to the spirit inside of you, but just remember that you could speak up and nothing comes out of it. The only thing is that your conscience will be set free if something happens down the road later. The guilt of not speaking up can be just as Terri as the guilt of causing friction where none existed before.
ReplyDeleteIn this case though, there is nothing truly negative happening. Your friend being unserious is nothing big to report on, and because he is not serious today, does not mean he will not get serious tomorrow. Be careful that you are not projecting your own feelings and ideas on their situation. Although I am not big on long engagements, remember that it is not uncommon for folks to wait 2,3, even 5 years in an engagement or relationship before it progresses to marriage in the times we live in. For now it is ok to remain calm and let them sort themselves out without outside interference.
You don’t know unserious means he’s sleeping around
DeleteThanks for the correction 18:50. Still a tricky matter.
DeleteShe can't be that naive not to know her man is a philanderer, just stay our of it and let everything unfold.
ReplyDeleteAah, Stella this your advice is somehow nah. The poster does appear to have genuine concern for the girl without ulterior motives.
ReplyDeletePoster please look for a way to inform her anonymously. Do not tell her directly, as she may misinterprete this and tell your friend.
Secondly, warn your friend, in private of course, to stop bringing the girl to your place since he knows he is not serious with her. This is because the girl may be seeing their regular visits to you (her own townsman) as a sign of his commitment and assurance in the relationship.
Use your head bros,make them no use u settle.
ReplyDeleteThank you o Stella.
ReplyDeleteBroda man, na d balance be dis (even if na me praise myself).
Tell the woman with evidence. But no take the woman as girlfriend or wife for for yoursef or broda or anoda frend. If you date dis woman, e mean say your good was planted in evil becos you don epp deciv the woman since.
Since you tink say your frend na bad man, cut am off too. Na bad men dey waka togeda. No be so?
Even if you no tell your frend say na you tell d woman he go know and your frendship go still spoil.
I support Stella. Go find your own wife materia for yoursef or family/town/State members.
#theIsokoMan
Please, don't mind your business. Tell her. She is a good person and she deserves to know.
ReplyDeleteOga wan chop clean mouth. Na now u know say Na ur blood sister. Well done senior brother
ReplyDeleteIf you tell her, she might go and tell the guy what you said. You no love no get sense. If it were those days where you can just buy a SIM card, I would have advised that you buy one, call anonymously and tell her
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