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I have this issue burdening me, in my place of work I am married for 3years now still trusting God for babies....
I know God is coming through but I have this human being that makes sure she brings it to my face .
2years ago she pointed finger at me saying me wont I go out and produce what they ask me to produce, she called me barren, then she was not married , but she got married few months after that statement and she had delay before getting pregnant, now she is pregnant and it has been one drama to another.
When I sit in a sit if she wants to sit on it she will pray and recite some things cause I cannot call it prayer, when we are walking towards each she will hide herself or push herself to the wall, does not touch what I touch probably they told her I will witch her child or something and everyone in the office knows that I don’t talk to her, I keep my distance from her cause of my peace of mind, thou everyone knows she has this annoying character before and they keep saying she does not know what she is doing but I keep telling them she know what she is doing
she derives joy hurting you where it hurts the most. Now everyone is saying I should forgive and make friends with her. But I am keeping away from her because of my peace of mind, her attitude irriates one.
The reason for this is I want to know if really I am a bad person by avoiding her and not giving her room for jokes and laughter, the other day some said I should forgive her because I don’t know where my problem is coming from, we don’t greet in the office, we are three in the office she doesn’t greet the both of us the attitude she gives to me she gives to the other lady.
What do I do, do i give a friendly hand or dey my dey in peace.
Hmmmmmmm.... you can become friendly with her without being her friend...The working environment is poisoned.....
Accept the Olive branch or stretch out one and make peace. it wont cost you anything at all!
Sometimes people are really mean because they are hurting....Hurt people, hurt people!
Forgive and move on so that your blessings can locate you!
Remove be friendly without being friends...
Dey your dey in peace.
ReplyDeleteWeather you're friendly with her or not, she won't change. After all, did you guys quarrel before she started touting you? Maintain your lane.
DeleteI hate it when a woman calls another barren.
Dey your dey please.
If anything happens to her pregnancy or child , make dem no call your name because of newly kindled friendship
DeleteMind your business, earn your salary and go home. Ignore her and rest your mind she is stressing you
Anyone that mocks another for what they have no power over doesn't deserve your friendship, she is a wicked person and she will get what is coming to her please dey your dey
DeleteI dunno how to pretend. If she Gimme gbas, I give her gbos! I'm not the bigger person, I'm an ant. Dine with her with a long spoon, if you wanna extend the olive branch.
ReplyDelete💯💯💯. No time to check time at all.
DeleteI would advise her not to extend any olive branch sef. What's the use?? That lady is nasty, nothing can change her.
I despise people with superiority complex so much. Nasty beings 😒
God bless you, Blackberry for saying it as it is. You go live long. What nonsense? Olive branch Koh, Bitter leaf stick no!
DeleteStrong people forgive - Please forgive her but maintain a healthy boundary. Don't throw yourself to her or engage in deep discussion with her.
ReplyDeleteYour discussions should be work related and that's all.
Your blessing will come and you will have your babies. I decree this upon your life.
© TEEJAY..........✍️
Na wa. Madam, do not greet or respond to her greeting. Where were they when she shamed you for not getting pregnant? There are things one should not forget easily.
ReplyDeleteYou can’t call me barren and expect me to become friends with you, not in this life.
Do not let people force you to do something that’s not healthy for you.
That lady is toxic, stay the hell away from her for your own good.
Sluttychic.
My kind of person, Eye for an eye .
DeletePoster just stay away from this woman if you can't return her energy back to her!
Supported, please stay away from her. Same thing happened to me too .now that I'm pregnant ,they are the ones sending me friends requests on Facebook now. I thank God for Today. Man is not God!
DeletePoster, please stay away from that mad woman...no gree for anybody
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Lol@ mad woman
DeleteFor the sake of your sanity, I would opine that if it’s possible to request to be moved to another department or better still start applying for a job somewhere else, it would be better. From your write up, she seem to have been at it for long. That’s mental and spiritual abuse on you. You have been strong enough to ignore and keep your cool. Leave the space for her. She sees something in you that she wants but will never have. Steer clear of her till you have decided on the next step. Just remain cordial, nothing more.
ReplyDeleteIn all of these, keep being steadfast in prayer and hold on to God tight. He will embarrass those who mock you and fill your mouth with joy and songs of praise. You are in my prayers.
Very dicey situation. If she talks to you respond cordially but don't be friends with her. Don't keep keep malice with her as well for your peace of mind.
ReplyDeleteYou can be cordial. But not friends. Greet like you will greet the person on the street and let it go.
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You went to that office to make money, not friends. Avoid her at all cost.
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DeleteDey your dey if work can continue smoothly without any issues.
ReplyDeleteNa wa oh
ReplyDeleteI’m sorry poster
Don't friends with her oo& also be prayerful
ReplyDeleteJust ignore her because she will annoy you again
ReplyDeletePlease report to HR. This is abuse in the workplace. If she did these stupid actions and statements she would be long gone where I work, such will never be tolerated. Keep a log of the incidents, write down all you remember and the dates as best as you can recall and make a formal report. Nobody should have to deal with abuse in their place of employment.
ReplyDeleteSorry about this, try as much as you can not to discuss her with your colleagues. I know it's difficult but try, not even the one you regard as a friend.
ReplyDeleteAsk God to show you the right way to deal with this situation
God will hear your cry soon poster, Just stick to Stella advice.
ReplyDeletePlease steer clear of her. If something happens to her or her baby tomorrow, she will find a way to accuse you and then turn the entire against you. The office is a place to work and not to form family membership.
ReplyDeleteJust maintain co-worker relationship, nothing more.
ReplyDeleteBe friendly but distant.. keep your boundaries in the office.
ReplyDeleteBy doing this you'll have your own peace of mind at work. No need having animosity in a place where you spend the greater part of your day.
This year, I'm returning the same energy i receive, for your peace of mind, please stay away from her. If your mind is telling you to make peace with her, you can do that, and still keep your distance... Avoid her as much as you can, I pray life doesn't humble her, with all these trouble she's looking for.
ReplyDeleteGod will grant you your own children
Be prayerful, I believe strongly that God will answer your prayers and you'll conceive soon.
ReplyDeleteDon't be friendly with her,just be greeting her and mind your business.
From your narrative, you seem a calm but impressionable.
ReplyDeleteEven the Bible says, "be wise like a serpent but harmless like a dove '. If you keep tolerating her without standing up for yourself, she would think you are scared or something. Abeg, next time she gives any nonsense attitude, politely but firmly put her in her place.
Stella me I don't know how to pretend. If you hate me I will hate you full stop. Poster you are very gentle.
ReplyDeleteYou need to forgive her so your prayers can be answered.
ReplyDeleteForgive her in your place of prayer and ask God to take the hurt away. (You don't need to go tell her you have forgiven her)
Then, You can be cordial with her without being friendly or being her friend.
If you get close now and anything bad happens to her, she will hold you responsible and tell the whole world...
Whenever you run into her, greet warmly and move. No further pleasantries needed.
If in a group and she's gisting, except asked for your opinion? Don't contribute. If funny ,you can join others and laugh, then face front.
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Let her put to bed first,cos,you accept her friendship now, anything happen na you go be the witch,una nor dey quarrel,good morning, good morning nor be anything...... Josaria
ReplyDeletePlease Try as much as possible to avoid her jaree
ReplyDeleteShe will come around when she's tried..
Stay far from her...
ReplyDeleteDon't be friends with her abeg, if the both of you are assigned to the same duty be cordial after that mind your business.
ReplyDeleteVery uncomfortable environment to be in. I pray you meet her halfway. Just be cordial. I'm praying for the fruit of the womb for you. I waited to 3 years too before conceiving, so I know what you're going through
ReplyDeleteBetter be careful , no be everybody go be your friend
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