SERIOUS ADVICE NEEDED
Dear bvs, please help me,knock my senses back ohhhh Jesus Jesus. Haha God abeg oh Bvs I've tried on my own but I can't,I actually asking for help here.
Stella use your red pen please.
I hate myself that I ever think like this. Had the worst separation last 4 years, haven't been with any man at all,and been on my lane.
This year someone owed me money tried to make my life hard because I refused to go out with him,the news got to his boss,he stepped in. While in the process he heard my story,he knew me before but didn't know the depth of challenge I've faced. He has been on my case,doing the right things for me now my heart is growing find of him.
I'm so scared. I'm not even a child,I've cautioned myself severally. I've not done anything with him at all and don't want to but I don't know what is happening to me.
Please reset my brain
My pastor actually saw a revelation of someone that wants to take care of me if I give him the chance but I'm so scared. I didn't ask him I was just talking to him on phone before he saw it.
My heart is beating
My head wants to reject it but this man is so glad .......
Please reset my brain
My pastor actually saw a revelation of someone that wants to take care of me if I give him the chance but I'm so scared. I didn't ask him I was just talking to him on phone before he saw it.
My heart is beating
My head wants to reject it but this man is so glad .......
Why are you talking to your Pastor about your love life? Please remove him from it, they will always see after you have told them the story...Hissssssssssssssss!
You are not a child, please all this baby tendencies and thinking and behaviour and give the man a chance....wetin be the big deal sef? They come una go complain, dem no come una go begin run helter skelter...Enjoy your life and remember that not every relationship must end in Marriage!!!
What's the tension about? Is the man a married man because I don't even know where and how we should come in to advise you.
ReplyDeleteBeing separated for 4yrs, is it a crime for you to find love again? I don't even understand you at all
*Larry was here*
The man could be a married man that's why she's confusing us like this 😄 i don't know the color of advice she's looking for!
DeleteThe fear of SDKers can make chronicle writters skip the main truth and be talking nonsense in their chronicles lol
All I see from this chronicle is excitement. As long as he is ñot a married man abeg carry go. But if naa married man don't dare it ooo
Delete👍🏿@Starr.
DeleteThe man is not available.
When his woman sends out a social media chronicle, all women including the Poster go join chorus say men go stain your white.
Stop tagging negativity to yourself.
DeleteMao Akuh
I think the man is a married man
DeleteNo o. He may not be married. Thank your God if you have never experienced relationship trauma that will make you not talk to man or even have sexual feelings for years. Mine was for 2 years. Konji no even worry me because wetin be man that time. I was so shattered that even when someone came, I kept pushing him away.
DeletePoster love, kpele. If this man is single, plesse give it a chance. You are worthy of love and affection. The bastard that broke your heart e fit dey fuck as me and you dey talk like this. Please spread your wings and fly and let this man spoil you. You deserve it baby. Wishing you the best 👌
Is the man a married man, poster? Your reaction is not strange. You have been celibate for 4 years, you are probably lonely and konji is dealing with you and it doesn't help that the boss man is so kind to you. But my dear, you still gotta use your brain and do the right thing. He can still break your heart if you are not careful. If he is single and wants marriage, you still have to observe and find out who he really is before jumping in. Abi you wan be second wife?Please if you know God pray seriously about it. You may think you just want to enjoy temporarily, but be careful so you don't end up causing more pains for yourself. I can see you have butterflies in your tommy. 🦋🦋🦋
DeleteThe only important question...
ReplyDeleteIs the debtor's boss married, engaged or in a relationship?
What's the bone of contention here, is the boss a married man?
DeleteThis 2024 I no fit comment on issues that have to do with love again!
DeleteMake that mistake inside love then use your experience advice yourself!
Madam, why is your heart beating? Is the man married?
ReplyDeleteMaybe. She conveniently left out that part.
DeleteSmall thing Una don run go tell pastor, You’re not a CHILD and you had the worst separation years ago fine but you have to move on.How will you know if the man is good for you if you don’t even give him CHANCE, and if it doesn’t work after you’ve given it your best then you move on. I don’t know what kind of advice you’re looking for again. Get to know the man first biko and if you don’t want then REST IJN
ReplyDeleteWhere did she even state that she discussed her love life with her pastor? It could be he gave her the revelation before even meeting the man
DeleteShooter Gyal
Poster u are an adult pls behave as such, give love a chance, if it’s works fine if not leave if your head up high.
ReplyDeleteGood luck to u.
Merryment
Stella have said it all.
ReplyDeleteNothing to add.
What do women really want???
ReplyDelete🚶🚶🚶🚶
© TEEJAY..........✍️
Stability
DeleteYou are simply horny babe. Give him a chance, if it goes belly up, then you lose nothing. After all your konji will be cured. Not all relationships lead to marriage, some na testing ground.
ReplyDeleteThe man is married.
DeleteAre u worried because he’s a married man because I really don’t get what u are worried about
ReplyDeletePoster just follow Stella blue pen.👍🏾
ReplyDeleteI no kuku understand today chronicle
ReplyDeleteLmao! The chronicles we've been getting this new year, na WA. It's like people don't have problems again...that's good!
DeleteIf he his not married please allow him to take good care of you
ReplyDeleteIt seems the man is a married man,you need to open up to us completely.
ReplyDeleteYou have tried and it's good you're moving on but do it the right way.
I am a bit sceptical about the man considering you wrote, he once tried to make your life hard, simply because you refused to date him.
ReplyDeleteHe had you in a chokehold, that someone had to step in on your behalf to set him straight. It was that bad, yeah! Suddenly he is doing all the right things and saying all the right things with one target in mind, which is to make you fall and you are already falling as it is.
The man doesn't strike me as a good man. I don't know the specific thing he did however anyone who tries to manipulate you or make your life miserable for turning down his overtures must be a really mean and spiteful person.
You are indecisive because 360% turnaround is making you suspicious of his true intention. Suddenly he has moved from that scorned man to a kind one and you don't even know what to make of it.
It could be, he feels sorry for you after hearing your story, or he feels he now knows your weakness. I may be wrong but were you deprived of kindness(based on the story he heard) so he feels the best way to get you, is to use a different approach ie. being excessively kind and right now it is working magic.
Anyways, Just be careful and if you do not want to date him, don't! I feel your intuition is at work. Maybe he has also change and he wants to make amend, time will tell of you are smart about it and you do well to take your time.
If you decide to date him, then have it at the back of your mind, it is a 50/50 chance.
Words on Marble.
Read the Chronicle again
DeleteLmao 🤣🤣 Tell am@ Empress. Read, they will not read. This year, we no go gree for 'commenting without reading'
DeleteNo need for the fears, relax & take it easy, las las you will be fine.
ReplyDeletePoster is he married?
ReplyDeleteIf he's married, someone is married to him
ReplyDeleteDating or someone's dating him
Someone is "divorcing" him
Or "spirit" is telling him.
STEER CLEAR..
If he's single, then fine. Accept the friendship.
But wait, what's up with you people and confiding in pastors. Maybe because I'm Catholic sha.
I don't understand why a grown adult will be seeking permission from another concerning their relationship or approval abi revelation.
Nor just revelation na apocalypse
The man is married simple! But the poster cunningly avoided stating that fact. No single man is looking for who to “take care of “. They want someone to build with. Na only made married men dey talk “let me take care of you “. Aunty poster that your pastor is not a true man if God if he is encouraging that adulterous relationship!
ReplyDeletePasto-prayerpreneur naim d man be.
DeleteLol y’all think everyone thinks same
DeleteSee you. There are single men looking for a woman to shower all the love in the world. I'm talking to one right now but still unsure of him because of where he's from
DeleteA divorcee or single mother who sees a single man crazy about her but confused as Poster, will disclose the man's status first.
DeleteSee how she described her former relationship, the debtor's behaviour, and the suitor. Then she femmed on his marital status. Loud silence.
Is the man married? If yes, what are you doing with him?
ReplyDeleteIf he is single you can go ahead and try if the ship will sail to the permanent destination. Be careful so he won't use and dump you. Always be on your guard.
You sound like a skittish horse or one of those abused animals who are afraid of humans. I am not sure why you have such fear, but I hope that you can put the fear aside and take a chance on you. If you have past trauma that is I healed, please see a professional. If you cannot afford therapy then read some books, get deeper into your spiritual life and build up your faith, courage and confidence.
ReplyDeleteYou can take baby steps, you don’t have to jump right in with everything. Take baby steps and little by little you will get more comfortable. Keep drawing strength from the Divine to face new challenges. There are still good men on Earth, as hard as it is to believe. Nobody is flawless, but thee are many with enough good in them to overcome their flaws, so give yourself a chance at a new experience.
Pls go ahead if he ain't married
ReplyDeleteShooter Gyal
Madam poster follow your heart if he is single but he is married pack your bag and luggage and move
ReplyDeleteIt seem as though this man in particular is a married man if so, Sister shine your eyes don’t entangle yourself with future issues because of free money.
ReplyDeleteBeen trying to understand. Seems this gist is not complete.
ReplyDeleteHow old are you Ma? Because, this is a decision you can make on your own.
Op, you even told us about ur separation and the prophesy of ur pastor which has nothing to do with anything, yet u so conveniently meandered away from telling us the marital status of the man, about whom you sent the chronicle. Weldone! Women, wen we want something, we have a way of creating reasons to justify it but wen we hate something even for no reason, it stands hated.
ReplyDelete🤣
DeleteAnybody who writes to persuade or bias needs to read chronicles here as a guide manual.
Give him a chance if he's not a married man.
ReplyDeleteWhy is it that we especially Nigerians cannot just see kindness for what it is...what if the man genuinely cares without any motive...small kindness to a Nigerian lady, they start thinking about relationship 😔 that was how I decided to genuinely help an old sch mate with loan to put in his account for visa processing and immediately this guy was already thinking if he should date me. Thank God he opened up and I told him to remove the idea from his mind o. There are still real people out there who genuinely want to help with out getting anything in return. He was faithful to return the loan and has moved on with his life. Poster calm down bcos he might not be thinking what you are thinking... lastly from your post he sounds married.
ReplyDeleteHahahahaha. Na so one guy toasting me got a very good job and from the goodness of my heart, I wanted to buy fine shirts for him so he will look good and impress when he resumes instead of wearing his rags. Plus, it will show him that looking good makes you feel good. Next thing, oga said he always knew I loved him. Jesus's!!! I withdrew my goodwill. Some of us are just kind and caring even to people we don't know.
DeleteLeave matter. Poster knows he is married. Poster knows he wants ... A man who wants to take of a single mother doesn't announcement it. He performance it directly or by proxy if married / to avoid embarrassment.
DeleteSee that I actionised my words?
Pls if he is a married man, stay very far from him oo.
ReplyDeletePoster this man is married for your heart to be beating this way.
ReplyDeleteYou have not been with any man in the last 4 years so is expected for you to fall for a man when you saw him treating you right.
If he is married please give him some space but if he is single abeg let him love you and take care of you. If he is a divorcee please confirm very well before you say yes to him.
Pray against spirit of confusion
ReplyDeleteGive it a try, what really are you scared of? Make him your friend, you must not be in relationship with him na, contribute to his life while he does so to yours
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