ADVICE NEEDED
Good Afternoon Jeweluchi.
I met a guy through a friend 6 months ago (the reason she introduced us both was for us to date since we were both “single”) and we’ve been talking but I have decided to cut contact with this guy because;
-We’ve been talking for 6 months and not even one attempt of us meeting up (we live in same city) and the joker expects me to take him seriously.
-He is always quick to get off the phone when we talk…
I met a guy through a friend 6 months ago (the reason she introduced us both was for us to date since we were both “single”) and we’ve been talking but I have decided to cut contact with this guy because;
-We’ve been talking for 6 months and not even one attempt of us meeting up (we live in same city) and the joker expects me to take him seriously.
-He is always quick to get off the phone when we talk…
-It’s not like our communication is even good. I can reply his text today and he takes 24 hours to reply me…meanwhile, he’d be online. (But this joker will be the one texting me every single day)
I told him severally that I’m cool with being just friends with him but this guy will always say he wants relationship not friendship from me. I just feel he’s a time waster and I do not want to entertain such people this year.
I plan to delete his contact and unfriend him on Facebook. Stop replying his texts and calls.
What do you think? Would I be overreacting ?
Hmmmmmmmm.
Instead of blocking and deleting.... why dont you just ghost him? Read but dont reply anything from him again or you just archive everything that has to do with him......
He is a time waster and probably just playing, some men are like this and enjoy this kinda game.I met one like this when i was single, i didnt block him but ghosted him and did to him exactly what he did to me...when he realised i didnt have his time anymore, he came back with full force but that coming back is to hurt you and run, so i put up a Berlin wall..
When you cut him off is when he will want to meet you but dont agree, tell him you are busy....Move on, this kinda man doesnt give relationship, he gives situationships.
I agree with Stella.
ReplyDeleteIt happened to me. Before I will write long essay to say why I’m not happy. But now I just ignore. Call or text I will not reply but will be posting on Instagram and Facebook.
Poster, reading and not replying, archiving etc., are all games like he is playing. If you know you won’t date him, block him everywhere and move on so you can meet someone new. Why should you provide access to a person like this???
DeleteINCONSISTENT ARE THRASH, NOBODY HAS TIME FOR SITUATIONSHIPS AND MIND GAMES
DeleteINCONSISTENT ARE THRASH, NOBODY HAS TIME FOR SITUATIONSHIPS AND MIND GAMES
Delete24hrs to reply you. That's a day. Biko, do not bother. He wants you to chase him.
ReplyDeleteDo u need permission to unfriend this guy?
DeleteIn this 21st century that u are asking what to do bawo?
God go don tire for some people honestly!
To chase a sassy male pretending to be a man
DeleteHe doesn't like you... or you ain't his spec. He's just been vague or indecisive because of the saying "beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder" . Not everyone you meet must like or accept you. Some will see u, if you ain't their spec, or they don't see anything to attract them or hold onto, they misbehave.
ReplyDeleteSome just like to play useless games
DeleteBe like say you be plan B for this one. He's keeping you aside just incase. Don't block him, ignore him! Detach yourself away from him, might be difficult but try your best. Occupy your time with something(s) else. Go on more dates, open your heart to other possibilities, as far as you're concerned, you're single!
ReplyDeleteNEVER ask for explanation, closure blah blah blah. Just drop him somewhere else.
Block him
DeleteThank God for married men with good marriage this is no headache for them.But take Stella advice It may be just to test your patience
ReplyDeleteWhat a "test"
DeleteStella say na berlin wall🤣
ReplyDeleteGifty
I agree to Stella on this
ReplyDeletePlease take her advice
Bigger question is why did your friend think you and him were compatible. Sometimes loved ones have the mindset that anyone is better than being single. If you live in the same city and he cannot meet up after six months and you share a mutual friend then there is something he is hiding. He likely has a disability, lack funds, socially awkward or something else.
ReplyDeletePlease face front and leave this time waster alone. You gave him sufficient time to gather himself so not waste another day.
Sometimes a totally normal friend is an assinine bf
DeleteOr he is married
DeleteFashy him, he is not serious
ReplyDeleteAbeg listen to Stella and quietly detached yourself from him
ReplyDeletePlease stop entertaining him, infact stop replying him or picking his calls, he will eventually get the message and leave you alone.... What is he feeling like, and i hope you are not acting a little bit desperate... Maybe you are not his spec, and he doesn't like you, too many maybe... A Man who wants you, won't be acting this way... Please let this Man go, love will find you
ReplyDeleteStella is so on point, chai!
ReplyDeleteIt's possible he's already in a relationship with another lady and trying to keep you as backup Incase his relationship fails, thereby avoiding and taking you for granted.
ReplyDeletePls let him go, better guys will come.
Friends were like strangers before they met and became friends. I feel that anybody you must have come in contact with be it for friendship or whatever there must be a purpose why you met. Just maintain the relationship so far is not toxic, you never can tell.
ReplyDeleteIf he wasn't serious like you mentioned, keep talking with him so far he didn't offend you, then be open to give another person chance in case.
It doesn't make sense to just block him with no reason. I have realized that not everyone values communication in a relationship.
Please don’t maintain this relationship. You don’t have to block him but don’t put any work into this ‘relationship’ that will make him think he can take you serious when his plan A doesn’t work out
DeleteBut then in this life now, there is no point keeping someone within ur cycle that doesn’t add any form of value to u. U cnt jst keep smbody for keeping sake, when like u said, there has to be a purpose for meeting. When there seems to be no pupose in the meeting, why then are they keeping each other around?
DeletePlease don't listen to this advice. What do you mean maintain the relationship? Something that doesn't exist can't be maintained. Dont block him. Just ghost him and make it obvious. When he sends a message read and don't reply,etc.
DeleteAnd the person that connected the both of you didn't ask him if he is in a relationship before connecting you.
ReplyDeleteI wonder how some humans beings lack integrity. Be playing with another person's emotional cos they are your toys. If you don't like a girl say it, no the Deek must enter for free before you set her free. Where is humanity? God is really merciful.
ReplyDeleteStella I support your advice.
Ghost him asap, he is not a serious person.
ReplyDeleteAbeg ghost the time waster jor
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteThe most complex B
Stella hit the nail on the head. I feel almost everyone has had this kind of experience..so annoying
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