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Thursday, June 13, 2024

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative

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This is going to be a very long read please bear with me i really don’t want to make a life mistake. I met a man two years ago and we started dating this man was very cold to me, he showed no sign of love or genuine emotions but I still stayed. 
He was emotionally unavailable and he treated me like I meant absolutely nothing to him. I’ll like to drop a few things I went through 3 weeks after we started dating his son came into Nigeria ( he has a 3year old son living in Canada with his mum)
I love this kid like my own so I’m only going to mention him because of this one thing that happened One Sunday morning he went to church with his son and he called me after church to inform me he was taking his son to the mall, mind you I was at his house so I asked if he could get me a cup of ice cream he said the weather is cold due to the rain that fell so i don’t need a cup of ice cream I didn’t read any meaning to it until he came back home with a cup of ice cream in his son’s hands. Of course I have no issues with him buying a cup of ice cream for his son but I was very observant to note that the reason he didn’t get me one wasn’t because the weather was cold but because he just didn’t want to get me one if the cold was the issue he wouldn’t have gotten one for a 3year old baby ..

I am mentioning this story for a reason. What would it have cost him to get a cup of 1000naira ice cream for a girl he calls his girlfriend? As time passed if I visit his house and take a bottle of 200naira Fanta from his fridge he would rain insults on me , I would be in his house and he would go out then come back home and give me the plate of food he bought for himself to put in the fridge without even getting me one. I would use his towel and he would rain insults on me etc mind you this dude in question is very financially stable.
 he maltreated me so terribly, trust me even maids don’t get treated as terribly as he treated me this man told me I was his dream woman in the beginning this man told me he loved me in the beginning but immediately we started dating everything changed.
For 6months I went from being a very light skinned beautiful girl to being dark and ugly due to depression my friends and sister who was at my house for a month during my relationship with him saw how affected I was I literally stopped eating for days and they begged me to leave him but I couldn’t I loved him deeply.
Some people may think I was with him for his money but even him have testified that he knows I was never with him for his money.
 In the 6months we dated before he migrated to the US, I only begged him for money once in 6months and he gave me 15,000naira in this 6months he ghosted me and return back over 5 times.
 1 week before he migrated out of Nigeria I discovered I was about 6weeks pregnant I would have understood if he asked me not to keep it because he was migrating and didn’t know what the future held but this man deceived me and begged me, I personally offered to take it off and he refused

 I agreed to keep it and even went ahead to buy all the supplements I’ll need etc immediately he traveled he barely called me then one day he told me he spent the night with his ex in the UK I was pregnant and my man said he was with another woman but they didn’t sleep together. I got upset and asked him why would he even tell me this? Even if he did spend the night with his ex if he had any respect for me he wouldn’t say it to my face ? I forgive him and continued with the relationship then one night he called me by 12am and broke up with me saying he doesn’t think he wants a long distance relationship and can no longer be with me just like that he left me for months.

 I was broken and my world shattered in my very eyes I decided to keep it but I wasn’t eating for weeks, I barely spoke, I barely went outside my house, I disappeared from work, i asked my sister to leave.

 Nobody knew what was wrong with me I was literally dying inside I woke up one day to blood all over my body I had lost my baby due to severe dehydration and extreme stress. This man came back when he was sure that I may no longer be pregnant and I still took him back ,we started doing the exact same long distance relationship he had earlier left me stating he can’t handle...

 Within this period I lost my job and for 6months I was unemployed and broke I was trying so hard to live without a job which was my only means of income life was so hard for me but the was never a day this man said to me take this 1000naira to get something to eat rather he mocked me in my situation irrespective of how rich he was the was never a day he offered to help me even though he saw me suffering and I never asked for help because if he saw how hard life was for me and didn’t offer to help me they was no need asking the only time I asked for 20,000naira during this period he told me he had no money but still proceeded to video call me and to show me the suya he was eating in America which he bought for 30 dollars ..

I asked him you knew I was literally starving and I asked you for help you couldn’t help me but you are calling me to show me this? The whole story is so long but we broke up for months and recently got back, he is seriously proposing marriage I noticed he is trying to change and be a better man , he talks to me better, he is emotionally available, sweet and sent me money one time without me having to ask , he is trying to get me to travel out of Nigeria.

 I recently started a deep conversation with him to see how he thinks and he mentioned that No man owes his girlfriend money or support that if a man does that it is a privilege.
The truth is I was never with this man for money if I was he had already showed me in the early days of our relationship that I would find it difficult to see his 5kobo but I still stayed with him. Recently I’ve been a bit cold to him I keep asking myself if he knew he would come back to marry me why did he abandon me with his child? I don’t know how people get over this but the loss of my child still haunts me because I can’t seem to shake off the pain this man put me through...
 I can’t seem to shake off how horribly he has treated me, the truth is for Everytime he turned his back on me and left me I still loved him I was always the same woman I was in the beginning whenever he came back but this time something in me has died towards him I am trying hard to find it but it’s so hard I still love him but I am no longer in love with him ( this are two different things to love and to be in love) .
How do I marry a man who has shown me that even if I was dying he wouldn’t save me? How would I marry a man who saw I had absolutely nothing to even eat and I was having accommodation issues but he never helped me? 

A man who treated me with so much disgust I started to look at my myself differently in the mirror thinking something was wrong with me? How can I ever trust this man who has walked out on me over 20times ? 

How can I trust that this man wouldn’t break me apart if I end up with him? How can I make sure this man would ever make me happy? I know I am not entitled to his money and neither was I in it for his money but what kind of person would have their bucket filled with water and watch even their enemy die of thirst? He recently discovered I had some money and was shocked he said to me that he literally thought I had absolutely nothing to my name not even a penny I keep asking myself so this man thought I was penniless and couldn’t help me even with as little as possible if not because I am his girlfriend but at least because I am human. How many people here would have a pot of food and watch his neighbor die of starvation? But this man watched me starve. 
The money he recently discovered I had are proceeds from a little car gift I got which I sold so truly I was starving while he treated me that way. I have so many what ifs in my head at this moment he is proposing marriage I love this man but I am scared that if if I end up with him he would maltreat me, I am scared that I may not live a happy and fulfilled life, I am scared that what I saw earlier in our relationship and every other time except recently he started acting nicely would be what I would endure for the rest of my life . 
I don’t feel my heart, future and life is save with him. Am I wrong? Please advice me as bluntly as you can I want to know if I am getting all this wrong.



TAKE THIS HOT SLAP FIRST.............

Please learn to love yourself,you are too weak!!!
Break off this relationship at once!

153 comments:

  1. I don't understand. You don't have self respect, self dignity?

    Please seek help.

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    1. This chronicle is so fucking annoying and embarrassing, what!!
      Abeg my people, is it not better to be single than being with this type of human being?

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    2. After I got to the second paragraph I was screaming "learn to love yourself" in my mind before I even got to Stella's blue pen. And please work on your self-esteem you don't seem to have any left.

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    3. I was reading this Chronicle and was hissing at the same time..you are lucky you are not close to me if not I would have given you upper cut blow on you jaw..hisss out..

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    4. Do you want to due in that marriage..
      Marriage never start ooo,you don dey see shege for his hand...
      After all,this signs you still want to shook head..

      He will not change,know this and know Peace.

      You can never change him after marriage,know this and know Peace.

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    5. Go for deliverance pls this is not ordinary, even domestic animals knows how to avoid there wicked owners.
      I remember years ago when I was living with my brother, he had five dogs, I hated one of them terribly and was always mean to her, immediately she noticed, she started avoiding me.
      Madam your case is a psychological and spiritual, u need serious help.
      Pls take my advice and go for deliverance u will get better, u need a strong counsel and deliverance to come out of this bondage

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    6. May not be her fault,she may have been dropped by the head as a baby...

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    7. Very annoying chronicle, Godforbid , msheeeeew.

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    8. Hey poster come take my hugs.πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€— Your crime is loving someone who never loved you or had any regard for you. As Stella said, leave this situationship immediately! Then like Beevees have suggested you need to work on your self esteem and sense of self worth and learn to love yourself.

      If you can afford it, go for therapy and also take your relationship with God seriously because you are His beloved child and He loves you so much. You have to cut all ties with this man and go completely no contact. Read on narcissists as I suspect your man is one. Read on Codependency and Limerence, that seems to be what is going on with you.

      Forgive yourself, give yourself a hug and a treat and be good to yourself. Upgrade your wardrobe, diet and lifestyle and do stuff you like. All will be well with you. Someone better will come your way and you will choose better because you have learned the signs. If no one comes, you are still fine on your own. Do take care and all the best.

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    9. WOW!!! WOW!!! WOW!!!
      O dearest you have faced and passed through the most absurd level of wickedness, pain and toxic relationship any human can go through in a lifetime. I won’t technically pass the fault to you, irrespective you do NOT deserve this mistreatment.

      Jesus Christ has paid for all your sins; you are loved by God Darling. You are the best thing to ever happen to that monster of a human being yet he is the worst thing to ever come into your life. Going through all you have been, you are full of strength, compassion, empathy, Love, understanding. Quite merciful for a human being but underneath is NOT a dumb or foolish woman who can be continuously treated like a worthless piece – NO not at all. Sending this chronicle confirms that; and you should not second guess yourself. Please recognize and accept your intrinsic value as a person.

      Please completely cut off that negative being wholly and focus on self-care and boundary setting. God Almighty created you for a purpose beyond relationship, you have more in you. After going through hell and back, please it is important you prioritize your own needs, feelings, and safety. Start with some healthy activities like exercise, art, or spending time in nature.
      With what you have endured, I will recommend professional support. Please consider talking to a therapist or counselor who can provide guidance in processing past traumas and building self-esteem.

      You are stronger than you think or know, nobody can treat you right except you. I believe in your ability to heal, but you must take charge of your own growth and decisions.
      I commend you for voicing out, you are strong dear, who goes through this level of trauma and damage to seek help/support? I’m glad you are in the process of healing. Remember healing is a journey.

      I am so sorry for all the horrible things you passed through in the hands of that monster. YOU deserve to be treated with love and respect, by others and by yourself.

      I am rooting for you to do the right and best thing for YOU Dear.

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    10. Poster, are you sure you're okay? Hope you're alright. Haaa she hated yourself this much to allow someone devalue you? Tueh

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    11. This chronicle is so annoying and saddening to read. I'm so pissed off. Hiw could you do this to your self? I'm so livid right now...

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    12. Ofcourse he'll want to marry you bcos he has seen you as someone who has self esteem, that he can manipulate and humiliate anyhow. And if you don't know that he o ly changed for now to get you to marry him, then I don't know what to say to you.
      You better receive sense and love yourself. You deserve way better

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    13. She really need the hot slap for brain factory reset. Dear poster just love yourself and forget about that man.

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    14. Poster knock yourself twice very very hard, then fast to break this demonic bond between you and that evil wicked man who came from hell to destroy and rui you

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    15. Dear poster, I have been in your shoes as a very young 20/21 old girl. I know that feeling of loving someone that doesn't love you as much as you love them. Do you know what I did, I walked away and meet my husband whom I have been married to for 23 years. He loves and treat me like his greatest treasure.

      I am writing this because I know you think you will never meet another that you love. Trust me for a woman it is better your .an loves you more than you love them. You will be happier and lead a better life. Run away from that guy that takes you for granted.

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  2. Stupid and weak woman. Have some dignity. 😬😬😬

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    1. Honestly I’m short of words. Poster, probably you are waiting for him to literally wipe you off the face of the earth before you realize you need to walk away.

      Bonne Chance πŸ™ŒπŸ½

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    2. God in heaven that is the father of love and showed it through gifting us Jesus, asked that we love our neighbors as we love ourselves. How can you hate yourself this much and claim to want to marry a terrible human being as that man? Show yourself some love and run as fast as you can from that situationship, but I know that you don’t have the will power to run, so marry him and allow him to kill your dreams, your destiny and your self esteem, maybe it won’t be too late to pick up your pieces and start all over again.
      P.S. A man that you claimed has money, the mother of his child left him and you want to be an emergency savior. Continue abeg.

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    3. Honestly..
      First quality u should check in a man is kindness.. He's not kind

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    4. Maybe one prophet is encouraging her he is good. Na so them almost kill my friend. Poster, you better run if you love yourself. That guy is the weapon fashioned against you. If you are thinking it's too hard, just know you must still go through the stress either in your move for final moving on or enduring this mess. Love is what God did when He sent his son to die for us. This gut hatessss you and won't change.
      I pray God sends you true love.

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    5. He can't change at all, the change you notice is because of the money with you,once he sees that you are back to him and your money has finished. Then his normal nature will show again and then you will hate yourself more.
      And please note ,you can't thrive in such situation or situationship..
      Please help yourself to leave this man he doesn't love you .

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    6. Love would do that to you.

      I know because I have been there, trust me.🀦🀦🀦


      But
      Never
      Again!!!



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    7. What is the color of your wahala
      I dnt wanna sense that you are desperate oooo

      Haba nahhhh
      Come on nahhhh
      What is this nonsense nah
      Ahhhhhh
      Nah wetin nahhhhh

      Can't you see he does not Love you
      Abeg ooo talk to yourself ,you dnt need a anyone to tell you that
      I just hope iya boys Slap will Recent ya Brain oπŸ™πŸ™πŸ™


      Hello iya boys

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  3. Mtchew 🀑

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  4. Poster why this life of torture and turmoil for a man that does not care about you...Jeez no atom of self esteem and love for yourself.

    You keep repeating that you are not with him for money. But you literally chose to go through hell because of him. Abi becos you want to japa by force?

    With all that happened, you have a personal vendatta with him not love. You just feel you are not worthy of real love, too bad..

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  5. I don't know whether to insult you like the man. Chai.
    What kind of training did you receive? Are you OK?
    Just negodu your senseless mentality, no brain to think for a sec? So na prick make you stay abi na the man fine house?

    See eh, I don't blame most of these men at all. A full grown woman be behaving like mumu. God forbid

    Nothing to justify biko
    If you are close to me, na pepper I will put in your eyes.

    I dey vex for you.

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  6. How do you hate yourself this much?
    I can't even treat an enemy the way you have allowed yourself be treated, the only "you" you have ? That you should pamper, love and care for as your life literally depends on how you treat you.
    My God!
    If it were marriage, it would have been 'somewhat' easy to understand, a relationship and you had to go through this rollercoaster of torment, hatred, lack and suffering.
    You are not ready at all if you still need someone to tell you to leave before you know you should have left from the time he insulted you for using his towel.

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  7. Stella,that your slap eh,the way I shifted my head as if it was directed to me,poster,please let go of that man,If you insist,he will be your doom,why stay with someone that makes you feel less of yourself?,please run.

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  8. Stella, Thank you for that slap. Dear Poster, Is anybody threatening or forcing you to marry this guy? why do you enjoy maltreatment so much. I think there is a psychological explanation for this behaviour, but again no matter how much a person's mind is conditioned to embrace hurts, one day the same mind will eventually get to a breaking point and that is where you are right now. God has helped you to heal a little and you are still wanting marry this man? Just know that he is not changed and you would experience worse in marriage than what it was dating him. Please move on! he is coming back cos no one can curtail his bad character. Love yourself!

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    1. Exactly, he tried getting back with his babymama and that one kicked him out because of his selfish attitude, probably tried one or two relationships and they also ran away, clearly, poster is the only one that can put up with whatever he dishes to her. Na dat slap fit you..Shior!!!

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  9. What is Wrong with YOU ?
    How can You Love Yourself so Less that You will put yourself through all manners of Abuse?
    Yes Abuse, From Physical ( You lost your precious pregnancy) Emotional/ Verbal Abuse( You said he rains Abuses on You(
    Finacial Abuse( You were Pregnant,Broke and he couldn't assist You,Like You said if nothing You are Human first.
    Do not Marry this Man!!! You will definitely regret it.

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  10. Numèro Úno ( BBM)13 June 2024 at 15:23

    * shawdy say na money na money na money, na money eeeehhhheeee*

    ‘Financially stable and abroad’ it would only take the grace of God for the brains of an average Nigerian girl to be restored… if there was any in the first place.

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  11. Even if we give you all the advice in this world, you will still end up with him.
    My sister use your God given head to say no to nonsense..

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  12. This one no be your own husband.
    What did I just read,the guy is just playing you and to be honest with you,he won't marry you.

    This is all shades of trauma bonding,if he refused to give you money,buy you gifts, I would still understand small but you carrying his baby and him treating you like a trash.
    Infact no atom of kindness in him, ordinary male friends will come through than the person you're loving.

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    1. Even normal friends, neighbours, colleagues (whether male or female) can and will assist a pregnant lady that is stranded, yet the baby daddy doesn't give a damn and she's still asking us questions.

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  13. are you stupid, are you mad, is something wrong with you? are you hopeless or ugly that you allowed a stupid man with baggage treat you this way? imagine a man with a child treating you that does not have a child out of wedlock like an animal. Even an animal was treated better than he treated you, please take your remaining self esteem and stay off this abusive man. This man has completely finished you that you no longer value yourself all in the name of relationship.

    Imagine what you have been through just in relationship, in marriage this will be x1000 just sit-down and watch this man kill you slowly. He has seen that you are falling mumu for him, he knows whatever he does to you she will still love me. He knows he can cheat on you and go free, he knows even if he sleeps with his exs or baby mama she will just talk but will still remain with me. He will continue to hurt you even more, he is coming back cos you will always accept him no matter what he does. He know you are going to be foolish to say nope to any decision he takes.

    He is not the only man on earth, build your self esteem, allow him to go and marry someone else. I kept reading your chronicle and felt like i should give you some correct beating cos you feel like mumu united, you kept going back to your vomit like your life deepens on him. That guy will not change, just accept him the way he showed you cos more abusive words are coming.

    If you claim to love someone you must give to them no matter how little. God gave us his son to die on the cross to show to us that he love us and gave us his precious son. If you love a person and cannot gift them something precious or come to their aid when they are in need, then tell me what love is all about. You better declare yourself single and allow God give you a man who will value, love, respect and treat you like a queen. You are not in any relationship, you are not in love, focus on something useful and allow this abroad demon stay on his lane. Your body is shaking cos you want to marry abroad guy, i pity you.

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    1. I am surprised that you need the response of the faceless public on this blog to advise you on this situationship/emotional slavery you have willingly entered and stayed put.

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    2. Make I hear say she no marry the man... mtchewwwww

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  14. Nawao, people dey love oo. I doff my hat , but this kind suffer head love should not locate my door mat.

    How can you allow yourself to be treated like a trash? How can you even think of getting back with such a man, not to talk of talking marriage with him? God forbid this kind of man. Is it not better you remain single and happy, than to be in this kind of miserable relationship? It can never be me o .

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  15. Lol… she said ‘i forgave him’. Before nko?? If this guy was not ‘financially stable’ and ‘ an abroadian’ will you swear that you’d be eating this shit he has been serving despite having a child already with another woman who he still travels miles to go and f0ck anytime she comes calling?

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    1. Delusion is making her believe that it's not the money that's keeping her with him after all the treatment

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    2. Marry this man and you will experience times 10 of what Precious experienced with FFK.

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    3. She is not deluded about her staying not because of his money. He never helped her, gave to her or did anything for her, yet she stayed. It is about something more deep rooted in her than his money. Poster all will be well. Just leave him first, then focus on yourself and deal with your issues. If not, you will keep attracting same kind of men. For the sake of accountability break up and come and update us. You hear? πŸ€—

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  16. You are an idiot. This man has treated you so badly and you’re still talking to him. Nobody needs to give you advice. You don’t love yourself

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  17. Lady T /worth more than a thousand dollars13 June 2024 at 15:28

    I think i saw the slap coming for you. What is wrong with you lady??? How old are you that you feel stuck to this God forsaken man. He will kill you. He has shown you that much. From your narrative there is no single reason why you should be with him.

    What is the attraction for you? What is the reason for which you love him so deeply? you say he has broken up with you like how many times?

    Pls leave this man alone and look for how to make yourself happy and prepared for another relationship down the line. This man is not for you.
    Haba! Somone who would not take care of you. He left you with a pregnancy. And didn't look back. What exactly is it he does for you that is worthy of note? I didn't see anything ooo
    He has treated you badly and you are still with him, i don't get it.

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  18. Hahahaha, that Hot slap was needed. What! sister did they tie your placenta with him?
    See that ''thing'' that died towards him ehnn, it should remain dead
    Dem no dey tell blind man say rain dey fall oh. See very RED flags oh.
    This is disaster awaiting to happen if you venture into marrying him. Gosh!

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  19. I didn't complete this story but your beg beg and taking things from the fridge without being offered is the reason for his change of character towards you. Many men out there are so weary of people that ask without at the early stage of a relationship. Common, your relationship has not stood the test of time and you have started beging and taking things from the fridge. Na wa o.

    Personally, I love the good treatment of a guy spending and offering things to me but I will never use my mouth to ask and I won't expect anything. The only thing I expect from someone I am trying to build a new relationship with is my transport fare. You invited me so I expect you to pay my tfare because you are not the only guy I may be visiting. Until we start the main relationship , then I will know if you are worth making sacrifices for. What if few more people invited me in a week? Is that how I will keep spending my money for transport fare in something that may not even work? Abeg.

    I will give you three visit grace and if you don't make attempt to pay my tfare, I won't ask you for the money and I won't complain but you will never see me again.

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    1. Na wa oh. A girl taking something from her boyfriend’s fridge is a problem? A girl asking her boyfriend to buy her ice cream is a problem? A girl that lost her job asking her boyfriend for money is a problem????

      Why do u bother to expect tfare sef?

      Poster, let me tell u for free, this man will never change. He’s probably older now and has tried other women and has seen no one is as good as u are. He is desperate for marriage and u seem like the only available person that will take him. He will never change. He’s pretending and treating u better because time is running out for him.

      Poster, this man will never ever treat u right. Best believe he will get worse after marriage.

      Take whatever minute self dignity u have left (I want to assume u still have some left and flee from that scum)!

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    2. It's not bad if she asks but she should have exercised patience till they get to understand each other and get used to each other. This is just a new relationship. Can't you see that she started beggi beggi just under 3weeks of the relationship? Relationship that someone is still trying to figure out if there is going to be anything in you that would make him take you more serious.

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    3. Slim
      There is no justification on earth for the level of wickedness he is displaying. He is simply complete thrash

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    4. I am the poster and slim shaddy you are talking absolute rubbish. I’m thank To the advice everyone gave here irrespective of the insults I Know everyone of the comments here mean me well but your comment is absolute garbage, I started begi begi after a new relationship? In a life where people ask their boyfriends for hairs worth half a million, vacations, cash gifts, money cakes etc my offense was asking a person who was at the mall to get me a cup of 1000naira ice cream? Or taking a bottle of coke From the fridge when I visit? I visited that man for 6months and not once did he pay for my cab fare not even when he had bundles of cash on top of his Bedstand not once he take 2k from his bundles of money to say take this for cab neither did I ask but you said it that you expect a man to pay for your tfare yet you have called me names for simply taking a bottle of coke from the fridge? I don’t blame you tho.

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  20. I didn't complete this story but your beg beg and taking things from the fridge without being offered is the reason for his change of character towards you. Many men out there are so weary of people that ask without at the early stage of a relationship. Common, your relationship has not stood the test of time and you have started beging and taking things from the fridge. Na wa o.

    Personally, I love the good treatment of a guy spending and offering things to me but I will never use my mouth to ask and I won't expect anything. The only thing I expect from someone I am trying to build a new relationship with is my transport fare. You invited me so I expect you to pay my tfare because you are not the only guy I may be visiting. Until we start the main relationship , then I will know if you are worth making sacrifices for. What if few more people invited me in a week? Is that how I will keep spending my money for transport fare in something that may not even work? Abeg.

    I will give you three visit grace and if you don't make attempt to pay my tfare, I won't ask you for the money and I won't complain but you will never see me again.

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    1. Don't mind her.
      The other day I said here about how a lady here in abj is doing very well, has a boutique, car etc, but her boyfriend in Lagos doesn't even know she has all these..
      Her excuse for the deceptive behaviour according to her is just incase the guy wants to buy her a car..
      See how this one just analyzed everything to paint the guy bad like she's perfect, na the same pretending to be broke and beggy beggy make am get the 'little' car gift that she sold now..

      The guy sef is not serious with his life, going and coming back a thousand times,.

      Both of them no get sense

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    2. Your chronicle brought out King Dante from his hibernation πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚.
      Poster please Love yourself,What is Wrong with You.
      How cannot not see that This relationship is ,will be a death trap to you. Do not marry that Man.

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  21. Please abort mission.... Fleeeeeeeeee!

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  22. i really got irritated on what you felt you can take from a man. babe love yourself, and love will find you. value yourself more. it is well with you.

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  23. Wow! Are there still women like this in Nigeria? My goodness!

    How many times does it have to be said, people can only disrespect you with your permission. Maya Angelou equally saud, when someone shows you who they are the first time, believe them.

    Aunty, suicide dey your front if you go ahead with this man. He has seen your absolute lack of self worth and esteem and he is taking advantage. That man has absolutely no respect for you. Break off from that relationship before it kills you!

    I don't know why as humans we see the answer to things before us but our emotions cloud our judgement.

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  24. Nobody should waste time and advise you. Read the chronicle you write like a 3rd party and advise the person who narrated this to you. That’s your solution!

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  25. My dear, he has shown you his true self, collect the slap Stella gave you and wait for your Mr Right because he's clearly not.

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  26. Dear Sister,
    You are mentally unwell. Please see a therapist ASAP!

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      She is very sick in the head cuz what the hell is this nonsense I just read

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  27. Whatever he told you in the beginning was to get you to agree to the relationship. Now that you are in it, he cannot be bothered. He now has someone who will so stick to him.

    He knows he has money, and believes some girls will fall for the money. So he can easily rough them and they'll still stay because why not? There's money.

    wait.. i remember you. I think you have sent in something before. About this ice-cream thing.

    Now, when you started this relationship and you see he isn't it for you. Why didn't you leave? You loved him? The kind of love women in abusive marriages claim to have?

    Cmon, even at that, you were doing genital meet and greet? Got pregnant? You had a miscarriage, lost your job and you think it will all change him?

    That man doesn't love you. He doesn't have the capability to love. He'll drain your soul. Can't you see he's draining you already?


    You are even contemplating marriage? God forbid. See, anyone who leaves my life and come back doesn't get the same emotions twice. So why are you offering love twice?

    Delete and block. Change your line in short. What happened to you? No love around you? What do you desire?





    Hydrogen

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  28. You are like a bomb set to explode at a particular time. You are not ready to stop until you self destruct! You can see not just red flags but that the whole sky is red and you are still asking questions.

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  29. Even under 6months self I won't beg for financial assistance. I believe that if you truly love and value me, you won't need me to ask before you give to me. Stop asking for money, allow them to do things willingly and don't give when they are not giving to you.

    You went to his house and he didn't offer you something and you used your hand to open fridge and took stuff to eat. Na wa
    He has never offered to you but you used your hand to offer yourself under a relationship that you are still getting to know each other o. Na wa. So if you visit your friends house, you just open fridge and take juice and drink? What if someone from outside kept it in the fridge? Na your type they go collect boyfriend wristwatch, perfume and all that kept by their previous visitors.

    Please move on because you have already triggered the guy to start resenting you. You can't amend it now because he has totally lossed respect for you because of that act. You may think it's nothing but it means a lot to a lot of people, especially majority of the male folks.

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    1. Why this fridge wahala pain you like this na

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    2. You keep going on and on about this fridge talk. I clearly stated in my post that we dated for 6months before he migrated where in my post did I write I went to his fridge 2 days after we started dating? So if I go to take a bottle of soft drink from the fridge of a man I am dating for months at the time it’s a big crime but it’s okay for you to expect transport fare from any man that asks you out ? So you think it’s proper to expect tfare from men simply because they asked you to visit them but it’s wrong to take a bottle of coke from the fridge of a man I was in a relationship with? I mean coke of 300naira at the time? You and king Dante must be on the same kind of weed. I have taken the relevant advice from the good meaning commenters on this page I won’t let your ranting on different comments about a fridge spoil my mood.

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  30. I remember you, Lady.

    You sent the first-half of your story inside a chronicle, I think, last year.
    You advised a lady that sent her chronicle to run for the hills and used your story to buttress your point. Blog visitors even praised you for being a strong woman with enough self-respect.
    I can't believe you went back after everything you wrote.

    https://www.stelladimokokorkus.com/2023/12/chronicle-of-blog-visitor-narrative_01317273418.html?m=1


    I am honestly surprised.
    You were anon 20:36.
    This is why I hardly advice anyone, nowadays. Most of you hardly ever listen.

    You will gladly love everyone in the world except yourself and yet wonder why someone who isn't you, isn't loving you. You will treat yourself badly and get upset others are also treating you badly.

    The man has done nothing wrong to you except for that which you encouraged. Afterall, you showed him what you are worth and he is offering you lower than your actual price and we all know is atypical of human behaviour - to always price things lower than it's initial price just to see what we can get away with.

    That man can never love you.
    Men don't love weak women. I am not saying be rude, combative, disrespectful or act manerless towards a man etc only a weak man stays with such a woman. But a woman who moves with silent confidence and a has healthy dose of self-respect - such a woman makes his heart race and gives him an ........
    Because, I am sure he is not even sexually attracted to you.
    You are just the safest/easiest option.


    At this point, I will respectfully ask that you do whatever you like.



    Words on Marble.

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    1. Na wa ooo, some people are good at keeping memories and records, see how you dug out her reply to a similar story...I guess she hasn't learnt her lessons yet.

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    2. 🎯🎯🎯🎯 Na wa oh so she shared her own chronicle and didn't learn from it...Hmm Lobatan Otilo!!

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    3. God bless you!
      Advice fire... mtchewwwww

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    4. But why did she substitute coke for fanta. Na wa

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    5. Words on Marble is back! Welcome back!

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    6. Anonymous 15:47 please I have been a silent reader of this blog for over 7 years but this post is the only chronicle I have ever sent to this blog. In a world of over 2billion people trust me a lot of people have similar experiences and life stories. I am not the poster of the chronicle on the link you just posted I am the poster of this particular chronicle posted today which is my first and only chronicle on this blog Thank you.

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    7. The anon didn't say you were the poster nah but instead you were one of the commenters/advisers on that day who commented advising the poster who sent in her story on that day.

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  31. Leave this man. He will treat you worse in marriage. He was probably seeing someone else, now it has ended. He wants to change his character just to trap you. Girl he left you when you were pregnant. That's the only eye opener you need. No matter how loving He is now. Remember that!

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  32. Get out of this stupid thing you call love and relationship. He will break you and turn you to a slave. A rag.



    GET OUT! GET OUT! GET OUT!!!. I CAN'T EMPHASIZE THIS ENOUGH.



    what is the issue? Self esteem ne? O boy. If you end up with him eh.


    Everyone will see a rich man, but then look at the wife looking like a scarecrow. What will you teach your children about love? Because L sef won't be in your house. Not home because you can't have a home.


    Hunger, pain shame, disgrace, belittling, insults, degradation, abuse, being ignored, avoided, bullying. Add all these. That is the cocktail you will have

    Las Las, you will unlife yourself.Then your family sill start crying over you? You won't pity them? Help the world? Eh fine geh. Please.

    .



    Hydrogen

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  33. Babe I praise you oooo, Jesus Christ for man wey no reason you,wey no send you.man wey go sacrifice you one hand if need be. Man wey no even marry you atlist.You really don't love yourself,if you be my sister,I swear I for beat craze commot for your body. Imagine? Were you not loved at home? No self respect,no love for yourself.🚢🚢🚢abeg this your chronicle just ruin my mood abeg.

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  34. What kind of annoying chronicle is SLAP!this? A man is treating you this way and you are here asking questions cos he is proposing to marry you? Poster, you must really love suffering.

    I join Stella to give you another E
    SLAP!

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  35. You have seen it all, Don't punish yourself more by marrying him.

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  36. U know what,no matter the advice we give u here,you will till go back to him.so pls do go back,so when you die,we go come give you trophy for hell. NONSENSE

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  37. He's sweet talking you now abi ? Same thing he always does after maltreating you in order to get back with you read carefully........
    THIS WILL ONLY GET WORSE !!!!
    IT WILL GET WORSE !!!
    PICK YIUR REMAINING SELF ESTEEM IF ANY AND RUN !!!!!!!

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  38. Some madness na clothes dey cover'am. May God help you.

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  39. This is the kind of people that would be with your abusive ex that you ran away from and you begin to wonder if he has changed as the new one isn't leaving. See God's special creature turning self into efulefu for another human being. No go ahead and marry him.

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  41. You claim to love this man but I’m sorry to break it to you that you have no idea what love means.
    You cannot love another if you do not love yourself.

    Your utmost concern in this chronicle shouldn’t even be about this man nor any other relationship but your personal relationship with your self. I really don’t blame this man, it’s hard to love someone who does not love themself.

    Babygirl you teach people how to love you and treat you.
    The first moment he insulted you over using his towel, was the day you should have exited that situationship but no, you stayed not because you loved him but because you don’t know yourself nor love yourself. You starved yourself and lost your job over someone that doesn’t care about you. No, you don’t need to forgive this man, the main forgiveness needed here is you forgiving yourself for all you put yourself through and allowed yourself to be put through.

    Please take a good break from any relationship and go on a journey of self discovery which hopefully would lead you into self love.
    This chronicle is about you. Not this man.

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  42. Poster receive sense times 10..

    Byeeee

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  43. Stupid girl! Low self esteemed girl! Wake up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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  44. Marie❤❤❤13 June 2024 at 16:34

    Love yourself More.
    Do not Marry this Man or else you will regret it

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  45. Anty move, even me as a single mom will never tolerate half of this from any man let alone you, he doesn't have 1% of love for you, if you continue with him, you will still send another chronicle, he will never change, allow the two of you to find each other's true love because you're not meant for each other.

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  46. Your priority is to be married, NOT to be happily married, (these are two different things), so MARRY HIM!!!!!!!

    End of story.

    Please also accept my condolences, I didn't realize that there are people who place no value on themselves, that they would permit themselves to be treated so horribly. Gosh!!!!!!!

    All the best Mrs!!!!! May you find what you are looking for in this marriage.

    Let me tell you a bit about myself. I am NOT the prettiest girl to have walked this earth ( I no really fine, Lol). I am 31 and I truly want to get married, I have had very few men ask me out in my entire life (Still, I don't jump on anyone I see), when I clocked 30, I became worried, (because I was hoping to be done with childbearing at even 30).

    As I clocked 31, my friend asked me to date him with marriage in view. I declined! Why? Because I noticed that whenever I make any achievement, he downplays my achievements, never celebrates me, makes it look like it isn't a big deal (we are in the same profession).

    Omo!!!! I won marry ohhhh, but this 'ugly girl' will never settle!!!! Never!!!!! As God lives!!!!!!

    You shouldn't settle !!!!!

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  47. I am ashamed of you, who did this to you?
    I know you will still continue your situtaionship with him, so I won't waste my advice on you.

    A Very foolish girl

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  48. Poster, I am so so annoyed by your tolerating all these bull shit from this man and you claim you love him
    Love,,bawo!!!
    You clearly stated that he had no feelings or attachments towards you so what drew you to him in the first place?
    I can't understand this kind of love. This is no love. You lack self respect. Perhaps no other man has come your way hence you are clinching to what has no purpose.
    This man is no good. Leave him!
    He is getting free bedmatics sessions from you.
    Nothing in your post shows that man will ever be good or nice to you. Mark my words he will not wife you. He is only using you. Deceiving you for a continuous jiggyjiggy
    I don't like your mentality. RUN! He has someone he values somewhere.
    You don't respect yourself or you would have walked out from that rubbish you call relationship from the onset.
    What do you call Love?? Mcheeeeeew

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  49. Kai this chronicle is vexing me fa 😫poster u really need that Stella's slap to reset your brain, ogini!!!
    Love yourself small na just small.

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  50. This really hurt me, please block him for your mental health, sometimes when you want something really bad, you shouldn't have it πŸ‘
    This guy is heartless and selfish! If you marry him, you go see she banza pro max!

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  51. This really hurt me, please block him for your mental health, sometimes when you want something really bad, you shouldn't have it πŸ‘
    This guy is heartless and selfish! If you marry him, you go see shege banza pro max!

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  52. Poster please I beg you in the name of God DO NOT MARRY THIS MAN . He is evil plsssssπŸ™πŸ™πŸ™

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  53. What kind of annoying chronicle is this. Better break off that nonsense you are having with that man. You dey even ask questions
    Please dash yourself brain, buckle up, love yourself and leave him. Heal and you will find a better person

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  54. Poster you are not in a relationship,the guy just kept you as a sex toy because even call girls can't be treated this way.If you marry that guy then you are the greatest fool.That Stella's slap is enough to reset your brain.

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  55. There is no love here except you are not telling us the truth

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  56. Babe you caused all these for yourself.You don't even love your self.You degraded your self,You begged for love ,still he didn't love you.ls not his fault.You are at fault.Get a life.You are forcing your self on him.Get a life.

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  57. What kind of annoying chronicle is this πŸ˜”

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  58. This is a really long and emotional post! I can sense your pain and uncertainty.

    Firstly, it's impressive that you're taking the time to reflect on your experiences and considering whether this relationship is healthy for you. That shows strength and self-awareness.

    From what you've shared, it's clear that this man has treated you poorly in the past, prioritizing his own needs and neglecting yours. He's shown a lack of empathy, support, and understanding, even in moments of great need. His recent change in behavior, while promising, may not necessarily guarantee a future of happiness and fulfillment with him.

    Your concerns are valid, and it's essential to prioritize your own well-being and happiness. Marriage is a significant commitment, and you deserve to feel secure in your relationship.

    Here are some key points to consider:

    - Trust your instincts: Your feelings of uncertainty and fear are real. Don't ignore them.

    - Reflect on the past: While people can change, it's crucial to acknowledge the pain and neglect you've experienced in this relationship.

    - Evaluate his actions: Consider whether his recent efforts to change are consistent and genuine.

    - Prioritize self-care: Make sure you're taking care of yourself and seeking support from loved ones, friends, or a therapist.

    - Consider your values: Think about what you want in a partner and a relationship. Do your values align with his actions and behavior?

    - Take your time: Don't rush into a decision. Weigh your options carefully and prioritize your own happiness.

    My dear, you deserve a relationship where you feel seen, heard, and valued. Take the time to make the best decision for yourself.

    Good luck!

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  59. One thing is sure, poster will marry him and send an update later. Mark my comment.

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  60. We ladies sha, all the red flags are there but you still want to shook your head inside. Do you want to live a life where you'd be needing therapy every other day, you better save yourself from a life of misery

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  61. Oh dear! Bvs can we all just love her into some solid self esteem. I love you Sis pls love yourself too.

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  62. So bad that in 2 years ,you guys have broken up a million times. Break up for real this time and no going back.

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  63. What did I just read?
    Did you take a covenant with him?
    Or does he know your secret
    Because I don't understand how a sane person ll be in this kind of relationship

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  64. I hope you will update us on the decision you'll finally make.

    One who values long life won't continue in this pain you call love and relationship. Smh.

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  65. Doctor, doctor, there is an emergency. Yeye dey smell.

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  66. What is this? Please run for your life.This man does not love you.

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  67. Low self-esteem and self-worth will take you to the darkest places. I give money to complete strangers on the street who I will never see again, gift cards too and sometimes food, if they want it. What more would I do for those I actually know and even someone I care about. Imagine starving and having not a crumb of bread to eat and the so-called man you are dating and sharing your body with for his pleasure doesn’t even offer you a cup of water.

    You do not love him, you just do not have any value for yourself. If you met a man tomorrow who was your spec and who treated you like a queen and put you on a throne you would leave that man and go right back to this garbage you claim to love. You do not love yourself, and until you love yourself you will go to the garbage dumps to pick a man and let him feed you garbage and you will call the rotten, maggot infested things he gives you acts of love.

    See you talking about the little money he gave you without you asking as though it is this earth shattering move. The easiest thing for a man with money to give to anyone is money. You think a wealthy man who drops tens of thousands in a casino or on strippers actually feel any pain, that is throwaway money he doesn’t even think about, pocket change. The money he gave you is throwaway money it means absolutely nothing to him. Did he apologize to you? Did he cry for his dead baby? Did he rend his clothes and cry out to God for forgiveness for the wickedness he did to you? Did he set you in a way that you would never know hunger again? The answer to all these questions is NO. He has not changed, he is the same man just wearing new clothes, new cologne and talking new words.

    Go back to your childhood and see where and when you lost your self-worth and value. Go seek mental health therapy.

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  68. For only two years, you went through all this? Please, end it and walk away.

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  69. Na wa o! Madam, cut him off Biko.

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  70. You’re stupid! You’re just so stupid!!
    The only thing that I can think of that is keeping you there has to be the sex because since you’re not seeing money or any form of affection, it has to be the sex.
    You have no form of self love or esteem or affection that is why you’re constantly putting up with abuse from a man that doesn’t value you and you still open your mouth to say you love him deeply, you’re just so stupid!!
    Your chronicle is very very infuriating and I wonder if you have no family that atleast taught you anything about love.
    If you foolishly go ahead and marry that man, whatever you’re experiencing now will be magnified and much worse in the marriage. This man has shown you no form of love or affection or kindness or empathy in any form and you’re still asking if you should go ahead and marry him??
    Go ahead, it’ll only end with you in a body bag or mad on the streets!
    A grown woman acting like this? Go ahead!

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  71. Your situation is deeply concerning and indeed alarming. It's evident that you are on the brink of despair, yet I urge you not to succumb to it. You have borne a significant amount of emotional suffering, so much so that it has profoundly affected you.

    Although your ordeal is distressingly regrettable, it is encouraging to see you are now questioning your past choices and decisions. Making mistakes is part of the journey, providing you with stories that conyributed to your personal growth which you could use to counsel others. However, my concern is that you seem to be missing the lessons life is trying to teach you, which is why you find yourself trapped in a recurring cycle of distress, unfortunately with the same individual. This cycle will persist until you cease to tolerate these manipulative damaging abuses. It's important to recognise that your heart is bleeding.

    Regarding your future plans, I strongly advise against marrying this man. You must decisively reject this notion; it should be unthinkable. The continuous cycle of neglect, emotional abuse, and the absence of even minimal support that you've described is a recipe for self-destruction, not a valid reason for love. Love should not be quantified by the tolerance of mistreatment. A relationship should enhance your joy, not be the root of your anguish.

    You must seek independence. Concentrate on reconstructing your life, career, and emotional health, which currently seems to be in tatters. You are entitled to a partner who treats you with the highest regard and kindness, which is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship. This man has repeatedly demonstrated through his callous actions that he is incapable of offering even the most basic love and support you deserve.

    Always proclaim your value, make it conspicuous, and ensure it is seen and heard clearly at all times. Reject anything that you have inadvertently empowered to suppress your self-esteem, leading to your current deplorable state. You deserve a relationship where you are valued and supported, not one where you feel unworthy or burdensome.

    If possible, please consider seeking professional help. A therapist can assist you in processing your emotions and support you in making choices that will benefit your long-term happiness and well-being.

    Prioritise your own welfare above all else. You possess the strength to forge a better future for yourself. May you find the fortitude for the awakening that your life so rightly deserves at this time.

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  72. The man is a narcissist , moreso he is still very much married to his wife abroad and if he was divorced or separated, he has a son that will bring them together anytime soon. Wake up from your slumber. You thought you will tie him down with being a nice girl or play long by not bothering or asking him for money? I guess he sensed it. Please break up totally with him and move on. Pray and God will give you your own husband.

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  73. Proudly Foodie13 June 2024 at 19:20

    I understand ypur plight, Poster.

    Nothing is wrong with you because your love for the guy is genuine and gripping. Unfortunately your heart is beating for the wrong man.

    Think back in your relationships with guys and tecall anyone you jilted or rejected for flimsy excuses. That is the only reason I can think of as the cause of your predicament.

    Love must be very strong between the parties involved at the early stage of a romantic relationship, but your case is different.

    You love him, but he is not in love with you; so dust yourself, face front, and move on with your life. Love will find you.

    I wish you all the best.

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  74. Proudly Foodie13 June 2024 at 19:21

    I understand ypur plight, Poster.

    Nothing is wrong with you because your love for the guy is genuine and gripping. Unfortunately your heart is beating for the wrong man.

    Think back in your relationships with guys and tecall anyone you jilted or rejected for flimsy excuses. That is the only reason I can think of as the cause of your predicament.

    Love must be very strong between the parties involved at the early stage of a romantic relationship, but your case is different.

    You love him, but he is not in love with you; so dust yourself, face front, and move on with your life. Love will find you.

    I wish you all the best.

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  75. You are mentally unwell my love.

    Completely.

    Addicted to pain, suffering, degradation and humiliation at the hands of this man and perhaps in the hands of any man.

    You need not seek love first.

    Seek help.

    When you want to entice a rat, you put what the rat will eat in a trap.

    Seek help.

    Fast.

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  76. Someone impregnated you with HIS CHILD.

    Allowed you to starve to the point you had a spontaneous abortion.

    The child died in your womb from zero nutrition.

    You still went back to him...

    You are not mentally sound my love.

    Even village people will bow to whatever is controlling you.

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  77. It's OK with the insults guys.
    Poster, I will go straight to the point .
    Do not marry this man who has shattered your self esteem. He made it seem like he is some sort of achievement to you. He will turn you into a piece of shit if he marries you and if a child comes, you will remain in the marriage because of the child until he drives you through depression and wickedness to an early grave. He is too wicked. Stand up and love yourself.

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  78. The mumu is still with him because she thinks she has seen someone who’s comfortable for marriage

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  79. Poster,please learn to LOVE yourself,you can't love another person if you can not love yourself.It's as simple as that.If you could allow him treat you like this during courtship,how do you expect him to treat you after marriage.
    As a woman anyone that don't treat me with respect ,I am unavailable .
    This man has no regard or respect for you.
    Inshort he did not treat you like a human being not to talk of a girlfriend.
    Am sorry to say this,please work on your self esteem.That Stella's hot slap is too small to what I want to do to you for bringing yourself so low for this man to maltrreat. Please receive sense.
    Chi loving

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  80. Poster,please learn to LOVE yourself,you can't love another person if you can not love yourself.It's as simple as that.If you could allow him treat you like this during courtship,how do you expect him to treat you after marriage.
    As a woman anyone that don't treat me with respect ,I am unavailable .
    This man has no regard or respect for you.
    Inshort he did not treat you like a human being not to talk of a girlfriend.
    Am sorry to say this,please work on your self esteem.That Stella's hot slap is too small to what I want to do to you for bringing yourself so low for this man to maltrreat. Please receive sense.
    Chi loving

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  81. I know love can make one go crazy but poster please pity yourself,You should be thanking God he safe you from that animal you called man.😑😑😑😑

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  82. Hmmm, Poster, it is well with you. If you are a Christian, read 1st Corinthians 13, that is what love is.
    When I was in the university, I was so naive and thought if a guy says he loves you, he means it and he is the only one. Na so I almost fell into the greatest error of my life if not for God. God used one church brother to pull me out of that crap then. God showed me 2 dreams same day of my future with that guy if I married him and I RAN. Very toxic relationship that cost me my first class then. Poster, you need to ignore the guy now and go into serious fasting and prayers for God to reveal things to you and have mercy on you. Do this sincerely for a week and see God help you. No matter what people advice you, if you dont involve God to have mercy on you, you might make a very grievous mistake which I dont wish for you. Marriage is sweet. You would find someone who would love you as Christ loves the Church.
    Cheers.

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  83. Poster this relationship is dead on arrival
    Can you love yourself and stop begging for where there is no love!!!

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  84. The guy is a narcissist, he love bombed her I think then she trauma bonded then he started giving her crumbs, but her self esteem is so low that he didn't feel the need to breadcrumb her so much cos he's feeling so good already by making her feel so small and his ego is always boosted to see someone look up to him as a messiah. I have been there but I had to say enough is enough, he will do the worst to me and I will still take him back, I guess he was checking how worst can he go to see if I will take him, so he can feel good about how big of a god he is.

    If you know how narcissists work, you will understand this dynamic. Please and please, look after yourself and let other guys take your attention so you can get rid of this nuisance narcissist. He will never change.

    Many of the people here have experienced this too, but maybe not so poorly treated but definitely many have been treated horribly and went back time and time again, but we can all lash at poster, cos most times we don't even see our own abuse, but others' will be most glaring.

    I'm not so much of a writer but I wish poster peace and joy.

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  85. Some of your mates don’t have to ask before they are thrilled with gifts.
    Ordinary Fanta you took and he insulted you. That was more than enough to break things off with him.
    This idiot got you pregnant, and because of his wickedness, you lost your baby. He came back and you accepted him, you are FOOLISH.
    Now, he wants marriage and you are even considering him.
    The stupid man went to see his ex and he called to tell you that, you forgave him. Who did this to you? My God!!! I’m so irritated by your stupidity and lack of self love.

    Sluttychic.

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    1. Thank you anon 23:18, Very foolish indeed

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  86. Poster, please keep it moving, you haven't seen your husband.

    You will be alright.πŸ’™

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  87. The complex issue I'm smelling from you is too much. How can someone treat you like this and you say you love him? Please make it make sense

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  88. Kai what is this! Please poster abort mission!!

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  89. Thank you, Stella, the slap should actually be on both her cheeks. What a long annoying story. When will some women learn to respect themselves. Go into that marriage at your own peril. Later you will come on social media and start disturbing our lives with useless stories wanting people to pity you.

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  90. I could not finish; the whole ish is irritating abeg

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  91. How can you be loved , when you don't even love yourself?

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