''Well, traditionally, I am still married. After his death, I was given a condition that I could only have my children to myself if I remained married to my husband. That is, if I try to remarry, my children will be taken away from me, which I never wanted, so I had to hold on to the condition.''
Interview Excerpt from Daily Sun
Wow! I understand your husband's family reasons but your kids are adult now....I don't think that authority can hold now.
ReplyDeleteAll the best beautiful mama.
Useless tradition. She should go ahead to re-marry. do they want her to engage in prostitution?
DeleteNo, the family had absolutely no reason or excuse for doing that, that's nonsense, no cap!
DeleteTwo people made kids, one died, and then you threaten to take the kids away from the one still alive if he/she marries?
These families dey Sabi who to try their nonsense with.
The family never had the right to lay down any conditions.
DeleteWow!! That's not a nice condition to be placed in by her in-laws. Very unfair of them.
ReplyDeleteWow.. very selfish condition
ReplyDeleteThat’s a stupid tradition why is an educated woman like her scared of such an archaic tradition. Legally what right do they have to take her kids from her. Unless they are still providing financial support for the kids which would cease if she remarried but no tradition should stop a woman from remarrying she deserves to be happy too.
ReplyDeleteThere is a principle in law called repugnancy test. Any custom or culture or tradition that is repugnant to natural justice, equity and good conscience will be struck down. If she had gone to court , the court would not have hesitated in striking down this useless culture.
DeleteI mean!!! Even if they were still providing for the kids, isn't that a way of indirectly taking care of their son in absentia? It should't stop her from getting married again, so long as the children are being well taken card of by her.
DeleteWhat kind of Barbaric Custom or tradition is that?
ReplyDeleteI hope if the case was reversed, the Man would also not remarry??
Pro LOKE against Feminism, this is the perfect Example.
Feminism is the advocacy of women right( Gender Equality)
Exactly
DeleteTradition!!!, what if is the woman?
ReplyDeleteThis Kind Tradition Na waooo
ReplyDeleteAm Sure If the Table Were Turn
Oga go done Marry Sinceeeee
May God Help Women o..
Hello iya Boys
Wow? What a tradition? 😠😠ðŸ˜
ReplyDeletenot nice condition.
ReplyDeleteSurprised that still do that in this day and age
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of wicked tradition is this?
ReplyDeleteWhy are these conditions never given to men? Lady, go marry anybody you want, even you must know such conditions are not for any other reason than to enforce patriarchy. Pissed me the hell off!!!
ReplyDeleteOne sided tradition. Na only God go safe Africa women's evil tradition.
ReplyDeleteVery stupid and selfish tradition.
ReplyDeleteReggie baby your kids are grown up now and you can marry if you still want to. Nobody will come between you and your children.
Traditional that deals only with the women.
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of traditions is all this for crying out out, but they can allow you to have partner and be fornicating
ReplyDeleteWhat kind of nonsense condition is that? And to think she also accepted. Were the family responsible for the upkeep of the children?Even if that was the case they are selfish and wicked. If she were to be their daughter will they wish that upon her? I feel sad and annoyed reading such inhumane treatment of widows.
ReplyDeleteThe universe always favour MEN.
ReplyDeleteI am sure you have never stepped out of Nigeria before, otherwise this comment is non sequitor
DeleteIt's a man's world
DeleteAll these barbaric traditions used to enslave women...
ReplyDeleteBut her kids are grown up now.
Different barbaric traditions in Africa as a whole
ReplyDeleteShe does not know her right under the law.
ReplyDeleteSo what is the meaning of till death do we part? What kind of tradition is this?
ReplyDeleteI just read something similar on Facebook.