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Hello SDK and BVs
I dont want to go into much details to protect the identity of my parents, however i need serious advice before i react the wrong way....
My mum and dad are dating again.....I am a worker that graduated from the University and doing well as an only child of both parents.....
Why are my parents dating and I am sad? My dad is married with children and my mum is my dads baby mama and i am the product of their young love back then....
After years of not talking, i reconciled them for my sake and for when i would get married in the future but now they are claiming that they fell back in love and are dating again...My dad says he is ready to marry my mum traditionally and right all the wrong he did her by denying the pregnancy back then..
My mum is excited and I am confused...Haven't i caused another woman pain?Should i try to stop them and let them be happy together? They are both in their early 60's but look younger..
Should i be happy or sad? Those who know in the family seem to be excited for them cos my mum did not marry.....
Let me state here that my mum is very very good looking but my dads wife is beautiful 100 percent so its not that my mum is too fine...His wife has kids , so its not because of me and both my mum and my Dad are doing well financially and i schooled abroad courtesy of my mum...
Hmmm..I honestly dont know what to say right now and I am hungry and thinking of what to eat, so let me read comments.....
Dear Poster,
ReplyDeleteTo begin with, how old are you? It is important because sometimes we carry emotional burdens that aren’t ours to bear, especially when it comes to our parents.....
This is not your fault......You brought your parents together for peace and closure; not to rekindle a romance....They are adults and made their own choices.....
Yes, it is complicated, especially since your dad is married....But remember: you are not responsible for the consequences of their decisions.....
Focus on your own life…….Learn from this, but don’t carry guilt that isn’t yours...... You meant well abi is there other role you played that you chose not to share?.....
All the best....
You didn't do wrong but it might be difficult to for them ,yes you caused problem for the woman inside but you never can tell maybe she already knew all these years .Let them sort themselves out but men are bad
ReplyDeleteYes it will be difficult but maybe the woman in the house already know so let them sort themselves out.
ReplyDeleteMen keep eating their cakes and having it. Let them be. They are in their 60s, both accomplished. By all means, let them legitimise what they have. Polygamy is not a crime.
DeleteAll of you in this story are very selfish people.
ReplyDeleteYou, your pregnancy was rejected by your dad, and you went to look for him. A man who didn't care if you were alive for years or if you were aborted, but because you want to use him on your wedding day as a figure head, you went back to look for him.
Your dad, too, hasn't changed from that selfish young man who abandoned your mom years ago. He broke her heart back then, and he is about to do the same to his wife and kids. He has always done as he pleases. He should be grateful you have given him a second chance he doesn't deserve and respect his old age, but as the betrayer he is, he can't help but betray his lawfully wedded wife. He is the one who is having his cake and still eating it in the end. He denied you years back and betrayed your mom, and now he is repeating the same thing by betraying his wife and kids
Your mom, on the other hand, is desperate and self-centered. If she could accept a man who rejected her and her child when she needed him the most, a man whose baby she carried that made it difficult for her to be remarried ever again, a man who is now bent on hurting his wife at home, a fellow woman like her who has done nothing to deserve it, then I am tempted to say she deserves how she was treated back then by your dad. I am sure if your mom hadn't kept the pregnancy that turned out to be you, she could have remarried but being a single mother probably ruined her chances but na all of una sabi
You have said it all. A man that didn't care about you, didn't care if you were in life support after birth or not is now the person you went to look for just because of a wedding day ceremony.
DeleteSense will not kill you, bunch of users.
DeleteLeave your mom alone to follow and enjoy companionship.
You dey crase for your first 2 paragraphs.
DeleteSelfish should be their surname. Imagine saying she got them back together because of when she wants to wed. Metcheeew.
Delete16:18 No, na you dey crase
DeleteYou are right anon the man is a heartless fellow
DeleteHumans never ever trust them.with your life. See the chain of selfishness by all involved. Even the other wife probably knew about this one pregnancy and went ahead to marry the man. make all of una getat
DeleteWhat is selfish about looking for your dad
DeleteAbeg talk another tin
Whatever the outcome is.. That's their cup of tea... BUT TAKE THIS IN CAPITAL LETTERS "YOUR DAD IS NOT A GOOD MAN"
DeleteYour mama don go do juju to either revenge or to scatter another woman’s home.
ReplyDeleteThe wife should focus on herself and children cos a 60 something years old man has no much to offer a woman. Na her soon to be burden your mama just go carry.
🤣🤣🤣
DeleteFan abeg 😂😂😂
DeleteIf the man fall sick , the type of sickness that comes with old age, the wife will thank God that another woman has lifted up the burden from her. Lol.
DeleteLol… Fan and okuko Igbo sense!
DeleteTrue true what is a woman doing with 60year old man? At worst they can share. Their kids are already grown. She don 4k am till 60years, is his amu still standing well? He most probably needs the blue pill for it to stand. Plus diabetes and hypertension. It’s good for her to share the load abeg, at least she doesn’t have to cook and tend to the man everyday.
Meanwhile the man is very selfish, it is sad that posters mother is indulging him.
Hmmmm... Something is just off about the reunion.
ReplyDeleteposter no need to worry yourself over something you cannot control or stop. You should allow your parent to do what is in their mind, they have been dating secretly and want to make it legal before the whole world. If your mum has made up her mind to get married to your dad after all the terrible things he did to her in the past cos of you and want to return back to him as his second wife. Please allow them to be together, you cannot stop both from dating each other. If you don't give them your consent they will still be dating and sleeping with each other behind your back.
ReplyDeleteYou should just talk to your mum and make sure she is truly happy with her decision. Talk to your dad to make sure what is trying to do will not send your mum to her early grave with the other woman. Hope your dad has communicated to his first wife of his decision with your mum before that other woman will come after your mum.
Wishing your both parent happiness, love, peace and wisdom. Please do not take any action with your parent just allow them to do what they want to do but pray for them always.
They have NO business dating. What will now happen to his family?
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Very complicated situation, And you did nothing wrong too, Have you spoken to your mom? She needs to understand that, this might bring troubles into her beautiful life, Cause polygamy isn't for the faint hearted.
ReplyDeleteThey don't think about the heartache they will cause to other people. Let them be poster. This thing called love I don't understand it.
ReplyDeleteNa so Cubana Chief priest go come claim him pikin one day after him mother train am finish
ReplyDeletePoster you didn't do any wrong, they are your parents. It was a good intention that you made them to reconcile. Your dad made his decision falling in love with your mum again and also wants to marry her . It's not your fault they are adults.
ReplyDeleteIt's left for him and the other woman to choose how to handle it.
Why are you not worried about your dad's happiness too? Let them be , a man knows what he want and tge reason fir his actions.
ReplyDeleteyour mum truely loves your Dad to remain single despite what happened. he might be her first love. i know that's not what you intend their reunion to result to but you have to let them be because they are not kid's
ReplyDeleteYou have got be f**king kidding me
DeleteOMG! Wait o poster your mum didn't marry cuz she still holds a torch for your dad all these, it's a wawuuu
What do I know, love is madness
Na wa!
ReplyDeleteSome men are misbehaving today because they believe the children they abandoned will one day look for them not nice at all
ReplyDeleteSuch a dicey situation
ReplyDeletePoster,
ReplyDeleteForgive my tone, but let’s not pretend - there’s an Okafor Law twist tangled in this. You reopened a sealed pot, hoping only steam would rise, but instead, the past is now boiling over - and it scalds. You may have meant well, but life doesn’t operate in black and white. It unfolds in shades of grey, in jagged edges that cut both ways.
Your heart was in the right place, but good intentions can still spark disaster if aimed carelessly. That’s what this is: two adults chasing what they call redemption, not romance. But healing is not love without integrity; it’s a time bomb ticking in silk gloves worn carelessly or carefreely by vulnerable adults with teenage quests. Your parents are adults making their own choices, but the wreckage they leave behind might not be theirs alone.
You opened this door, perhaps seeking warmth, but now ghosts dressed in wedding colours are walking through it. It’s their music to dance to, sure, but your father’s urge to “right his wrongs” feels more like he’s polishing betrayal with poetry. And you - need not shoulder this as guilt. You acted in good faith. Unfortunately, that faith may now be the smoke curling from a fire you didn’t mean to light - not in this manner?
Even at that, it’s not your mess to clean. You’re the child, not the referee in their emotional rematch. My worry for you is that silence, if worn too long, can start to look like permission. So ask yourself - if your mum weren’t your mum, would you still be cheering her on in this triangle? Please, some stories aren’t meant to be rewritten; they’re meant to end gracefully with sorry and forgiveness.
Step back. Speak your truth to them both, then leave them to stew in the broth they’ve chosen and simmer in the choices they’ve made. Sometimes, the most powerful healing is the kind done in quiet, not in spectacle. You owe them no applause. Just your honest presence - and boundaries shaped by wisdom - for which I think you are wise enough to hold out for.
Are you in good terms with your father's kids??
ReplyDeleteI hope you know where I am going with this question ▶️▶️▶️▶️
Your conscience is alive and I'm happy about that. Plus you are a good child.
ReplyDeleteTo clear your conscience, sit your mom down and let her know your stand. I know she won't listen, but you atleast ain't an accomplice.
Such a shame.ful situation
They love each other Your father is not the first man to marry 2 wives.
ReplyDeleteTalk them out of it abeg. There was a reason why it didn't work out in the first place
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