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STINGY MAN
My man is very rich with multiple investments in real estate and oil and gas but he's extremely STINGY!!!
Hmmm the stingy is in caps meaning it is serious! Man as in husband or boyfriend? if he is rich and not spending on you then he doesn't love you...When a man loves a woman, he gives her the world and is not stingy to her!
Marry a kind man, e get why!!!
Dear Poster,
ReplyDeleteIs he your "married" man or boyfriend? Run away from stingy men...it will end in premium tears....
Sometimes it could be how you come across to him.. Trust me some lady may be chopping his money but to you he is stingy..
All the best
Make Una go work and leave man money alone. If that's how he was sponsoring women all his life, would he have investments in the places you mentioned?
ReplyDeleteWhen we hear why you call him stingy now, we go dey shame for you.. cos the truth will be that he gives you but you feel he can give more because he's rich.. entitled gender
@"entitled gender"
DeleteDante,
Na dis type all tagging dey make some women join other groundless Vexers against you.
Not ALL women dey complain bitterly like the chronicler even if all women may prefer to be kept by their husbands. Some women actually contribute their full weight plus in marriage bills. You comment go certainly voke dem.
But you may be right if the tag is for women who use "my man" instead of "my husband". The difference between both phrases is small but gargantuan in importance.
"My man"! Hmmmmmmn
Lol..
DeleteThe exceptions know I'm not referring to them.. but I go still dey write like this until "those people" also learn to write with sense. Don't you see how they generalize in a post where a man does wrong? Do you correct them?
Lol.. blessed week ahead
This so-called 'chronicle' - barely a sentence long - cracks open a roof of rot. No backstory. No proof. Just: 'My man is very rich, but he’s extremely STINGY!!!' Three exclamation marks and a cry of injustice. But what’s missing? Effort. Context. Reciprocity. There’s no mention of the exact nature of what they share and what she gives - nothing emotional, nothing financial, nothing valuable, not even a hint of whether she’s a partner or just a consumer with a romantic title. She could be a girlfriend, a situationship, or a sidepiece expecting CEO/COO/CFO/MD/RM benefits. Yet her remark drips with entitlement, as if it’s divine law. And why is that so common?
DeleteFrom birth, many women are taught:
Delete'Your husband must take care of you.'
'Men are providers.'
'If he doesn’t give you money, he doesn’t love you. Or there's someone else he is spending it on'
We grow up watching our fathers, conditioned by culture, acting in that line with subtle subjugation of our mothers. And we equated generosity with love and provision with worth. But nobody says, 'Bring value too.' Or, 'Don’t enter a man’s life just to take - reciprocate in your own way.' 'Bring value and add value.' So when we meet a man who prioritises his own needs, whether wisely or cautiously, we scream 'stingy' instead of looking at the mirror.
Someone can be kind without being generous, and someone can be generous without being truly kind. That's life.
DeleteMy man is kind but he's not financially stable at the moment, wetin I go do😞
ReplyDeleteA STINGY partner is not it abeg No one is saying spend heaven and earth but I mean, spend.
ReplyDeleteThat stingy type that measures yam with ruler and counts beans in number before you cook.
DeleteSuch stinginess is part of mental illness.
Are you married to him? Why you open eye go marry stingy man? Pele ooo
ReplyDeleteGo get a job or tell him to fix you as a worker in one of his investment companies. So you can earn wages. My former boss wife works in the company and also does business within the business. It was really nice.
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately,
DeleteNot everybody wants to work or can work.
Problem starts for them when they have nothing special to give for not working, and they meet a money man or woman who has choices of the best of sensual pleasures.
Because he doesn't want to use you . If you know you know
ReplyDeleteAnother angle
DeleteAnother angle
DeleteThe worst thing that can happen to any woman is to depend solely upon a man. You will lose both your safe esteem and your self-confidence. He will treat you the way he wants and give you whatever he feels you deserve.
ReplyDeleteWhen a woman makes her money, men would want to spend on her. That is the fact. Same as when a man makes his money, women will worship the ground he walk on. That is just life unwritten game.
Everyone please make your own money in a right way oooo. Not yahoo yahoo or any other criminality.
She didn't mention that she depends on him. She just described the kind of man she has as a partner. That he is rich but extremely stingy..
Delete"When a woman makes her money, men would want to spend on her."
DeleteAgain, the generalisation - "men".
Some men court, woo, and marry such women so the men would not spend or spend beyond the basic necessary.
Today’s chronicle, eh? While I agree with everyone’s submissions, we forgot one truth: not everyone is the same. For some men, giving - even excessive giving - and frivolity come naturally. Others are more cautious or pragmatic, a few are highly intentional about where they spend their value, and yes, there’s a last group: the stingy humans (sorry, it’s not gender-based). These are the ones who have the capacity but are miserly toward themselves before extending this unwillingness to others - that’s who I consider truly stingy.
ReplyDeleteWe’re in the era of #softlife and #spoiltbabe. The internet glorifies the glitz and glamour of social media - who doesn’t like good pampering? Not those who build with men - (forgive me for this abused and overused phrase), sacrifice, or endure hard times. Now, even women who bring nothing but vibes and wig glue feel entitled to a comfortable man’s pocket - not because they’ve earned it, but because they exist in his life. We say, 'If you can afford comfort, why not pamper me as I should be?' But love isn’t an ATM. Wealth isn’t an obligation. And presence alone isn’t proof of value.
ReplyDeleteYet, some of us women treat femininity like a debit card - smile, flirt, show up, then expect returns. We’ve learned to commodify our essence for transactional benefits. And when it doesn’t yield dividends? We rage.
ReplyDelete"I know my worth, he’s stingy!"
No. Maybe he’s discerning. Maybe he sees through the act. Maybe he knows the price of peace is refusing entitled energy.
This doesn’t mean we shouldn’t be kind and generous to one another, but no one should feel obligated to give or entitled to receive. It should be an internal way of life. Yet we’re the first to stand in the way of our brothers from taking care of their wives and girlfriends, then cry blue murder when the same energy isn’t returned to us.
You need to elaborate more with examples. Some ppl are stingy because the level of poverty they met put them in such a state of fear of ever returning to that, so they penny pinch out of fear. Some men are stingy because they were used for what they could give, thought they were loved and discovered that only their money or connections was loved. That betrayal runs deep, especially if they were cheated on too.
ReplyDeleteWhy don’t you sit him down and have a frank conversation with him? If he cannot change and you cannot live with his level of stingyness then leave him alone. Walk away and let him be. You said your man, not husband so I am assuming you are unmarried. At the end of the day he is free to be any way that he wants to be with his money, so if you can’t handle let him be. If you are broke or well below him financially and he expects to do 50/50 and feels at peace watching you struggle financially then consider that if you marry him you will likely face a financially harsh marriage with a side of emotional coldness. Truly, if a man loves you he will not want to see you suffer in anyway, so decide what you can handle and be willing to walk away. Worst case would be for you to marry him and he leaves nothing for you in the will, so my dear, you better know what you can take cause pain get many levels.