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Sunday, June 22, 2025

MADAM AMEBO CORNER

So I was serious about me wanting to start dating,
I met this guy on an Online dating site, we started chatting, we became really close online, he's such a good listener, would ask how my day was, we laugh a lot that most times I tend to forget my problems....


He had a business meeting in my state and decided to meet me at the same time, we had a dinner together in one beautiful restaurant, I wore my bottom box to impress this human, he was so pleased to meet with me finally after the long days of talking on phone....

The first date night was everything, we ate, had champagne (haven't had that since I was born), it felt like I was 16, I didn't even know that someone will ever see me as deserving of such beautiful treatment, I was literally treated like a queen, like some virgin...

This guy won't talk without looking so deep into my eyes, he smiles from ear to ear, held my hand most times when he spoke...

Stella I was falling in love with this human, for a very long time, my radio found a channel again, there was network in me and I felt wet down there, but his discussions were nothing about segx, he was intentional, he was going on and on about how to make me a better person, how I can grow and get rid of my inferiority complex, he liked me.

When we finished that night, he drove me close to where I got a cab and planted this warm peck on my forehead, Stella, my soul felt it...

The next day he was so busy with what he came for, we couldn't meet but we talked as usual , it went on for two days and on the 3rd day we met again and we had that long talk, that long talk that left me broken and in tears...

  I'm glad i am finally able to tell this story, cos I was broken and shattered, that man stole my heart, he is everything I prayed for in a man, he was okay with my size, my big belly was not an issue for him, he said when you're relaxed, we will work it out and you'll be the way you want to be ", he has a way of making me feel great, he smelt my insecurities from far and he was ready to help me build my self esteem again...

That third day while we were talking, I watched him speak about single mothers with so much pain in his eyes, he didn't tell me his story but I knew he meant everything he said about not wanting to associate with a single mom, he said I will never have anything to do with a single mom, I am not ready for their mess and baggage....

 I understand women a lot but I don't want to train another man's child or children, if their father don't want them, I don't want them either (Stella his eyes was wide while he spoke, it broke me knowing that I can't convince him otherwise), He said "Gee i am glad you're just single, i am single too and i am like 3yrs older than you, we fit Baby, i am glad you're with no baggage.....

 Stella something died inside my heart that evening, how do I tell him that I am a single mom of 3, Stella three kids? How did I even get here? I made him believe that I am staying with my elder brother and his family hence the noise he heard most times, he saw me as decent, he saw me as a matured natural being who would never tell lies....

 I hid a lot from him and I am not sorry, at least I enjoyed a little pampering, I enjoyed what it felt like to be loved again, he promised to give me money to boost my business and start my new line of trade, I knew all that is gone with the wind cos when I left there, I knew that was it, I didn't look back, the breezy wave of life blew up my beautiful short flowered gown, I saw my heart fly away with that cold breeze, I watched a good man leave, I told him nothing....

I managed to put up a charade, we enjoyed the evening as usual, joked, laughed and it was fun but I knew that was it, for the first time he kissed me, it was beautiful, the minty freshness from his mouth was awesome, I had tears in my eyes, he saw it, he asked why, I told him it's cos I'm happy again...

 he felt good to be the one behind my laughter and tears of joy, when we finished, I followed him to his hotel room, he gave me the beautiful cloth he made for me, he had one too (he don de do and Co with me sef), I smiled and said thank you,
He booked my cab and then I left, I got home to see an alert of 20k from him for the cab....

I called him and said thank you, immediately I ended the call, I blocked his number and blocked him on all social medias, it's been hard living without him cos I got used to telling him how my day went but I think this is what my life will be like, another good one is gone, as usual.....

I pray for grace to heal, I pray for closure, I pray to live out of this mess I brought up on myself, he's been texting me since then asking what he did wrong, I will summon courage soon to tell him about myself, tell him I am everything he doesn't want...
I'm sorry it didn't end happily as I imagined it but I know that love will find me soon and the new one may love me and my baggages, thank you for all your prayers for me, I will try again, love is a beautiful thing....


Ah this one pain me!!!!
You see wetin lie lie do you? you for day open from day one and maybe he for accept you with your baggage....
Abeg eh, unblock him and tell him and see what he will do...Unblock him...if it doesnt work out, he may turn out to be a good friend...
Una gbensh or una no gbensh= cos you just dodge that part.....

46 comments:

  1. How can you give up so easily? Why block him? Do you know what an “exception” means? Tell him everything about you, tell him about your kids, he won’t kill you, we men like to think things through, you can be an exception if he truly likes you as you have portrayed in your story, common don’t be scared, what’s the worst that can happen?… So auna gbensh? Tell us o! So we can stil advice… Ikwakwakwakwakwakwa.

    Kelvin Dat Edo Boi (Stellz Cousin)

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  2. Because of my disability, i don't like of this online dating. For some time now, those coming just want to use me. I pray my own see the way I'm , and love me. Someone that is not ashamed to walked with me.

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    1. If nkubi the dwarf can married that beautiful woman as a wife,no matter your disability,your God sent love would locate you soon.sending 💕😘

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    2. Your disability does not define you. Just be open and yours will find you. Hugs ♥️

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    3. Love definitely find you by God's grace 🙏

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  3. You blocked him!? Why!!
    You've broken that man to pieces by blocking him. You outrightly ghosted a good man. I'm so sorry how things went but next time just say the most important things before it kick start.
    I wish u all the best.

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  4. E-hugs dear 🤗. Unblock him and tell him everything. You never can tell. All the best, and keep us updated.

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  5. That feeling is not child's play at all...
    Just unblock him and tell him everything about you, if he stays? Cool,
    If he leaves? Move on though it is hard...

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  6. Men dey suffer sha..
    A man was all nice to you and what did he get in return and as reward - Lies, heart break, pain etc etc..

    Baba go dey think say him no sabi nack sef, say na why you block am or say him pim pim too small.. you don' carry your insecurities go dash am now,. If he isn't a strong man, he'll begin to feel insecure with women henceforth.. who even knows if na your real age you tell am..

    If you have a child, that's the first thing you should be telling anyone who you're on a taking stage with.. women are just so self centred and selfish,. If a man hides such from you how would you feel? If a man ghost you for nothing after you were nice to him how would you feel..

    Omo, I gbadun you but you fvck up big time..

    I hate lies and deceit with passion

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    1. We no knack, I told him my real age, I only felt such discussions should be like a 3rd bottle kind of discussion and should be said face to face not an over the phone kind of conversation and him telling me how much he disliked single moms threw me back, besides I never knew anything that true and serious could be found online

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    2. May true love find you, keep trusting God

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  7. Don't conclude yet. God works in mysterious ways. You never can tell, you might be that 'exception' .

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  8. You blocked him yet, he has been texting you?
    I hope you used protection when you gbenshed to avoid adding a fourth child to your baggage o.

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    1. Even when you block people, they can text you via SMS and no we didn't gbensh, we only kissed, I'm not that loose, so shut it, you don't know my story

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  9. You may have just lost a good friend
    Unblock him and tell him everything. He may still help you expand your business and remain friends with you. He may be your helper. Not all meetings must end in marriage.

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  10. Awww, sister! Your story clutches the heart like a child holding the last thread of a balloon drifting from her grasp. You wore your heart like a borrowed gown - bright, trembling, half-afraid it’d be taken back before the night ended. And it was taken, wasn’t it? Not by him, but by the silence you wrapped around your truth. And I see why. You’ve lived too long in a world that teaches single mothers to shrink their story, to make their joy easier to swallow.

    You wanted to taste joy again before the world reminded you of the fears you harboured. Please forgive yourself for lying, it wasn't for the optics. But like anyone who’s ever been judged before the first question was asked. You lied to borrow light, to sit in the warmth of something you feared might not be kind with that knowledge. The approach may have been a flawed one but sometimes it allows you to see the other side of the coin in truth instead of leading you on for conquests.

    I can't judge your discretion, but the thing is: you owe yourself more than a memory that tastes like stolen sugar. You owe yourself the truth, even when it might scatter the dream. That's because, a lie, even the sweet kind, cannot nurse your future. What he gave you was real: presence, warmth, the delicious illusion of safety. And what you gave him was just as real, even if wrapped in caution. So you blocked him (are you sure you loved him), and exiled yourself from something that could have been more.

    As my cousin often puts it; it shouldn't be about the prize but the price. You believed his love couldn’t stretch far enough, into your stream. And true his latter words didn’t hold the confluence. Maybe it couldn’t. Maybe it can - you didn't wait to see it through. You deserved to know for sure, as you might have blocked a different kind of hope from possibly evolving. Give him back his choice; tell him. If he walks, let him go clean. If he stays, then grace found you anyway.

    Please, stop apologising for wanting love - everyone deserves good loving. Don’t hide the parts that need it most. Love doesn't dodge wounds, it binds them. Next time, once the temperatures start rising, as the weeds are being cleared, and the ground is being ploughed deeper, give them their own truth to wrestle with. A man who can see your laughter, taste your tears, and still ask what they did wrong might just be ready for the whole truth.

    Let him see you. All of you. If they stay, not despite what you call 'baggage' but because they see the value fate has handed you to bloom beyond your fears. Always tell your mindset this truth; the right love will hold it and hold it well.

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  11. Come here madam Amebo 🤗🤗🤗 I'm so sorry your hope was dashed. Don't worry your man will find you soon and won't bother about your "baggage". Cheer up 🤗🤗

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  12. Dear Unblock Him And Tell Him You Are A Single Mom Of Three ,You Never Can Say He Might Accept You ooo..
    Why Dnt You Try Your Lucky First..
    Wishing You All The Best🫂


    Hello iya Boys

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  13. So sorry baby.May God direct you on what to do.
    Quick one:Please never ever hide your kids from anyone,infact it should be the first thing you tell anyone that is interested in you.Who go love you, go love you.

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  14. Awwww, come take a hug. My own be say you got a taste of what you have always dreamed of. E go still happen. Please enjoy life when it turns it's good side to you o. Please unblock and talk. It's the right thing to do

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  15. It is well with you. Just unblock him and tell him everything about you so he can decide whether to continue with the relationship or not.

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  16. So sorry dear 🤗🤗
    Ur own go come

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  17. It is well with you dear,you will find your own.
    As a single mom,any man coming close must know about my son,I don't want to build up feelings and later get broken again.

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  18. If we all can be truthful at this time, whose amongst us will let their brothers bring in a woman with 3 children? Shebi that’s Yull’s crime?

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    1. no..that wasn't your mentors crime. his crime was that he cheated on his wife..didnt want to release her from the marriage and also basically dancing on his sons grave after he died
      .calling the year his first fruit died, his happiest year.mso yeah!

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  19. Please unblock him and tell him your stories,I was happy from the beginning but got sad at the end, don't give up yet.wishing you happy miracles and Happy ending ❤️🌹💃🏼

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  20. Why is it that no one sees that this man was a walking Red Flag? I would have dumped him after hearing the way he referred to single mothers and their children!
    “, he said I will never have anything to do with a single mom, I am not ready for their mess and baggage....
    I understand women a lot but I don't want to train another man's child or children, if their father don't want them, I don't want them either”!” Girl you deserve someone who ….

    There’s no empathy in his statement, no curiosity to understand, just judgment.…. ! Girl you dodged a flying rocket!

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    1. To Anon 18:04, your comments have such a big ring of truth around them. The way he even talked about single mothers is enough to put anyone in those shoes off. I don't blame the poster after hearing her heartthrobs opinion about people like her. Sometimes its good not to put everything out there... this way we can get peoples true opinion of things . It reminds me of people who try to know your religion or ethnicity before giving an opinion on such issues.

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    2. exactly..and even if he takes her back and marries her with the kids, Mrs amebo and kids will continually walk around him on eggshells. he told her who he is and that is truly how is heart is.

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  21. Love will find it's way to u again

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  22. Awww, sorry to read this. I know of men who have married woman with two children and accepted the children as their own. It doesn’t matter how many men say they won’t do something, there are always those of a different mindset. I feel like right there and then when he was speaking you should have spoken up and confess your children. Children should never be hidden, let those who will judge do as they feel and those who will love do as they feel. Never hide your motherhood status ever again. Being a mother is not crime and there is nothing to be ashamed of. Stand up with your head held high and do not give away your power to anyone. Shame and hung heads give folks the power to feel that they can speak to you anyhow and entitled to your story.

    Unblock him and declare who you are. Set yourself free and stand tall. Hide for no one and while sorrow can be felt for what could have been, know that when what is yours comes along you and your beautiful children will be accepted wholeheartedly and with open arms. Do not think that it could only be an infertile man desperate for a family who will stand up for you. It may be a very fertile man who put two more inside of you and make you a mother of five. So, hide for nobody ever again!

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  23. This is how you will use lies and pursue ' angels' away.
    See now he is good and gone and you are regretting it.
    You think good people are easy to come by these days?.
    Lie is destructive..
    But why did you block him,?? you would have confessed 'may be', 'may be' he will forgive you.

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    1. with all the rubbish he said about a fellow human being? a woman who stayed with the kids when the father did a disappearing act? and you call him good? or the definition.has changed last I checked?

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  24. This one pain me...
    I was expecting a happy ever after...
    Awwww

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  25. Sounded so beautiful while it lasted. What we sacrifice for our kids ehn. It is well

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  26. You never can tell, you might be exceptional for him, please unblock him, he deserve to know why you think it may not wotk. Take a hug dear.

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  27. Madam Amebo, are divorced, widowed or a single lady (never married) with three kids? Are your three kids from one man? These are issues that the man would consider in making up his mind. I pray for a true 2nd love chance for you. Amen

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    1. People with strong hate for a group of ppl causing no harm to anyone does not deserve anyone’s attention. Imagine if she had spoken with the same hatred about men without degrees or who did manual labour for a living. Too many ppl feel they can flog single mothers and get away with it.

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  28. You should have told him from the onset that you're a single mother, nothing to hide, any man that will stay will still stay, even the moment he was bashing the single mothers was the exact opportunity for you to tell him who you really are to even see his reaction.
    Anyways if I were you, the moment he was bashing the single mothers would've been the moment all my feelings for him fly away knowing fully well that I'm among the people he was condemning.

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  29. The guy fit be Gameboy sef,he might have figured that you have given birth b4,that's why ur tummy is big.he is just playing good guy so that when u finally tell him you have kids,he can bounce bcos he will say he told you he didn't want baby mama.of course after the nacks.just speculating though

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  30. Dont try to convince him. Will you also convince him to love your children? E don be , e don be. E no fit be pass as e don be. Manage your emotions and close that chapter.
    Children First! Especially, if they are still minors.

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