Monday In House News

  Hailings......

MONDAY IN HOUSE MEMO

How we all dey so? Today na work free day here and i am feeling cool and thinking of how to start making Lunch.......

I am excited about the incoming summer holidays......

Those of you who like to send off your kids to spend holiday with people should think twice this year.....There is too much evil lurking around... I was shocked that they actually kidnap kids now as well....For what? I dont get it!!!

I hope i put enough fear in you to be very careful this year...

Have a great day!

I hope you get to read all these copied posts and learn from them....Or you can forward to someone you think will gain from reading...we need to educate people cos ignorance is too expensive and costing us all a lot....

Hugs!

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

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MARRYING A NARCISSIST

If you marry a narcissist, you will not get to be a real spouse. 

You will end up doing everything alone like a single parent but without the freedom.

Narcissists don’t marry for love.

They want someone to care for them and follow their rules. 

They do not want a real relationship.  

They want control. 

You will be the one managing the house, raising the children and making sure everything runs smoothly while they focus only on themselves. 

The dream of a happy, equal marriage disappears and you are left feeling like a servant.

Over time, you will start losing yourself, your wants, dreams and even your happiness because you are always putting them first. 

You sacrifice your time, interests and friendships just to keep up with their demands. 

It is exhausting and you will start feeling stuck and hopeless.

Remember, you deserve a partner who truly loves and respects you. 

Do not let a narcissists make you believe otherwise. 

You are strong, valuable and worthy of real love.

It is never too late to break free and take back your life.

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Thank God i did not marry one ooooooooooo...

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HUSBANDS VERSUS MALE SPOUSES

Let’s talk ....

You think you’re a husband because you paid bride price?
Because you signed a certificate?
Because you show up to bed every night?

You’re not a husband!!!.
You’re a male spouse.

There’s a difference.

1. A Husband Is Already Dead
Dead to pettiness.
Dead to impulse.
Dead to “I must be right.”
A real husband doesn’t react to every emotion his wife throws.
He absorbs chaos—and gives back structure.

He doesn’t need validation to lead.
He is the foundation.
And foundations don’t shake.
If you’re always defending yourself…
Always trying to win arguments…
Always waiting for her to “earn” your love?

You’re not dead yet.
And you’re not ready.

2. She’s Not Submitting Because You’re a Storm

Let’s be honest:
No woman should submit to confusion.
To emotional whiplash.
To a man with no mission, no order, no backbone.

She can’t follow you if you don’t know where you’re going
You want submission?
Get your life in order.

Heal your childhood wounds.
Fix your finances.
Get a mentor if you missed a father.
Because masculinity without mastery is just noise.
And no queen submits to chaos.

3. We Expect Women to Grow—But Men Stay Boys

We demand:
– Girls become ladies
– Ladies become wives
– Wives become mothers
But men?

We skip the journey.
We marry boys to women—and call it love.
Then act shocked when the woman is burnt out from cleaning up after a grown child.
She’s not your mother.
She’s your wife.
Act like it.'

4. Your Wife Is Not Your Equal—She’s Your First Daughter

Not in worth.
In responsibility.

You’re the head.
The gardener.
The guide.
The one who holds the weight.
She will frustrate you.
She will test you.

She will cry without telling you why.
But if you’re easily provoked, unstable, and entitled to obedience?
You don’t need a wife.
You need therapy—or mentorship.

Because nurturing a woman takes patience.
And if you’re not man enough to hold space,
You’ll never lead from strength.

5. You Want Her to Do Everything—While You Do Nothing

You both work.
You both earn.
But she:
– Cooks
– Bathes the kids
– Runs the errands
– Manages the house
And still has to deal with your entitlement?
That’s not leadership.
That’s laziness.
Structure isn’t just authority—it’s service.

So either balance the load or shut up about how “modern women are not submissive.
You’ve turned her into a mule.
Then call her “disrespectful” for breaking down.

6. Stop Building a Kingdom on Lies

You cheat “because men are like that.”
You lie “to protect her.”
You flirt online “for ego.”
You think your woman is immune to temptation?
She sees the 6-packs.
The DMs.
The options.
She stays because she’s loyal to the home—not to your foolishness.

Don’t mistake her silence for stupidity.
Don’t weaponize her patience against her.
And stop playing the victim in a game you’re rigging.

Final Word: You’re Not a Husband Until You’re a Builder

A builder of peace.
A builder of vision.
A builder of legacy.
It’s not her job to make you a man.
It’s not her job to fix your past.
It’s not her job to carry the full weight of your brokenness.
Lead like a husband.
Love like a father.
Sacrifice like a savior.

Because until you die to boyhood?
You’re just a man who married.
Not a man who became.

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This writeup too sweet!!!!

Anyone is free to disagree with it

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THE THINGS NOBODY TALKS ABOUT

Nobody talks about after you finally heal from a traumatizing relationship.

When you have taken the time to concentrate on yourself and you are finally in a place where you're done healing and you are ready to step out into the dating world again, it's nearly impossible to find someone because you see the red flags in everybody.

You see so many things you're not willing to compromise with because you actually trust your intuition.
You can see when things are an issue with people, and you know you won't be able to get over it later on in that relationship.

So you don't allow your feelings to get in the way of logic and just cut it off before it even gets to that point.

Then you realize how many people aren't actually working on themselves and are just seeking a shallow connection.

They aren't even looking to improve themselves as a partner in a relationship, and they think their perfectly fine the way they are.

So there's no room to grow into a relationship together because they are already set in their ways.
It's a little exhausting at times because you also feel lonely during all of this and that sadness can take a toll on you but you have to remember one thing .....

It's better to be single with high standards than in a relationship settling for less.
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WEIRDFACTS

---People who laugh more are able to tolerate pain better, both physical and emotional.

---Extroverted people are likely to overlook typos and grammatical errors that would cause introverted people to negatively judge the writer.

---One smile, can start a friendship. One word, can end a fight. One look, can save a relationship. One person can change your life.

---Your worst battle is between what you know and what you feel.

---You'll never truly understand until it happens to you.

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