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Good day house.
Stella, please post. I will love to hear the opinions of others and also take corrections

I was hired on a 6-month contract and had a seemingly good rapport with my immediate superior. Though my role was to support her, she pushed almost all project work to me. I never complained, even when it became overwhelming.

A few weeks ago, one of our partners requested a document. As usual, she handed the task to me. It was demanding and took days (and nights) to complete. She told me on Monday to finish the work that day and share with the partner who requested for it. On the deadline day, I stayed late to finish and sent it directly to the partner, copying her and others. 

The next day, the partner asked for a meeting to understand the document better. I informed my superior, and she told me to schedule the meeting.

Coincidentally, our senior bosses from HQ visited that same day, and it was my first time meeting them. During project discussions, my superior kept deferring questions to me, which made it clear I was handling most of the work. I asked her if she would present the task to the partner and she asked me to present the document to the partner since I worked on it. 

So, I did present it. It was lots of data and they set up a projector for me (which we all did not see coming). She thought they would "criticize" the work but they applauded it and told me to do some corrections.

I was able to answer all the questions, including some she couldn’t. Our HQ bosses and some partners were in that meeting.

Later that day, she called and said, “Next time, let me see data before you share it,” even though she had instructed me to send it. Then, she accused me of giving our HQ boss "eye signals" to tarnish her image, which I firmly denied. I still apologized and clarified it was a misunderstanding. She called again to tell me how that same Oga does not like her.

So, during the subsequent presentations, I would do the adjustment on the work, and she would present while I sat at the back. But sometimes, they ask her questions she could not answer that she would still have to call me from that back to rescue her.

Since the first presentation I did, she has been passive-aggressive, making snide remarks like, "Na you be the data madam now," and sarcastically calling me “madam, ma"

Interestingly, she's stopped pushing work to me and now handles more tasks herself. I also noticed she’s had several meetings with HQ since then. And after each meeting, she comes back giving me attitude.

Last week, HQ called me for a bigger role and asked if I could combine it with my current contract. I agreed and told them I would inform my supervisor, which I did.
She said she’d also notify our project leads. But since HQ's visit, her attitude has changed. For example, I keep her informed and follow her go-ahead, yet if things don’t go well, she blames me. This happened again recently, and I had to point out that I had informed her beforehand.

Please, how do I maintain a peaceful working relationship with her until the end of this project?

I paused my career for two years due to childbirth and returned to take a contract role—even though I’m capable of more. I was the best graduating student in my first and second degree but if you see me, you won't know until I deliver and present some tasks. Despite this, I’ve remained humble and only focused on my growth while I put my all, stretched forth and back to the success of this project. 

I believe the issue started when HQ saw the extent of my work and likely recommended me, which led to that call from the team.

Today, she asked if they had gotten back to me on the proposed role, and I simply said “No.” My partner asked that hope she has not gone to spoil it and honestly, I won't have issue with that cos all I needed was to jumpstart my career again which I have done.

Although, due to her recent attitude, I’ve decided I won’t update her anymore.

Please house, advice on how to relate cordially with her without dimming my light and capacity.

Thank you.

First Off- stop updating her on your activities!
You will not have peace with her again no matter what you do, so i advice that you ignore her totally and if HQ employs you, ask for another branch from where she is.....Remember that it is what it is....