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IRRITATING MARRIAGE
I need some words of direction and some clarity. I hate s*x with my husband. I thoroughly hate it and even the thought of it and don't even get wet.
This man yells at me over every little thing, acts and accuses me of being the source of all his frustrations and some unfavorable business deals, yet somehow thinks I should desire him for any pleasure?
He treats me without the slightest respect and he's a little generous towards I and our two kids most times complaining. we both run a business, yet he wants me to gladly open my legs for someone like him who treats me exactly like trash?
He even tells me how he'd have married a high class babe but their both genotypes were AS, or how he can't wait to cross over to Europe and marry one whitey for papers.
He just goes huffing, puffing, pumping—in and out, and then that ridiculous high-pitched scream he lets out when he finally releases irritates my very inner being.
I have complained countless times about our issues but it seems his attitude is default for him. The problem is I'm s*x starved and emotionally disconnected.If it’s taking too long, I just fake it, become shaky, moan like I’m climaxing, so he hurries up and let's go off me, I play along, every time.
Meanwhile, I don't wish to continue like the this because he's not changing anytime soon, I've prayed and cried. I intend to reconnect physically to this friends with benefits buddy I used to mess with before I got into this mirage, I've reconnected with him on Meta,he treated me gently and with care but we lost communication due to moving to different parts of the country.
All he has to do is call me and remind me how he used to handle me, and i'm hopelessly wet with multiple orgasms hearing the sound of his calm voice and dirty talks.
I'm just wondering if my husbands actions and treatments towards me are grounds for divorce. I can't discuss this with no one because we seem perfect outside.
Please i was so irritated reading this Chronicles becos of the irritating gbenshing part..Please if you feel this way, it is enough reason to end this marriage and gbensh whoever you want.....Ah end it already!!!
And please stop giving it to him and tell him your reasons, maybe that will change him...
The situation you both are now is who leaves first........
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ReplyDeleteMe I will hate xes with this type of person. But wait o, why are you there? Someone that is already telling you how he can't wait to cross over to marry for papers. Someone that compares you to the ex he couldn't marry.
ReplyDeleteIf the marriage is tiring and irritating, is anything/anyone holding you back?
ReplyDeleteWere you guys intimate before marriage? I wish you can answer some of these questions.
This guy that used to take you to the moon and back, you think it will only end in calls?
What if your husband catches you?
He will automatically become the victim, tell the world how promiscuous you are with evidence.
For the sake of your kids, respect yourself.
No, I do not support what your husband is doing and I will never accept it..I'd rather walk away and be happy than live miserably.
Honestly, you shouldn't settle for a man that makes you feel small and unworthy.
I agree!
DeleteA woman's response to a man sexually largely depends on how she is treated.
ReplyDeleteFind a way to tell him how you feel or ask for counseling. Pls give your marriage all it takes before you throw in the towel.
Don't get involved with anyone while still married.
It is the lack of it that is making you think of the other guy who you enjoyed it with.
If there's one thing I hate so much, it is nagging. Or staying close to a nag. They'll drain you and make you look worthless.
ReplyDeleteOmo, I don't know what advice to dish. I hope you get the help you need dear poster.
Madam, i’m afraid, your marriage has irretrievably broken down. You have checked out of the marriage emotionally, please LEAVE.
ReplyDeleteYou are out of love with your husband because of his temperament. It is understandable why being intimate with him now feels like a duty you must endure. You have to speak with him and let him know that his barking and bad treatment leaves you feeling and that you are losing your attraction to him. I believe in giving ppl an opportunity to fix their issues.
ReplyDeleteNope, do not think of cheating, if he finds out you will be vilified, all blame will be on your shoulders because nobody has mercy on a cheating woman. Don’t even think of stepping out in the marriage. If he has no plans of changing and remains a brute, you are free to leave the marriage, but a brute will not let you leave without trying to inflict one final bout of pain. So seek legal advice from a very good divorce lawyer before you file anything.
Yea poster, it's better you leave with your pride intact than this cheating you're thinking of.
DeleteHmmmm, I am in this same shoe, I hate sezx with my husband now, no fore play, he will just use his leg to open my legs. I am tired but he is a good father , a provider for his kids, nice to people and can be kind to a fault but mehn, when he touches me now I just freeze.
ReplyDeleteWe have nt kissed this year and we both brush twice daily, go for periodic scaling and polishing so it isn’t about hygiene. Why won’t you kiss your partner and you want her to be ready.
How in God’s name am I to get ****without fore play. I am thinking of going celibate sef.
We used to have so much fun in our twenties and thirties but i just realized i was the one making all the efforts, now he has erectile dysfunction so when the thing comes up, he just want to quickly do the do . I am tired .
Pls reduce the carbs in your husbands diet and have him engage in light exercise such as taking long walks for 30 mins daily. His energy and ED will improve. Reduce salt and oil in your home made meals.
DeletePoster please take it easy. You are angry right now, but when the anger passes you won't feel this way anymore.
ReplyDeleteGo place to start from...Who leaves first? The rhetorical question to be answered....
ReplyDeleteDear Poster,
At this point, I will advise that you guys separate but separate with clarity.....I know you crave for companionship, love and care...Unfortunately, your man is not delivering in these areas....Now this begs the question, do you really think you will get all you need and more from this side boo with all the hurt you have in your heart?
You want to use this guy as your rebound and this will not help your healing process....The part I don't like is it seems that if things don't go well, your mind automatically goes to this side boo to satisfy your temporal urges and then off you go till the next booty call...To what end?
Set your priorities straight, heal from this so you have enough time to self-evaluate and determine the type of man you need if you will consider marriage in the future....If you need to speak with a professional counsellor, please do so....Because nobody will agree that your husband did you wrong if you are found so quickly in the arms of your lover...
Wishing you wisdom in your decisions...
All the best....
The Poster doesn't need any Man now ( both husband and side boo) All she needs is money as in to get busy, build her self esteem again, live and breathe.
DeleteMadam you are in Marriage and still has the mind to be serving your kitty to another Man?
ReplyDeleteIn as much as the man has his fault, don't you think you share part of the blames??
Please pick up the pieces and make the marriage work, or you go away since na knack they sweet you pass.
Dodo.
Make una dey read to comprehend abeg! where did she say she's serving her kitty to another man?
DeleteSex with your hubby looks tiresome, I can imagine the scenario & sounds 😩
ReplyDeleteWhy don't you both go for sex counselling? It will help greatly with your marriage.
Most importantly, ask God for help. You'll be amazed at how God works. Also desist from chatting with your ex with benefits, it will do you no good.
Best of luck dear.
Take a vacation
ReplyDeleteGo visit someone
Just relax your mind a bit
The orgasmic scream is better than someone who commented that her man moans in ibibio
ReplyDelete😂😂😂. Wonders shall never end.
DeleteYou should leave the marriage, if you are not fine anymore, But don't cheat in marriage pls, it not always good.
ReplyDeleteLekwanu Asha*o backyard!The reason your husband is irritating you is because you have another man in mind always. Marriage is not easy, let alone when you are passing through a phase.
ReplyDeleteIf you ever sleep with that man, you will feel so guilty and dirty. Concentrate on your marriage. Most people may not know this, thinking about other men/women or sleeping with them brings bad luck to your family.
If life is spiritual, s*x is even more spiritual. It literally forms a potential pathway to deeper connection. It is very transcendent, that’s why some dream of it while unconscious and it still feels so real.
Sex is sacred and should be treated as such.
In your mind now na you get sense pass right? The reason her husband is irritating her is because she has another man outside according to you. If you have sense why not address the issue where the husband treats her like trash, as if you don't know that his negative treatment of her person is what pushed her remember the good life she used to have before she got married to this selfish and inconsiderate man. It's easy to say what you said because you are not a lady and you are not the one at the receiving end. The day you will learn to analyze things properly in matters like this then I will know that you have finally gotten sense. No let me give you backhand slap .
DeleteYou can never find a perfect human even if you go into another relationship, you may still find issues.i encourage you both visit a marriage counselor or a reputable man of God for advice.
ReplyDeleteBe patience and see how you both can spice up the marriage again to make it work.
Did I just read that you both appear perfect outside? Madam it seems this emotional and mental abuse has not really got to you despite this unbearable level that it is now according to what I just read. How can you feign perfection outside with a person like that? Why not wear your feelings on your sleeves so he will know how disconnected you are with him and even let outsiders know that something is wrong? What are you pretending for? You are pretending in whose favour?
ReplyDeleteInfact you enabled all that because if you disconnected after the third time of treating you like a nobody, by now he won't have the guts to make the bad treatment linger this far. If you had tried to make peace with him three occasions and he still wouldn't change, the best thing to do is avoid any contact with him like a plague, the only thing you have to do for him is give him meals as usual. Nnaaa na wa o o o.
Ideally, yes, you have grounds to walk out of your marriage as it is. Which you should explore if you don't foresee any respite in sight. Your marriage appears emotionally bankrupt. If reconciliation is desired, both parties must be willing. Otherwise, your emotional safety takes precedence. And you can begin with discreet legal advice, to plan your exit safely.
ReplyDeleteYou’re not just tired, you’re also emotionally bruised and sexually retraumatised. No desire can grow in a place where respect has died. This man’s words and actions have crushed your emotional safety. But don’t entangle yourself further in emotional rebounds. Society will recklessly condemn you and excuse all the abuse, just to bury your self-worth.
Too many couples enter marriage unprepared for the personal evolution required to truly become a husband or a wife. Many are content simply fulfilling the role of father or mother. That’s one of the silent intricacies of modern marriage: it tests us, hurls the good, the bad, and the unbearable at us. And everyone has a threshold.
One piece of advice I’ll never forget came from my father as I stepped into adulthood. He said, “If you ever find yourself in a serious relationship, be wise enough to test the waters of commitment - not by compromising your values, but to get clarity on what the idea of being married to that partner would probably be.”
Right now, your task is simple yet urgent: reclaim your dignity with the gentleness that healing requires. Children deserve to grow in an environment rich in love, respect, kindness, and care. You’re not unfaithful for seeking peace - you’re human. A new life is waiting for you. But it begins with one truth: you must come first, always.
Is this for real or someone thinks this Chronicles post is a joke.
ReplyDeletePoster,First, involving in a business with your husband is your one number problem,the marriage is dead and can be restored if you can get a job or a business of your own, remember madam Amebo Chronicles here some days ago? All you need is money.
ReplyDeleteOmo i no know where i wan start to day advise you. The sex scenes you described with your husband is so unromantic and his attitude is totally irritating. Unless you both want out, else I will suggest you both go for therepy.
ReplyDeleteMadam use style tell him how you feel. In fact, you can also tell him if he wants you to get it outside? Tell him your friends told you how their husbands handle them and that you have never orgasm before.
ReplyDeleteAlso tell him that his emotional abuse towards you has made you dislike s*x with him unless he changes o.