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WORRIED BABY GIRL
I am a very beautiful baby girl in my late 30's living the baby girl life but i am worried that i do not have a serious man and that no one has even as much as talked to me about Marriage yet.....
I am really worried because i am under the pressure that time is passing by, especially with my Biological clock...How in heavens name will i pretend that i dont want my own child or pretend that all is well? worry lines are beginning to show on my baby girl face and even the many foundations cannot hide it anymore....
The women that have men propose to them, what do they do? how do they behave? how do i place my self to become a wife material? what qualities do i need to have?.....I dont even want to think about being a baby mama, i want to be married to have a child and dont even care if the material breaks up after i have my kids..
I am really worried because i am under the pressure that time is passing by, especially with my Biological clock...How in heavens name will i pretend that i dont want my own child or pretend that all is well? worry lines are beginning to show on my baby girl face and even the many foundations cannot hide it anymore....
The women that have men propose to them, what do they do? how do they behave? how do i place my self to become a wife material? what qualities do i need to have?.....I dont even want to think about being a baby mama, i want to be married to have a child and dont even care if the material breaks up after i have my kids..
I see women that are not even good looking getting married, so what is wrong with me? I am beautiful and classy and have a very good Job, I behave well and respect people... What am i doing wrong? I am tired of having segz without any man putting his name on it....
Please someone should tell me how to get a husband!!!!
I am tempted to say that you should trust God and wait for his time but expressive your mindset while waiting is still OK:
Make i follow read comment today.
your own man will find you. just be yourself. shikena
ReplyDeletePls be careful of the advice that will come your way, so it is not from frying pan to fire, from all you have said above, just reduce your baby girl life, highest go to MFM for prayers but God will do it. My mummy will always say it is in the daytime you look for a black goat, so you don't become desperate at night, but it is never too late with God, you can also save your eggs while you are looking and waiting.
DeleteWhich mfm? Is it the geehole that fingers ladies in his toilet via corridor deliverance?
DeleteBut eh, we still have good guys here.
DeletePlease good guy show interest and marry our fine sis. The money will come.
Poster some people when go advise you here never even get husband or wife.
ReplyDeleteYour first paragraph sums up what your issue is. Someone with the mentality of a 'baby girl', living a baby girl life cannot be given a home to run.
ReplyDeleteYou need to take yourself serious before anyone can take you serious. Being purpose driven and intentional about relationships is what gets you married. Defining your relationship early is what saves you from time wasters.
Date with a time bound expectation of commitment towards marriage in mind. It is not desperation to expect the person you are seeing to marry you. It is the sole purpose of dating. If he is not making moves and talking about a future with you, then why are you dating him? Is your time of so little value to you?
Thubs up 👏👏👏👏
DeleteJust trust in God,your man is on his way,love yourself, worried less.sending 💋❤️🌹♥️
ReplyDeleteTrust God as he makes everything beautiful in his own time.
ReplyDeleteHave you considered just having a baby?
ReplyDeleteIt's the babygirl reference for me 🤣🤣
ReplyDeleteYour breakthrough is so near,keep confessing the words of affirmation. It's done. 🙏🏿🤗
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Delete@Blogbrity:
DeleteDid you say a lady living a "baby girl's life" should confess and affirm God's words. Which of the gods?
@Poster:
Repent of your sinful lifestyle and build a strong relationship with God..
Marriage is designed by God to last a lifetime
Just forget about God helping you with the mIndset that you don't care if the marriage packs up.
See what you write:
I dont even want to think about being a baby mama,..but then you added the following
I want to be married to have a child and dont even care if the material breaks up after i have my kids..>/b< ...so what would you become if the marriage breaks up after having >b<"kids"?>/b<
I am in the same boat with you ooo.
ReplyDeleteNo man to bring home for mama
Poster focus on God first, let his spirit guide you. Then you will build that confidence that will attract a husband, by this I mean, you will look inviting but not desperate,be nice, happy and smile a lot but be firm, never let any relationship linger for more than 6 months without picking up on if he wants to have a future with you. You also do not need to have sex with anyone for as long as you wish in the relationship, when you have that confident spirit men will be willing to wait, happily wait.Finally it’s all in Gods hands and you should make a decision today to be happy wether you get married or not.
ReplyDeleteNothing is wrong with you. The issue here is that you haven't met a serious man, according to you.
ReplyDeleteAlso check yourself and check what makes them don't want to be serious.
Though you may have all the qualities and still attract ' unserious' men...
Be open minded while you keep doing your thing.
Check your environment also.
Stop having sex for now if the man in your life is not up for marriage.
ReplyDeleteSex has a way of clouding ones reasonings.
While at it, engage in church activities. Take up ushering roles to foster visibility. Pray as well as work.
Come back here to testify.
If this doesn't work , I don't know what else would.
Good luck 👍
what they do is to stop acting desperate and never allow their worries show on their face while trusting God. Remember he said he will show mercy to whom he will show mercy to, i said this cos you said some ladies who are not beautiful are getting married. Beauty is not all it takes to get married hope you know that?
ReplyDeleteJust be happy and peaceful with yourself,go out to new places for vacation,don't stress it que sera sera, whatever will be,will be...
ReplyDeleteExactly. Stop giving the type of men you entertain a chance. Look for serious people. Attend weddings, show up for your friends, be celibate and cleanse your energy. Many marriages come from recommendations. Why is none of your colleagues recommending you?. None of your church members?, gym members?. All your family friends nko? Mentors?, mentees?, friends?. Sincerely answer this. Then reinvent yourself. Don’t stop being a baby girl as some people will insinuate. Treat yourself good, love yourself.
DeleteDear poster,
ReplyDeletePlease snap out of this phase, gently but firmly. That “baby girl life” mindset, at this point in your life, may be doing more harm than good. You're dealing with real, painful anxiety, rooted in age, identity, fertility, and the fear of being alone. Beneath the humour in your message lies a silent cry: loneliness disguised as glamour, societal pressure muddled with self-worth, and quiet desperation parading as lifestyle.
You're not alone, but it’s time to get serious. Beauty and vibes won’t attract the kind of commitment you seek. Perhaps, you have been unlucky. But men, except a privileged few, don’t marry ornaments. They marry partners or subordinates, not trophies. If your life looks casual, most will treat it as such. Stop confusing attention with intention, and availability with commitment.
Sometimes, as self-assured ladies, we often let ego and pride dictate our standards without understanding what we want from each particular relationship. Instead of finding that which can empower our weakness, and augment our strength with positive intentions.
You need to sit with yourself. Review your past relationships, what patterns keep repeating? Why do you measure your worth by marriage and beauty? You could speak to a fertility expert now if motherhood is this important to you. For clarity on the gains of freezing your eggs.
Then rework your mindset. What do you truly value? Who are you without the filters and performance? Build a life that reflects intentionality, not just aesthetics. Redefine your purpose for a relationship, and date with clarity. Speak up if the direction and a man’s vision don’t align with yours; take a walk.
Marriage isn’t a prize or a reward for being “good” or “classy” or for behaving well. It’s a decision made by two adults who see strength in each other. You’re still in the running. But you must take the wheel, reset your lens, and move forward with boldness and self-respect. Pray if you must - but pair prayer with purpose.
So in essence, she shouldn’t have fun or be happy because she’sunmarried?. What exactly do you mean by snap out of baby girl mentality?. She said she’s respectful, well behaved and has a good job???
Delete@Ebony Oge:
DeleteI pray the LORD continues to enrich you with wisdom and enlarge your coast.
I pray women who need direction would cross your path for help. Amen.
I pray the prayers above for all the godly and reasonable women on this blog.
You need to honestly talk to your self.Asses your good and bad sides,do some changes.Go out and meet men.Let them genuine chase you without sex.Lower your life style
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God is totally in charge of connecting destinies.you have got to pray! Oftentimes, when we fail to do this and become so desperate for marriage, the devil pushes us to the wrong spouse, someone who will cause us pain, take away our peace and ruin our lives. That's why it's very important to pray while seeking for a life partner.
ReplyDeleteAlso watch your words and your thoughts.they are very powerful.you can't be declaring negativity and expect positive outcomes. No matter how difficult the situation may be around you, remember there's always light at the end of the tunnel.Refuse to see impossibilities and believe that man whom God has destined for you will find you soon and you will give birth to those kids which your heart so desires but you must have faith in the word of God and do not doubt.
This chronicle sounds fake
ReplyDeleteIt feels like it was written by a sexist, misogynistic, male chauvinist who wants to - once again, sigh - attack accomplished, independent single ladies who do not make getting married and having kids their sole purpose in life
Boring
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You sound foolish
DeleteAnon 19:30, True that.
DeleteMay God come through for you.
ReplyDeleteYour mindset is a bit skewed. You said you don't mind even if the marriage breaks up after you have had your children????
ReplyDeleteWhat exactly is the reason why you want marriage? 🤔
The poster is confused. She takes life with levity.
Delete@Poster:
God will protect His .ale children from ladies like you
Ebony, you never disappoint with common sense which is truly not common to many.
ReplyDeleteFor those telling her she is meeting unserious men, read Ebony's wise counsel again.
You are "tired of having segz without anyone putting their name on it." I think that's one of your problems right there. You should run to God First. Don't tell me "everyone is doing it." "Even unbelievers get married week in week out." I know. But everyone's journey is different. The bible recorded, They are of the world, speak they of the world and the world hear them. The world would always hear his own. Forget about your good character, fine face and being nice. Life doesn't play small. You need to be very fierced in the matter's of the destiny.
ReplyDeleteI would advice you run to God and start afresh with Him. This time not to get married but to know Him geniuenely and personally for yourself. Marriage would take it's course in due time. Don't forget. Sarah and Elizabeth gave birth at a very old age. So biological clock should never be something that makes you do Marriage or don't do it. Take the pressure off. "He's never late." The song writer said. "He's always on time." Sinach.
I end with this verse.
Cast your care upon Him for He cares for you. Another translation says, Have no anxiety for anything. Phillipians 4:6. God's dream for you (His husband for you, and children for you) is greater than your own. You can never outdream Him.
The pastor (Israel) who wrote about his divorce and 3 tmes suicide attempts may have gotten married to a self centered woman like the poster.
DeleteI hope many Christian single guys read this blog.
There are many Delilahs and Jezebels who show up online with sick mindsets.