He loves our interactions on football to the point that he usually check up on me whenever there's a star match and I'm not in his bar. Sometimes, we often throw football banters, for that's the beauty of sports fanship.
He has a pretty lover though not married but has a kid with her. I was shocked the very first time I noticed both of them take weed, Canadian loud and all that. I also learnt they cook with it as well. I was shocked cos they both look calm, easy going and very clean.
Most guys I have seen taking weed and colos usually have this brown tooth as a result of not brushing. Bad breath, burnt, dark and swollen lips. They're usually unkempt, even malnourished. But this guy and his woman are exceptionally neat and well dressed.
Earlier this week, I teased him by asking, ''for a beginner, between weed and colos which one will I start with and graduate to?'' He responded by saying I should start with colos so that I will run mad quickly. You need to see the heavy laughter from the both of us. Funny guy. He knew I'm not serious about it hence the response.
When I talked about his woman also taking weed, he smiled and showered her with so many nice pleasantries. He said to me, nothing can ever separate their love. He narrated how they have been together over a decade. He said she's the only woman that understands and reads him very well.
Furtherance to that, he went on to say the many instances his woman has caught him admiring other women and she will be like, ''You want her? Make I run am for you.'' He said he has strived few women through his woman running the shit. I don't know what to make of it but it is so shocking hearing that. I asked him, ''For real?'' He laughed and said we Nigerians take life and this relationship thing too serious.
Earlier this week, I teased him by asking, ''for a beginner, between weed and colos which one will I start with and graduate to?'' He responded by saying I should start with colos so that I will run mad quickly. You need to see the heavy laughter from the both of us. Funny guy. He knew I'm not serious about it hence the response.
When I talked about his woman also taking weed, he smiled and showered her with so many nice pleasantries. He said to me, nothing can ever separate their love. He narrated how they have been together over a decade. He said she's the only woman that understands and reads him very well.
Furtherance to that, he went on to say the many instances his woman has caught him admiring other women and she will be like, ''You want her? Make I run am for you.'' He said he has strived few women through his woman running the shit. I don't know what to make of it but it is so shocking hearing that. I asked him, ''For real?'' He laughed and said we Nigerians take life and this relationship thing too serious.
He began narrating his few years overseas and how couples (some) will visit a club, exchange partners in the dance floor, leave with each other partner to their home or hotel and then make out time with the person. In the morning of the next day, they return to their partner and continue their life.
Though I've once heard this from someone but hearing it again confirms it's real.
Mehn!!! This is crazy I must say. What woman will arrange another woman for her guy's pleasure or men exchanging their wives for their s#xual fantasy. This one is too heavy I must say. I heard as well that over there, marriage isn't taken too serious like we do here in Nigeria.
Though I've once heard this from someone but hearing it again confirms it's real.
Mehn!!! This is crazy I must say. What woman will arrange another woman for her guy's pleasure or men exchanging their wives for their s#xual fantasy. This one is too heavy I must say. I heard as well that over there, marriage isn't taken too serious like we do here in Nigeria.
A part in me is still finding this whole thing difficult to believe but then, anything could be possible.
Teejay, a lot of Nigerian ladies are willing to do that but Nigerian men don't want to live their truth.
ReplyDeleteMen will be happy if their wife/girlfriend arrange another lady for them, but men can't arrange another man for their wife/girlfriend.
Until Nigerians leaves pretence, there will always be chaos and doom in relationship/marriage.
Exactly! Nigerian men want to eat their cake and have it most of the time. They want to be polyamorous but want their spouses to be monogamous . Make it make sense.
DeleteThat your last part happens in Nigeria too especially the elites. They do sex parties and exchange partners, but discreetly.
ReplyDelete😂 my wife often book hook up girls for me on my birthdays so it is normal at point I stopped taking the offers
ReplyDeleteI know of a couple elderly people, the wife arranged for a woman that will be warming her hubby's bed. She was asthmatic and couldn't march up with the man's libido.
ReplyDeleteCouple that smoke weed together do all sorts together.
Exchange of partners isn't a new thing at all especially in the western world.
ReplyDeleteSame thing Diddy and Cassie were doing.
Exchanging partners 🙆 Na wah ooh
ReplyDeleteThis cover photo no be small thing. See as Dante my boss man dey stare at those ladies bumbum😂😂😂
ReplyDeleteSo Nigerians do this too? Wow!!! Reading comments now I'm just shocked. It can't be me eeeh. Another man enjoy my wife? God forbid..
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Hope he will gladly allow her to strife other guys she likes too
ReplyDeleteCongratulations Teejay's.
ReplyDeleteYour narrative reveals the quiet evolution of intimacy norms, as a window into shifting relational identities. What’s playing out these days is the clash between traditional monogamous expectations and modern, experimental dynamics fuelled by exposure, substance use, and emotional fluidity. Especially among younger and more exposed Nigerians.
What may shock many wouldn't be the weed or the open relationship - it’s that these dynamics exist behind polished appearances who should know better.
Substance use, like weed, can intensify emotional bonding and lower inhibitions, creating a shared world where boundaries blur. For some, love becomes permissive, not possessive. But the deeper tension lies in our hypocrisy: men praise “open-minded” women who indulge their fantasies, yet recoil at the thought of reciprocity. That imbalance isn’t just unfair - it’s unsustainable.
True freedom in relationships demands emotional maturity, not just sexual liberty. And while exposure to global practices may fascinate, not every imported lifestyle fits our emotional reality. Curiosity is human, but so is caution. Before we laugh or judge, we must ask: Are we ready for the consequences of the fantasies we admire? Or losing ourselves in the process?
On today episode of ten is happening
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