DOGS Corner

Today's post is about cheating husbands and the wives who enable them....

There may be a thing to be said about men who cheat. There’s more to be said about wives who enable their husbands in their cheating. You see, cheating is not a deal breaker for some women. That’s fine. Some however, actively enable the cheating ways of their spouses for reasons that aren’t all too clear.

I have short story on this.....

 I used to have someone(let's call him Tony) in my circle that I looked up to. I considered him a role model at some point but that was until I discovered the kind of person he really was. This was someone who could sleep with anything and anyone so long as he could get away with it. And boy, he does get away with it!

He and his wife had a thriving eatery they ran with most of the funding coming from the wife. From nothing, they raised the building to two storeys but were yet to roof.

 The exposed 3rd floor was were Tony would use for his shenanigans.
Tony's family made a habit of having dinner in the eatery before the wife and kids head home. One day, with his mother-in-law, wife and kids a couple of floors below him, Tony invited a lady to meet him at the top of the building for some freaky time. How the wife got to know her husband was with another woman upstairs still eludes me.

She went apeshit. She practically mauled the girl. He didn't escape unscathed either. She really put am for their body. Tony came out bleeding and too ashamed to say what happened. The girl he was gbenshing? She fled the building and had a nice speedy conversation with her legs.

 I think soles of both feet greeted the back of her head that day. Lewis Hamilton would have been delighted at her speed. Apparently, that wasn't the first cheating incident Tony was involved in. So his wife really didn't make too much of a fuss beyond her initial reaction. Or so I thought. 

Later that night, while he slept, she used his thumb print, opened his phone and accessed his chats with the lady. The next morning, she traced the girl to her house and gave her an ultimatum. “Leave town or boys will rape you mercilessly.”

The lady wasn't prepared to find out. She quickly gathered her things a couple of days later, sold off what she couldn't carry and made for Kaduna where she's based. Tony had plans however and he did what shocked everyone. He abandoned the home. 

We later got to know this was a regular thing. In a bid to punish his wife for reprimanding him for cheating, he would abandon the home. Only this time, he was away far longer than normal. No one actually knew where he was.. His wife cried as if she was in mourning. It didn't help that her own mother was telling her that she overreacted to Tony's cheating. She reminded her daughter that her husband did far worse.

Tony sauntered back home a week later, uncaring and unremorseful. His wife broken as she was, received him with joy. He boasted later that he did what he did to punish her. How right she later proved him to be. She gave him a cheque of some millions days later for roofing the eatery. To me, all what he did was break that woman. 

I do see her on occasion. She has this persistent long drawn and sorrowful look on her face. She talks to herself when driving, mentally she’s losing it. She lectures wives with marital issues to fight for their marriage. On the face of it, that's fine but that’s a laugh. She is only masking how deeply broken she is enabling the cheating ways of her husband.

I conclude by saying this. There is no marriage to be fought for when one partner keeps violating marital vows. To fight in effort to keep such a marriage is only encouraging the cheater. Once, may be excused but persistently? Value is what you give and attach to yourself first before expecting it from someone else. No one can disrespect you AGAIN without your permission. Absolutely nothing excuses cheating.

 The cheater hurts his/her partner in ways they'll never recover from.

Next week, we will talk about one sure sign of a cheating husband. It is not really what you think. Till then.

BV DOG