Drama King Teejay's CORNER

It's very annoying when you see grown up persons say things provoking and irritating at the same time. Sometimes you really wanna give them a knock on the head to register your displeasure and how unpleasant their statements are to the hearing.



Few weeks ago, I was seated in an environment where I was charging my phone waiting for someone I had gone to see. Some group of young men where all seated and discussing when a young man among them changed the discussion to women. 

In a bid to prove his masculinity, he went on to say how he's treating the lady currently dating him. He said so many things ranging from how he gives her little money to prepare a meal and how he intentionally refused buying her an android phone but torchlight phone even when he has the money for it. This lady lives with him and goes to work every morning most times trekking some distance. He justified not giving her transport to work or spending much on her with the reason that, he's trying to see her reaction(s) if she's a wife material or not.

That statement irked me to the point I didn't know when I involved myself in the discussion. I interrupted and questioned him. I asked him, is relationship meant to be a punishment, slavery or a thing of joy? He didn't answer but went on to spew further trash. I asked again, if you can do better in a relationship and you intentionally chose to treat a partner this way, to you isn't that wickedness?

He argued saying it's not wickedness but to know if she's a woman to be married. Then I asked the one that hit home. Would you be happy if your sister is treated same way like you're treating your woman? I saw the displeasure in his face and the confirmation in his words that I shouldn't ask him that kind of question.

I left him with these words and if ever he has a conscience, he will think over it by the time he got home that day. I told him, ''You're not a good person. Intentionally gaslighting your woman to see her reactions as to throw her away after months or even years of knacking her, is damn manipulation. A woman you kept at home enjoying 'wife duties' yet you treat her this way just to see if she's marriageable, Oga you're wicked.'' When I said that, two other guys agreed and supported me. I left them and stood away from them pretending I was busy on my phone.

While standing pressing my phone, I thought he would be quiet and sober, reflecting on what I told him, he went on to prove his kind of person saying, the only woman he had ever spent on very well, her kpekus suffered for it. It was at that point I understand his mentality and he's the kind of person that sees women as piece of shit.

Undoubtedly, there are good women out there with values that colours our world. Taking advantage of a woman's meekness and loyalty to you shouldn't be a thing of pride. One day, someone better will show up and she'll eventually draw a comparison.