Hmmmmm......
SIMP OR EMASCULATED?
what is the definition of an emasculated man? I work and so does my wife, I am the better cook, I like my meals prepared a certain way, so I do most of the cooking.
She is good at keeping the house clean, the laundry, (washing machine, tumble dryer), I also do the cleaning of the house sometimes, I love to hoover.
She does must of the paper work for the house bills, etc...in fact she is in charge of our finances ( I am way too generous,,for my good), she is the book smart one and I am the street smart one.
She earns slightly more than I do, but never rubs it in my face...in fact she pushes me to achieve more and I too, support her dreams like it is mine....
I love playing with our kids, I am what they call a hands on Dad, she does the home work with them...BUT recently, I have been asking myself if I am indeed emasculated, cause my father taught me to respect women, in fact I learnt how to cook at home, so my question is am I a simp or emasculated???
I Really need answers guys.....
A simp? This is a disparaging term to refer to yourself with ...please you aint a simp, you are a man with a head on his neck...better head.
Emasculated refers to loss of Masculine traits and i dont think you lost yours...Some homes work better this way. please stop reading all the nonsense posted on the social media and enjoy your family life and do what works for you.
Emasculated refers to loss of Masculine traits and i dont think you lost yours...Some homes work better this way. please stop reading all the nonsense posted on the social media and enjoy your family life and do what works for you.
I had to extract this from Monday in house news..please those of you that commented there, i didnt delete it, you can repost ur comment here to avoid typing....
This one the fine wentin no lost for e marriage 😏. Continue ohh, untill you get answer wey go scatter your peaceful home🚶🚶.
ReplyDeleteWE MOVE!!
This is me and my husband. The only difference is that my husband can't even boil water, not to talk of cooking.
DeleteI respect my husband and can't imagine any other type of man.
I bet your wife adore you. Please don't change anything 🙏
Honestly I never understood why people generally want to fix what ain't broke. Una like problems? Oga instead of you to be happy that you are exempt from the majority of breaking and broken homes, you are worried about what? Soshu mediums (witches and wizards) validation? You sound intelligent, so I am disappointed. You think masculinity is about abusing another human being? If you are a Christian, let me refer you to Christ. If you wanna be the head and a good leader, serve. As far as I'm concerned, you have no problem. Abeg don't go and create one. Your type is rare. Your wife and kids are happy, you are happy or aren't you?
DeleteThis one is waiting for geh geh alumni or Alfa malu to come and twist his neck like rubber band.
DeleteDear Poster, you are a good man with a good head and heart. And madam knows. And is also doing her best from what you wrote.
ReplyDeletePls don't listen to your friends if they have suggested that You are a simp or emasculated.
You are you and your wife is different from all the women in the world. If your home is working the way it is, pls face front and keep it moving. Don't change.
Best wishes.
YOU ARE NOT A SIMP. A man who provides, and is helpful at home, ain't no simp. He is a MAN.
ReplyDeletePoster, you’re the definition of HUSBAND MATERIAL 1 trillion yards plus more.
DeleteGod bless you for being a MAN and loving your home and family.
Stop reading from all those children of perdition who are unhappy and wants others to join them.
God bless you jare
You are doing well. Your home is blessed. Do not think negatively or entertain negativity.
ReplyDeleteYou are not being emasculated. Far from it. This is what every man should aspire to be. So long as the home is happy and at peace, there are no hard-coded gender specific roles.
ReplyDeleteA man who knows where he stands knows that it takes nothing from him when he performs chores at home. He is the head of the home, it is HIS home and everything that happens in that home is his responsibility.of course it is a massive addition and blessing if he has a supportive wife who makes marriage easy for him just as he does for her.
You are not emasculated when you are supportive to your spouse. You are emasculated when you allow strife and contention have a place in your home.
Marry is sweet when we you married someone who makes marriage easy for you. This is the biggest difference maker between marriages.
Stella, you couldn't have advised him any better💯💯
ReplyDeleteDear poster, you see this line as stated by Stella, " please stop reading all the nonsense posted on the social media and enjoy your family life and do what works for you." Allow it stick and live by it.
You're doing absolutely well Sir. Enjoy your home and stay blessed.
Must you echo what stella said . Goshhh put a lid on it purrleeease
DeleteDear Anon16:55, you'll be fine. Stay anonymous while recovering from whatever is bothering you.
DeleteThere’s nothing wrong with you, some men are just brought up that way. Personally, I love cooking; it’s been a part of me since childhood. I usually do most of the cooking on weekends, and I also handle the dishes. It’s something that just comes naturally to me.
ReplyDeleteReally? Marry me! I think I have a weakness for chefs or chef like men...😘
Deletemy wife always rub it on my face that she earns higher. She had nothing when she came to my life. Even though i don't envy her. But how will I explain that we run the business together but still rub it to my face.
ReplyDeleteposter, you don't have a problem. please avoid this complex as long as the family is at peace. Don't reason what people say
Please 15:28, you need to sit your madam down and tell her how what she is doing is wrong and is affecting you. Tell her things will change for the worse if she continue.
DeleteIn this life, sometimes fila no get head or head nor go get fila. Na real wa ooo...............
Hello Sir,your wife is your support system,and not in any way your competition,that is if you both married truly for love and companionship..
ReplyDeleteAnd this means,you both should compliment each other where the other is lacking.
As a matter of fact,it was the INTERNET that made me realize that most men see doing house chores,changing diapers,taking kids to school etc as a big deal;and that it makes them a simp or whatever,which is laughable.
The only thing is,try provide for your family as a man,for the sake of respect for yourself as a husband and father,but don't stop being there for your wife and kids because of the tag "Simp",and also if you don't have the time to do what you can do;you can pay someone to do a few,then help out where you can.
There is no award for the most Macho-man in marriage,neither is there an award for A simp,but you see a peaceful home and marriage? It's Bliss and Money or Pride can't buy it!!
@MARTINS
If I had read your comment I wouldn't have bothered commenting. This is it!
DeleteYou marriage is fine. You are doing well.
ReplyDeleteHey Shuga, I just want to huggggg you just so you know you are doing just fine and your wife is super blessed and so are you durhling.Stay Above the waters!
ReplyDeletePlease don't change, you are a good father and a good husband. Don't let social media damage you, do what works for you.
ReplyDeleteWhy are u feeling emasculated? You said she’s never rubbed it in ur face that she earns higher, probably doesn’t disrespect you even. Seems you are letting social media get into your head.
ReplyDeleteYou are being a good and kind husband and father and people that are like you have the best marriages.
I hope you don’t let social media get into ur head and ruin ur home!
You are 100% not a simp!
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ReplyDeletePoster, you are what a man should be. Your concern and question stems from the things been paraded on social media, there's nothing wrong with you.
ReplyDeleteIt will surprise you that some of those at the root of gender war are living peacefully with their partners, they put those post up just to garner followers and make money out of peoples gullibility.
Keep being you and enjoy the blessing God has surrounded you with.
Felicty
You are none of either. You are an involved husband and father. I read teamwork and everyone taking up the task that they are best at for the prosperity of the household. Who has been sowing seeds of discontent in your head? Who is trying to put asunder in your household? You are a renaissance man and that is absolutely fabulous🎉
ReplyDeleteYou are a good man
ReplyDeleteYou are a perfect gentle, God bless your father for raising a good man and thank God for complimenting you with a woman that appreciate you. You are doing well oga.
ReplyDeleteYou're an awesome husband and father. God bless you sir.👍🙏🏿
ReplyDeleteYou are a good husband and father. Don't let what social media thinks about you helping in the house get to you. Keep making your home a happy one.
ReplyDeleteDon't worry you are doing fine and well .We are not all the same but created differently and God will increase your Hussle and bless your family
ReplyDeleteIf we’re being honest, it’s not like you do everything na
ReplyDeleteIf she’s cleaning and you’re cooking, it’s not a bad trade off
You are the real definition of a good husband and father, as long as you don't cheat or beat your wife.
ReplyDeleteDon't allow social media advisers ruin your happy marriage, those that call men simps for doing the right things are damaged men.
You are a good man! God bless you more Sir!
ReplyDeleteNa this type dey go omugo. Your children dey see your efforts. Ignore naysayers and hold God tight. The devil is out looking for marriages to destroy
ReplyDeleteAs far back as 1980s, when Africans frown upon men helping in house chores, my Father who was very wealthy, was doing all that you listed and even more for me and my siblings and still retained desirable masculine traits (strength, relative toughness to help protect his family, confidence, assertiveness and leadership).
ReplyDeleteIs the way you carry yourself that matters the most. What anyone says or thinks is irrelevant.
Even me that earns zero ,I only manage hubby's money stiff dey rub am fit him face that I'm smarter than him, abeg hold your wife tight, she's a jewel that must be cherished
ReplyDeletePoster,do you actually have a point?
ReplyDeleteWhat are you gibbering about?
Enjoy your marriage and do not lok for what is not missing
ReplyDeleteCan u imagine with no problem. Perfect family and all. Yet looking for problem. Oboy go and sit down
ReplyDeleteOga poster you are whatever you call yourself.
ReplyDeleteThe problem is that you dont have any problem sir.
ReplyDeleteHow can you swalllow all you read or hear from SM street and import into your peaceful and loving home.
Hmmmmm...
Be kiaful ooo
There is nothing wrong with you.
ReplyDeleteNothing is wrong. And you're saying your wife doesn't rub it in your face. We need more men like you abeg
ReplyDeleteThanks all, it was heart warming to read all your comments and the rebuke, I will hold on tight to what I have. @Stella thank you so much for making this a standalone post!
ReplyDeletePlease don;t go looking for wahala where there is none o. My uncle in his 80s is just like you. He invested so much in his family while his macho mates were womanising and what not. Let's just say his friends now envy him so much as my cousins and his grand kids don't joke with him. 30 years from now, your children will rise and call you blessed. The best inheritance you can give your family is a stable and emotionally available parent. Ignore social media please
ReplyDeleteJust posted to famz himself 🙄
ReplyDeleteYou're a good man and also doing well. Please continue. Your family's peace comfort and unity should be your main priority.
ReplyDeleteThrow side talks away.
Many men marry for their ego, sexual desires and validation of other men. Many of such men have lost opportunities to build generational wealth and a great legacy for these stupid reasons. Oga, hold on tight to your wife and children please and be very proud of yourself.
ReplyDeleteYour marriage is blessed, don't listen to people
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