SHOCKER
Help before I do the unimaginable and face the consequences.
I came back from work and saw my wife struggling to hide something. I pretended as if I did not see her thinking it's money. When she left for her shop, I opened the place and behold it is an antiretroviral drug.
My life is fading away in my very own eyes. My mind is blank of what to do. We have been married for 6 years with three children.
Go and do a test to verify your status first and thereafter you can confront her based on what your result says..if you are positive, liaise with her so that you cans tart your treatment immediately, if you are negative, sit her down but please whatever you do, DO NOT REVEAL her status to a third party.
You should even be happy she is taking treatment...What if it is you that infected her?Why is she even hiding it and taking treatment? wicked spouse, tufiakwa!!!
Strlla, I don't think he's the one that infected her, because why was she hiding it? Do your test, and then sit her down and ask her why she couldn't confide in you.
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DeleteNot only men hide. May Jesus fix it
Invite her parents over immediately then quickly go do the test, please run it in at least 2 different labs. While waiting for the results, recollect if you both did tests before getting married.
DeleteIf she is indeed a carrier then she is very WICKED and Manipulative for not informing you. Please get the kids tested too
she hiding because she isn't faithful
ReplyDeleteBefore you guys got married, did you do the necessary tests?
ReplyDeleteIf you did and it was negative then she must have gotten it through the "back door" cos if she got it from other means, i don't t see why she would hide it from you.
But why do some people hide things like this from their spouses?
Call her parents and tell them what you just found out. Let them come over so she can tell you people why she hid that fact and how she got it.
After all said and done, get separated.
Have you guys been intimate in recent times? If you have, then she is wicked.
I'm so sorry about this evil discovery, it's painful!
It doesn’t make sense to get tested right away. You have to stop intercourse for about 3 months from the last time you copulated and get tested after the window period for infection has passed.
ReplyDeleteYou both desperately need to have a conversation. There could be something about your personality why she chose to keep it a secret. Maybe she feared losing you and the children, or feared you would tell your friends and relatives. Her secrecy stems from fear.
No ma’am
DeleteThat’s if you just had it with them
They’ve been together at least 6 years
He could have caught it in year one
Go and run tests to confirm before u confront her. I heard some women use anti retroviral drugs even though that are not HIV+ because the drug mks their skin glow and succulent. U know women can go to any extent for beauty. Pls confirm first.
ReplyDeleteOmg. This is pure wickedness. Please go ahead and do the tests for you and the kids. 😔😔😔
ReplyDeleteJust make sure it’s hers before you get too upset
ReplyDeleteJust record your evidence.
ReplyDeleteGo for test .
When you confront her and she denies, go with her to do her own test.
She should have informed you so both of you commence treatment.
perhaps,she has been positive before your marriage.
If her husband infected her, she would have confronted him.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, pls get yourself and kids tested for HIV. If her viral load is down, probably of infecting you will be low. I pray you and your kids are all negative.
Just to ask, didn't you both run HIV, Heptitis and genotype tests before marriage. Though it might show negative if she has been taking her drugs and her viral load is very low.
What she did is very deceptive, but understand that the stigmatization makes it difficult for HIV+ patients to disclose even for spouse.
Trust me there are so many discordant couples, and most of the negative patients don't know.
May God help you in making the best decision for yourself and children and I pray you all are negative
Nawao
ReplyDeletehave you done test to confirm your status before you think of saying anything? Confirm your status first, after that you can confront her with your findings.
ReplyDeleteIt's obvious that you did not infect her if not why will she be secretly treating it. Her being infected doesn't necessarily mean she contracted it through intimacy, first check your status and be sure you are not infected, opening up about this shows that you know yourself (maybe faithful or protective) after confirming your status you call her and talk things out, you will never know until you know
ReplyDeleteDo not confront her with recorded evidence.
ReplyDeleteGet tested. Get your children and retested before you confront her.
Avoid intimacy for now.
I hope you are negative.
Sadly you may never look at her same way again.
Praying for wisdom for you to navigate the situation
I have had PREP twice before. Post exposure prophylaxis
ReplyDeleteOmo. Things I see and read on this social media. How can someone have something like that and keep it away from me their spouse? Na wa
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