GENETICALLY STINGY SPOUSE
My husband is a very stingy man who will rather give outsiders money that his own family. This man is so stingy to me and the kids, that sometimes I wonder what we did to him.
He only gives me feeding money and nothing else, and even that is no longer enough. I told him to add something to the feeding money that things are expensive now but he refused.
Sometimes, the feeding money will finish before the end of the month. When I tell him, he will just ignore me. For the sake of the children, I will start begging people in our church for money to feed.
It's so embarrassing, because they'll be looking at me like, my husband gives people money in the church, and he dresses very well, why am I begging them for money.
He only buys clothes for himself. Nothing for me and our children. I have reported him severally to our pastors, when they speak to him, he will promise to change, but nothing changes.
Everytime I get a Job, he will Sabotage it. I will be sacked without any issues.
I told him to give me money to start selling stock fish on a small scale, he refused, it's as if he doesn't want me to have my own money.
2 weeks ago, I was cleaning the wardrobe when I saw 200k in a brown envelope folded between his clothes. I quickly went and paid the money into my account.
I have decided to keep the money. I will use 100k to start my stockfish business and I will use 50k to buy new clothes and shoes for our children and I'll save 50k.
He hasn't said anything to me and I won't say anything either.
No matter what happens I will never give him back this money.
Am I wrong for keeping the money?
Please be on the look out for more and if you see, send it to your account again!!!
Nonsense!!!
what kind of man is that? So you are supposed to fend for the kids alone? Imagine letting you beg for money to feed while he buys new clothes and lives the baby boy life!...Please keep searching for more...He will not ask you cos he wont want you to know he brought such amount home.....And even f he asks you, you didnt see any money!!!
Do not start any business yet as it would be so obvious it was you.....just leave the money in your account for now....
Some men no dey try, I'm very sure you will still be doing wifely duty for him despite all you're going through from him, it is well.
ReplyDeleteThis is clearly frustration, God will see you through.
I can never have anything to do with a stingy person.
ReplyDeleteYour husband is very wicked.
What power does he have to ruin your job opportunities?
Why are you still with him?
Start taking his money anywhere you see it,no matter much it is,take it and save it into your account..
ReplyDeleteNonsense and ingredients..
A man that can't take of his family is worst than an infide
ReplyDeleteA man that can't take of his family is worst than an infide
ReplyDeletePoster hope he won’t ask for your account balance. Don’t buy even the kids clothes for now, wait for sometime
ReplyDeleteLike Stella said, keep looking out for more! After all, his money is ur money by hook or by crook!
ReplyDeleteDoing good outside but evil in his own home! When the kids grow and do things for their mum now, he will join social media hooligans to be blabbing
Na here dem go find you
Deleteyou did not do anything wrong, how can a man be so wicked to the woman he married plus his own children. is he expecting you to sleep around to feed his children or go kill people just to make money. He will not allow you to work, he cannot support you with some money to start up business and he expect you to take care of the family.
ReplyDeleteKeep that money first, do not buy cloth for your children in a hurry so that he will not understand you saw that money. Please never discuss this with anyone before the wind will blow it across to his ears. Just keep mute and pretend you don't have one naira like you have been doing. You can come up with talk how you want to collect loan from these loan apps and pay later when you make sales just to confuse him. Make sure you keep checking other places to see if he has more money and continue to take them till he has sense to give you money.
See as I burst laugh for Stella comment. lol. Madam search for more o. If I am you madam eh, that man wont be eating food with meat o. Na water water soup I go dey give am because that is what the money can afford. I gat to manage the money for the whole month na abi how una see am?
ReplyDeleteAre you sure he did not take an oat somewhere that his family will not enjoy his money...Just take Stella's advice biko
ReplyDeleteMy sisters husband was so stingy
ReplyDeleteKai stingy was learning
He used to give her 500 Naira everyday that was good clothes,airtime personal care,fuel for their gen
It was bad
When she had her baby
He went himself to market to buy eh isi and all cooking things because my mother was going to see him as per omugwo
When she had another baby he increased it to 1000
If she gets a job he sabotages it till she is dropped
She gets another one he will start morning prayer and pray till she’s late to work
Kai it was bad
My mom got to Lagos went to market shopped till their kitchen was over full…she shopped till they were looking for space to keep things
When my mom left,she told my sister to collect any money she sees that belongs to him
My sister learnt to search his pocket every night
She did it for almost a year
One da she became born again and stopped,
He calls her one morning and asked her why she didn’t take his mone
That he enjoyed it
Shaa now this h are better for them
He has changed
She is in charge of his Finances now
She is charges of their joint account
She is managing his business
He is a big boy now
Sometimes these things come from wrong advice
That time his mom was influencing him terribly
He is wiser now and a great provider
I wish you well poster
God be with you
Wow so a stingy man can change? Thank you for sharing but what really made the man change? Why did he stop listening to his mother?
DeleteMe thinking Stella would term it as stealing.
ReplyDeleteLol
Stella, thanks for this advice.
ReplyDeletePoster, take every bit of what Stella said there.
Don't start up a business or buy any clothes.
Some husbands just love to cripple the women they call wives.
This is why I keep telling women do not get pregnant for the first two years of the marriage so you can see what the marriage is made of first. Once kids enter the picture everything becomes complicated. The only exception is those who marry late and have a small window to make a child.
ReplyDeleteI don’t know what you got married to but you should bring up the matter with your pastor and go for counseling as a couple. A married woman should not be asking anyone for anything. If he doesn’t change his ways you may have to consider leaving the marriage cause it will make you miserable and you will not have any peace. Stingy ppl tend to get stingier as they get older. Please open up to someone, do not keep this a secret!
This is not a ground for divorce pls
DeletePerhaps it is not a ground for you and you are setup for the endurance race no matter what it entails, that is perfectly fine. If the poster has told the absolute truth in her chronicle and not embellished anything then she should have already separated and been on her way. Even my comment gives opportunity for healing, which is grace for the husband even though he does not deserve it. Sabotaging her job opportunities while contributing the bare minimum for survival is evil. Grown married woman resorted to begging in her church. Puhleeze!
DeleteHonestly the worst thing that can happen to a woman is to marry a stingy and selfish man.
ReplyDelete"Everytime I get a Job, he will Sabotage it. I will be sacked without any issues"
ReplyDeleteI don't understand this part. How on earth can your husband sabotage all your former jobs?
All your past Employers will just wake up and sack you for no reason because your husband told them to?
If the man tells us his own side of the story, we will pity him.
ReplyDeleteDear Poster, what happened to your hands? You said he sabotages all your jobs? How is that possible?
Modern marriage is not one where the man will do everything while the woman crosses her legs at home. Forget social media hyping. That era has passed. Now, everybody will contribute to the home. Find something to do and stop expecting your husband to answer to your every financial demand.
Everybody contributing means the man sharing with the household duties and looking after the children or paying for good childcare.
DeleteSabotaging a partner is a real thing and so many people are in the dark about it. it's not gender specific but spouses do it and most of the time it's insidious. The most important decision any person will make is who they choose as their life partner.
Poster get your own income because this WILL get worse.
😂😂😂💕💕@ Stella’s comment.
ReplyDeleteSomething is wrong somewhere ni oooo. Money is available but to spend for his immediate family's comfort,issues. 😌😌😌. God please fix them.🙏🏿
ReplyDeleteYou're a thief and only looking for justification for your stealing.
ReplyDeleteOne day you'll be caught and bvnrt
Evil
Delete..."it's as if he doesn't want me to have my own money"...
ReplyDeleteCorrection: He DOES NOT want you to have your own money. Strong financial footing= liberation. I'm sorry to break it to you, but you married your enemy. Yes! A spouse can be an enemy and your husband is yours. He's also very unkind and I don't know what's worse- his stinginess or unkindness....
Whatever you do, have no more kids. Focus of empowering yourself and looking after your children. Be so lost in improving yourself that you become immune to his shenanigans. You owe it to yourself and your children.
Good luck!
You the wife, you no dey work?when women bring some chronicles here sometimes, we should ask the right question. Don’t you work cos I see no where in your chronicle that you said you help out when the money is almost out, you said you beg people in your church.. Wetin be your work?
ReplyDeleteDid you not read that she has gotten work in the past? Read the chronicle again.
Delete😃😂 I like the advice from the Admin. I like it a lot... Look for more money...
ReplyDeleteAlso, do not let him see ur acct balance as you didn't see any money. I hate n.nsense
ReplyDeleteSee them supporting broad daylight theft!
ReplyDeleteSo nobody has even wondered if the money even belongs to your husband.
Madam, continue stealing till he catches you. When the marriage scatters, they will warmly welcome you to the league of divorcees.
Just as Stella said, don’t start the business yet.
ReplyDeleteBe calm and observe him for a while…but while observing him, search for more.
Wicked man!
Hello Poster,
ReplyDeleteWhile I understand your pain, but honestly, this is where I struggle with some of us, women. Too many people jump into marriage without truly studying the person they’re tying themselves to. You can’t ignore compatibility - emotionally, financially, outlook, even mentally - and expect peace later.
It’s not enough that someone dresses well or gives to church; you need to know how they reason and think about money, responsibility, and partnership. A stingy individual doesn’t wake up stingy one day; the signs are always there - how they treat companionship, how they handle family requests, how they react to needs.
So while I sympathise with your situation, I also believe you ignored the red flags. Marriage isn’t a rescue mission; it’s a lifetime partnership. When you choose without wisdom, love alone can’t save you from the consequences. If you are a kind individual, please prioritise being in a healthy relationship with someone of like mind.
Compatibility eases the strain that comes with knowing each other.
Stand your ground and start something with that money
ReplyDeleteHmmm, in as much as I sympathise with you, the idea of stealing from the man is not wise because when you reap the repercussions both physical and spiritual the people encouraging you won't be there, if the marriage is not what you signed up for then walk away. That story of his sabotaging your work does not hold water and finally we have heard your version of the events but haven't heard your hubby. But whatever you decide don't become a thief oh because you are sowing seeds and it will germinate someday and when it does hope you will love it's fruit.
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