"I am separate and most people don't know I am separated. That has actually defined or shaped my life. It was circumstances beyond my control. But you know sometimes when you get into a marriage you don't get in a marriage to leave it.
Infact, it's a death in a way. When your marriage is over it's a death. I have experienced a couple of death. The death of my marriage, step mom, Dad's twin sister, dad and that happened in the course of 24 months between 2021-2023.
My ex husband is a great man but sometimes I just feel like.....if God doesn't ordain you to be together and you force fit yourselves the likelihood of you guys staying together is very very low.
If you guys are going on two very different paths in life, it's not like the person is bad they are good people but they are just not good for you. I was a good person I probably wasn't good for him and vice versa. To see all that coming together in the way it did, it really really shaped my heart. My heart was very broken by that. That happened in 2021, I was very broken by that and then everybody else I mentioned died because of sickness. When somebody dies of sickness, you see them deteriorate.
My mother passed suddenly. But when people are ill you watch them go from one stage to the other. We were praying. Sometimes you pray God answers but not the answer you were looking for and in those moments you will say okay if God doesn't give me this thing I am asking for will I still serve him?
My life has not been an easy one, it's not gone the way I planned it because I had dreams, vision I could see where my life was going to go but I tell you today what is happening now I didn't see it. The dreams and visions I had were all the way over there and I am over her. I tell God everyday I am in your hands oooo.
When you are not in a marriage anymore, you don't want to put yourself in center stage. You don't want to come out and say 'i am a senior pastor' you want to go and hide somewhere, under a rock. Saying let me figure out my life let me just be doing this small thing. When the call came I was like heyyyy God you know all the wahala, baggage I am trying to navigate I can't figure it out. But if you call me to serve maybe you have put something I will trust you enough to say yes. I am not saying yes because I have it all together."
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My life has not been an easy one, it's not gone the way I planned it because I had dreams, vision I could see where my life was going to go but I tell you today what is happening now I didn't see it. The dreams and visions I had were all the way over there and I am over her. I tell God everyday I am in your hands oooo.
When you are not in a marriage anymore, you don't want to put yourself in center stage. You don't want to come out and say 'i am a senior pastor' you want to go and hide somewhere, under a rock. Saying let me figure out my life let me just be doing this small thing. When the call came I was like heyyyy God you know all the wahala, baggage I am trying to navigate I can't figure it out. But if you call me to serve maybe you have put something I will trust you enough to say yes. I am not saying yes because I have it all together."
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Marriage I will keep saying isn't all there is to life. If it's no longer walking out, pls do take a walk. Some differences are irreconcilable.
ReplyDeleteIf I'm right her brother is that Nollywood actor that's also a pastor .
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Few people really understand the tragedy and the emotional wreck divorce brings. Most divorcees out up a bold face but deep inside, they are hurting.
ReplyDeleteDivorce is your soul ripping in half. The scars from it last a lifetime. Even when the divorce is for your own good, it still touches you in ways you never thought possible. No one truly heals from a divorce. Unless you never truly loved your spouse.
That said, I'm happy she found the strength to pull away.
Hmmm,🤔that's why a broken relationship is much better than a broken marriage🙄
DeleteFinally have the courage to speak out. May God see you through.
ReplyDeleteBut, can she still remarry? Aspa pastor 🤔
It is well. I think her brother too.
ReplyDeleteYeaaa
DeleteGod be with you both and heal your hearts. Her family has been through way more than most.
ReplyDeleteMay the almighty see you through 🙏
ReplyDeleteOh well
ReplyDeleteMy wife and I had moments of disagreements and silent treatments, but God was gracious to us by unmasking the devil behind the scenes
I will never forget that day when both of us prayed together for twenty minutes and the TRUTH was revealed -- Believers in Christ can be possessed and influenced by demons
It then began to make sense why two people who once were lovers could suddenly become strangers
Both of us invested many years of friendship and sacrifices to become a couple after 8 years of delay - we would have thrown away a beautiful home and a glorious family life for reasons we cannot even remember anymore
I would have become a playboy with multiple sex partners and probably gone back to atheism and wife would have become a home breaker hopping from bed to bed, causing problems for married women, and advising women to sleep with men for money and fun
I shake my head for Christians who are oblivious to the fact that faith in Christ does not immune them to demonic influence - I was an ignoramus
If you don't want roaches, rodents, mosquitoes and bed bugs in your house, you have to keep fumigating your house - you must be watchful and prayerful to keep demons away
Evil spirits do not fear grammar, they fear power generated through prayers made in the name of Yeshua Hamashiach
Shalom
Your second to the last paragraph hits deep.
DeleteThank you.
It is good to pray and all but except your spouse shows the same level of commitment and interest in keeping the marriage, you will pray in vain.
DeleteYou gave me hope to believe marriage can still work out with God involvement....these days
DeleteCongratulations
Delete@Doggedity
Women do not agree to marry a man with the mind to misbehave and leave the marriage: something usually cause erratic behaviours
Adam and Eve may not have sinned against God without external interference
Both parties in the union must be watchful and prayerful to keep relationship intact
@Emerald and King Jerry: you are blessed
DeleteOgun idile. This people need power of the Holyghost to fight thier foundation. The brother too is separated. This foundation fumigation its not by wearing the nicest clothes and having the finest church. Demons bow to the highest power (God's power, JehovAH sabaoth, baptism of fire and power of the Holyghost. I wish them all the best. Wondering why they are far away from winners and rccg. They are meant to have mentors in the ministry. They can't ride alone. It is well.
ReplyDeleteApart from wrong indoctrination, another reason many Christians are not aware that demons are dancing skelewu in their mind is because the demons don't cause them to pick papers in the street
DeleteMany believers have a long list of unresolved issues caused by
demons but unperturbed, because they are still rational enough to write and speak sensibly
Lol
DeleteA quick analysis of the information made available
ReplyDelete1) The guy is a good man - says the ex-wife
2) Tbe wife is a good woman - says the ex-wife
3) The guy was not abusive otherwise the ex-wife would have said so
4) The ex-husband was not a philanderer, otherwise the ez-wife would have hinted in the press release
So what was the deal breaker
that could not be resolved?
It is well with them.
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