In a YouTube video shared on Monday, he warned that confessing to infidelity, especially by men, is one of the “most catastrophic and damaging” things a person can do in a marriage.
“If you cheat on your wife or your husband, but especially your wife — especially men — if you cheat on your wife, don’t tell her. Don’t confess. Do not ever do it,” he said.
“It is one of the most catastrophic and damaging things you can ever do in your life.”
“People will even quote the Bible to support the idea of confession. They will say that if we confess and repent, then our sins are forgiven,”
“Excuse me, that is to God and from God, not to man. It is confession to God, not to man. Do not do it.”
“You are not being honest; you are being manipulative. What you’re really doing is shedding the weight of your guilt, not helping your spouse. You’re looking for someone else to carry the burden of your wrongdoing,” he explained.
Teju admitted that before marriage, he once cheated in a serious relationship and confessed to a decision he now regrets. He said his confession was not made out of sincerity, but rather because he subconsciously wanted to sabotage the relationship.
“I can see clearly now that I confessed because I wanted out of the relationship,” he said.
“If I cheated and then confessed, and she left by herself, I could justify it to myself. That was not honesty — that was cowardice.”
“There is no benefit to your spouse when you confess. All the benefits are yours. What you give them is pain, heartache, and misery,”
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“It is one of the most catastrophic and damaging things you can ever do in your life.”
“People will even quote the Bible to support the idea of confession. They will say that if we confess and repent, then our sins are forgiven,”
“Excuse me, that is to God and from God, not to man. It is confession to God, not to man. Do not do it.”
“You are not being honest; you are being manipulative. What you’re really doing is shedding the weight of your guilt, not helping your spouse. You’re looking for someone else to carry the burden of your wrongdoing,” he explained.
Teju admitted that before marriage, he once cheated in a serious relationship and confessed to a decision he now regrets. He said his confession was not made out of sincerity, but rather because he subconsciously wanted to sabotage the relationship.
“I can see clearly now that I confessed because I wanted out of the relationship,” he said.
“If I cheated and then confessed, and she left by herself, I could justify it to myself. That was not honesty — that was cowardice.”
“There is no benefit to your spouse when you confess. All the benefits are yours. What you give them is pain, heartache, and misery,”
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Nonsense
ReplyDeleteTon avoid whether to confess or not, DO NOT CHEAT AT ALL! End of discussion.
ReplyDeleteExactly. Thank you
DeleteExactly!!!! Why cheat
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DeleteDon’t cheat, that’s all
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