WHAT DO MEN REALLY WANT?
I don’t know what men want really? I was married to my husband for 3yrs ,we had issues and cheating was part of it....
We separated for 2 years but I came back because he was closer to God and I thought he has changed, only to get back and found out he impregnated a lady..
The lady aborted the pregnancy but they are still seeing each other...
This is someone we did hallelujah challenge act your miracle together, we are working on relocating abroad. I’m just totally broken..
I should have listened to the people that asked me to move on from him...
Wonders shall never end!!!
If the side chic took out the preggy and still seeing him then they are really emotionally involved and it will happen again.
Just bear it for now..sebi you guys are relocating? You can dump the shameless man once you relocate and find your feet.....
You've seen signs now when you people get to abroad, you'll see wonders.
ReplyDeleteIt's better you listen to the people that advised you move away from him.
At 10:17pm
DeleteSee that no -
We want to hear the other side before we comment;
Sarcasm laden comments;
Taunting of the Poster;
Telling her that a man well treated by his wife would not stray or want more outside.
Because of the prospect of her being taken abroad, She is even being encouraged to accept all you guys profess distaste for when done by people whose religion permit some.
Majority of you guys only see a man in or out of marriage as an Alabaru. That is why most men repay in kind. Then you turn around and shout expletives at all Naija men. By the way, the man's co-adulterer is she an Arab or a European, or a Naija woman?
Just observations and questions. No judgment.
Selah
#AbroadIsNotHeaven
So sorry beautiful. Life's a continuous lesson. Move on and don't look back,since no kids binding you guys. 🙏🏿🤗
ReplyDeleteHow did you no kids is binding them
DeleteSorry about your ordeal. Your husband has a void that if not addressed to the root, there could be a problem. Good thing is his struggle is easy to work on with any therapist/counsellor. Encourage him to see one. God does change people but seeking a professional help shouldn't be ignored.
ReplyDeletePlease when I say counsellor, I mean a professional counsellor that went to school for it please.
You separated from him for 2 years, so you were expecting him not to nack or involve himself with a lady for that 2 years?? You were you celibate and not involved with any man for the 2 years??..
ReplyDeleteFly away jor
Dante sometimes I don't think some of these women are mentally ok truly. The annoying part is she fantastically was expecting him to be. It's the delusion and the audacity for me. And I am a woman FYI.
DeleteThey are still seeing each other is the issue
DeleteIf he wanted to continue seeing the lady, he shouldn’t have reconciled with his wife
What happens when a couple are separated shouldn’t be an issue especially for a long period like 2yrs. However, if a couple agree to come back together and work on their marriage, it’s expected that both of them cut off from whoever they are involved with totally.
DeleteSince the husband knows he’s emotionally attached to another lady and can’t afford to cut off from her, he shouldn’t have agreed to the reunion.
But she said cheating was part of the separation? I think the issue here is agreeing to settle, but still emotionally involved with someone else. In my opinion, the guy should go with his girlfriend if he has fallen out of love with his wife, a clean break will do...at poster, sad as it may sound, let him go....
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DeleteA woman will "nurse" a man when his walk-way wife returns.
Then the woman should be tossed aside just like that.
How many women would accept to be so tossed?
Why don't the separated couple continue with what happened when they were separated?
21:51 if that’s the case everyone can continue dating the one they dated in the past
DeleteYou make your decisions and leave the past. Or you continue with the lady and leave your wife or you ask your wife if she wants to continue all together but don’t deceive anyone
Humans will always be humans. Even pastors cheat on wives. The only thing there is to make sure you have support system before leaving, so that you won't have any reason to look back.
ReplyDeleteDump his arse after you have settled in abroad...e go pqin am pass sef. Also, let him know you are aware of the other lady, if you have the lady's contact, call her, let her know you have evidence of her relationship with your husband and the abortion, that it is your marriage and you have legal and spiritual rights over it so anything wey she see make she collect!
ReplyDelete"Dump his arse after you have settled in abroad...e go pqin am pass sef."
DeleteA wife should stay with an adulterous husband to achieve relocation abroad?
What is the difference between an adulterous husband and a polygamist?
Because of abroad relocation, the sharing of body fluids become bearable?
Because of abroad relocation, wives' become immune from STIs and demonic infestations allegedly accompanying strange women?
O ye men! Come hear!!
Start abroad relocation plans and get easy licence to be adulterous until you travel.
When you have your fill, tell Mrs. Wife you relocate not again.
Man for laff if the matter is not serious.
#Yinmu
So sorry about this.
ReplyDeleteThis time around, move on and never look back again.
God will see you through.
God of Mercy bless every one now and forever as we are all in your hands
ReplyDeleteNa wa o… sometimes you give people second chance thinking they’ve changed, only to realize they were just pretending. It’s really painful when someone you pray and plan life with still does you dirty. You deserve better peace than this kind of heartbreak.
ReplyDeleteHow did u confirm she took out the pregnancy? My dear, he’s playing you well. He’s trying to conceive with you, I doubt he’d impregnate a woman outside and they’d take it out! They are playing you! Flee now before it’s too late!
ReplyDeleteYour own child may just be with another man. Flee!
Relocate by yourself. The man has moved on. People advised you not to return but you ignored them like you will ignore this advice.
ReplyDeleteI can feel how heavy this is for you. You opened your heart again because you believed in change, in redemption, in what you both once shared, spiritually and emotionally. To discover betrayal again, especially from someone who presented himself as being “closer to God,” can shake not only your trust in him but also your sense of stability and discernment.
ReplyDeleteIt’s okay to feel broken, confused, even angry. You’re not weak for believing in him, you were acting from love, hope, and faith. Those are noble qualities, not foolish ones. But now, you’re being confronted with hard evidence that his words and actions aren’t aligned.
You may need to pause and protect your peace. This isn’t just about whether he’s faithful, it’s about whether you can heal, rebuild, and trust again without losing yourself in the process. The fact that he’s still seeing the lady even after all that says a lot about his readiness (or lack thereof) for a true spiritual and emotional partnership.
Hello Poster,
ReplyDeleteI am deeply sorry for how events turned out in your marriage. We often get something wrong about people: no one changes. We all adjust, adapt, and evolve.
So, most people don’t really change in essence - they reveal. When people become comfortable with a process or in a situation, they get stripped bare. Especially, when the stakes are low and they feel safe, the version they’ve edited out starts to breathe from the back burner.
What we often call “change” in adults is usually adjustment - an evolution shaped by time, pressure, and consequence. But the core stays. You just start to see the layers that convenience once kept hidden.
So maybe it’s less about who someone becomes, and more about who they stop pretending not to be.
That's why we are encouraged to make the people around us feel safe at all times, and if we stay very observant, we'll see through their many masks and veils.
How will this work out since he's now involved with another woman? Choose your peace of mind, choose you. It's well.
ReplyDeleteI have resolved not to put mouth in marital issues again. No matter what you say, they end up getting back together and term you devil. Madam, please take heart. He will change 🧑🦯🧑🦯.
ReplyDeleteIf you need him to relocate then stay still till you do
ReplyDeleteRelocating can be life changing so don’t let anything blow it for you
Not even all that gra gra of God will bring another chance
Thank me later
What if she gets infected before the relocation papers come?
DeleteWhat if relocation papers do not come?
What if the man decides not to go again with relocation?
What if he outsmart her by filing for the other woman?
What if...
Jehovah please hold my fingers.
To the crux of the matter. The painful part of your reality isn’t even his betrayal, but the illusion of change. People hide behind all sorts, and spirituality is just one of such, acting holy until life tests their desires again.
ReplyDeleteYour husband didn’t draw closer to God; he drew closer to the convenience you got married to, and which was what your desire did not see. You went back because hope blinded you, not because love healed you.
If we don’t heal beyond our grief, our pain will live in the bubble of hope - that's where you entrapped your logical reason. And that’s where many people fall, women especially - mistaking repentance for transformation.
A man who hasn’t faced the roots of his weakness will only repackage his sin with a prayer emoji - that's exactly what your husband did. And when things felt safe again, the mask slipped. But you can’t fast away from patterns; you confront them, painfully and honestly.
So it's good that you are broken, but this time, let the pain wake you - you're slumbering too deeply. I'd say don’t wait to relocate before dumping him - be intentional in relocating emotionally first. Some miracles aren’t meant to be "acted"; they’re meant to be walked away from.
May God heal your brokenness. Amen.
You are so right
DeleteLeave now, don't wait it out. Its not going to worth it at all.
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