FRIDAY IN HOUSE NEWS

 Weekend hailings....

FRIDAY MEMO....

How are you guys doing? It is cold here!...what is the weather like where you are?

Dont forget that Saturday is Santa post, Sunday is the Stellas singles mingle post and Monday is the Blog awards nominees post.......

Today you can post your business adverts but dont post numbers directly...

I know some of you are expecting me to say something again today concerning the ongoing drama but i will not today cos i am waiting for the Friday night post to read and i can conclude.....

Those of you that have been gaslighting the situation should take it easy please!!!

Enjoy the rest of the day......

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INSIDE THE MIND OF A WOMAN GOING THROUGH MOTHERHOOD

Growing up, my mom was very strict about our use of words. Certain words were dimmed vulgar, and crude jokes and banters were heavily frowned upon. Like we were not allowed to compare ourselves to animals, not even in a joke. I couldn’t say things like “why are you sweating like a Christmas goat”. The beating would be epic.
Words like stupid, idiot, fool, and any negative or derogatory words were prohibited. My mom has zero tolerance for them.

Now, I am trying to pass the same to my kids and teach them to speak gracefully, just like my mom taught us, but something is wrong.
I never heard my mom use those words to describe anyone growing up, and till now, she doesn’t find a lot of the so-called jokes funny because they are derogatory.

What is wrong?. The thing is as much as my mom tried her best to teach my siblings and I, our environment happened to us, we now call ourselves idiots, even call other people “were!”. We joke among ourselves and say things like “ your mother!” “your father!” and so on . We picked all this from school. At the university, we all moved with people who dimmed it okay to joke around like that.

Though we are not as bad as a lot of people around us. We have fallen short of the standard my mom taught us. I am trying to teach my kids, but a lot of times, my kids call me out when I am talking to my siblings. The other day, my son said “mom that’s not nice. Why did you say my aunty is laughing like an overheated he goat”. In my defence she was laughing at something I did and she was laughing so hard, she started wheezing and snorting. I said that as a comeback to her silliness

His calling me out stopped me right in my tracks because that is the exact thing I am teaching them against. So, as much as I want to teach and maintain the standard my mom taught me. I need to relearn it, too. And like my mom, I want to start chanting daily, No gutter language is allowed in my house, including the adults. ( Side eyes at my siblings).

This is a good move.......The other day i told one of my Bambino not to use swear words and i told him why it was not good..As i turned around,i hit my toe and screamed  SCHEISSE!!!...lol

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NOTORIOUS FOR JESUS

A friend of mine decided to give her husband her identity to run things. Let me explain.

So the guy has some sort of ill luck. He hardly get called for any jobs or opportunities and his life was rather stagnant, but his wife...., she's a hot cake and even get jobs she never lobbied or applied for.

After their marriage, jealousy began to brew in the man's heart and he started accusing the woman of exchanging his luck. This went on for a while and after sometimes, the wife came up with a plan.

"Use my certificate to apply for jobs". So the woman laid back and allowed her husband take on her identity. Before you could say jack, blessings started rolling in, job started coming and sooner, money plenty. It worked like magic.

At first, the nigga was appreciative of her and continually sings her praise, but lately, things has changed.
He no longer tell the wife about the jobs and contracts he get, he no longer shares good news of opportunities he bags.

Herein is the bone of contention, the lady feels betrayed and she wants to take back her identity. She is threatening to escalate the issue on social media and had approached me for some advice. My mouth was agape the entire time,

"Baby Gal, most men ain't loyal once they have what they need".

It is said among women that poor men make the best husbands but who wants a poor one?


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CONCERNING BREAKUPS

Not every breakup is bad.
Some are divine redirections.
When you end something, it doesn’t mean you hate each other.
It can mean the journey has served its purpose.

If someone leaves, let them go.
You don’t own people.
Even marriage doesn’t give you ownership — it gives you partnership.
Cry if you must, but cry now rather than later.
Rip off the bandage and move on.

If it’s truly yours, it will return.
If it leaves, it was never meant to stay.

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KNOW THIS

The truth is, if someone wants to be in your life, they will be. They will be, whether their day was hectic or not. They will be, no matter who texts whom first.
They’ll be here when life is beautiful and you laugh together until your guts hurt, but they’ll also be here when life is difficult.

They’ll be here on those lonely nights when you can’t fall asleep, and those mornings when you can’t get up because your heart weighs too much. They will be there when it’s easy and when it’s not.

If someone wants to be in your life, you’ll never have to doubt it. You’ll just know. There won’t be any mixed signals. There won’t be tears about things between you being so much better yesterday than they are today.
There won’t be confusion, and you won’t have to wonder how your relationship can be a fairytale one day and a drama the next.

Let today be the day you stop lying to yourself.
Let it be the day you move on, the day you forgive yourself for loving them too deeply, and for investing time and pieces of your heart in someone who wasn’t ready for your love..

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