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ADVICE ON HOW TO APPROACH HUSBAND NEEDED
I have come to realize that my husband is not a big cash giver.
I have come to realize that my husband is not a big cash giver.
He gives me gifts and gifts and gifts.
He likes good quality things so he spends heavily getting me great gifts.
I love the gifts of course, and I'm very grateful for them but it's cash I would have preferred because why do I need plenty wristwatches, jewelries, shoes, etc. when my account is supposed to be robust`?.
My business is not doing well despite my constant push, so you get the picture.?
My question is, how can I codedly tell my husband to be giving me cash instead of gifts. He doesn't like materialistic people and I don't want him to start seeing me as such .
Please make una help me.
You married someone you cannot tell how you want things done ? why would he see you as materialistic if you tell to give you cash instead of what he buys? And even if you are materialistic, what is wrong in that?
Please make una help me.
You married someone you cannot tell how you want things done ? why would he see you as materialistic if you tell to give you cash instead of what he buys? And even if you are materialistic, what is wrong in that?
Just tell him to give you cash gifts instead of the gifts itself........So with this your mentality, does it mean you dont ask your man for money when you feel he has it? Continue pretending that you are not materialistic when you are...Most human beings are materialistic....
Over the weekend, i told my hubby to dash me money and he told me i like money too much but he gave me......
He may have even run out of ideas for gifts and may even prefer giving you cash...
ASK!
Better ask than concluding
ReplyDeleteEnjoy the ones he has done for you
I give my wife cash instead. She prefers cash to gifts. I give her the cash to buy her gifts. Tell him.
DeleteI honestly prefer cash to other gifts, because sometimes I pretend that i appreciate some of the gifts to look grateful, while in the real sense I didn't. I have voiced out now, and he had promised to give cash going forward...
DeleteYou mean, you can't discuss with your husband, even do amebo/gossip with him.
DeleteNa wa o
Talk to him.
ReplyDeleteCodedly tell him ke! He is your husband. Tell him you appreciate the gifts, but right now the money you nees the miney. You shouldn't be afraid to talk to your partner, or ask for stuff.
ReplyDeleteWhat did i type. 🤣🤣🤣
Delete..... but right now you need the money.*
Kai women. Una doh. Just tell him u want cash this time. Shikena good luck. U too like money #sideeye
ReplyDeleteStella some people will stop the gifts and also won’t give you the money. That’s why she wants to be careful
ReplyDeleteExactly!
DeleteI'm the poster
My husband is like that.
Thank you anon, you understand my situation.
Oh!Dear poster,may God fix this for you,he can even say that you are ingrates sef i understand but see eeh,you know him very well and know how playfully tell him nah abi he dey squeeze face all the time🙄,you know better nah you can even tell him in z oza room sef😅
DeleteGood luck dear .
I don’t think asking for cash gifts makes you materialistic. It’s the constant craving and inability to be satisfied with anything and seeking for the next thing over and over again that makes one materialistic.
ReplyDeleteHe may prefer giving gifts as they can be seen and touched plus they hold memories, he likely gives you gifts for the nostalgia. Why not be honest and tell him business is not going good and you are low on cash, wouldn’t the weight come off your shoulders in not having to pretend? Wouldn’t your bond strengthen in you showing your vulnerability and not having to appear perfect and in control. Businesses go through rough periods all the time, consumer interests changes, industry competition and shift in cultural values can happen to any business, and sometimes they even have to close down. I think the lack of honesty and you maintaining a facade are the bigger issues here, you must be so tired carrying that weight around day after day. Open up and ask for what you need.
Please send update!
👌🏾@first paragraph
DeleteDialogo is very important. Maybe he's thinking dat u're full of cash as a business woman.
DeleteTalk to him in front of his favorite dinner. Goodluck.
Ask, you shall receive.
ReplyDeleteYou are still doing pick me inside marriage? It's obvious your husband has money so why do you need to codedly ask him to support your business? Tell him straight up that you prefer cash gifts to enable you support your business.
ReplyDeleteCan't you discuss with your husband on your needs?
ReplyDeleteTell him you need money for Ur business.. simple
But he buys you materialistic things..
Help you ke?? You people that can't ask your men for something baffle me o
ReplyDeleteMadam ask him, tell him you need cash, please don't tell him you prefer cash to gift. Let the gifts keep coming tell him you are having challenges in your business and need cash. Ask o, ask, since he is very generous with gift, keep asking him for money whenever you need it. E no hard ma
Good advice. She doesn’t need to tell him she prefers one over the other, just ask for what she needs☝🏽
DeletePoster, instead of telling him to change to cash gifts. Why don't you pitch your business ideas to him and ask for his support. I mean, he is your man,you should be comfortable discussing your dreams/visions with him. Your man seems generous. He can support you and still continue gifting you.
ReplyDelete👌👌👌👌. God bless you
DeleteSell them na
ReplyDeleteNooooooooooo
DeletePoster please don't sell it, if your hubby finds out, the gifts will stop and you may not even get cash
DeleteYou know that feminine energy? Use it well..
ReplyDeleteA lot of things would come to you if you can just open your mouth and speak very softly to a man you call your husband;quit assuming things won't go well because you don't know a man's mind.
Don't be rude,don't frown your face,keep a smile on your face and just ask nicely when you notice he is in very good spirit(you know what I mean? cos timing matters)
Don't tell him to stop the gift,rather say you appreciate the gift but that if you see some money now for your business,you would be very grateful because you value his gift and can never sell them,that way he sees you value what he gifts you and can look for a way to gift you both money and other gifts in future.
He is your husband;who else is his money meant for? Ask shamelessly with a very beautiful smile,majority of men who can gift their wives can also use same spirit to git cash if you can JUST ask.
Also learn how to praise a man's ego,hail him very well with sweet titles,you know the way Judy hails Yul right? Do it and come back with your testimony😉.
Hope this helps.
@MARTINS
That hailing thing and boosting him up will get her millions. Men are hungry for that, no matter their status and accomplishments she doing it is on a whole different level. The thing is that it has it has to feel genuine and be truthful.
DeleteNne I ka na amu amu? Ehh? How can you be afraid to ask someone who you sleep with for a favour? Oh this generation, what are we going to do with you?
ReplyDelete1st
If you shop for foodstuffs and house supplies then you can get some money from there.
2nd
You can say, honey or what ever you call him, I need money to make hair, undies, pad, go out for lunch with my girls, visit my mum…
A small drop of water makes a mighty ocean.
3rd
If he is very wealthy, convince him for abroad family vacation. That’s how housewives make money inugo.
Don’t ever ask him to stop buying those gifts. Men are very egocentric and are upset if they feel they are being taken for granted.
Some wild girls would even sell the gifts but I am not giving you bad clue.
My own husband is very stingy but I always find a way to get money off of him because I am a woman.
Dayum!
Delete1st
If you shop for foodstuffs and house supplies then you can get some money from there.
2nd
You can say, honey or what ever you call him, I need money to make hair, undies, pad, go out for lunch with my girls, visit my mum…
A small drop of water makes a mighty ocean.
3rd
If he is very wealthy, convince him for abroad family vacation. That’s how housewives make money inugo.
Poster you have to tell him straight up. I don't think he will be offended. He's a great giver,giving wrongly.
ReplyDeletePoster don't tell him you prefer cash gifts. Else he will stop the gifts all together which is not good because it's his own way of showing love and it makes him fulfilled.
ReplyDeleteRather, 1. Ask him directly to give you money.
2. Start giving him little money with a love note. Leave them at where he will see it. Example leave him money for hair cut in his work bag. Or lunch money and attache a very sweet love note to it. The surprise and love he will feel will make him reciprocate but as a man, he will give you more.
He won’t give her the cash. My sister’s hubby is like that.
ReplyDeleteJust tell him you prefer gold as gifts, when you need money , you sell it. You can never go wrong with gold investment
I know this man
ReplyDeleteThis is my father
Hmmm I don’t think cash will be coming
Just ask him to pay for something then use your cash to do business
He will buy things but to drop big cash my mama no dey see oh
Pls tell him your mind.Nothing wrong if you do.
ReplyDeleteJust tell him straight up. If you tell him you prefer cash gifts, he will stop giving you altogether
ReplyDeleteThis question get as e be. I don't understand why you can't communicate with your husband that you want money
ReplyDelete@Pretty tricky
DeletePolygamous setting comes to mind.
So he will see you as being materialistic if you ask him to give you cash that you can use specifically to grow your business?
ReplyDeleteYes he might
DeleteForget love oh
Spouse might still be viewing you with suspicion till after many years
We are humans